raped and dont know what to do

If it is happned in Qatar, you also be in jail for illict relation (if you dont report it to Police) then the rapist get capital punishment for this crime. Strange he did rape in US where all the possiblities to go ahead with immoral relations.

This topic opens a whole debate about an issue a lot of members here have missed. If we assume for a minute that your account of what happened is honest, then why in the name of God would you not abort the baby?

What kind of person would be willing to give birth to a rapist's child? Of course the extremist religious crazies of organized religion like to blame it all on God. Apparently their myth states that God does not want you to kill a child - that is not even aware of its own existence I add (as Science has proven). These lunatics go as far as murdering people that are actually supportive of abortion cases, which are in many cases necessary as is the situation in this case. An example of this is the recent case reported in the news. If you havent heard about it, maybe you should start reading some more.

Bottom line is, if the God you believe in wants you to stay pregnant from rape, then your God is a vile evil character that enjoys punishing you with this child for your whole life - and for nothing you have done wrong. Can you imagine mothering this child knowing the entire time that he was the offspring of a rape case?

I suspect it's too late to do much about filing a rape charge in criminal court, but you can file a paternity claim in civil court. If the judge rules in your favor you are entitled to child support for the next 18 years and the young man in question will be listed as the father. However, that will give him some rights over the child.

he was my cousins best friend thats

how i have his information.

we were friends through family,

i was simply being understanding, knowing

what it feels like being away from your family

and your country as well as being an

arab in america.

as far as rape no matter what country your in

if you say no you dont want to and beg the other

person not to and to stop thats rape. no means no.

im not concerned about any money,

Im getting ready for med school

and i will work to provide for my son.

He will never need anything from that animal

or anyone for that matter.

as far as his family goes i just know that his

father is some big engineer guy they have some

large company i dont know the name, and his family

is well known.

hes concerned about his family name....he should of

thought of that before he chose to do what he did.

my only concern is my sons health.

yes your all right i should have this i

should have that. but i didnt.

after he raped me i came and told my mother right

away. her advice to me was to get over it

everything will be fine dont worry and just do

good in school. i couldnt miss any school

or lay around feeling bad or depressed for what i

had just experienced. leave everything in gods

hands and i would be okay.

yes it was very hard and continues till this day.

i never whish this upon anyone not even an enemy.

knowing that what was to be for my husband

was taken from me by an animal is the worse possible.

never once did it cross my mind that i could be

pregnant. i didnt think it was possible

since it only happened once.

when he found out he came and begged my mother

for forgiveness, i believed it i thought that maybe

he really didnt mean or that he was at least

truely sorry thats why i didnt tell the police.

i actually was and my mom said no forgive him

he should be with his child and god will help you.

do it for the child.

it has nothing to do with him being "qatari".

im not here speaking bad of qatar im simply

just here asking for help based on a situation

that came about of a person that just

so happens to be from qatar.

im not familiar with the qatari culture

so i thought i would get the best understanding

and advice here.

thank you all very much for the advice.

Why it took you so long ? this is a 'DELAYED REACTION SCENARIO" However i admire you for your being open and honest...

first and foremost you ask your self now ...1).do you want to file a complaint to the suspect?

2)are are you willing to forgive him and make a compromise with him..

If your answer is no.1 - go ahead and prepare the best evidence in the court these are :DNA test / plus a witness if any.

if your answer is no.2 - it would be best to ask the help of your parents with your lawyer and sitdown with the father of your child and for me its the best option right now .

i think our brothers here is right why do you know the very well this means you have acquaintances with him in the past.

we are praying for you

Its a CRAP buddies...Its waste to answer her coz shez already near her due date...Was she sleeping all these months??? The teengaers in her country are well advanced in every field..Wasn't she knowing nething about this??? is she a coward or what to report it to the police long back??Its too late now...And since she has already decided to move ahead with the delivery, i can just wish her SAFE DELIVERY and raised him/her as a single mother...ALL THE BEST...

Whatever....

Yeah Right

Yeah Right

a bout the rape story , it is fake cuz how do u know all the details about him, how is u not reported to the police at that time and after 8 months you have to keep it cuz it is a life , and why u have to write here contact him and u can solve this problem togother .

Contact his family and tell them what happened. I am sure they will solve the case .

only DNA test required

All,

She is looking for advise, please don't answer if you don't have advise at least. Maa'm whoever are u but no one can believe that it could happen in United states too. n suppose if things happend the way you posted then how do you know all about the rapist mean his details his family and his wish too that he doesn't want to involve his family. Might be you were in contact before and he made yoy fool by this way.. I don't think he were a stranger for you before rape.

Finally if this thing happend to you 7-8 months back you should file a case same time at your police station and go to the Qatar Embassy with a copy of police report hire a lawyer and so on... Now you are too late but still there is a way go to lawyer first and discuss all matter with him/her. Now the rapist will simply refused the rape charge and will say that he has done the thing with your full permission and support but somewhere he will be in th box for the unborn child responsibilty.

HAve faith in God and may you getout of that mess soonest..yes you will.

ooooohhhhhh... what a story

I can't believe it happened

All I can say is... !!!

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what the big story about, just because he is from outside USA , i think u have to rase the baby as everybody in USA do and call him after your name . think that what what u going to do if he is from USA , samethink .

if he's in the states with you now, you can reach a deal with him, to write the baby with his name with all future expenses and you wont need the Qatari nationality if you are USAian or else you will report him to police as rapeist, but i dont think there's any problems if you gonna write him by his name there coz you can write him and if he denies you will have to go to court both to proof what happened.

end of the speeches expect a fierce struggle concerning this coz i guess both of you are teenagers, and consider the adoption solution too.

Contact the police in Qatar to find him and have him punished. Even if it was not rape the good thing about Qatar is that if the kid is proved to be his then this is illicit relations as you are not married. He should get at least a year in jail for this as this seems to be the normal term that is reported in the newspapers here.

i don't think was rape: I think you were friends or something else and he left; anyway is to late now to discuss about this; for rape you had to go to police immediately and to medical authority to take the certificate and to act against him, so i suppose was something else between you, for sure, if the story is true and is his baby.

I suppose that you are not interested in marriage and much more to get some material advantages, if he is Qatari and you presume he is rich.

I presume is his child; in this case I suggest first to have the baby; then try to contact him and discuss amiable. If he doesn't accept your conditions, ask a lawyer how to proceed. You say you are in the USA, but you don't mention your nationality. If you are American, for sure the authorities will make the required steps and procedures to finalize this issue, in the way that you will get even an amount or installments, etc; but be sure that is his child, otherwise you might have problems. Good luck and all the best for the baby!

For last name... you can keep 'Al Mafi Maloom'

So you have full contacts and details of your Rapist, and you even discussed it with him ??!?!?!?! he said he doesn't want to get involved ????? Do you both talk about this every evening while drinking tea or what ?

if this is a true story, then this is not a RAPE situation. This is a quick romance that went wrong, and you both need to take responsibility.

wow , its only possable in USA .

Great country great ppls,

you can contact the qatar embassy in usa with the details of the your baby's father and try to get the whereabout of the the guys family here in qatar and u can take his family name as surname for your child

This is fake for sure

I'm in the united states..........

........ He is currently here .......

Zul,why only now 6 months later maybe he is your BF anyway sorry for your situation now

go to the police, file a report, get a lawyer, and have the lawyer contact the Qatar Embassy in Washington DC and have them take it from there.

Sorry that you are going through all this, what a horrible situation.

Go to the Embassy of Qatar with evidence and police report, things might be sorted then,.....BUT this should have been done the 1st day of the incident, if at all that happened...

Medically/DNA test the partner cannot escape...so lets wait and see how the things unfold.

Have a safe delivery

Looks like an absurd fake case.

A troll story?

Strange a teenager raped and got pregnent?!! how he can when you resist?!! hope you enjoyed. too late you can file complain and can prove with DNA test but legally you cant marry him as he is a teenager. Pity about the future of upcoming baby.

I am really sorry for you. Hope you can cope with this situation.

You should had report to police after the horrible thing happened and get the police arrested that guy and make him responsible for what he did since he's still in US. If you have police report, it's much easier for you to pursue him and his family.

But if there is no proof or witness, you cant win over him.

THEIR RIGHT YOU SHOULD COMPLAINT TO THE POLICE AFTER THE INCEDENT HAPPENED.AND IF YOU GIVE BIRTH HERE I DON'T THINK THEY WILL REGISTERED WITHOUT THE MARRIAGE CONTRACT

ASK THE LAWYER'S GOODLUCK!!!

Why didn't you report it when it happened? ... He will deny everything now.

There's no cure for stupidity. You call it rape then report it to the police there. If it was with mutual consent u cant use that term. Plus i think ur a troll so stfu. Have a nice delivery :)

ohh thats bad.

Contact his family and tell them what happened. I am sure they will not accept his actions.

Why would you not file a police report at the time and have him arrested?

As for advice, consult a lawyer, people here are not qualified to give legal advice.

u've been raped and u have not informed anybody abt it so far? how about police? :o/

u r worried abt all this only after 8 months of being pregnant...NOW?