Thy name is Women...
Do men, married or in relationships really enjoy escorting their ladies while they shop?
In the beginning this may look exciting and chivalrous but as years go by, it usually turns out to be a test of a man’s patience and equanimity.
Once on such a trying evening in CC-Carrefour, having followed my wife pushing the cart for at least an hour, all I wanted was to get back home and spend the rest of the evening doing something more exciting. But then, she wanted to buy a new dress and a pair of sandals for the next PTM event in the school. I am married fifteen years so realized instantly how I was destined to spend my weekend evening.
A volley of familiar questions began as soon as we reached the garment shop; “What do you think I should wear this time? Which dress would suit well with my new hair-do? Do you remember the color I wore for the last event? Do you think my waistline has decreased a bit after a week of aerobics….Oh how I wish I could wear a sari this time??” Guys have a limited short-term memory and I am no exception; while I was listening to her last question, I forgot the first few! Also, I consider myself a good quizzer but when it comes to answering such tricky ones, I behave as the chip of the old block – my dad used to look the other way than answering to my mom’s similar questions. He used to say” It doesn’t matter what your answer is, ladies finally buy the suite which appeals to them”. So, I turned my eyes away admiring the interiors of the shop and feigned deaf. Usually, my wife is not keen seeking my advice while shopping but she asks nevertheless, which probably has to do with a programmed female trait. As she moved along the display, I made sure I stood at least five meters away to avoid further questions.
She picked up two ‘salwar’ suites and scampered back towards me with a smile…and I knew what would make her happy! Instinctively I said “Take these suites…both colors would look good on you” with a sincere look. From my experience I knew it wasn’t wise for me to choose one out of the two as whichever I chose would be the wrong one once she wore it at home. “Please choose one of these for me, today I will buy only one set” she said. I asked her to close her eyes and catch one of my two fingers! “I am fed up with your strange ways…tell me seriously, if I should go for the red or the blue one.” Finally, I gave in and chose the red salwar suite with a good reason that she didn’t have a nice red dress to wear on special occasions. She tried out both salwars one after the other and asked me which one she was looking good in. To me it didn’t make any difference but I opted again for the red one to give another reason for her to finally pick one out of the two. After scrutinizing the designs, textures and stitches, to my surprise, she didn’t take much time to zero in on the one I chose for her. I patted my back as I had made her choose a dress in minutes which otherwise would have taken about an hour.
I sensed a hitch when she struggled to find a matching red sandal to suit her size. I coaxed her to try a nice black or a white shoe which could go well with the red dress but she wouldn’t settle for anything else. We moved along to another outlet but the design and size of the red sandal she wanted couldn’t be found. After a while I was beginning to see changes on her face…that got flushed and eyes wet. Clicking her tongue, as most Indian ladies do, she said in a disappointed tone “seems today is a bad day for me…should have seen the almanac before deciding to come here”!! I was already too tired waiting and pushing the loaded trolley for the last two hours to start another debate convincing her that it had nothing to do with good or bad days…and that stars didn’t matter in buying shoes!
On our way back home, she finally decided she had to buy the blue salwar which she actually found to be better than the red one! She thought she could carry herself well wearing her black sandals with it than with wearing the red one! As usual, the blame rested on me for having selected the wrong outfit for her and had to make it up by driving her back to City Centre the next day to return it for the blue suite.
Now, who says, it’s the men who call the shots?
Knight, I seriously do not want my husband to carry my purchases...I find that a bit embarrassing, in fact.
Again, I would certainly NOT ask my husband to advise me in my clothes choices. I know what suits me, no need for him to get involved.
When it comes to grocery shopping I am with Fathimah..he is simply in the way and will unneccessarily prolong things.
I love shopping, he does not. As simple as that.
I mean he does not expect me to advise him when it comes to electronics or cars...so why would I ask him something he has no idea about?
We do this out of spite...we like to make you men suffer as much as we can!
The post was meant to have some fun here..take it with a pinch of salt!!
i like miss mimi's theory! yet sadly i cannot follow it here as there are too many maniacs around.the second i let go off my hubby is the one im in some kind of trouble. certain men behave as they have never ever seen a woman in their entire life, when they see a single woman roaming around.
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oh no reading all these comments on how man feel on shopping. I take my hubby for shopping, just thinking he loves it the way I love it, I do feel that sometimes he wants to leave quickly, it might be the reason for it?
I guess a women feels more secure when shopping with her spouse, gives you the feeling someone is there holding your bag if you need to try something.
Maybe because I used to go shopping with my sisters, friends or mum and they would help choosing and now we think a partner is now there to help you choose?
I don't know why you would make your spouse shop with you? When we go to the mall, I head to the clothing stores and my husband heads to the electronics stores and we meet up again when we are both done.
The only time I ever ask for his opinion is if I'm buying something for the house, or if he is buying an electronic that costs over a certain amount.
hmmm..reading ur comment makes me cry really.. :) i just hope men could realize it..
thumbs up!
lol! weren't this knight bought up by a woman with soft hands & a kind heart before he became the man named "Knight Returns" ????????
ha ha! if men gets so desperate in shopping, they better learn how to cook as women do, learn all the ingredients which makes the curry tastes so yummy + have that 6th sense which women have ;) even then i bet i would take more than 2hours for grocery shopping ( & dont tell me they wouldnt call their wives or their moms's or the least a woman whom they know to choose the best item possible)
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it would be much easier if women too had the right to marry multiple men at once (only for the men who complaints :) ) so they can take turns, while shopping :)
women take time while shopping coz they wants to save atleast a penny for her husband or for her & i believe its a must that starts be in the right place to find the perfect pair of shoes :D
Honestly tell me my dear brothers, when was the last time you helped your wives with something to be done at home???????
When was the last time you told your wife "hunny, go to bed baby, I'll take care of the dishes, get some rest. you have been working all day"
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Cut the crap everyone! lets help each other....whats a good relationship without mutual understanding?
marriage is a life time commitment,its a chain of sacrifices, you take up to do what ever it takes ( weather its to walk in the shopping malls for hours, weather its to choose clothes or what ever ) while the bottom line being living a happy satisfied life.
All men must agree that women do work more than them while not forgetting that they go through more pain of physical & mental too & shopping eases it.
MOST of the men, go for work, come home, then the 1st thing to look for is the TV remote, not the wife who has been at home all day, cooking, cleaning, washing, ironing, taking care of the kids.
Once an ordinary man comes home,in a while, their tie is at one place, shoes are at another, socks are stinky, just lying on the ground, shirt hanging on from an edge of a chair, belt is at another place(the little child otr the least the pet at home playing with it).
All what most men have to do it, eat whats given, wear whats been washed, ironed & polished & go for work then sleep all half day on fridays. but when was the last time your woman took an off day??? when was the last time that she had a beauty sleep of her own??
This culture MUST change! The lady deserves the attention of HER MAN, more than anything else.
I never say a families shouldn't have arguments or problems, they must for its only from that, both the partners know where they go wrong & get a chance to correct them selves.
Stop complaining people! think of those who are dying to be in a relationship, dying to have a family, dying to be in the arms of the man or the woman they love.
You being a married man, having it all, having a family, a woman who loves you more than her life ( while still knowing that you check out the hotties on the road ;) ) try to talk & sort things off.
And for those who cannot tolerate it any more, they can be benefited with one of the well known world invention called as "A Divorce" :D if you dont love her, then let her go & find her dream in someone else's night! let her be some one else's queen than being your slave :)
Rizk And Ukeng ... ure a good couple to have a sketch together,it will b a hit... ure so funnyyyy lol
The fact of the matter is more often than not we women and you menfolk simply make mismatched bedfellows as far as retail therapy aka shopping goes.
Take my hubby and me: He hates grocery shopping and I love it. He takes hours to chose something(yes,something most women including DK's wife is guilty of) whilst I'm done in minutes,he often tries to influence my choices and I his, when he and I have different tastes, etc. If we are to judge our compatibility purely based on our retail quirks, our marriage would be doomed!Hence to avoid unwanted visits to counselors, I prefer shopping separately.
Personally I love shopping alone..or maybe with just my sister or a friend(or two).Far more easier. For bonding and fun with buddies and family, I'd prefer a visit to a park, or restaurant..
I suppose with marriage, your exciting bachelor lifez over...most men have to give up their exciting activities like playing a sport or tv etc, just to help out the wife at various times...
From my experience one needs to make the gorund rules at the beginning of a marriage..most guys bend over to their spouces, spoil them to the core and then not being able to maintain the same level of "intensity and caring"...So cannot blame women can u...
it will just double the agony! Lol!
always take your child with you when shopping with the wife...you can pretend that you're busy with them while she ask a lot of question...even your child is already 15 years old!!!
i babysit while the wife roams around the mall = COMPROMISE or i bring my son to the play area or we go get ice cream together, most of the time i go to the grocery and take my sweet time there, everybody wins i guess.
Certain period of marriage. And depends on one's age.
The solution, THROW the car key to her and go home in a taxi!
Better option, throw the key to her even before you leave the house. Lol!
Silly me, didnt knew the last 'o' is in capital letter ! :)
PollyJ now that must be really interesting writing a foot long article I mean..:)
Rizks you damwit its legO not lego ..:)
or probably he wanted to write a foot-long article for the funnies .
I think, he had crossed the age of playing Lego ! :(
No he plays jumping jumping ! :)
Rizks..Silly me I thought he wanted to go and play legO with his wife..:)
ROFL /-a-t-/ Rizks...
UkEng by more exciting things he meant, doing dishes, moping the floor, vaccuming, laundry and cleaning the spider webs in the corner of the rooms....:)
"all I wanted was to get back home and spend the rest of the evening doing something more exciting."
Please can you elaborate on what you mean by exciting things..:)
I guess mostly men don't enjoy shopping..
those who respect mom,sister and wife,they will definitely respect the women in the world
We have a great marriage. We never go shopping together.
every time i go to grocery with my boyfriend..hes telling me always he don"t want to push the cart but ended up doing doing because he don't have choice,,
why not enjoy it guys?
why do people need to buy so much dresses?
does it make them feel superior?
nomerci, Agreed..but what should the men do when their wives shop? In any case they have to be with them to carry the purchases or else that would start another issue at home..:)
Seems, they love it when their husbands follow them around holding their items!
I can't read the whole thing. When the word women came in MIND, following thoughts comes in my MIND regarding women.
1. Regarding wife Spend Money and don't keep tab on it.
2. Never be Money Minded but be Minding Money.
3. Spend Money. Charity starts from home.
4. In nature nothing saves. If good air is available
we can't store the air for future, if so our lungs
will burst.
5. Protect your wife as you protect your land.
( Don't get into negative meaning)
6. Don't stop at two children. You don't know which child
will be beneficial. May be 3rd or 6th. All great
people born late. Edison was seventh child, Einstein
etc... All great philosophers, Prophet born late. They
will be beneficial for society. Those days delivery
was casual like going to bathroom and come out with
child. Delivery was not considered as painful. Today
born babies are mostly by emotional. Always naughty
and crying.
Plan to have Wisdom babies. How. This another Big
Chapter.
7. Have Relationship only with wife and remove all your
emotional dirt in the bed room and come out as clean
man in the society. When you come out do not think any
other women. This is high quality MIND.
8. Because MAN is stronger in strength and emotion be
humble to women. Women broke down easily.
9. Women is the one of the wonderful creation where all
the 5 senses satisfied at one time for the men and
vice versa. Marry a woman and lead wise life.
10. "Oh Lord Give us the wisdom to understand and respect
women"
Here is the thing. Women simply should not make men go shopping with them. End of.
Finally.. I'm not alone.. :)