Advice on Divorce and Sponsorship

im living with my 1 year old son peacefully... but my husband & his mistress keeps treating us like a garbage. they want to get rid of us in a bad way that is why i have to break my silence to defend myself & my baby. anyway, everything is under control now. it is already in legal now, I already filed a complaint against him.

thanks

I feel sad for both of u!Unless the divorce is, for you, an utter relief --unless living together has been violent or otherwise adverse in the extreme-- you will surely have ambivalent feelings about your situation. You can expect some of this ambivalence to linger. Even after you have gone through the period of grieving, even after you have gotten past the worst of your loneliness and sadness, you may continue to feel regret and ask yourself whether or not you did the right thing. Humans are like that!

Please move on with your new life,(I know it is easier said than done.......but....)and expect the best in the coming days.May the Almighty guide you both!

Now we have the other side of the story?

and his next LEGAL action is to proceed "cancelling" his sponsorship of his now "ex-wife"....have her (and ex-mother in law) deported...quickly, immediately...PRONTO!

AND FILE a COMPLAINT of 'FORGERY'. :)

We understand that he wanted to move on with his life...it's his right to do as he deem right and within his rights. Maybe his ex-wife deserves this treatment for all she did to him during their married life....who knows?

Yes, you are right, OP should confer with the lawyer (who facilitated the divorce) and handle this legally.

But, don't you think the ex-wife should be given enough time (let's say 3 months?) to look for a job or have her sponsorship transferred to someone else?

Just think, the divorce just got finalized 7 days ago.

If that doesn't sound vindictive/vengeful, well I'll better take down notes now so I would know what to expect if ever my husband divorces me, since I got married in Qatar too. :D

To the OP, don't get your knickers in a twist...I'm just stating an/my opinions. Divorce/separation/ending a relationship IS a messy business: the emotional/mental/financial woes that goes with it is TERRIBLE.

Honestly, I'm sorry your marriage didn't work out for you and your ex-wife. Good thing is you guys don't have children.

But don't you think it'll be a great start of a new beginning/chapter of your life to PART WAYS amicably? Be the better person and make her realize/Show her that she lost a gem in you?

Ok...I said too much(being the only woman commenting on this topic, I think).

I'm out of this topic...Vaya con Dios...and Happy New Year in advance :)

I think he is asking a legal question here not seeking counselling so best is that as a sponsor he is entitled to cancel her visa & she can find a new husband or sponsor.

And, lastly, I think it is in the best interest of your ex-wife that she gets away from a person like you..probably she is worthy of a better husband....all the best

Well, that's how I read your post. So that's my opinion on the matter.

That's the thing about posting on a public forum. You seek advise/opinion/views...if you don't like the comments...oh well.

britexpat's advise and mine are almost the same, you know.

Well, good luck...

:)

i dont think authorities will take the forgery complaint. Rest of the stuff, you will need to be careful in handling.

Good Luck. hope it works out..

And to azilana:

You sound very vindictive and vengeful of your wife (and her mother). On top of that, you're very defensive/aggressive to posters who were not quite sympathetic to your issues.

I appreciate all your insights, and i admire your smart thoughts,except the above: Although i seek an advice from a public forum, i didn't give all the bits and pieces of what really happened and what my ex-wife has done to me and to the people i love. I may really sound vengeful, but its my right to be one...And i have all the legal capacity to do what i want on this case. And i wasn't aggressive,nor seek for a sympathy or a tap on the back like you said. i just answered straight forward on one of the comment.

thank you once again :) and for everyone who shared their valuable insights...

The best statement so far UkengQatar... I'll take your advice.. Cheers!

Tahsinmim, I'll proceed with the cancellation i may probably spare her mother, in good will. I don't want to ruin her work, although she stepped above my nose..

Once again thank you, everyone,,,,

eyjey1, you need a copy of her passport, and the divorce papers and you can cancel her Resident Permit as a Sponsor. You can use the same laywer who helped you with the divorce to write an application to CEID and Immigration.

You will need to file a compliant to CEID Police regarding the forgery and her not giving you her passport, as a sponsor you are entitled to cancel her visa from a legal point of view.

Plus you cannot bring another wife here or marry another women here if she is still on your sponsorship

I thank you all for your insights and advices...

ce if she do any thing wrong u well be in troble u have to report about this thing to Police and if u wannt to cancell her viza u have to go emigration office and let them know about the problem be safe

Muslim & non Muslim has different set of law

And remember, if you make a false complaint of forgery, you will find your own self deported after a rigorous punishment as per Qatari laws.....good luck indeed.

please allow me to dissect the information you gave. After all, you did ask the public's advise/opinion about a personal matter.Right?

here it is then:

-Your wife renewed her residence permit last October. Back then, even if you were living separately without communication, you were married, she was still your wife then and her husband/sponsor.

-Your marriage was declared NULL AND VOID only last Monday (December 10). Congratulations.

- Now you alleged that she "forged" your signature to get her visa renewed and wish to file a complaint,

- You want to have her (and the mother) deported back to the Philippines but you couldn't because she don't want to give you her passport.

- You think that your ex-wife is taking the divorce lightly? Errr...you just got the finalization of the divorce 5 days ago?

I'm sorry but if you expect people to pat your back and sympathize with you, you're in for a shock, amigo.

here's my opinion on the matter.

You sound very vindictive and vengeful of your wife (and her mother). On top of that, you're very defensive/aggressive to posters who were not quite sympathetic to your issues.

You want advise? here one: Go to the Immigration Department and bring copies of the following:

1) copy of her passport

2) copy of her RP ID

3) your documents stating that you're the sponsor.

4) File a complaint that your ex-wife FORGED your signature.

Good Luck....

Tahsinmim........it's not a divorce of mutual consent....otherwise the woman would have never insisted to stay back here. What if she has children from him & she doesn't have any means of supporting herself or her children? What if he is just trying to take advantage of being in a foreign country to give her the slip?

Body pleasure now works in other way around. If we follow prophert's path we will never mislead. for 5 min pleasure work, you have to hang on with manythings around u know. Rabul Aaalameen only knows all these truth. Where is the philifino now

Eyjey, are you asking me to be more careful with my words.....hold on , friend...........I would say be careful with your act . The way you are trying to discuss this matter, so casually on this forum makes me wonder what kind of person you are. You are sounding as if you want to get rid of her.......I hope you are proposing to give her adequate compensation for the divorce.

Let her remain in your sponsorship as a kind justice until she progress in such a matter.Anyway you donot have any legal binding on her. Be kind to woman. You have to explain anything and everything to a woman by love and not by anger. Just think this: Your divorce would have taken place if you solved family issues among husband and wife only. I think here the Mother of girl is villain. She must have encouraged her that the mother will find better bridegroom if she takes a divorce.

This is not to blame anyone. There is a lesson in this story for everyone.

tahsin; the 3 talaqs has been said. And were separated for over 4months without any contact. It is already decided last Monday that the marriage is null and void by the Shariah Court. I just need to formalise the visa issues.

Why not just give him the information he is asking for ..

go to search & followup department in salwa road

were Muslim Fan.... And were married in Doha. And Sun26872, be careful on your choice of words.

is there a divorce in Philippines?

It simply makes me laugh ..........a revengeful ex-husband......hehehehe!

Thank you for your advice,thasinmin i hope that its not just me who ask for advice in this forum on personal matters... But will consider your, cheers!