When starting over does not feel worth it
You’ve gone through a lot after a breakup. You worked hard in getting over your failed relationship. After struggling for many months, you learned to take care of yourself and had finally found peace and happiness being by yourself. It is over for you at last. Now it’s time to start over.
But sometimes, taking a chance in starting over just doesn’t feel worth it anymore. You’re just far too comfortable now to even begin to think about starting over.
Is it right to feel this way?
Will you be missing something in life by tackling life this way?
Will you regret it later in life, and wished you had taken another chance at relationships?
QL friends, what's your take on this?
Rules are a guideline for intelligent people, but they must be adhered to by idiots.
...start things over again by turning yourselves to be the best of friends and make each other forget the past. Lessen or remove the former feelings. You can reminisce each other's likes and must contain yourselves of your former dislikes in your relationship. New feelings will grow anew from time to time you got yourselves to being best pals.
"You can't teach experience"
By Vegas (as I do not plagiarize)
I suggest that if you find the right person to be with, you have no doubts.. if a relationship feels like hard work in the first couple of months, it's just a bloated infatuation on one person's side and an amount of tolerance on the other person's... (in exchange for an ego boost).
Trust your instincts.. I ignored mine recently and they were proved right..(in both situations)..
...to refresh the mind so that it'll be easier to start things over again without regrets. You or them needs to forget it for a month or so without the needs to see each other for awhile. Based on my previous experiences, starting things over abruptly will still cause a bit of a shock, specially when tomorrow or another day you see the causes of the failed relationship again.
And I think we finally got over with the woman I 'pointedly' mentioned last year in my QL posting history. :-)
"Everything in this book may be wrong." Illusions: The Adventures of The Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach
not just culture heero, but BREEDING also.
(dogs at least have breeding, but other people don't)
...and it applies to all races.
"Everything in this book may be wrong." Illusions: The Adventures of The Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach
I have come not to trust any Arab man in the beginning because I have been lied to so many times by them. They have to earn my trust and that is a long, hard process. I've never had that experience with a Filipino.
I didn't drink the kool-aid! -- PM
Rules are a guideline for intelligent people, but they must be adhered to by idiots.
ghazal nothing to say today?
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I'm Jack's complete lack of surprise
It's easy to form an attachment to people and things. When you've formed an attachment to people and things, it can be a very painful experience and feeling when you realized that it's time to let go. Even the mere thought of not having that person or thing in your life just squeezes your heart in pain.
ok fine. now- you already get what you want...everybody's attention... especially the Filipino Community... are you now happy? poor little dude...
anyway - keep this is in your mind... have it stock as much as possible.... lock it inside the vault..huh...
"no matter what you do- even you'll do splitting, dancing or whatever you want- for sure- YOU'RE STILL A LOSER! Pity you!
my apology.. come backkkkk.....
220v... WWWWWWWWWWHAT?! ur off the topic too.
am done here.
jackfrost.. did u get betrayed by a married filipino batty boy recently?
om Maui... strip club ;) have fun..
Jackass its none of your business, or are you jealous we can have this many.
Dagway ai!
go start your own thread, JF! darn, we're having a peaceful discussion here, and you're totally off the topic.
JF,
No answer?
Yalla!
How many Philipino men have wifes back home and girlfriends here??? Or how many Philipino men have said thay are single, or divorced to get a girlfriend in Qatar when they have a wife and kids back home in the philipines
Rules are a guideline for intelligent people, but they must be adhered to by idiots.
JF, keep it honest then
Do you have a personal problem with philippinos/nas???
seriously
Yalla!
he is a certified Racist Fool!!!
Dagway ai!
How many Philipino men have wifes back home and girlfriends here??? Or how many Philipino men have said thay are single, or divorced to get a girlfriend in Qatar when they have a wife and kids back home in the philipines.. Well come on.. get the truth out and stop complaining about me being honest. who would like to post this,,,,,,,,,,, Thought so
Rules are a guideline for intelligent people, but they must be adhered to by idiots.
i truly have no idea what the heqk he is saying. it's like out of nowhere, he pops in and rants and he is totally irrelevant! (what a loser.)
JF, we need to add one more letter to have you R.I.P.
"K"
Yalla!
what is he talking about, does anyone know?
JACKFROST, huh?
sick in the head?
Why dont you pino and you Gay Love threads stay in the Pino section. my god you pinos are always talking about your married boyfriend going back to his wife in the Philipines. my god you7 know he was married, OPEN your eyes not your legs girls. get back in your own room
Rules are a guideline for intelligent people, but they must be adhered to by idiots.
I think you are still waiting for him. You still hoping that things will get fixed the way they were. And you wished that "if I could just turn back the time". Well, you are not alone girl, me too.... me too...
Dagway ai!
.guess ur not yet ready for another real relationship...
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.or you still did not find 'him /her
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or have you heard of the word ;single blessedness;? that could be ur path..........
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Talk to my crown......
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Oh no, I started dating again about a 8 months after the break-up, but that was too soon and I ended up screwing up several relationships. I just should have stayed single until I was ready.
wow, that's freaking long! did you at any stage in those 3 years wondered if you were ever ever gonna get involved again? was there a time that you had envisaged yourself as single forever?
From my experience it takes half as long as you were in the relationship to fully get over the relationship. Not just the person, but all the baggage of being dumped, cheated on, etc. I was engaged for 6 years and then dumped and I can definitely say in took 3 years before I could be confident in a relationship again.
hi olive, i wasn't speaking from experience, LOL. i was having a discussion the other day among single people on their late 30s, and they have expressed the same sentiments.
some self-help books say that it should take one year before you enter another relationship, to make sure that there are no "residual emotions" from the past relationship.
what do you think about this?
I don't think it will be that long to get LOL. How long have you been single now? And how long was the relationship?
and what happens if by the time you're ready, it is already too late for you? and you are too old to think about having a family?
i agree with Olive,.. maybe you're just not ready to start anew. so take your time and everything else will follow.. i think you'll feel it in yourself and you'll know when you're ready.. :)
If you want I can make a risk assessment.
hey phoenix2009, that's a very good point!
It doesn't mean that you haven't gotten over the person, it just means that you, personally, aren't ready to get into a new relationship. Personally I say enjoy this time and use it to make yourself stronger and happier with you. :)
Just do what you feel comfortable with. Follow your heart and do not regret any decisions made :O)
doesn't feel worth it or just comfortable being alone?
may be you missed that part of life when you have nobody to complicate things and make your life harder, this could go for sometime until you feel you need again someone to share things you love with.IMHO.
Yalla!
so the feeling of unwillingness to start over means the person has not gotten over yet?
buddy... you are still not ready to start over yet.. no point pushing yourself into another relationship.. :-)
If you feel like starting over is to much effort it means you aren't ready to start over. Don't underestimate the effort that goes into getting over a big breakup and don't push yourself into a new relationship until you know you want to and you think it will be worth it.