numb and devastated

r u cheating ur husband overseas

once a cheater always a cheater.... tell him to take a hike - you deserve better than this

Thanks guys..I'll do what i need to do..the pain is just for now but time will heal the wound for sure..I just thought i found a "good guy"..i was sooooo wrong..:(

Always Remember 1 thing like MM has advised u on the top of this forum,,,,,,,,

*****HABITS never change for ever or untill the end*****

Also think abt this 1 ****** How much extend u can trust a liar ??? ******

Jus make sure u crave this my messages in ur brain,,,,,

Dont trust him anymore,,,,,,Jus find other option and b happpy,,,,,,,,Cheer's :)

You say he's a decent guy. No he is not. Decent guys don't cheat. He says he wants to marry you but he also says he loves this other girl. WHAT???? This guy doesn't love you. Think about how you love. Is there room for another man in your life? No. Why? Because you have invested in him and him only. He doesn't have the same commitment to you.

He didn't intend to hurt you because he didn't intend you to find out. Of course he promises not to do it again. Right now he'l say whatever he has to to get you to do what he wants. But wait - he loves this other girl. Are you believing that he will just drop her if he loves her?

You are thinking with your heart and not your head. This man is a cheating loser who shows you no respect or real love. Is this really the type of man you want to be saddled with for the rest of your life? You can do better than this.

All he will learn from this is how to be more careful about not being found out next time. You can't change a man or his morals. Don't fool yourself that you can. What you see now is the reality of this man, not the 'decent' man you thought you were involved with.

Good luck whatever you decide.

I pray you remain happy till your last breath ...... but it depends on your surroundings .....

Fri, 07.02.2014, 07.19 hrs ....

' That ' woman has the key to justify your ' dumping decision ' on your past { not future } relationship ..........

Fri, 07.02.2014, 07.17 hrs ....

You dump him today or suffer for your life ....... ... ....

Old habits die hard ........... ..........

On the other side you must quickly find out about the kind of woman who has been poisoning him ?

That is most important to know the back ground of your enemy .......

Fri, 07.02.2014, 07.12 hrs ....

Thanks guys! It means a lot that you all took time to read my sentiment. I just thought issues like this will never happen to me. My guy is not the cheating type that's why. Never thought it was possible to have infidelity issues with him. Can't even begin to describe the shock i felt after learning about it. For now i am holding on to this gut feeling that maybe it's a test of how far i can go in terms of loving this person. If i let go now, maybe i am also letting go of a possible happy married life with him. If i stay, maybe the trust will no longer be there..At the end of the day, i will have to decide..For now the best thing is to spend some time alone and discern what's best for us. Love can be beautiful and also painful..Now I know this is quite true..Thanks QL friends:)

Thanks guys! It means a lot that you all took time to read my sentiment. I just thought issues like this will never happen to me. My guy is not the cheating type that's why. Never thought it was possible to have infidelity issues with him. Can't even begin to describe the shock i felt after learning about it. For now i am holding on to this gut feeling that maybe it's a test of how far i can go in terms of loving this person. If i let go now, maybe i am also letting go of a possible happy married life with him. If i stay, maybe the trust will no longer be there..At the end of the day, i will have to decide..For now the best thing is to spend some time alone and discern what's best for us. Love can be beautiful and also painful..Now I know this is quite true..Thanks QL friends:)

You should give him a chance least but plan for marriage could be postponed !!

I am 101% sure watever suggestion provided up by the Qlers, you will not consider them even 1% and will only make a decision which you feel is good for you !

So chillax, have a karak and with a relaxed mind think twice and take up a BOLD decision - dear !

Best of Luck ! :)

To me it seems that the current relationship can at best be called a live in relationship, if all the criteria for that are met. If not, then the relationship is of a much lesser seriousness. Isn’t a live in relationship based on no commitments whatsoever..it may someday lead to marriage or there may be discussions, even a serious discussions, about marriage but unless that happens I guess both partners are free to look here and there. However, if it is found that one partner is in touch with another person after marriage then yes, it qualifies for a serious consideration to stay in relationship or not, but as of now?

If you were already reading his mobile messages then you were already having some doubts about his behavior.

If he had said that he just made a mistake with another girl and it was just fun, that would be bad enough. But if he says he felt love for her, then he's not worth wasting any more time on.

You will surely be able to find someone better than this man. Guys who cheat on their girlfriends aren't the type of people you can marry and trust, because sooner or later he is going to leave you for someone else.

and its very bad to see someone's mobile stuff...

You have my all sympathies... but slap that guy first.

His sincerity towards you is now in the open. Marriage is a serious matter and not just a game of dolls. You should carefully weigh your options now rather than regret later. Let him lose you. He will then not repeat his game with someone else in life.

just dump him... once you forgive n give a chance, he knows that he can do it again n be forgiven since he knows that you love him... he already said that he love that other woman n saying that its you he wants to marry is a lot of bullshit...

Feel sad unfortunate situation.Take time to re –evaluate the whole situation.Try hanging out alone for a while as you ponder this.

It's not whether or not he deserves a second chance, it's whether you're willing to give him a second chance because it differs from one person to another.Remember it’s your life and u deserve the BEST.

I hope you figure this whole thing out,and keep us posted with the same.Good luck to you.

I dont think you should continue, you will be spoiling your own life, if he really loved you he wouldnt cheat on you. He would be quiet for some time and start again. No offense please,

Thanks QL people..my bf is a decent guy..he said he didnt intend to hurt me but just found someone he was comfortable with..he was honest enough to tell me that he felt love for that person (i didnt know what to feel after hearing that..i was literally shaking and can't breathe, didnt know it was possible to feel such pain as this is the first time it happened to us)..we talked and discussed and he said that it's me he wants to marry..i love him to bits but i am really confused..i don't know if he it's worth a second chance..do men change and learn their lesson? Thanks for all your comments/advice..

Hmmm...i wished to lighten her up too with the hug, but i thought she wouldnt like it ! :(

sorry an errand ...i meant "I feel your pain" - no "the" :)

men will always be men...sorry to hear about your experience - as a woman like you I feel your the pain :( ....heartbreaking experiences are painful but just hang on to prayers.....pray and have faith in God and ask for his guidance, surely he will cast your pain away and give you much a better life and love ahead :) ....and to lighten you up a bit here's a hug for you :)

Guess it is normal in these times. Having more than one relationship is the norm derived from the fact that before marriage everyone goes through a number of relationships, mostly physical in nature while the two feel a fleeting love (?) for each other...which then becomes a trait kind of thing or say gets ingrained in the person. He/ she may stay quite in the beginning due to the charm of the new relationship but that soon wanes off and the developed trait to get cozy with others starts showing its head. However, not everything seems to be lost cos he sounds like not a very smart person to have let you know what he was upto and so when confronted may not do it again or may be would do to a lesser extent which then makes him a better option to keep sticking too. Another one may be smart, who would never let you know.

Bad.

Anyways, if you think he will not cheat you again - give him another chance !

BUT warn him tat if at all he cheats again, then you will also do the same thing...:)

Anywayz, wish you Best of Luck !

By the end of the day all these temporary QL friends will break your relationship with your BF , Keep us informed about your decision .

If he love you he most not be cheat you, he is unfathful.

We all should be faithful to our belove one.

Sorry about your situation, but, From my opinion, it depends on how long he had been doing this...

more longer, more bad it is..because it is not just a slip but has become a habit & probably chances of repeating is high. Try to be rational & not just emotional while deciding. Good luck!

Would he stay with you if you cheated on him?

If he wouldn't give you a second chance, why should you give him one?

Men never learn from their mistakes.

Dump guy ! forgot to delete the message !!!