fight for right

I know you feel like kicking him in the nuts right about now, but your BEST option is to stay away from him and move on with your life. You have a baby you have to care for now, so concentrate on that.

As far as his new gf goes, the best you can do is warn her of what happened to you. If she believes you or not is her decision and she will have to live with the consequences.

I'm sorry for what happened to you and wish women like you stop being so naive when it comes to men like that :-(

you just need to digest it!

OP: Dont play naive, the fact that you gave birth to a different place made you aware that what you have done is punishable by law here.

The fact the he had left you and "runaway" should be a big slap in your face that he is not interested in any responsibilities, so why do you have to run after him for financial support for?

You know the answer to your questions, you were just clouded by anger and jealousy that he had moved on and you did not.

Work hard and support your own child, stop fighting for that man, instead fight for your child's future... Work hard to give him/her a good one.

Good luck to you!

TB... not all Men are bad! I think Marie has a not so good experience in Men as well... Just hope not. Cheers!

@ Red_evil.... Tats the Spirit! Life goes on and on and on and on.... what ever happens. And please, be a Red_Angel for you to move on lightly... leave the Red_evil behind. Best wishes!

Come and have a coffee tonight at Coffee Beanery Ramada. Smoke is organising a meet there tonight for the Dukhan BBQ trip. There will be plenty of QLers there. Have a coffee, book your place on the BBQ and chill.

Yeah I cant afford ..so I choose dis kind of forum and i believed that some people ca help me in this kind of situation.. and I wasn’t wrong .. thanks to all .. its really a big help.. life goes on 

lol TB mark the date. hehehe! I hope everything is clear now to the OP.

First thing you need to do is to ACCEPT the fact that the guy is a F**L and left you. That's the hardest thing. I know that you are still in this stage, you cannot still accept what he made to you because you are still pursuing him.

Next one is move on. No need to pursue the guy and make him admit that he made a mistake or admit that the baby is his child or whatever. If he don't want the child then move on. I know you can manage to survive without him unless you don't have a job.

Lastly, DON'T EVER MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE AGAIN. oh please.

OMG!! I need to make a date in my diary! This is a memorable day indeed! I actually agree with flor for once ;)

"BTW, do you know how much to consult a legal advice here? And do you know that even if she seek advice to the embassy, she is more prone to be scolded than help?. What happened to her is very serious offence here and pretending the guy can be held liable (which I doubt), she will be more prone to be punished severely here."

100% accurate about the cost of legal advice, the legal position and the reaction of the embassy.

that is what I am not agreeing. And if you notice, I just disagree. Look at my initial comment. Don't give it a bad interpretation. You are entitled to your view but I am specific that the subject I was referring is asking the OP to refrain the topic to be discussed in this forum.

BTW, do you know how much to consult a legal advice here? And do you know that even if she seek advice to the embassy, she is more prone to be scolded than help?. What happened to her is very serious offence here and pretending the guy can be held liable (which I doubt), she will be more prone to be punished severely here.

Again, I hope this clarifies my position regarding the OP asking advice on board!

for me, it's time for you to move on. Do not waste your time and effort for somebody who does not deserve any. Make use of your negative experience to become more sensible in terms of your emotion.

flanostu - ROLF

maybe it's not his baby.

Seeking legal advise doesnt mean youre going to court....

Brilliant reply

Hey not all men are bad ;)

Go to court? For what? Best thing to do is to stay as far away as possible from him... And don't repeat the same mistake of believing in men.

Flor..Angeline and I gave her our advice and that is to get legal advise regarding her current situation/queries. Angeline and I did not say anything about being right or wrong..We cannot advise a person to pursue something that have legals issues and predicament that is why we advised her to seek legal advise and not in this forum...

I just disagree. Good evening!

Everybody is entitled to my opinion...welcome

this kind of unfortunate thing happens to people who cannot fight for their own right because they have fallen in love. And quite more sad to note that it might bring a diferent impression to their person. But that's how it goes... as we move on with our lives, there are lot more to learn.

Red... take it from Anna, she has given you Wisdom.

Though as they say... "there are more ways to kill a cat." And if you really want to get even... you have all the ways and time to do it. Hope you will get what you longed for. Goodluck!

That's your best option.

Actually, if I may add, try to find a new environment if the pain is so much! Or get REAL friends to comfort you. A relative is an option of REAL friend.

ok :( i will try

timebandit

also by others, just as TB said, just "walk-away" and I add, "move on".

Do not act out of anger... you will do something stupid. And I can sense your anger, and feel your hurt. Try and calm down before your actions put you in danger. I promise you, in time, even this will pass.

And not only as Timebandit said..most importantly, do not get pregnant again unless you are married!

There is birth control available, you know...

not only to get a support ...but also to admit to his self that he did a mistake ... coz he keep on denying that the baby is not for him... even just to accept his own baby ..is enuf ... but his keep on hiding and running that made me think to do something ... i swear its really hard for me to take a decision that’s why im asking help for this forum coz it will be a good help for me even to take advice to other ..coz maybe they had the same exp. ..

red_evil I am sorry to say that you may have to chalk this one up to experience. Although it must hurt you so much that he has left you in such a predicament and from what you say he is in search of his next victim right now. But any attempt to make him responsible for his offspring, or to try and hurt him out of anger, is going to cause you big problems that quite simply will not be worth it. This is easy for me to say, but difficult for you to do, but believe me when I say the best thing you can do is "Walk away..."

the lady is seeking advice in the forum. She knew that she'd done a wrong thing and asking for advise whether to pursue a case or not against the man involved.

thank you so much flor .. ur right :) .. and i did it ... for the girl and for that F**** guy... how he doin dat if in the first mistake he did he run away .. coz he dont want resposibilities why he's continueing blah blah .. that wat makes me so much angry ... really ... its make me so much angry

Kabayan the least you can do is to really forget about it. Move on. It is not your responsibility for another girl to fall victim. Otherwise you both will end in jail. On another note, Anna1213, i couldn't agree more with you. Absolutely true that this forum is not meant for such topic.

if your only motive is to get support, you can't get it here. You'll be more in trouble if you pursue your quest.

Now, if you truly concerned about the new girl, approach her and tell her your story. If she listen and learn, you already win over this guy. If she don't listen, then let them both "go to hell".

Work and concentrate for your child's welfare. I just hope you learn your lesson as well. Good afternoon.

MM.. Yes, they'll take action ... against BOTH Not just against one of them... and that is OP's main concern

what do you mean...if two persons are 'wrong', this country will not do anything if one of the two complaints against the other...?

thanks

thank you kabayan ... i tried just to shut my mouth .. but wen ive known that there's another kabayan that will be his victim ... it comes on ma mind that i need to do something .. haizzz... for my baby for .. thanks for the advice

Kabayan, its better if you consult a lawyer regarding your queries.

This forum is not the proper venue for you to asks such questions. It involves other people as well one baby.

Its correct that you fight for your baby's right but it should be on a proper venue and not on a public forum.

Try to talk to him first and if there's no positive response then you should seek for a legal advise or legal move but whatever would be the outcome you should be prepared for the consequences of your actions.

Goodluck

Im sorry to hear that.. you wont get any help here.. because they follow Islamic law in this country .. and according to that both of you are wrong .. :)

You cannot do anything about it in this country.. As far as i know :)