Divorced for Three years...wanted a comeback!
By mariam-mar •
Hey Guys out there! I need your anxious advise!
My ex-husband (divorced) for three years now, wanted to come back and marry me again,,, whoaa! After our morethan eighteen years of marriage, he divorced me then,now we are divorced for three years , he just wanted to marry me again. Will that be possible? We are both muslims and i am not really sure of the rules of marriage. The truth is i don't want to get marry with him again, but curiousity made me asked these question, because, some said, he can not marry me again, unless i married another guy, and divorced me, then he can marry me again.
To my Muslim Bros and Sis, can anyone of you explain the rule for this?
Big Thanks!!!
in HINDI MOVIES stupid director style or call it Indian/Paki style of saying TALAQ TALAQ TALAQ
if you have repeated these words once/twice/ thrice or 50 times it means one TALAQ one sitting
as per islamic Law there are 3 sittings and I am talking about real Islam
not movie style islam.
You must read Surah Baqarah and surah Talaq
Her case is very simple since her husband had repeatedly used these talaq words maybe on several occaisions so the judge has decided on final talaq
You went to to court and in front of the judje , he give you divorce , now this divorce is final.
Look Eco - religion is being governed by those who learned it and the best of them are their in shariat courts. if the judge has pronounced his degree than you and I are no one to comment as he is the most learned amongst us.
Therefore we have fiqaahs and alim and judges of shariat court sit together and discuss these issues.
Mariam you are divorced, dont get into confusion. he has divorced you , You know it very well and he knows it very well. thats why he wants to remarry you.
The words three talaq is according to shariah is that , the best practice is , one should give one talaq at a time , so he could repent his ways. may be has said this in anger, so he could come back and again start living with his wife or vise versa may be the wife should learn a lesson and come back. but . once a person has given her a divorce in front of judge every thing is over
Mariam you are nice lady , please dont go into this thing as this will only bring frustration. What ever has happenned Allah has something better for you , and Ye is the most knowledgeable.
Take Care
Divorce takes place in 3 sittings each talaq has 3 mnths iddah (period)
you can refer to Surah Baqara verses 228-242
even in Surah Talaq verses 1-3 if third divorce is pronounced
then there is no way to go back.
you calling me father hey are you drunk of what :/ or you starving :/
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Thanks Darude! I remember father!
Thanks for everyone, let's mark a point here, thank you, got it!
"There's nothing we can do to change the past, if it teaches you a lesson profit from it then, forget it."
PM thanks, i would never give him any chance anymore, he believes so
much in himself i still care for him, ok ok, i do, but just for humane reasons cause i see him he is just like a standing stick that in one blow he would be carried away by the wind, maybe he already realizes my absence to him...
"There's nothing we can do to change the past, if it teaches you a lesson profit from it then, forget it."
still looking for clarifications.
thats all here what i told you.
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PM please help me here, i want clearance for this....
"There's nothing we can do to change the past, if it teaches you a lesson profit from it then, forget it."
He said "inte talag, inte talag, inte talg walla, and He said that infront of my mother in-law(Allah Arhamha) when she is still living, but my mom-inlaw said malish malish" in my innocense, i didn't bother to ask about it. We went to the court finally and divorced when his sister said infront of me he should divorce me, now he is saying, he was not the one who divorce me, but he was the one who went to court to divorce me.
"There's nothing we can do to change the past, if it teaches you a lesson profit from it then, forget it."
OH wait a minute, did i miss something here? He told me talag many many times, even before our official Divorce in the court, does that count?
"There's nothing we can do to change the past, if it teaches you a lesson profit from it then, forget it."
Shams, KKhalid, thanks to your ample advise, that is why, i am curious, how many men and women, think something of remarrying after the divorce?
I was thankful he divorced me at last then because now i am living my life in real life. I am a professional by degree, but he never let me made it happen, he didn't let me work by my own , he kept me at home, but now i decide for my own. OH this is life!
"There's nothing we can do to change the past, if it teaches you a lesson profit from it then, forget it."
Mariam, Get a life gal! Your statements are contrasting! You don't want to get married to him... then why do you even want to be curious?
For many of us marriage is a once in a lifetime thing and if you want to get married to him.. go ahead, but just think he's had his chance and he's lost it..
Good luck
Mr. S
Mariam,
You are divorced now. its not a good feeling , but tell me will you marry another guy , and then ask him to dump you. if you want to get marry again - why not look a sensible guy and marry him ,
is it fair that you get into a relationship with some one and after that you would say divorce me so i can marry my old husband , what if you fell in love with that guy and want to spend your life time with you. You are a person with moral and social values, would you go into this beautiful relationship just to go for a divorce , i think you are more smart than that
2ndly what an excuse , marry for childrens. Mariam when people get married , they marry for them selves not for their parents , nor children. if he wants to marry you then he should come up with a very powerful reason
2ndly take care of your self and dont think over it. divorce is the most hated thing by the God in things that are permissible. dont go over it again
Regards,
Khalid
You need to marry someone who would divorce you after having physical relation and then you can remarry your ex husband.
(this is in light of shariah)
We were officially divorced for three years now.. but recently, he is telling me , he wants to marry me again, for the kids sake, but i don't think i can still accept him as a husband, i told him that we just stay as friends and look after the kids together..
"There's nothing we can do to change the past, if it teaches you a lesson profit from it then, forget it."
Salax come on, i am not kidding, but i don't like to accept him again, after he divorced me. I don't want to make any commitments to anyone either to hold me to neck again... i am just curious that someone told me like this, so then Like Abu said, that is true. But he had jusr divorced me once Abu...
"There's nothing we can do to change the past, if it teaches you a lesson profit from it then, forget it."
hmmm like to help but i hv no clue in moslem value. sorry