A close friend of mine did it for her sister.
Her sister and her husband had been trying to concieve for 10 years..... and, she too, had a terminal condition though (cancer). Its like one of those Grey's Anatomy kinda things.... she was terminal (obviously found out later) but desperately wanted a baby with her husband and they wanted it as their own (genetics, etc.).
My friend bore the child for them.... it wasn't money, it was sheer generosity on her part.
It took about 3 tries and also one miscarriage but it worked. 5 Years after their son was born, her sister died (2 years ago).
Obviously, this in itself brings up all kinds of issues to discuss but the time they had as a family was wonderful, the father was well aware of what he was getting himself into and has his son.
Support it or no (which I do if thats the way a couple chooses to go), its a choice.
Lastly, genetics also plays a part.... you know both sides of the childs genetic makeup and although it doesn't guarantee anything, you can address issues such as strong family history (for a medical background) that sometimes isn't always an option with adoption.
A close friend of mine did it for her sister.
Her sister and her husband had been trying to concieve for 10 years..... and, she too, had a terminal condition though (cancer). Its like one of those Grey's Anatomy kinda things.... she was terminal (obviously found out later) but desperately wanted a baby with her husband and they wanted it as their own (genetics, etc.).
My friend bore the child for them.... it wasn't money, it was sheer generosity on her part.
It took about 3 tries and also one miscarriage but it worked. 5 Years after their son was born, her sister died (2 years ago).
Obviously, this in itself brings up all kinds of issues to discuss but the time they had as a family was wonderful, the father was well aware of what he was getting himself into and has his son.
Support it or no (which I do if thats the way a couple chooses to go), its a choice.
Lastly, genetics also plays a part.... you know both sides of the childs genetic makeup and although it doesn't guarantee anything, you can address issues such as strong family history (for a medical background) that sometimes isn't always an option with adoption.
Brin