Is this akin to asians ?

LOL Alexa, no I get "Ah that's why ur so pretty" hahaha

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong :P - Garfield

Ahhh that's what it is, well guess u learn something new everyday :D

I know I know what u said smartass, I'm just saying :P

I always get asked where I'm from when I'm buying something or at a restuarant, maybe I should wear a sign to save them the trouble lol.

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong :P - Garfield

Hey what's OP ?

See in some places it's considered rude, other places it's considered normal, depends on the culture.

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong :P - Garfield

i think it is not considered rude, i think it is what we call making friends. as far as i know, they are jolly person who always cheer you up. and if you dont want to talk to them, then just ignore..

Alien, I think ur story proves that people who ask personal question don't think these questions are personal or atleast don't think there's anything wrong with asking personal questions. Sometimes I don't mind personal questions from complete strangers like sales person or a nurse or anyone else cause I'm never going to see that person again so who cares if they know where I'm from or my martial status.

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong :P - Garfield

yap two thumbs up for you mate. :)

i will repeat what he said,

"DON'T BLAME THE ENTIRE NATION!"

It's true; examples of intrusive behavior are frequent...like on last Thursday, I went to a well reputed private hospital for medical checkup. The Filipino nurse there, while taking my BP readings and blood sample later on told me (within hardly 15 minutes or so) the whole story of her life including informing that she has one year old kid and she has told her husband not to take another because that experience was very painful for her (due to C Sec) and that her husband couldn't get maternity leave to look after her and she had also to come back to work soon...bla bla bla....and she also inquired that if there are some recent hiring in our company (my company name was on my record) because she has one friend in Philippines ...and again bla bla bla.........

Please note that I didn't ask any question as I was more concerned about my treatment that time and her whole story was informative only and not much interactive. However, I admit that during her lecture I forgot my health problem for a while.

So, it is true that they are not hesitant in asking or telling anything....but again.....not all....few of them.....so just take it case to case but don't blame the entire nation.

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that, notwithstanding the fact that the British Isles are geographically part of Europe, many people still make the distinction. This is just the way people are.

*** Light travels faster than sound. That's why most people appear bright until they open their mouths.

but boer madagashkar part of africa, hawai part of usa, japan & flipin part of asia, no?

not logic 2 fly frm filipin 2 asia

they are normally referring to mainland Europe. There's some water between the British Isles and Mainland Europe and that's why people differentiate.

*** Light travels faster than sound. That's why most people appear bright until they open their mouths.

I remember so well their just-failed entry from last year, "There'll be a welcome in the hillsides, as we mug you for your money".

thanx boer

British isle blong 2 wat continent? australia?

Y da scotish clubs play da futboll in europ leagu? y not africa leagu?

y scotland flag found in goroup of europ flags?

Scotland is in the British Isles which is not Europe.

*** Light travels faster than sound. That's why most people appear bright until they open their mouths.

canarybird dis no tru info dis nothing at all

No Scotland is not Europe and who is WE??

We had a good New Year celebration last night with our new friends MIXED NATIONALITIES Asians wives and British, Dutch husbands and all are very genuine, sweet and polite. Thanks to our Qatari friend who is surprisingly, unbelievably, amazingly friendly and treat everybody as his own brothers and sisters. I can't believe until now that a high ranking official mixed with us last night in a very sweet and friendly way! also the host couple Indonesian woman and Dutch guy are very welcoming and extra friendly people the wife is such an amazing cook the husband is very entertaining, our kids had a good time playing with their kids as well. Lovely New Years eve. I HOPE ALL OF YOU HAD A GOOD TIME LAST NIGHT TOO!.

It's great to be loved!

Did you do it last night?

How was the one night stand?

How long had you been sleeping before you two decided to get married?

Do you also suffer from Ed?

Does you daugter has a boyfriend? Does she spend a lot of time in his house?

Is your daugther's husband rich?

Red_Pope you are being judgemental and impolite. Trying to understand why people behave in a certain manner is not racism. No one is perfect and a better understanding of human nature is the first step towards improving one self. I don't feel that the conversation on this thread is 'bull crap' in any way other than your remark.

This person claims to be Asian? Yet my malice indicates this person is trying to establish some Bull crap conversation with this tread! Your sincerity is just blowing smoke up your asser! Freaking racist.....

The Red Pope of Qatar Living

Why you're not married? if they ask you this question it means they were applying or they were after your husband.

- Why you're not married?

- How much is your salary?

- What did you eat today?

- Where are you going?

- Where have you been to today?

- How much is your bracelet?!

- Are you planning to have more kids? boys and girls?

- Why you have no children?

- Why are you divorced?

- Why aren't you covering your hair?

- Are you not fasting today? (In Ramadan)

THESE QUESTIONED ALREADY MY FRIEND ASKED ME IN DIFFERENT TIMES

BUT I NEVER ANSWERED THEM

LET THE PEOPLE ASKED WHAT EVER THEY WANT BUT YOU ANSWER WHEN YOU LIKE IT AND TO WHOM YOU LIKE.

A VERY HAPPY AND PROSPEROUS HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL MY QL FRIENDS AND VISITORS.

- Why you're not married?

- How much is your salary?

- What did you eat today?

- Where are you going?

- Where have you been to today?

- How much is your bracelet?!

- Are you planning to have more kids? boys and girls?

- Why you have no children?

- Why are you divorced?

- Why aren't you covering your hair?

- Are you not fasting today? (In Ramadan)

THESE QUESTIONED ALREADY MY FRIEND ASKED ME IN DIFFERENT TIMES

BUT I NEVER ANSWERED THEM

LET THE PEOPLE ASKED WHAT EVER THEY WANT BUT YOU ANSWER WHEN YOU LIKE IT AND TO WHOM YOU LIKE.

A VERY HAPPY AND PROSPEROUS HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL MY QL FRIENDS AND VISITORS.

u r welcome and have a blasting new year..

Do everything possible but remember you can do one more thing and that occassion comes once in 365 days.

Get drunk and blast this person. U can say sorry to him/her tomorrow. You would not be irritated again ever by the person

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Thanks for the advice Riya. Will keep it in mind.

will not argue on you on that, as i am somehow victimized by this...but i would just smile and ask them "why do you want to know"...:)

just be careful not to generalize on this forum (just a piece of advice)cheers..:)

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You know what I would do if I dont want to be rude and dont want to offend them??smile at them and wont answer it...when u do it many times Iam sure anybody who uses 1% of their brain would understand.......In that way u r not offending them and the message would be conveyed clearly...

ok, I am just a bit annoyed when "SOME OF THE PHIL GIRLS" are right under my nose and there is not even a que but you are right OWEN.

ICU....just be careful girl on involving the country like this : ----"""""""This is not Phil. """"""" learn some manners......"

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hahaha ... thats a good one ... but my roots are from Arabs ;-)

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SPEED ,

See .... You're an Asian, and I 'm a North Africain :d ...and we undesratdn each other perfectly lol

Some are Wise ... Some are ...Otherwise

Was'Salam Bro,

Ana behkahir (Alhamdulilah), Wallah family quais ! ;-)

Howdy ?

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SPEED Salam Bro:)

Shloonak enta ? keefha family ? :)

Some are Wise ... Some are ...Otherwise

Mom.. Salaam, Hi, Wlecome, howdy, keefak, Shlonak ?

Thas a QL culture ;-)

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I have the same problem with these Filipinos and their personal questions. Another problem I have is when they stand so close to you in public. They

My gosh haven't you heard about personal space????????

""""""This is not Phil. """"""" learn some manners......

Same to you Owen:) Thanks for being so kind and cheerful. .... Don't forget my gift :D I left an empty sock on your cheminey :P

Some are Wise ... Some are ...Otherwise

nah froggy...im not into it.....:P happy new year to you...

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Good morning Owen :)

is it a fight start ? *getting new gloves* ....ready :d

Some are Wise ... Some are ...Otherwise

i got a life thanks....your hurt? good...now go back to your first comment...and think why we have this remark on you...

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Get a life Owen.

Of course all of them are not rude, I know a few who are lovely. But generally I've found they are more likely to be rude than others.

My "lame observation"??? oh ouch that hurts.

again....would that qualify that ALL filipinas are rude because you experience those? ...you said this "Philipina ladies are the rudest. Sometimes I think they intend to be offensive by the things they say." ---->..not reasonable hearless to claim that ALL OF US are rude because of your pity experience and lame observation...

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Heartless... 'gordo' or fat in spanish is used as a term of affection in Mexico!

In Mexico calling someone gordita is not rude...

My ex used to say that until one day I broke down in masses of tears...he had no idea...i had no idea about cultural implications...

In Mexico people would say... 'ayyy ya engordaste...' o 'son pastillas para bajar de peso?'

- you've put on weight

- are those diet pills

Definately if you call someone fat from where i come from you are begging for a knuckle sandwich but in Mexico it is endearment.

Riya, Mystica if you know the workplace scenario in Middle East, you don't want to offend most of your colleagues and there is so much pressure to be politically correct, a skill which I am still working on. It is not that I lack guts, but getting the message across is difficult at times when you don't want to be rude.

Uh, no they are definitely not rude because of my 'advances'. I am not interested in them in that way, trust me.

But they do tend to give judgement and ask personal questions more often than others, for example if I order a steak, Medium Rare. The waitress screws up her nose and says "eeew that means there's still blood in it!! Are you sure?" Yes I'm frickin' sure, take the order and keep you're opinions to yourself.

They seem to think its OK to guess when they think women might be pregnant (my wife has been congratulated on a non-existent pregnancy, she is not overweight!!), and manners should tell you that's not appropriate.

I've also heard the Philipina that works in my team blatantly call someone else 'fat'. Don't tell me this isn't rude.

yeah I understood the part where some higher officials do the probing thing and u r forced to answer...But I feel if u r a strong lady ,u can even tell ur superiors to respect ur privacy..and I dont think u should worry about the gossip part...U definitely have a right to protect ur privacy.

yeah I understood the part where some higher officials do the probing thing and u r forced to answer...But I feel if u r a strong lady ,u can even tell ur superiors to respect ur privacy..and I dont think u should worry about the gossip part...U definitely have a right to protect ur privacy.

yeah I understood the part where some higher officials do the probing thing and u r forced to answer...But I feel if u r a strong lady ,u can even tell ur superiors to respect ur privacy..and I dont think u should worry about the gossip part...U definitely have a right to protect ur privacy.

yeah I understood the part where some higher officials do the probing thing and u r forced to answer...But I feel if u r a strong lady ,u can even tell ur superiors to respect ur privacy..and I dont think u should worry about the gossip part...U definitely have a right to protect ur privacy.

funny you thought of asking about it. I thought this is common for people to be inquisitive. But it's true that sometimes some people don't even think before asking questions, if it is offensive or not! Best thing to do is tell them frankly that what they are asking you is too personal or rather tell them mind your own business.

It's great to be loved!

I know for sure Arabs are like with gossiping and poking their nose and getting involved in EVERYTHING. When someone asks u something u don't want to answer, just say "and why are u so interested to know?"

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong :P - Garfield

Riya, I think I am already figuring it out that this trait is not exclusive to asians only as mentioned by other nationalities. I guess in a way it is good especially in close knit society where people are concerned with each others well being but in office it always leads to unwanted gossip. I particularly hated when somebody influential in the office used to probe into my personal life and as 'Oryx' says just won't take a polite hint. (BTW, I really like the way the 'english' speak 'english')

you are one of "people" here in QL who like to generalize...

if you refer to a "pilipina", it means all of pilipina is rude. i hope you are the last here in QL who always GENERALIZE..

Example is that what if i say, "all your family is not taking a bath and smells like shit??" aRe you gonna be happy with it?.. ofciurse you will be angry with me...

same like what you say, "pilipina" refers to all women in philippines..

hope u understand that. :)

PEACE NOT WAR! (",)

Hi..I think Asians are more family oriented therefore more interested in others things unlike the westerners who are cold..I am an Asian and I too find this nature of our fellow asians very irritating..But cant help it,that is how our community works coz Asians love to poke their nose..

The only way 'mom me' u can react is politely tell them that it is something personal and u dont want to discuss it..and BTW u say u r a proud south east asian,then why is that u want to find an answer for this since u know very well how Asians are

cornellian you are always so right spot on

I think this "intrusive manner" is a part of the culture in the East and Latin America. People are more family and community oriented, the family ties are generally much stronger and everyone feels like they're connected. So these people might ask questions either because they're curious and because they think there's nothing wrong with asking, I'm sure if they thought it was an offensive question they wouldn't have asked. Where I come from, everyone knows everyone in the neighborhood, and although it's nice to feel like a big family, it can get annoying when everyone is butting their nose in. The same thing if noone knew anyone, it would good to have ur privacy but it would suck to be kind of alone. So everything has it's pros and cons I guess.

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong :P - Garfield

The peace from world is vanishing so drastically that everyone is surprised where are we going? Hate start from exchanging bad words as a fun and then it involve nationalities, countries and religions.

If we believe in peace, it is better to give others the right to live as they wish to.

We are always right; but at our own home only.

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I think you did something that made Filipinas rude to you. Your name itself made me think otherwise..

_Good friends are like stars........You don't always see them, but you know they are always there._

uffffahhh heartless..that's a straight forward comment about filipinas huh?...maybe you DID something wrong to them (to us Filipinas)to be like that on you...what do you think?

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being offensive is better then being sorry later on. It's their way of being defensive against strangers, and they are right to be

If Filipinos were rude, it is strange then why are they accepted worldwide in hospitality business and everywhere there is "first impression is the last impression" sort of interaction involved. Most of the nurses, sales girls here in Doha are Filipinos and I think they are good in manners.

But, if most of them are good, few may be bad also. It is common in every society. Heatless, may be you forced a Filipina to be a Dragon Filipina when she didn’t like your unusual advances?

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great post alien, this place could do with few more like you who are willing to look at things from all concerned perspectives!

I have always found Philipino people to be very cheery...

Maybe you need to go to charm school barista!

And I am not Philipina and I am intentionally rude sometimes due to some people exhibiting a dire lack of social skills and not being able to take a polite hint.... because I am left without a choice!

oh really!!!!and how come and dare you judge filipina are the rudest?

i guess your username speak out who you are...

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"He who makes no mistakes never makes anything........

Heartless.. y do u sound like as if ur advances were not appreciated by philipina girl.

Philipina ladies are the rudest. Sometimes I think they intend to be offensive by the things they say.

OK if people are asking questions which you peceive to be be instrusive and can you avoid answering them without appearing to be rude?

Wellsaid regarding cultures....

When I arrived in Doha back in 2002, the first ever question that was asked frequently was "Malalum?". It made me frowned in the start then I became used to and then normal. Now, I realize that it is part of South Indians culture so I don't mind it and I don't mind any kind of questions unless it is offensive.

PS: (I look like South Indian but I'm not)

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This poking in other's affairs is a natural human thing but what mom_me.. you are trying to say is (correct me if I am wrong) asians particularly frm subcontinent, is we don't only ask unwanted questions but discuss it very seriously and sometimes this discussion becomes the talk of many members of the family / office colleagues / neighbours / accountances etc etc..

this is the situation which i think is particularly suited to south asians and a very uncomfortable thing.

I agree with chupaRustom.

When we talk about cultures....we should not object if we don't like but culture remains there....and it is culture of Asia that people like to get closer to everyone they interact.

It is true, sometime these question are too much that replying all questions is not possible but these can be avoided if one doesn't like to answer by simply saying, no personal questions, please.

And there is big difference in cultures of East and West. If the above all is culture of East, in the West parents even don't know their daughter/son has how many boyfriends/girlfriends because it is offensive there to intefare in personal matters. Should someone (being that is not in Asian culture) mind that? No, it is their culture from centuries with which they are happy not to ask their children for their personal affairs, as the people in Asia are happy in knowing each other, second and third tier of friends and contacts and so on.

It might be interesting for you, when Nepalese people together at weekends, during interaction with strange face, if someone finds a person who belongs to a place 100 miles away from his village, and there is no other person available from area between their villages, they consider each other as neighbors......and they are more than happy to share everything with each other just like they are part of a family.

In Uzbekistan, people honor their guest by making small pieces of bread and putting in front of the guest during dinner. They might be a considered ill-mannered somewhere else.

In Afghanistan, many of gun battles happen only because a guest of one tribe was dishonored in other tribe. Gun battle can’t be justified in civilian world anywhere but if you see route cause, that itself (honoring the guest) is not bad. Their action is good or bad; they are living with their culture for centuries.

All cultures have own beauty when explored within the context unless something is really disgusting or a criminal act.

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dis very usful info:

'Actually when I first moved from Scotland to Europe...'

we thot scotland waz in da europ

I think its more of a conversation then wanting to know sort

Thisis not an opinion this is nothing at all.

this may be a new attitude but when I left home and went abroad it was extremely bad manners to ask people about their private lives.

1 man fil da form 4 aply 2 job:

Name:blablabla

age: blablabla

Sex/Gender: 4 time per week/females

den say 2 frend: 'Y dey ask personl questions???'

In Mexico people are very open with their questions and in England we are rather guarded and many areas won't be asked about until the other person prompts.

Qataris have certain subjects that they are far more open about than we are in England.

Sharp observant you are!

Good on you!

Happy, a perfectionist are you ? I saw you editing post to change --simple to sample. LOL. WOW !!!!

- Why you're not married?

- How much is your salary?

- What did you eat today?

- Where are you going?

- Where have you been to today?

- How much is your bracelet?!

- Are you planning to have more kids? boys and girls?

- Why you have no children?

- Why are you divorced?

- Why aren't you covering your hair?

- Are you not fasting today? (In Ramadan)

These are sample questions I've seen people (who are not really that close as friends)asking others!

Never in my life have I asked anyone any of the above!!!

Salaam

i think i better stay home and surf QL :D

dnacing with a hippo injuring my toes oh no cant think of it :D

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Darude, yes I am free. Just take the permission from my hubby and if all your bones are intact than we will dance through the night (Don't blame me if I step on you and break your toes in the euphoria.)LOL.

Canarybird, my face reveals all the disgust I feel at times when awkward but this did'nt stop people from pestering me. My senior colleagues took a special interest in warning me about do's and don'ts. Nonetheless I liked them.

Actually when I first moved from Scotland to Europe, I found that they asked too many questions that really did not concern them. When I came to Live first in the Middle East they asked many more questions where I woulp stamp "None of your buiseness". Living in the Gulf and being much more mature I take all the questions in my stride and often people are generally really interested about the lives of foreigners- but truthfully it would be better if poeple thought about the personal questions they are asking.

So are you married

are you free for disco on 31st night :D

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