Can someone please help me, i have been offered work in singapore but i am in love with my girl friend so much i asked her about the work and to come with me every thing paid for, she said no, so i have turned the offer down,
the reason im only now replying we share a home together,is purely because his family and i only found out 3 weeks ago that hes been married for the last 8 months all the time hes been coming home on leave ,sharing my bed, acting although everythings normal, i found out by accident what hes done, he didnt tell me his sons or his sister, hes obviously not so 'very much in love' as he was ashamed to either end our relationship, or tell anyone, hes completely gutless, he plays the 'feel sorry for me 'card very well and gullible isnt the word! sorry to moan but truly this man has lied so much its unbelievable! trixi :O) xxx
i love the girl but i have no choice but to leave her and take the job cause nothing will happen to us if its always like that i mean what will be our future if we don't take opportunities knocking on the door..and if she loves you she will understand because its for the two of you and u can take her with you soon right..in the end f both of u can pass this test of love it will mean that she is really the one for u..right?
yes john do plz clarify why exactly u ask other ladies their plans when you have had a partner for 13 BLOODY YEARS that u share a home with! and y u got married last november without telling any of your family back home and in fact were found out, and you STILL denied it even after i d/loaded your wedding certificate!and y u shared my bed only 5/6 weeks ago,after being married without telling anyone for 8 months? and y u told me that you loved me n couldnt wait to be home?trixi :O) xxx
If she really loved you she would go with you or wait for you!! I followed my boyfriend, now husband every where and wouldn't leave him. I left family and friends behind and sacrificed a lot, to stay with him.
Whatever you vividly imagine, Ardently desire, Sincerely believe and Enthusiastically act upon, Must inevitably come to pass.
greentea he was also telling me his partner of 13 years that he loved me and asking my advice re: singapore saying he wanted to come home to uk and me! he was in my bed only 6 weeks ago sayin he loved me wanted to be with me, i found out he had 'married' 8 months ago by accident he didnt tell his family nor myself"! hes sent me loving emails sayin he wants to come home etc etc, and was foning me on his way to work so his wife didnt find out! troll isnt the word, deluded/sly/sneaky/liar/ who believes his own lies, the hurt he has caused at home is unbelievable! trixi :O) xxx
Mate wrong decision. Sinagpore has much more to offer than Qatar, plus she only your girl friend not the mother of your kids so I will say silly you...lol
You seem to have already made your bed, so you will have to lie on it I'm afraid. You have turned the job down, so whether you were/are being silly or not doesn't really come into the equation any more, does it. It's done and dusted.
Strange though that she is prepared to marry you, but won't move to Singapore with you. Where will you both be living after you marry? You're still employed here in Qatar, I presume.
In regards to your questions she has 3 children from a fomer partner we are arrengeing from there visas for here and we have already made arrangements to marry next april in the philippines
then his life has definitely changed in the past few months. I spoke to him on the phone about a year ago, to arrange to play squash. He'd just returned from vacation in the UK and was desperately upset, over the phone, about missing his family back home.
Now he has a girlfriend he wants to elope to Singapore with?
johnjo - if she doesn't want to join you (all expenses paid) then I'm not sure she feels as strongly about you as you do about her! IMHO
Have you offered to take her kids with you both to Singapore too?
so the hero in question is PM-ing greentea......talk of having a rather large heart,eh gurls?a case of 'love all,serve all',perhaps? x-( and we all go overboard trying to pacify the 'poor fella'......this calls for war!aaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh!
yes you are silly.. big time!.. she is just your girlfriend not your wife.. :/ who knows you gave up a career that would make you marry this girl.. (just my own thought)..
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you know what, if you are happy with your decision then it's good enough... at the end of the day, what's important is you have stood by your decision and you feel a sense of contentment...
gurlz,what's this guy talking about???he actually called his GF who's expecting her kids to come to doha soon,to go with him to singapore???what about the father of the kids?
In regards to your question how did i feel relived to be honestfor me maybe i have lost a golden chance and jobs come along every day. the lady i love does not come along every day so this time i go with my heart and feelings
In regards to your question she loves me dearly but has good work here and her children are due to come her very soon. I love my work but as said before no money no city would compenstate looseing the feeling she gives to me
Hi there thanks every one for the advise in regards to the move its just a move within the company same postion no increase in money same benifits etc.
In regards to your question how much am in love more than words can say and no ammount of money will compensate what i would lose if i never see my future wife again
you asking for? are you seeking comfort that youe took the right decision or are you regreting inside you turned down the offer?
There is great difference bteween the two, no one can help you take a decision because no one knows how much you are in love, how much you are currently eraning, what was the offer for, was it a career move or just a move, how much your GF loves you, if she loves you so much why did she not agree to go with you ...etc
when you have the right answers for all the above you will know if you took the right or the wrong decision in that time .. but I guess time will tell
Good luck
"The best way to predict the future is to create it".
Thanks again from the true and sound advise and the way you put it across is 100% correct jobs any time any were special persons in your life few and far between ;-)
get your priorities right,john.....sit down in a quiet corner and think well.....is your GF so special that losing her will mean the end of the world to you?or do you think that u'll never get a job as lucrative as the one you were just offered?
if i were in your place,i'll tell you what i'd do.i know i'd fall in love with only the person i intend to spend the rest of my life with.and i'd not lose him for anything.i'm educated and i have the confidence that i'll get a better job later too.but such a thing cannot be guaranteed about that special person in your life.this is just my perspective.
I am very happy to inform you that I have fallen in Love with you since the 14th of October (Saturday).
With reference to the meeting held between us on the 13th of Oct. at 1500 hrs, I would like to present myself as a prospective lover.
Our love affair would be on probation for a period of three months and depending on compatibility, would be made permanent.
Of course, upon completion of probation, there will be continuous on the job training and performance appraisal schemes leading up to promotion from lover to spouse.
The expenses incurred for coffee and entertainment would initially be shared equally between us. Later, based on your performance, I might take up a larger share of the expenses.
However I am broadminded enough to be taken care of, on your expense account.
I request you to kindly respond within 30 days of receiving this letter, failing which, this offer would be cancelled without further notice and I shall be considering someone else.
I would be happy, if you could forward this letter to your sister, if you do not wish to take up this offer.
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thats you not your
love with your /job with you/
job with you / love with you/
grab the offer and get married and both yours
the reason im only now replying we share a home together,is purely because his family and i only found out 3 weeks ago that hes been married for the last 8 months all the time hes been coming home on leave ,sharing my bed, acting although everythings normal, i found out by accident what hes done, he didnt tell me his sons or his sister, hes obviously not so 'very much in love' as he was ashamed to either end our relationship, or tell anyone, hes completely gutless, he plays the 'feel sorry for me 'card very well and gullible isnt the word! sorry to moan but truly this man has lied so much its unbelievable! trixi :O) xxx
i love the girl but i have no choice but to leave her and take the job cause nothing will happen to us if its always like that i mean what will be our future if we don't take opportunities knocking on the door..and if she loves you she will understand because its for the two of you and u can take her with you soon right..in the end f both of u can pass this test of love it will mean that she is really the one for u..right?
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aFTER 1year.... they can still answering this post???
where is Mr.JOHNjo MAYBE he is now in Singapore and married a Singaporean and has 3 kids...LOOOOL
now m curious..what happened with JOHNJO wit his LOVE OF HIS LIFE cant go without her, cant live without her...CONFUSED LOVE....
HEY MR. JOHNJO....how r u now????still in Doha????
sorry got suddenly curious..loool
WTF, go to singapore and leave those chiks here, waste of time and money only
Trixi / lilbobeep -do you kow that this post is old and outdated?, posted on 16th october 2008 :)
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yes john do plz clarify why exactly u ask other ladies their plans when you have had a partner for 13 BLOODY YEARS that u share a home with! and y u got married last november without telling any of your family back home and in fact were found out, and you STILL denied it even after i d/loaded your wedding certificate!and y u shared my bed only 5/6 weeks ago,after being married without telling anyone for 8 months? and y u told me that you loved me n couldnt wait to be home?trixi :O) xxx
If she really loved you she would go with you or wait for you!! I followed my boyfriend, now husband every where and wouldn't leave him. I left family and friends behind and sacrificed a lot, to stay with him.
Whatever you vividly imagine, Ardently desire, Sincerely believe and Enthusiastically act upon, Must inevitably come to pass.
greentea he was also telling me his partner of 13 years that he loved me and asking my advice re: singapore saying he wanted to come home to uk and me! he was in my bed only 6 weeks ago sayin he loved me wanted to be with me, i found out he had 'married' 8 months ago by accident he didnt tell his family nor myself"! hes sent me loving emails sayin he wants to come home etc etc, and was foning me on his way to work so his wife didnt find out! troll isnt the word, deluded/sly/sneaky/liar/ who believes his own lies, the hurt he has caused at home is unbelievable! trixi :O) xxx
very well said saggi!
best regards
doing good girl. thanks.... :)
mjamille hey babe!!! Long time no QL with...how's it going doll?
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then why're you telling me about ur friends circle?if u have a friends circle or if you don't have one,good for you!why're you telling ME??
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
thanks god, it's none of business either.. :)
labda! you're here!!!
svelte_saggi - I never felt a threat
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am i proving to be such a big threat to you that u're considering gunning me down? :-D LOL
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
Silly is not the word I had in mind...
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svelte_saggi - Figure it out yourself :)
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He will be stumped by the opportunities in Singapore :)
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sure scarlett.. now i will choose charan instead (ops, i hope my hubby doesn't read it!) :)
Mate wrong decision. Sinagpore has much more to offer than Qatar, plus she only your girl friend not the mother of your kids so I will say silly you...lol
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what's that got to do with ur having "wide circle of QL friends outside world" ????
:-o
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
now what?
Go and eat Katcham Puteh :)
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my guess is that many weekend plans are now changed due to this thread..
Grant me the senility to forget the people I never liked,the good fortune to run into the ones I do,and the eyesight to tell the difference.
Another white man bites the dust. He will be relocated to her home town back in Philippines.
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ei, marhab here to spice up the thread!!!
FS... yeah.. good question.. and look.. he is not in hurry to answer your question.. :)
ok,i remembered.now what?
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
johnjo liveing and loveing life
Thank you all for the advise maybe best we close the Thread now
Loads of corkers in singapore Johnjo! Those sexy Chongsams - cooooorrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr! Rock on!
lol charan, you speaking on his behalf? :P
ouch!...another Filipina in this situation again...
no offense johnjo.. :)
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You seem to have already made your bed, so you will have to lie on it I'm afraid. You have turned the job down, so whether you were/are being silly or not doesn't really come into the equation any more, does it. It's done and dusted.
Strange though that she is prepared to marry you, but won't move to Singapore with you. Where will you both be living after you marry? You're still employed here in Qatar, I presume.
Singapore would be wonderful!
hi svelte, i am fine, thanks! have been busy for all day..
:) how r u ?
johnjo, Alexa was not there at that time, if you mean Mr.P. party..
johnjo, no worries....no offense taken.... :)
"why did you send PMs to other ladies asking their weekend plans"
He wanted to help me. thats all :)))))))))))
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johnjo liveing and loveing life
Ok sorry didnt mean to offend
Remember. I have wide circle of QL friends outside world.
Ban Spoon Feeding not Me
ta-dang!!!!that's another $100 question!
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
certainly no.. i was just asking.....why would i have any problem with it?
can you please clarify ..When you already have a gf..why did you send PMs to other ladies asking their weekend plans?
johnjo liveing and loveing life
yes she is any problem with that ???
Spot on :)
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so, she's filipina?
so our hero resurfaces and clarifies all doubts finally!any more questions,people?
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
johnjo liveing and loveing life
Hi alexa we have met at rydges at one of the Q/L get togeathers
Jauntie..lol hope he wont comeup with another post saying that someone hacked his ID..lol
hey gurl!!!!how u doing today???
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
johnjo liveing and loveing life
In regards to your questions she has 3 children from a fomer partner we are arrengeing from there visas for here and we have already made arrangements to marry next april in the philippines
eh? johnjo??
greentea... same is here!
and no he is not a troll.. i have met him, as charan say, in Rydges..
oh oh!! WHAT A MAN!!
how the hell you can trust ANYONE in this world??
poor his "girlfriend", who he is "deeply" in love with...
:)
then his life has definitely changed in the past few months. I spoke to him on the phone about a year ago, to arrange to play squash. He'd just returned from vacation in the UK and was desperately upset, over the phone, about missing his family back home.
Now he has a girlfriend he wants to elope to Singapore with?
johnjo - if she doesn't want to join you (all expenses paid) then I'm not sure she feels as strongly about you as you do about her! IMHO
Have you offered to take her kids with you both to Singapore too?
MJ....the guy seems to have taken all of us on a ride.....humph!
greentea...right u are,girl!i'm keeping mum!
alexa...u're wasting ur time arguing with charan....his middle name's Absurdity :-D
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
Alexa. then it has to be in Ramada.
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Yes. 99% Philippino & 1% others :)
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Alexa - You know him. He used to hand out with Mr. Paul. I am sure you met him at Rydges:)
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"The best way to predict the future is to create it".
non-filipinos also post love/relationship topics..
this is just one example..lol
"letting go doesn't mean ur weak,only shows you're stronger to let go"
hmm.... do you have a girlfriend??? and you are in love with her up to the point of turning the offer down??
hhhmmmm i didn't know that.
good to know.
or maybe he's not a troll?.. he just wanted to bring everybody for a ride?
so... relax and keep calm... let him take care of his own love life and career... LOL
lol svelte... im imagining you in full-battle gear now... ;)
Btw whhere is Azi?
Are you sure..its him? LOL
He is an old member ..I guess many people in here know him
so the hero in question is PM-ing greentea......talk of having a rather large heart,eh gurls?a case of 'love all,serve all',perhaps? x-( and we all go overboard trying to pacify the 'poor fella'......this calls for war!aaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh!
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
hmm, where is johnjo amidst all this???
Dont let emotions get in the way of great things in life..
-Ive learned in doha (from other muslim too) Life is not all about love .. be smart enough to let your emotions straight-ifuknowwhatimean:)
"letting go doesn't mean ur weak,only shows you're stronger to let go"
alexa,now u've set my grey cells to work......possibly that's the reason....but then why is she bringing in her kids into the country?
owen....yeah,he'll definitely be a better 'judge',eh? :-D LOLS!
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
this johnjo is sending me PMs of hello and asking me what my weekend plan is... so he love his GF? eh... sounds a troll to me
it sure does svelte,... sure does...
noted svelte.... johnjo knows better.. :D
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ohh!are you?but seriously,doesn't it feel good to be referred to as 'lady'?sure makes me feel all important :-P
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
FS....my bheja is getting fried big-time!look at the people out there!sheesh!
alexa....poor guy!wonder if he's on QL too... LOL :-P
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
ei svelte,...im a mum too,...hey im a lady eh?.... :)
the lady in question is a mum.....so it'll be better to refer to her as a 'lady' and not 'girl' :-D whatsay?
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
Dont think too much girl... girl friend can be divorcee or Widow or seperated..lol
yes you are silly.. big time!.. she is just your girlfriend not your wife.. :/ who knows you gave up a career that would make you marry this girl.. (just my own thought)..
[img_assist|nid=12867|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.
you know what, if you are happy with your decision then it's good enough... at the end of the day, what's important is you have stood by your decision and you feel a sense of contentment...
gurlz,what's this guy talking about???he actually called his GF who's expecting her kids to come to doha soon,to go with him to singapore???what about the father of the kids?
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
But , you should know what's the worth for your decision..
-just my opinion, go to singapore .. if you think you deserve MORE-
"letting go doesn't mean ur weak,only shows you're stronger to let go"
yep svelte, he just said "her children"... from former marriage maybe?
did u just say 'her children'???am i missing something here?????????
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
well there you go,.. good for you...
johnjo liveing and loveing life
In regards to your question how did i feel relived to be honestfor me maybe i have lost a golden chance and jobs come along every day. the lady i love does not come along every day so this time i go with my heart and feelings
her children?
johnjo liveing and loveing life
In regards to your question she loves me dearly but has good work here and her children are due to come her very soon. I love my work but as said before no money no city would compenstate looseing the feeling she gives to me
how did you feel after you decided to turn down the offer?
johnjo liveing and loveing life
Hi there thanks every one for the advise in regards to the move its just a move within the company same postion no increase in money same benifits etc.
In regards to your question how much am in love more than words can say and no ammount of money will compensate what i would lose if i never see my future wife again
you asking for? are you seeking comfort that youe took the right decision or are you regreting inside you turned down the offer?
There is great difference bteween the two, no one can help you take a decision because no one knows how much you are in love, how much you are currently eraning, what was the offer for, was it a career move or just a move, how much your GF loves you, if she loves you so much why did she not agree to go with you ...etc
when you have the right answers for all the above you will know if you took the right or the wrong decision in that time .. but I guess time will tell
Good luck
"The best way to predict the future is to create it".
You can make special persons in your life any time any where :)
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johnjo liveing and loveing life
Thanks again from the true and sound advise and the way you put it across is 100% correct jobs any time any were special persons in your life few and far between ;-)
then why the PMs in my inbox & somebody else inbox maybe...??? such love huh! TROLLS are not allowed on board...
svelte_saggi - He is worried at the age of 60 he can not find another one. Johnjo don't worry there are plenty of Sarong Party Girls in Singapore :)
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get your priorities right,john.....sit down in a quiet corner and think well.....is your GF so special that losing her will mean the end of the world to you?or do you think that u'll never get a job as lucrative as the one you were just offered?
if i were in your place,i'll tell you what i'd do.i know i'd fall in love with only the person i intend to spend the rest of my life with.and i'd not lose him for anything.i'm educated and i have the confidence that i'll get a better job later too.but such a thing cannot be guaranteed about that special person in your life.this is just my perspective.
think well before you take a decision.
Keep smiling!
Saggi!
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johnjo liveing and loveing life Thanks charanmafiriyals
You are a bloody Idixt. You can find 100's of G/Fs there :(
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johnjo liveing and loveing life to be honest my heart hurts so much this morning ;-(
To
Juliet
Grade 7.0 S.M
Sub: Offer of love!
Dearest Ms Juliet,
I am very happy to inform you that I have fallen in Love with you since the 14th of October (Saturday).
With reference to the meeting held between us on the 13th of Oct. at 1500 hrs, I would like to present myself as a prospective lover.
Our love affair would be on probation for a period of three months and depending on compatibility, would be made permanent.
Of course, upon completion of probation, there will be continuous on the job training and performance appraisal schemes leading up to promotion from lover to spouse.
The expenses incurred for coffee and entertainment would initially be shared equally between us. Later, based on your performance, I might take up a larger share of the expenses.
However I am broadminded enough to be taken care of, on your expense account.
I request you to kindly respond within 30 days of receiving this letter, failing which, this offer would be cancelled without further notice and I shall be considering someone else.
I would be happy, if you could forward this letter to your sister, if you do not wish to take up this offer.
Wish you all the best!
Thanking you in anticipation,
Yours sincerely,
Romeo (HR Manager)
love vs. career issue,huh?tough question!another case of whether to listen to your heart or listen to your mind.....
Keep smiling!
Saggi!