Hell, I've lived here for a significant part of my life...which would be kind of stupid if I actually hated things that much.

No, I just think that most things like this are better done in a more formal manner so that everyone is clear about what is happening and why.

I readily admit that culturally this is a HUGE difference between western and eastern societies. We in the west are more rule-based and here things are more relationship-based.
The two are not always compatible -- which is another reason why there are so many misunderstandings and issues of contention between our two worlds.

"Marriage is a wonderful institution...but who wants to live in an institution?" -- Groucho Marx