Womens hospital
My wife got admitted in Womens hospital on 2nd Aug, 2009 for delivery. Things were running smooth till then. Doctors were happy with the baby's growth and clerical staff - all Arabic by descent and accent- were cooperative and thoroughly helpful. I was pretty much relieved that things would be positive in the future too. Anyhow, the date of admittance and my nightmare arrived. The attitude and behavior of hospital staff was altogether different from that of the earlier staff. The Department looked like an extension of some Kerala nursing home as almost all the nurses were from South India who were more bothered about their fellow nurses than the patient. They generally remained busy chirping in their mother tongue with fellow nurses ignoring the pain and agony through which a poor patient is suffering. Anyways, my wife started having labour pain and she was taken to the labour room at 4 in the evening, which also had a south Indian nurse. Since contractions were not strong and baby's heart beat was dropping after intervals Doctors thought of going for C-Section if things did not improve in an hour. They kept her in observation. With every passing moment my heart beat was increasing as i was waiting outside without sufficient info about her... I was praying hard, walking impatiently for some news to come..On the other side my wife started to have pain and baby's heart beats also became bit stable. Due to that Doctors decided to go for normal delivery but kept the C-Section option open for any abnormality. They asked the attending nurse to observe the baby's heartbeat constantly and wait for strong contraction. The nurse- an utterly ill mannered woman who was in hurry to go back home after finishing her duty- told my wife that doctors are taking wrong decision and putting her and baby's life in danger and she should force the doctors to go for C-Section as they are generally biased against Indians. After a short while senior Doctor and the head of the team Dr. Johnson came to examine my wife. He said that he is happy with the things have shaped and now there would be no need for C-Section. Nurse, who was standing there interrupted him and said normal delivery would take a lot of time and its not safe. For which Dr rebuked a her and said to wait and observe. After which he left the room. Now the nurse started blaming my wife that she has put her and baby's life in danger by leaving everything on Doctors discretion. She by that time was having sharp contraction pain and nurse on her part instead of consoling or caring her was blaming. When she was about to deliver, she asked the nurse that she could not tolerate the pain any more and she must call the doctor, the nurse said stop being so sensitive..you are not going to deliver so soon..this is not the real pain..if something untoward happen than you would be responsible as you are not asking for C-Section..and all sort of bad things to scare her..when she could not break her, and my wife sighed with pain she went out of labour room saying you are uselessly making noise and there is no pain or contraction at all...She called another south Indian nurse to chat and complaint about my wife. This nurse also started to tell my wife that being an Indian she cared for here, and went on the extent to tell her about her Right to go for C-Section. Fortunately Doctor's team came visiting, who were panicked to see her in such pain and state. they shouted at nurse as she was ready to deliver and nurse was not helping her at all. Finally Doctors helped her to deliver normally and Alhamdolillah a healthy baby contrary to what nurses claimed.. The pain through which my wife suffered was not only delivery related but mental too because of such compassionless nurses.
Congratulations on you new baby, contrary on what your wife had experienced, not all indian nurses had the same manners, yes, there are some of which they think they know better than the Doctor or even God himself they will try to predict what will happen next and insist on that..anyway..every delivery is different, as a patient we will just trust in God, our instinct and our Doctor...
Dont get me wrong... I am not speaking against south Indians...as most of my trusted frnds are from south..perhaps in anger my language became rude n deductive..
Yes u are absolutely right...
nurses doubted the discretion of Doctors..and therefore, instead of showing compassion and kindness they punished my wife for not putting thr opinion above the Doctors...
thanks God, she delivered normally, my friend once delivered in womens hospital, actually as ive observed the nurse assigned was just observing and just looking at the monitor attached to the patient, ignoring the pain, i did not see any emotional support or encouragement to the laboring mothers, ( not all nurses) but almost, i hope your wife was able to get the name of the staff and made a complaint against her, i think the corporation dont need this kind of staff, disgrading...............
Thanks alot for your wishes. Perhaps the job is bad or their attitude towards their jobs...
and sorry for that bad experience you had from those insensitive nurses(?)...you should have made a written complaint against them...they will be dealt with accordingly!
nurses are surely not allowed for such a decision making...it is the doctor who has sufficient knowledge and can provide sufficient information to patient to assist him/her in decision making....so in the above case ur wife did right by ignoring her advise for a c-sec....but i am sure not all nurses hav same attitude ....so generalizing the south indians is not fair on ur side....
neways "all is well if end is well"....congrats for the new baby
I'm sorry to hear that, masha allah everything went well on the end and you have a healthy baby.
You need to complain after all, I would have !!!!
If the nurse doesn't like her job , she needs to get an other one, because she is in the wrong job :(
All the best for your Baby.... My only advice to you is to remain cautious during the procedure...
yes i m going to file complaint against these ill-mannered nurses...
first of all,Congrats on your baby's birth. Although, your experience is not unique but still WOMENS HOSPITAL is quite famous among ladies.
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Anyhow, you should have complained against those nurses about their behaviour during this procedure. I'm sure they would have been dealt in a strict manner.
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Well, i hope that this incident of misbehaviour should be your first and last. Next time do complain to management if you face similar situation in future
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I'm also expecting my first child within few days so I will open my eyes for such incident/behaviour