But when one parent dies, unless the other parent was not a part of their life or is unfit, I don't see how you can argue that the dead parent's family should get custody. It's unreasonable to expect the mother (who is British) to live here i the Gulf away from her family of origin. It might be reasonable to ask that she visit yearly with the boy...I don't know. I feel for the mother, though. Scary reality of mixed marriages when you have kids.

"Marriage is a wonderful institution...but who wants to live in an institution?" -- Groucho Marx