Being held in doha against my will by my parents.
By Captivebrit •
Hi. I am a 19 year old british citizen stranded here in qatar. I have been stuck here for the past 6 months and am forced to reside here for longer. I need to get out of here it's driving me insane. What should I do. My parents are torturing me to a point where I want to kill myself.
If you are 19 year old, you should be well matured enough to tackle your family issues amicably, some thing is gone wrong between you and your parents, sit back and analyze what made things worst. Its not wise to think of abandoning your parents and try to be away from them, its too tough to live unless you are self confident. Dear, patience is need of the hour for you, relax and admit if you had done mistakes which led to this stage, if they are wrong, forgive them, rather than finding a solution to your problems. Worst scenario, you can speak to embassy official to help you.
Are you financially independent? Are you in school? Are you working? Do you want to leave and still expect your parents to financially support you? If you don't have your own money or a way to earn some, how do you expect to survive elsewhere?
The only "constructive" comment so far on this issue has come from britexpat. He has looked at the issue in a way different to others. The rest of the QLers have advised you to revolt. I would not never ask you to do that. There could be many factors that have led to this unusual behavior on the part of your parents. Its only the very crazy parents who do not have a closeness to their offspring. Such parents could be counted on the fingers. Its was just yesterday that I saw a a very awe- inspiring short video on Yahoo where a rabbit fought it out all the way out fearlessly with a snake when it came to attack its babies -- and succeeded in chasing it away. Possibly, a communication gap has developed between you and your parents. Possibly, you have become a "wild child" who simply loves not to listen to his parents and wants to go the opposite way. You appear to be at an age when all youngsters are a bit rebellious and carry the notion that the parents are always wrong. I was that way too at your age. However, the need of the hour is to remain calm not do something rash such as running away from home. Try taking support of your relatives or friends and talk things over with them. In some schools, even the school teachers could play a role in developing a better understanding. Remember, your parents are your support and protection. The world outside your home is tough and harsh and cruel and painful and not a bed of roses. You have not yet seen even minuscule part of it.
Im sure your parents love you, so before taking any extreme step and then regretting it. talk to anyone close to your parents relative or friend and explain the situation. ask their help may be you can find a way out.
Or simply lodge a complaint at british embassy / police that you lost your passport.
Get yourself a new passport & fly back ..
You will not "lose" much if you lose such oppressive parents. Except, maybe, financial support. You'd have to take care of yourself. That's all. Are you ready for that?
Steal your passport from them & fly back ..
If you are 19 I think you can do whatever you want. Legally your parents have no power over you. In my country it applies to anybody who is 18. I guess it would be the same in the UK.
Try talking to them and explain your feelings and needs. If that's not possible, then ask a relative or friend to speak to them on your behalf.
The last resort is to go to the British Embassy for help, but that could end up in total alienation from your family.
I might have my years on earth with me but I don't have my life. I feel like a caged bird. I have no say in anything and no choice either. I need help.
Many teenagers feel that they are being 'smothered' by their parents.
You have your whole life ahead of you do don't get disheartened. What is the underlying cause of your feelings ?