Things To Consider Before Marrying A Filipina
1. Marriage to Filipinos is a lifelong commitment which is why there is, generally speaking, no divorce in the Philippines. It is not a spur of the moment thing or a product of a passing fling. It is from this idea that all other marital traits of Filipinas come from, faithfulness, understanding, patience, etc. She will stick with you through thick and thin because when a Filipina commits to a marriage that means you are the one and the only one. Most Filipinas who get widowed don’t even remarry even when there is no prohibition to the contrary because of this “one true love” idea.
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If you are a western man and you want to marry a Filipina (in the Philippines) here are a few things that are worth knowing:
Marriage to Filipinos is a lifelong commitment which is why there is, generally speaking, no divorce in the Philippines. It is not a spur of the moment thing or a product of a passing fling. It is from this idea that all other marital traits of Filipinas come from, faithfulness, understanding, patience, etc. She will stick with you through thick and thin because when a Filipina commits to a marriage that means you are the one and the only one. Most Filipinas who get widowed don’t even remarry even when there is no prohibition to the contrary because of this one true love idea.
Filipinos are very superstitious. The degree of superstition depends on a Filipina’s level of education, family background and the environment that she came from. If you are marrying someone who is not very much educated and comes from a remote province, chances are their lives are governed by superstition. Do not be surprised if she prefers to consult the quack rather than a real doctor for her illnesses.
Recycling is everywhere especially in foodstuff. Because of the poverty in the country, Filipinos try to save whatever scrap they can from clothes to old newspapers and bottles and sell them to junk shops. The poorer families who can’t afford to buy new clothes buy them from second hand clothes shop. Leftover foods are recycled to resemble a different dish for the next meal. Of course they are edible and clean and recycling of food is only done once not forevermore. Scared you there, didn’t I? Oh and incidentally I might have to add for the benefit of the British who are thinking of marrying Filipinas, we do eat most parts of the pig and we serve these parts visibly in the dish. I just learned that Brits don’t like being served meat where they can tell what animal part it is. It was a shock for my husband when he saw a whole “lechon” (roasted pig complete with it’s head) in our wedding and the people were all going yum! Hehehe!
Filipinos are social butterflies. When you marry a Filipina you will, yourself, gain an army load of friends and another big family. You should understand that when you marry a Filipina you are not just marrying her, you are marrying her, her family and her friends. It doesn’t seem so bad that way but it’s worth a thought if you are a man who values his privacy so much. It could be a big problem if you are not ready to lighten up because a Filipina will always be a part of her Family. We have a saying “we can have as many spouses as we want but we can only have one family”. So if we are made to choose, family always comes first. That’s why it is always good to seek the blessing of the family before getting married. Also, friends will also be a part of a Filipina’s life, these are people who do not need an appointment to see you. They don’t have to call and say, “Are you available on Tuesday? I want to visit you”. They just turn up in your doorstep unannounced. Friendship to Filipinos is very deep. I find it more like sisterhood than anything else and it cannot be severed that easily no matter how far we go. Friend’s and family’s decision could also be crucial in the courting stage so it’s better to be in their good grace at all times.
The man generally shoulders the cost of the wedding, that’s traditional; except when you are marrying an ultra modern girl from the city who insists on sharing a portion of it. But a man is generally expected to refuse because it mirrors his capacity to support his family in the future.
If in other culture the girl gives dowry, in traditional Filipino family, the man gives dowry. This is no longer widely practiced these days. I just thought it is worth to mention because my husband once joked about me not giving him a dowry. I said in our culture he should be giving me a dowry, silly boy!
In traditional Filipino families like in remote provinces they still practice, the “paninilbihan” whereby the man who is asking the lady’s hand in marriage should woo and serve the family of the girl in whatever way he can to show his sincerity. This is interesting because he can be made to fetch water in a well somewhere or ask to chop wood for firewood or help the father put up the fence, etc. It’s actual physical toil. Also they have to bring the family gifts and sing to the girl “haranas” (love songs) by the window of the house at night. This is the “Maria Clara” type of courting during the Spanish time. It is believed that in this way, they will treasure the girl more because of the hardship they go through just to have her.
In modern families these days, it is enough for man to show the lady’s family that he love and respect her and he is sincere in marrying her.
Now, this is very important. If you are going to marry a Filipina you should understand this point very well because this is always a cause of misunderstanding to most Filipino-Western couple if a Filipina is not able to explain this point properly to her husband. Because of our strong family ties, all Filipinos have a responsibility to the family. It is different from the west whereby when you get married you are on your own. No it’s not. Even when a Filipina gets married, she’s still a part of her family, she still recognizes the authority of her parents and she would never turn her back on them no matter the distance. Filipinas are very selfless people. They would like as much as possible to alleviate their parent’s/family’s burden that’s why whenever they have a little extra money or they are in a better position to help they send money home. This is done by every Filipino not only by the ones married to western men. Filipino’s who go abroad to work sacrifice’s a lot to earn more money so they can send them all back home and send their sisters to school and help their parent’s out. Even the one’s who are working in the Philippines do give money to their parents. We just see things this way: our parent’s took care of us most of their lives so when we grow up it is incumbent upon us to take care of them. We owe them a debt of gratitude that money can’t pay but we are thankful. If we can help them in any way that we can, we will.
So if you are contemplating of marrying one of us, you have to be ready for this, she will have to send money home and it won’t be right for you to stop her and if you’re not ready for it then better not marry her because you will be a big disappointment to her and to her family. But a word of caution, there is reasonable giving and there is taking advantage. Just use common sense, ok? You are not duty-bound to support her entire clan or her sister’s families. It all just boils down to her immediate family, her parents, brothers and sister, not their spouses.
Cultural Contrast Between Filipinos & The West
They are domesticated and very clean and they might have to ask you to comply with their standards but in a nice way.
Filipinos are big families so they would most likely expect you to have a big family as well. If you’re not expecting to have any children then think twice before getting married. There is always a disappointed look when someone asks me why I haven’t given birth until now, 4 years after we got married. It’s only because I have ovarian problems. They always follow it with a question “who’s gonna take care of you when you grow old?” Funny isn’t it? We believe a person who dislikes children is not a good person at all.
I cannot really stress how important family is to Filipinos, if we are made to choose between family and taking care of an elderly and sick parent, there is not question, we will choose our parents. I’ve explained that in no. 7 Children are expected to take care of their parents when they grow old which is why we do not have many care homes in the Philippines. It is a disgrace for someone to send their parents to care home. That is seen as ungratefulness.
Filipinos are very religious. We are a Roman Catholic nation and yes we have statues of saints but you have to understand that we do not worship them. The Roman Catholic religion also worships one God, the saints are merely intercessors and the statues are just reminders for us to do good as they did when they were still alive so please don’t be offended if your wife has them in your house. We can co-exist with other religion without any problem if there is respect of each other’s choice isn’t it? There are a few who might have to ask you to convert but it is very unusual.
If you married a Filipina who’s never been outside the country, on your first trip out, she would seem very naïve at first but will eventually get use to it and adjust. Girls who come from a bit lower strata in the Filipino society might find it a bit harder especially if your social circle is not the same as hers in your country. It is incumbent upon you to educate her a bit more but you have to be very patient.
Filipinos have so much pride in them. Yes we are a poor country and most Filipinas are sweet but never insult a Filipina because she could flare up like you’ve never seen before. I found this out actually myself, some Asians would curl up when they are insulted but not Filipinos, they fight back. I think it’s the Spanish friar’s blood in us. Actually the poorer the Filipino the prouder so it always pay to watch your language. Normally, Filipinos are sweet. They’re if you’re nice but they’re fierce if you’re mean.
Connected with no. 13, Filipinos have an apt for vengeance. If you hurt then, they will hurt you back. It might not be in the same way but they will find a way to make you feel how you made them feel.
I think it is incumbent upon any Filipina girlfriend to inform their foreign boyfriends about these things before they even propose; lay the cards on the table before everything begins. There shouldn’t be any problem if you just stick with the rules. Anyway, you are gaining yourself a loving, faithful and beautiful wife.
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"lower their standards"
can you explain,please?
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Why would any nationality lower their standards and marry someone from another nationally beats me. Talk about tainting the blood lines.
Power to the non believers, it’s a great feeling to have and hold.
yeap, in my previous life, hehehe. And no thanks...yet; your compliment has to have some experiences on basis, isn't it?! Tell us more;-)
But, again..no hijack, keep it for another topic...
a good marriage?
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No MOD do not delete this thread. This one is too good.
You can't teach experience...
This Mata Hari, How come you are Romanian? I thought you are a Javanese Dutch. Anyway you owe me a "thank u" for the compliment I paid you.
I can say: yes they are! Dracula will confirm, I can "bat";-)
But, let's not hijack the thread...sleeeep weeeell!
syedkhadeer LOL Good one!!!
is a troll
i dont like it
A man auctioned his Romanian wife(25). And with her the accessories(kids) went free too. Hope Dracula didn't grab that the offer.
But Romanian girls are sexy and cute!
dracula?
Dracula, Have you ever considered so many things?
Power to the non believers, it’s a great feeling to have and hold.
lovely :)
YOU MAY BE MARRIED TO A FILIPINA IF . . .
♥ Your refrigerator is always full but you cannot find any food that you recognize.
♥ Instead of a dowry, you got the whole bill for the wedding and honeymoon.
♥ Most of the decorations in your house are made of wicker.
♥ You are expected to be able to read her mind just by watching her eyebrows move up and down and which way her lips are pointed.
♥ All her relatives think your name is Joe.
♥ The instant you are married you have 3000 new close relatives that you can't tell apart.
♥ Your house isn't really on fire, but there is a very charred fish right on top of the stove burner.
♥ All the desserts are sticky and all the snacks are salty.she eats her fruit with giant salt crystals and her fried chicken with ketchup.
♥ Even the ketchup tastes weird . . . very weird.
♥ You throw a party and everyone is fighting to chop the leathery skin off a dead pig.
♥ All your kids have 4-5 middle names.*
♥ Your in-laws take 10 years to acknowledge your existence and to call you by something other than "that white guy."
♥ You try to call her up on the phone and someone tells you "for a while" and you want to know "for a while, what??"
♥ You are trying to go to sleep and she keeps asking for the comFORT'r, and you ain't got a clue what she's talking about . . .
♥ Your first Christmas present is some funny looking baggy see-thru shirt made out of leftover lace doilies.
♥ Your phone bills are all international and average 3 hours per call.
♥ She sweeps with something that witches usually fly around on.
♥ Her idea of classy, expensive champagne is Asti Spumante
♥ The rice cooker is on 24 hours a day and uses up 50% of your electric and food budget.
♥ On your first trip to the Philippines, you have 18 giant boxes that weigh 1000 pounds each and your "carry on" luggage requires a small forklift truck.
♥ The same luggage is over filled with things that cost an average of 15 cents each like old magazines and M&Ms -- the worst part is when you get off the plane, the same stuff you've been hauling around half way around the world is available in every store in the airport for half the price!
♥ All her pajamas look like they were worn by the Dalai Lama until they got too faded.
♥ The first time she's pregnant you have to go out at 4:00 in the morning looking for some weird type of greasy sausages, green mangoes and bagoong(shrimp paste).
♥ You buy a new $500 freezer so she can store 200 pounds of SPAM and CORNED BEEF that was on sale.
♥ Everything in your house was bought on sale, even if you don't need it .. as long as it was a "bargain" is all that matters.
♥ She gets really excited by sucking the fat out of pig knees.
♥ Your daughter gets her ears pierced when she's 2 minutes old but your sons are not circumcised until they turn 21.
♥ All your postage bills instantly double.
♥ You hire a yaya because your wife thinks you clean mirrors with soap and a sponge and the yaya seems cheaper than a divorce.
♥ The only "white meat" she likes is YOU, and that's if you're lucky . . .
♥ Her favorite sauce is called patis(fish sauce), Americans call it turpentine.
♥ She actually thinks that bowling and golf and billiards are real sports and are more important than baseball and football.
♥ You were married 5 years before she explained to you that "ARAY!" doesn't mean "ooh, baby!"
♥ She prefers bistek to beef steak.
♥ Her idea of new upholstery is rinsing the bagoong stains out of the slip covers.
♥ She can eat and talk at the same time, in fact that's her especialty!
♥ Her favorite meal is leftovers, her favorite fancy dessert is Jello mold and for something REALLY romantic, she'll offer you a halo-halo with 2 straws.
♥ You still don't know what's the difference between "manong" ((elder or big brother)and "manok"(chicken).
♥ She and the kids are always saying "Daddy made utot" (Daddt farted)and you still don't know what it means but they think it's pretty funny.
♥ Other than eyebrow raising and lip puckering, her next most expressive form of communication is grunts and pssst's
♥ She goes to the movies just for the AC.
♥ Her homeland has more Megamalls than islands.
♥ Before every holiday and visit, her sisters fax you a 10 page "bilin" list which says "suggestion only."
♥ Your kitchen table has a merry-go-round in the middle.
♥ All the vegetables she buys at the Filipino store look like they were grown at Chernobyl.
♥ Your in-law's first visit lasted 5 years.
♥ Her friends are named Chinky, Girlie, Boy and Bimbo and you are not allowed to smirk.
♥ Her home economics course only taught shopping, eating and siesta; cooking, cleaning and sewing were not electives.
♥ Her idea of edifying reading is gossip magazines.
♥ All your place settings has the silverware backwards and there are no knives.
♥ She washes her hair with a bucket and her car with a broom.
♥ She uses an umbrella even if its not raining.
♥ Her favorite book (she has 3 copies) is "1001 New Recipes for Pig Parts You Were Gonna Throw Out"
♥ You are the only family in a 200 mile radius with 6 DVD player, 5 televisions.
♥ She's done her best job planning a surprise party for you if she manages not to tell you about it until a week or two before.
♥ She "cleans" her closet by throwing all the crap into your closet.
♥ You are pretty proud of yourself because you think you snagged up for yourself some unique, rare, tropical goddess type until you go to the Philippines and can't tell her apart from anyone else in the whole country (unless she's taller than 5'1", then it's a bit easier).
♥ There's always singing in your house, even when the radio's off.
♥ Your own mom, who was lukewarm about your marriage originally, now calls you long distance...to talk to your wife, not to you.
♥ Your family announces that in the unlikely event of a divorce between you and your wife, she will always have a place to stay, but you better find a new family.
♥ Your wife asks to get a job so that you will both have a little extra money, then thanks you for not complaining about having to drive her to work.
♥ Your wife has a contagious smile.
♥ You both decide to divide your spare income, and you spend yours on a computer game or a power tool, only to learn that she spent her money buying clothes for you.
♥ She might not have had a second pair of shoes growing up, but she's rapidly making up for lost time.
♥ Everything in your house is "namebrand".
♥ You have a Western Union "Preferred Customer" card. Really.
♥ You complain when your wife tells you that longaniza (sausage) is only for breakfast.
♥ You learn to like rice, even plain.
♥ You have a budget.
♥ She may only tell you she loves you once in awhile. But, she shows you that she loves you in everything she does and says.
♥ You go to sleep each night knowing you're the LUCKIEST MAN in the world.
Syed Qadeer
most of all FAMILY ORIENTED.....
Just be careful they may be niice...but they always ADAPT...they dont have their own PERSONALITY...thats y u c all filipinas having different kinds of boyfriend from different parts of the world...
All im saying is all filipina girls ..please create ur own identity and stick with it...
Just my opinion
yes that's true, they are very loyal to their man, in here when they are here and also loyal to their husband when they're at home for vacation. you don't have to worry about leaving your filipina wife alone at home coz your friend is going to take care of her, personally..
yeah bubblepink, pimp our filipinas to these people
im a filipina and im married to an arab. he's family didnt approved coz they want him to marry an arab also. but eventually when he tried talking to them and told them that we love each other and that i make him happy they agreed. now they're happy coz they see that i take care and love their son. filipinas are loving, thoughtful, caring and the most important thing is that we're loyal to our man. so if there are guys here who wants to marry a filipina dont be scared! i guarantee you that you will be happy!!!
thats so kool Gypsy..I thought the ppl in the west r all into living for themselves & only themselves.
Nice to see You have a family value :))
I m proved wrong again
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hi Richi...and Rich! :)
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she's with me happygolucky, go to souq and look for another one
Very old post..im still young for this!
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Starfaith... where can you be generally seen ..just curious...lolzz
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i agree with you starfaith, don't go looking at ramada and other bars, and also on the internet coz you might get lucky to have a gay wife...go there and enjoy the beauty of the philippines and who know's you'll find the right one.
Power to the non believers, it’s a great feeling to have and hold.
Security is the main reason a filipina would marry a foreigner specially if the guy has got nothing to offer but that. But people, there are decent ones... if u want to marry a decent one, don't go looking at bars or clubs coz that would be like looking for a needle in a stack of hay... :)
It is just the way they go about getting it that changes between them. some are sweet sucking up and other demand. you marry one you live with it, as she wil always tell you . there is no divorce in my country, well screw me sideways as most pinoy women i know have kids and say they are single of husband die. as i said i think most of the lie about it to get a western man.
Power to the non believers, it’s a great feeling to have and hold.
filipina are really faithful(True), Filipina's will stick with you through thick and thin(True), understanding, caring, etc....
lets cut all the bshit, all of this traits are true 20 years a go...if you want to marry a filipina....get rich first.
don't marry a filipina, in fact don't get married at all....women are the best weapon. stay single and enjoy being a bachelor.
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patience, Harry99...
see you here next century! :)
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Do they marry??? I'm sorry for any offence, but I have seen 8 out of ten a mother of two three kids without any husband or marry.
Can't believe this thread is still going..
What has Dracula got us into ?
exactly dracula ur right thats y filpina is a filpina
amoud, yes, it's what's on the inside that counts....inside the pockets and the bank cards.
can't speak for these girls... but then, reality bites and we go back again to the story of, once upon a time, a poor lass . . .POVERTY... and then a knight in shining armour of credit cards and dollars swept her away and they lived happily...until further notice...LOL
i am a filipina, and am sure i will have eyebrows raised at me now for "thinking out loud"...GOOD POST INDEED< DRACULA...
you know that most blody whole from philipin
this is applicable not to filipina only but to every one who feels "true love".
make us all want one...It's not our fault...
You can't teach experience...
If I may Ask,
So why do they Fool Around "Husband Dead or at Work"?, is that Like Part of the nature?
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I HATE YAAAAAA
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by the pool from 12 NOON till 3:30PM today. I stayed under the shade of the umbrella but I still got nicely brown tan...lool
Power to the non believers, it’s a great feeling to have and hold.
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don't go out, dear Azyy..it's over 48 degree C
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when DRAC posted this...
Everyo9ne gave their comments and as I said...this was already resolved.
These trolls (like El Capitino)would just resurface and revive this topic...people would respond and the cycle begins again...
There...I said it all...I'M OUTTA HERE!!!
I tend to agree with Brit. Eirther you take the post as tongue in cheek or as a serious attempt at "marketing" the Filipina.
The thread should be deleted by the mods.
I read the whole article. My point is that posting this type of article makes no sense and in effect has a detrimental affect, since most people DO NOT read the article through or do not understand the true intentions of the poster.
Oh ok. I haven't even read the article. I was just referring to copyright issues, which many are unaware of.
For example brit - cut'n'pasting stories from a newspaper's websites is copyright infringement, unless you sought their permission first :)
and your wise-crack ass comment/response didn't do you any good, didn't it?
If you found the time to read the previous comments, the REAL AUTHOR (from another blog site) registered here in QL and did raised the issue. Everything was clarified ans she was appeased with the changes DRAC made to the original post.
Next time...try to READ FIRST...before making comments.
Sorry. No I did not mean that. I was responding to Azi's comment and others in general.
The article is similar to those posted by religious advocates or the "my country is superb" theme..
It invites ridicule..
What do you mean brit? The content of the article is irrelevant to the copyright implications.
The extract is from a site offering Filipinas in marriage, so what else would we expect ?
If the article Drac cut'n'pasted is under copyright then permission has to be sought from the original author if you want to reproduce the work. Just providing a link to the original web page is not sufficient.
So Drac's the troll :(
Why do you keep going back ?
The initial language of the thread was misleading. It seemed to put Filipinas above many others as far as marriage and fidelity is concerned. Perhaps that's why its inviting such responses.
here we go again with the racial bashing?
And few took the bait....tsk tsk tsk (pathetic)
Oppps....I'm guilty too :-P
The thread could and should apply to anyone entering into a marriage.
I have faced the same with my lady friends at the Ramada :(
unfortunately all the filipinas i've dated in qatar have shown more interest in my money than in me. that's just sad.
You can't teach experience...
Just another over rated product, and no refund when you find out it is faulty..and cannot perform to the stated performance as described
Power to the non believers, it’s a great feeling to have and hold.
@ bubbly1975...im proud to be your kabayan...
"Marriage to Filipinos is a lifelong commitment.."
Well that's me out of the running :(
no more...I think you need to renew the subscription :-P
i agree to what most of you are saying here but out of respect for these people, i guess love differs to every person. if to them love is being able to be supported in any way..every way, then that's it. to us most people, what they eyes can see is a big factor and to some people as they grow old and mature, love is not the superficial as to what you see laying side by side with u in the morning. to me it is being able to communicate with your partner thus whenever i see these couples who seem to have the language barrier, it makes me wonder as to what the basis of their relationship is.
I know. They are beautiful lots. Someone do mentioned a short term marriage while abroad. Thats it.
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Filipino-Wester... said: "Thanks for finally linking back to the original source Dracula."
LOOK BETTER,PLEASE!
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You can't have a light without a dark to stick it in!
Dracula will never do that...it's a basic rule of citing the source. Ms.Fil-Wes, didn't u see the http he provided? Check better the OP;-)
angel16 yes the Pinoy mafia is good at bashing..lol remember what they did to Charanmafiriyal..lol
Even the real mafia have reasons in killing..so as Pinoys In bashing.give them reason to bash then they will..but here, haven't seen the 10% of Filex..Pinoys read English very well UKeng..they don't say anything without basis..
"clarifications can go a long way"
Thanks for finally linking back to the original source Dracula.
To other posters, I'm a Ms. and not a Mr. (yes a pinay!) I don't intend to create a dispute or accuse. I was merely claiming what's mine so I requested a link back. Now that Dracula did as requested, I rest my case.
Good day to all!
Filipino-Wester... , congrats, very nice article!
Thanks, dmighty, mata hari and azzy
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http://www.western-asian.com/things-to-consider
Oh kcuf..... Its "An albatross round his neck"
Damn... clicked the wrong one while spell check....
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Never trying for a Filipina for sure...
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Thanks for the article Dracula, no matter what the source was but it was a good advice and warning to all that want to consider marrying a flipina..
Hindi Hindi Hindi....
Mahal Kita.......Maganda.....gustagita bakasalan!! Can I impress a Filipina by saying all these words?
angel16 yes the Pinoy mafia is good at bashing..lol remember what they did to Charanmafiriyal..lol
Leave Dracy alone he is one the most loved and popular figure on QL. otherwise you only get more bashing from others..
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Drac provided the link.
And as I remebre it correctly, he mentioned the source AND HE NEVER claimed it that he wrote it...
Get a grip guys....
NOW YOU HAVE YOUR DAY!PINOY COMMUNITY WILL BASH YOUR COPY CAT ASS.BWAHAHAHAHA!YALLA!PINOYS GO AND PUT A PIN ON HIS ASS...
agreee!
BWAHAHAHA.. DRACULA A COPY CAT!!!!! BWAHAHAHA!!!
that's bit late. after whole one year you realised it is your article.
I guess you're one of those expats as you seem to be all so knowledgeable about it ;P
Please do enlighten us some more...lol
Many expats have their "one true love" at home and "someone to take care of them" here :)
Are we into "resurrecting" dead topics today?
That may be the case but all those that we have over here are married "back home" yet they all have "someone to take care of them" here too... and usually its an Arab guy thats involved.. there main conceren is that someone pays their rent etc so that they can send ALL their money home... I know this might be the minority but its every single one that I have met either in salons, restaurants, hotels etc.....not that faithful if you ask me ....
show me somebody that claims that "marriage is easy" (whatever nationality)...and i'll show you a liar..
And yes, Dracula posted a link!
"Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship"
"dgoodrebel is not plastic"
So you are claiming this article Webmaster? I guess you have good references but old ones..you're talking about the eighties..
as far as i know there are plenty of Filipinas who handle good positions and are financially independent today..
Philippine society has changed a lot after the Edsa Revolution..
Two Filipina as presidents are proofs I think.
Also lots of "housebands" now back in the Philippines..they are the domesticated ones now a days.
"clarifications can go a long way"
making filipina like a stuff for sale in the market and its not making anything good image for us!
why not post your own nationality! let see what would be the reaction....
You can't teach experience...
Uh-oh! after almost a year, the original poster should meet you Filipino-Wester. :)
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you are a fooker copy cat..you stoled the article of this guy?.you are such a thief!you gain a lot of good and bad comment from your post,how dare you DRAC...
Hold up! I was wondering why my article is here. I was the one who wrote this article for my website www.western-asian.com and the webmaster of this site did not even have the audacity to ask my permission to post it here. Please, if you are going to use other people's article, have the decency to give them credit for it. Do not claim it as your own!
But i'm too tired for now...my kabayans (Pinays) will answer it for you ....
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...but fair is fair. :)
Life is Beautiful...Indeed!
Ditto.... Filipina Rocks..........
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Heard your wife left you,
How upset you must be.
But don't fret about it...
She moved in with me.
Patience, Mr.Sinatra...patience!
:)
Where can I get one? Dracula, you are supposed to be working on this. I offered myself as a mail order husband but no one was prepared to take delivery. Boo Hoo
Just call me Tigasin. That's what I'm talking about
i still love you Azilana...:)
(*the wooden spear is ready in my GF's hand*)
dont tell her..:P
You seemed to know more of my female kabayans than anyone here put together.
Thank you...it means a lot to me, really :-)
I would consider marrying a Filipina, if I were a man. LOL
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"alone in a dark alley"???
sounds good for me...
my dinner..:)
Filipinas make excellent life partners. They prefer to keep the house clean and take care of you as your mother would. They are very possesive and will share everything with you. They are very patient and they will never expect you to spend too much on anything. They are very conscious about savings and will go to any extent to ensure that you don't throw money. They are very conservative about receiving gifts and would not want you to give them expensive surprise gifts. They are extremely conscious about personal hygiene and would expect you to be the same. They cannot stand body odour even when in pubs/bars from bystanders.So be aware if you have body odour. they are very fond of family and would tell you about each of their family members if you are interested. They are very emotional and can get very insecure about relationshipr.So you will have to take care in describing about you other friends who are girls. I know of friends who have had a complete turn around in their lives after meeting a filipina and they can't get enough words to parise how lucky they are.Filipinas are also very passionate about love and would leave no stone unturned to make you happy in every possible way.
All in all,Filipinas ROCK and they make this planet a wonderful place to live
Life is Beautiful...Indeed!
i bet u dont irritate people as much as i do! Its fun! Yippppeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! Gin time!!!!!!HIC!
Filipinos have great self control.. They'll try not to show anger to your face.. BUT Lord help you, if you're alone in a dark alley!
Well, that's just human nature salax.. the same as when I tried to piss you off a few days back! ;)
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I imagine you upset quite a few people every day regardless of what nationality they are.
Just call me Tigasin. That's what I'm talking about
I've seen things you people wouldn't believe....
Attack ships on fire off the shoulder of Iraq.
I watched full-beams glitter in the dark from boy racers in the dark.
I’ve espied Filipinas and Western husbands walk hand in hand near the corniche.
All those moments will be lost in time like tears in rain. Time to die.
lol, filipinas are definatly the butterflies...
I asked my husband the other day if he ever successfully pissed off a filipino. We agreed neither of us ever had, and also agreed that they are too happy lol. Seriously, whatever the filipino life mantra is let us in on it.
bat & black panter
lethal mixture
Bats and Butterfiles.. A curious mix.. Similar to many a couple we see here in the Gulf!
Marriages of convenience..win / win for both sides. What's the harm..
I love filipinas. :)
Filipinas are social butterflies.
Check her out as maybe shes a Philipinno! Yipppppeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! Gin Time! Hic!
right you are, Tig.....
but a cute face and a slim petite body with a slightly large bottom on a girl just completes the picture. But as you said, its what's on the inside that counts.
Just call me Tigasin. That's what I'm talking about
I think I stated that...
not all Filipinas are the same....
I agree this is a good post, but what some are describing here as a good wife it right out of a 1950's home ec book.
And dont tell me it is always for love... that gags me. I am not pointing out filipinas here... but have you guys ever seen the cutests little asian woman imaginable with some very old, red bulby-nosed, yellow toothed westerner. I mean he is like 30 years older than her and sadly decrepid.. very Anna Nicole. It happened with 2 friends of mine in the last few years and as Brit said, they also funded just about every relative in Manilla and Cebu imaginable. Another thing, when they refer to aunties and such, it aint always their aunties.
God, I am as ugly as sin and I couldnt imagine waking up with some of these guys everymorning. Please someone tell me its whats on the inside that counts...
They can't be more superstotious than the Russians though. I lived in Moscow for a couple of years and never got used to the Russians spinning around on one leg and doing other weird rituals for superstitious reasons. Quite entertaining though.
Just call me Tigasin. That's what I'm talking about
Hey Guys and Girls,
No pun, no swings and brandising.
The topic is a good one and it is an honest opinion of a culture that teaches us something good. Take it in the spirit, you like it or not.
I feel it is good to be supportive to your spouse, her/ his parents / families etc because it can help us build a bond that money cannot buy.
Hey Guys and Girls,
No pun, no swings and brandising.
The topic is a good one and it is an honest opinion of a culture that teaches us something good. Take it in the spirit, you like it or not.
I feel it is good to be supportive to your spouse, her/ his parents / families etc because it can help us build a bond that money cannot buy.
Hey dracula....
Do you have anything against filipinas / filipinos? It seems you have a big issue with us! Not to mention you're generalizing every filipinas / filipinos
Good work done Dracula lol. Nice research and I agree with u. Wish all the women would be like that :/
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Filipinas are the only reason I will miss Qatar. That beautiful long black hair and feminine curves everywhere. I hope the cashiers in all cities in the Gulf are beautiful Filipinas.
I know right. Why cant they be normal? Pff oh yea, they married a western man. Wow! Lol how are u azi?-------------------------------------------------
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NIL ILLEGITIMI CARBORUNDUM
My aunt's like that too (she married someone from new Zealand)and acts like a Senora (my kids tell me)when she visits the Philippines...
Actually, I knew a few ladies here in Doha who are like that...bored and loves to poke on somebody else's business....lol
there is no divorce bt the catholic church recognizes anullment. Dowries? This lady is so ancient. Where did she come from? From the distant mountains of where? Lol i must add that she should not generalize. I bet she was just too damn bored cos she aint doing anythng at home.. Lol plus she must feel really proud that she married an English man! Oh goodie! Now, i dont have to work anymore! Its true about helping the Filipina wive's families back home. It makes me sick though. My aunts are a very good example of this. Ew. Why cant they just get a job and help their families back home instead? Talk about being lazy!-------------------------------------------------
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kamstka and the answer is.........:
be it a male or female filipino....thru my knowlege and experience i found filipino community is one of the best community in this world....they r sincere,faithful,honest,extremely kind,always smiling,hardworking and very helpful...god bless them all!they r just so easy to mingle with u as if u know them from years!right friends?
It is all well and good but marriage is a two way street. The Filipina ( and her family) also needs to adjust to her foreign husband's culture as much as she can so that it would be a 50%-50% deal. Otherwise, she should marry another Filipino. Especially, if she goes to live in the West, it will be her responsibility to adjust even more. Also, do keep in mind that it is not necessarily a sign of a "culture" that Filipinas have to send money home and that they are so close to their families.
It is just the stage of the development of her country. In the West some 70-100 years ago, it was the same- people had many children, all were close to their families and children sent money to their parents. Because there was no government assistance at that time. No more. Now, families are smaller, the government helps and the economy is so much better so there is no need to have large families in which all people are helping each other. So, do you think a husband has to again accept a hundred % a way of life that is long gone in his country? Or should he teach her a more modern way of living?
So, should a Western husband also abandon his wife and go help his mother instead? I don't think so.
Some Filipinas want to have the cake and eat it too, and some Westerners do the same. I say study each others' ways and discuss what compromises in customs should be made so that both are happy. Otherwise, if it is a poor westerner accepting her ways only, with him being alone facing 100 people of a Pinay's family, it is just grossly unfair.
Filipinas are very hardworking,making her marriage holy through thick and thin, she will not get into a marriage if she did not love the man.
Filipinos are very sweet and romantic, I should know I'm a filipino. I'm not afraid to show my sincerity of my love to the woman i love even if it cause my whole life for it.
Any female here have been serenade?I've done fetching water for the girls family, chopping firewood.Being with a spanish heredity, we are a very much gentleman (caballero).
People are not the same,If you happened to met a filipina and you feel something different within yourself, get to know her, if you want her, then you can marry her, marrying her through not understanding the considerations like a precaution, it is because you follow your heart because you understand that this filipina will make you happy for the rest of your life. Filipino culture had one advantaged "teach me what is love and i'll show how to be loved".
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There is divorce for Filipino Moslems in the Philippines based on PD-1083.
Thank you..:))
yeah..sad to say but not only Filipinos..
I heard similar when I was in Saudi, but never confirmed it. Perhaps its a way of passing the time with someone of the opposite sex and of the same culture and values..
This comment is not a criticism or rudeness or an intended affront to anyone from the Philipines, so please don't take it as such.
I heard that some Filipinos enter into "short term marriages of conveniences" when abroad, even though they have spouses at home. Is this true ? What happens if they have children ?
If my information is wrong, then please just tell me without getting abusive.
Well, as long as the woman in question is ready to handle a list( a list that contains all the things in her future spouse's culture the lady shud accept) like this coming from her future partner, i guess its a fair deal.
But personally, i do not believe that relationships start (or shud start)on mutually agreed upon lists(like a contract). Rather they start frm a gut feeling(call it chemistry,attraction or whtevr) n then shud grow thru the differances(cultural,relegious, personal)taking each of it, its stride n growing stronger as they reconcile with the differences. Its not possible or adviseable even, to start a reln ship only aftr knowing everything abt each othr. Coz the greatest fun in a relnship(wht keeps a relnship alive) is discovering each other,bit by bit, every day of ur life.
n if u want 2 preserve every single thing in ur life b4 marriage even after marriage, one shudnt get married! but then, this is only my personal opinion on wht I shud do in my life.
To each, his own!
Only a man who has got nothing to lose is capable of infinite love.
what the title to this thread should really say is....to all you western men seeking to marry a Filipina......why would you post such information to a Filipino, wouldn't they know already? Odd.....and quite patronising to filipinas too IMHO..
"It is dangerous to be sincere unless you are also stupid."
- George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950)
1) you need to be a man and realize she's a woman, which means she doesn't need you to financially support her but emotionally support her.
No problem she is the one who support me financially.
2) she's needs the truth 100% of the time.
Yes. I told her I had 58 girl friends before and she accepted the true fact :)
3) She needs to know you're 100% sure about your relationship 100% of the time.
She knows I am 100% sure about the relationship but not 100% of all the time :)
Learn from me :)
Normally, Filipinos are sweet. They are if you’re nice but they’re fierce if you’re mean.
very well said! thanks for uplifting the image of filipino women!
" if we are not part of the SOLUTION, then we are the PROBLEM "
we, Filipinas do know how to keep and provide to ourselves and our families. It's just too bad that some would tend to look at the BAD things that a few do that look at the bigger picture of what a FILIPINA really is good for...
Dammed sure, I don't want to married no one with that kind of bad mental karma.
"As Nazi tanks crossed into Poland in 1939, an American senator declared: 'Lord, if I could only have talked to Hitler, all this might have been avoided.' We have an obligation to call this what it is - the false comfort of appeasement," President Bush
Honestly, when I heard the comment I felt very skeptical about it. But you are the first one, too mention differently.
"As Nazi tanks crossed into Poland in 1939, an American senator declared: 'Lord, if I could only have talked to Hitler, all this might have been avoided.' We have an obligation to call this what it is - the false comfort of appeasement," President Bush
Filipina (in their late 30's ad/or single parents) or married...still makes up a large percentage in the Philippine's workforce up to this time...
Coz I meant what i said...I was talking about my work experience BACK HOME.
I was in my mid/early 30's (back home) and I still compete with other professionals younger and SINGLE (no dependents).
Are you suffering from selective reading or is it just me.
I WAS TALKING ABOUT YOUR HOMELAND, "THE PHILIPINES, SRTA".
and I did mention your homeland, unless you consider England or Qatar your homeland. Read the first paragraph on my comments.
"As Nazi tanks crossed into Poland in 1939, an American senator declared: 'Lord, if I could only have talked to Hitler, all this might have been avoided.' We have an obligation to call this what it is - the false comfort of appeasement," President Bush
yes.. thank you..
Oh well good for you, you can also afford a woman who loves you for your money to. Yay for you.
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pity u GYPSY ... but I can afford it...
Bullshit huff2u, that's a loving partner! everyone deserves that, man or woman! In today's world, unless you are making a mint, nobody can afford a single income family, so marriage is more a partnership now then ever. I make dinner for my boy when I can,and he makes dinner for me when he can. That's a relationship!
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Imagine how good it will be to have someone waiting for you when you arrive home after work. Someone who greets you at the door with a warm smile and has lovingly prepared the evening meal. Your home is clean and tidy and there is nothing more for you to do than relax and enjoy the evening together... that's a FILIPINA WIFE...
There are things to consider before marrying any woman, be she Fillipina, Western, Arab, Indian or Zulu, and those considerations are:
1) you need to be a man and realize she's a woman, which means she doesn't need you to financially support her but emotionally support her.
2) she's needs the truth 100% of the time.
3) She needs to know you're 100% sure about your relationship 100% of the time.
hmmm, that's really about it.
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but I never had a hard time getting a job???
So you're friend is obviously MISTAKEN...
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I want to add something that shock the hell out of me this afternoon about Pinoy ladies and able to gain employment in their own homeland.
If you are 30 years older or single parent with kids it is almost impossible or maybe real hard to get a job because of your age or status. Employers will refuse to hire older ladies because, they are consider hardships, non-trainable and obsolete to the job.
I understand these are real unrealistic hardship rules, but, If you got the education and the skills to out performed others, then I don't see a problem with it.
I call it " silent back stabbing with social intent and prejudice."
I did not made this comment, but I heard it from a professional and superbly educated Pinoy lady.
If you decided to get married with a pinoy woman, consider her education level and work experience.
Is not all green pastures across the bridge all the time.
so lets get real about it.
"As Nazi tanks crossed into Poland in 1939, an American senator declared: 'Lord, if I could only have talked to Hitler, all this might have been avoided.' We have an obligation to call this what it is - the false comfort of appeasement," President Bush
no matter how personal it is...especially if it's about my partner/BF. AND I can't speak for OTHERS
Your friend told you these things in confidence and though you did not intend to offend...this would leave a bad note about the women of my race.
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Not really.. Don't you discuss personal issues with you very close female friends/relatives?
but it's not nice for YOUR FRIEND to take about that ABOUT HIS WIFE to other people...NOT A GENTLEMAN's WAY, my opinion..
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you fit perfectly in there too...
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Muhahahahahahahahaha...:
"By he way, he also bought a flat for her parents in Manila."
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No one lady is ugly, the drink it's not enough!"
I like to read about other Asian races....
"As Nazi tanks crossed into Poland in 1939, an American senator declared: 'Lord, if I could only have talked to Hitler, all this might have been avoided.' We have an obligation to call this what it is - the false comfort of appeasement," President Bush
No problem. I have a very big budjet for high "HIGH MAINTENANCE"...
I didn't mean to offend. It was something he told me. He said that if he had known before geting married, he may not have gone ahead. But he loved her and went along to keep her happy. By he way, he also bought a flat for her parents in Manila.
You can't have a light without a dark to stick it in.
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No one lady is ugly, the drink it's not enough!"
you're looking for...follow Dracula's advice: FILIPINAS are WAY TOO "HIGH MAINTENANCE"...
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From my point of view...i'd like to beat the "light" out of you...
And frankly speaking...NO PUN intended...
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Light can be gentle, dangerous, dreamlike, bare, living, dead, misty, clear, hot, dark, violet, springlike, falling, straight, sensual, limited, poisonous, calm and soft.
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No one lady is ugly, the drink it's not enough!"
Azi - you are the kind of wife I was searching for so long
are you looking for a US or EU passport and are trying to get some insight.
I'm sorry if i'm in a defensive mode about my race.
and being idealistic as I am...maybe that's why rather be SINGLE coz I would never have my HUSBAND (when/if I get married)take on MY RESPONSIBILITIES OF MY FAMILY.
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I suggest you follow it:
Don't light up something unless you wanna get burned?
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I used the word with caution. He loved the lady, so he felt obliged to do it...
Looking for an US or UE passport?
Lay the cards on the table before everything begins.
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No one lady is ugly, the drink it's not enough!"
his wife's relatives...MEANING: he did it voluntarily, of his own FREE WILL.
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Or you just copy and pasted it without reading....
At the moment...you're living up to your name...because you really SUCK???
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Start yet another (as there are so many already) matchmaking office for Westerners who want to marry Filipinas.
And give advice to your clients.
Kismet
Point7 is very imporant. A colleague married a filipina a few years back. He endedup "adopting" her nieces and nephews and bore the cost of their education etc. My question- would a Filipino have to do the same, or was it because he was American and earned a lot of money?
this confession will lead to a more understanding of what makes a filipina within.
((change the world))
I am currently in between wives so based on what you have said I will have to marry a Filipina. But where are they? I don't know any.
Just call me Tigasin. That's what I'm talking about
thanks for sharing a "filipina wife" confession to us and to all who thinks that filipinas are bad.
nice one!
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'Never frown, even when you are sad,
because you never know who just likes your smile'
"It is different from the west whereby when one gets married they are on their own."
Since when does that happen? My parents have never been on "their own" when they were first married my grandmothers were very active in helping my mother raise my brother and I, my Mom's mom even lived with us for a year when I was 3 to help out my mom. When she became sick, My mother and her sisters took care of her, she lived with my Aunt until she became to sick and needed to go into the hospital, and my father's parents live with his brother and his family. My grandparents helped my cousin make his downpayment and his first house, and my grandmother is always over at his house helping with their two baby girls.
I hate this idea that there are no family values in the West, that's just not the case.
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read me next post...just before your last
" Dracula said A Filipina wife ...
Source:
A Filipina wife confession!"
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No one lady is ugly, the drink it's not enough!"
you just copy and pasted from somewhere else...you may want to post the link for your sources so avoid confusion as to who actually wrote the material.
Just curious...what did your husband actually do? Reference:Paragraph 3..."It was a shock for my husband when he saw a whole "
My colleague is married to a Filipina. Apparently, she buys him new shoes all the time, even if the older shoes are perfectly fine. She came from a poor village so, because she has access to more money now, she wants to feel like she can spend it by having nice shoes for her family all the time.
But the recycling of food I'd agree with.
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A Filipina wife confession!
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No one lady is ugly, the drink it's not enough!"
looks as you have some experience with it....
:-)