Am,i over reacting?

My dear great wife, dont worry about what he does in the net and let him register in one million dating site, and nowadyas you can see only ads about it, and not even monkeys are not available for real dating. that is vey much sure of all my sixteen years of almost all sites offering this stupidity. So, be calm, and continue ur love and that is just to say a sort of internet sickness to pass the time on it with a littile misconception that these dating sites are selling dating girls like sardine in fish market. It is not they are all like u sister with great girls if they are not bitches and those bitches are mending money morethan what they want from some different locations and not form these sites. Dont worry, leave him alone. It is not only his habits., it is the habit of playing with these sites by 99 percentage of the people without any sincerity. ok., here I found ur innocense is victimised due to your great ignorance about system associated fun of people.

Nothing is more relaxing than flying like an Eagle in Heaven !!

dear janei62! this post wont end. the only thing u should try is to talk to him very wisely and be severe and express urself tellin him that u r not confortable with that and warn him that this might end up with divorce if he is cheating on u in real. another thing u should know is that marriage after many years become a little boring and u can feel a gap betwen u and ur husband. just always make sure there is something interesting. change ur hair color. do changes at home.stay close as if u r still both in 1st year of marriage and hope things will get better. He might be innocent. not cheating on u at all. but lookin for a fun chat to fullfill a gap inside him. see ya.

Excellent stuff.. Serves old stuart right...

A lesson for all of us..

I think JustMoi idea is great try it and see what happen, but if I were you I'll confront him, right now, be strong woman! goodluck!

Open up the internet page and click

View then click

Explore then click

History

(or hold down ctr + Shift + H)

You should now see a list of days click on them and look at which sites he has been looking at on what days. You may also be able to see the subject of any emails.

the benefit of the doubt. He just registered (for free) just to browse inside. Now if he registered and upgrade to somehow spending a fortune to view more and have encounters, well, that's a different story. But most men just want to view, nothing else. Does it mean, Jane, if you caught your husband reading men's magazine, you'll feel the same? Unless you're instinct tells you that he is having an affair, that's different! Before, you only see these things in magazine or go to bars and clubs, but now, free registration for browsing, just to spice up your married life! Discovering something unique, styles, ways of lovemaking, anything that will be beneficial to your married life!

"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"

talk to him in a nicest way.. there's nothing wrong in chatting as long as he never fool around. you will notice it when he did fool around.. you should trust him, may i suggest?? give him enough attention and lustful touch every time he arrives from work.. maybe your cold on him that's why hes looking for some attention in cyberworld..

"Trouble is a part of our life. If u don't share it U don't give the person who loves you enough chance to love you enough..."

Just ask him directly why he is doing it? Maybe he is lacking something ...try to get it out from him and work on it...everything will be alrite..

I don’t think anything wrong in that as long as you both have time for each other...you are saying that he still love you and kids….

if he was ignoring you then its a different story..

As per the recent survey infidelity is more dangerous than physical..Anywayz..all the best for a happy life.

well it starts with a curiosity and might end up with a fling here n thr or worst.

DO NIP IT IN THE BUD... ask him, no need to confront just let him know that u know with a laugh

In all seriousness... I think you should hire a Ninja

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you have the right to over-react... =)

been thinking and feeling sorry for you while going through this thread.i can imagen how insulting it feels plus when you have to act normal doing all the chores while inside you all this going on. your confidence just shettered.Be strong, not only your man anyone who does that to his loving wife is a realy shameful act.i d,nt know what i will do to my husband in this case senario but i think living with him after that wil be a big Q mark ? you have to talk to him in a cool way cos if you confront him he will denay its a human nature but you have to be v.careful and tactful these men are not easy job to handle with i wish you good luck take care of yourself

My wife doesn't notice but I am very much like your man. I have no plans to leave her, however. But who knows a lovely encounter could change the things. I don't know why I get this desire but there seems something missng to be filled.

Take a look at this poor? guy.

He asked for it.

Click the top link first to read the story then watch / listen to the video after.

http://www.dailyexpress.co.uk/posts/view/84897/Fan-playing-away-from-home-falls-victim-to-cruel-hoax

http://www.dailymotion.com/video/k2ez32enUpv0bEWsAo

You can't teach experience...

If you in that 5 percent god bless you...

But for the most its not that way...

Why we have so much divorce n such...

Women get fat men get fat

Don't turn each other on anymore...

Well, your gonna have to find alternatives to keep it going...If you break up you just end up in the same situation...Make it work with the one you love...

I know sometimes you can't turn back time...

But you can give it a try...Watch some porn together???

Or something...But I can assure you it won't get any better to split n find another the same thing will just happen again...

My 1 cent worth...

You can't teach experience...

If a man get off on line doesn't mean he don't love you..

He just wants to get off...We men suck..

But if you got one that takes care of you and have some fun online and you dump him...

Prepare for shyty life...

I would just put up0 with it if I wee you...

Or watch porn together...

He just wants some new experience...

Geeze...

You can't teach experience...

If you guys are not doing it then let him have his release...At least he not running around on the town on you...Women are doing the same thing...

Or divorce him and have a shyt single life

And my sig is 100% correct on this...

You can't teach experience...

Nothing is more relaxing than flying like an Eagle in Heaven !!

HASAN SHAIKH & GIPSY_COY, please read well. i didnt say cheating once is ok. i said her husband might thinking that way!! never said it is ok if some1 cheat once! r u both crazy? learn the art of reading and UNDERSTANDING :)

Qatar can change us and make us do crazy things, but is just a way of destress...almost sure

Check mate.....

some electric shock may kill a father of her two children... you guys are so violent..lol..

I just asked my hubby for his opinion. He said, it is definitely something wrong home.. he said, the husband seems to be bored. He said, even may be he doesn’t mean to meet anybody in the beginning, but since he is in this matter, it’s very easy to make the next step… He said, girls on line are not looking for the companion for sheesha there..:):) they are going on line for the different reason…

And he also said: let her get him busy with something…

This is a man’s opinion.. but as for me, i love to chat with whole world… it doesn’t mean I go and sleep with everyone around..

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“You become responsible forever for what you have tamed”. Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

hahahaha ngourlay...you made the whole thing worth reading with your last comment!

Janei62, if I were you I'd dump the PC in the bathtub when you sweetheart is bathing, who knows some electic shock may get his brain back to normal...

His behaviour is simply not acceptable!

You should seriously talk to him, and if he keeps going with this bullshit, dump him here alone in Doha and take your kids back to your country! Or at least threaten him to do so... you need to wake him up!!!

register with the same sites, get chatting to him under your assumed name and then meet the bugger somewhere!

It may be just harmless and he is bored but it would be worth doing that to test him!

Then kick him out.

lol britexpat! fishnet? sounds itchy to me..

Female intuition...never doubted it.Let it out , my dear. Tell him what troubles you... And you're not over reacting,guess it's a normal feeling;)))

New lingerie , high heels and fishnets will distract him..

Can't you discuss this with him. Married for 15 years you should be able to talk about anything with him.

Good luck

someone with common sense and a sense of humor to boot.

I kinda like the "Make him feel loved and cared for, approch his manhood and appeal to it ..."

Let your husband google "John Wayne Bobbitt"

“A lot of the people who keep a gun at home for safety are the same ones who refuse to wear a seat belt”

If your GUT is telling you there is problem, then there is a problem and no need to ask if you're over reacting!

Follow your GUT feeling...what are you going to do about this problem?

Too often we ignore that "nagging" feeling and then regret it later.

You will have to talk to your husband about it SOONER than later...don't prolong the talk.

You have a RIGHT to know what is going on.

need I say more?...I guess not :-)

love + loyalty + trust + open communication = happy marriage.

If I found my hubby was registered with dating sites I would be f*cking furious!

At the very least he's into chatting with 'propective' dates and at the worst, he's having on line affairs.

I can't believe most aren't taking this as a very serious situation. I can only think some are extremely naive!

From personal experience I'd say he's up to no good.

Who says cheating once is ok?...cheating ,in any form is not merely an accident - it is cleverly planned and executed....

EOH. Also, doing once dosen't make someone a real cheater. I wonder where you got all those benchmarks.

Thats great news EOH. "just playing around maybe cheating once is ok! it happens!". Thanks for the update.

now that makes sense ummjake, just askin..wink

Nothing is more relaxing than flying like an Eagle in Heaven !!

it is a bad situation. well stop guessing and doubting! go talk to him very gently on a dinner at home while the kids are sleeping and be smart. be cool. ask him about his feeling and if tehre is anythin more u can do for him in case u were too busy to notice that gap. and tell him to be straight with u about the net stuff! Just make sure he understand that this is so serious and he might lose his family including u bekoz of that bekoz he might be sayin.. oh yeah .. just playing around maybe cheating once is ok! it happens! Goodluck and be smart...calm down bekoz if u show anger he might not listen to u and continue online dating to be a real cheater at the end.

nothing to worry. It may not be normal to others views but unless your hubby is spending money on this dating sites, then it's really worrisome. But just browsing (yes you need to be registered to browse), it's common. Unless he is browsing gay sites, then better do something fast. It's better looking at computer monitor rather than seeing those sexy females on the stage in person!

"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"

Indeed. I could not have agreed more.

not involved in your life/situation, to act as a sounding board for you, to ask YOU the hard questions that will help you clarify what your boundaries/issues are, and figure out how to get back on track.

I know lots of people have hang-ups about going to see one, like it somehow means you have serious mental problems or something, but it doesn't.

And actually, I just said she should go see a counselor (therapist), not a psychiatrist. Different people entirely.

Hasan,

if the guy has married someone who takes advice from random strangers on an internet message board, he deserves everything he gets ;)

--nigel

Ngourlay. Where did you get your optimism?

if you ignore this, it will get worse

pretty soon, he'll be searching for hentai on google and ordering squirrel suits

trust me. there is no happy ending. something must be done about filth on teh interwebs.

super glue a print out of the qtel censorship image to your monitor

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don't you think involving a shrink is way too much?

Personally, I don't think you can ignore things. He's definitely hiding something if he's quickly closing browser windows when you approach him. You say you've already established that he's going to online dating sites (guess he doesn't know how to clear his browser history), and that right there is a HUGE betrayal of you and your marriage.

What he is doing is a form of emotional infidelity. And it isn't that big a leap to go from that to real physical infidelity...

I would recommend that you see a counselor (by yourself initially) to plan out how to approach him to talk about your concerns, and to help YOU be clear about what your boundaries are (maybe you are okay with him chatting with women, maybe you're not, maybe this is a deal breaker for you if it continues, maybe you can't trust him any longer and want access to his email so you can check on his behavior, etc.).

Hopefully he will be willing to go with you after a few solo visits because it sounds like there are some issues that need discussed.

Good luck!

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enough for the murky, gray & vague line. talk it out with him. Asking questions won't hurt, MISTRUST does.

and still young and attractive, after 15 years of marriage the relationship as much stable as it may be may be getting boaring and a man may seek excitement somewhere else .. this may lead to something or may lead to nothing ...

My advise is to keep an eye from distance, give more attention to your husband, do enovative creative things to revive the love and hope things will improve ..

Make him feel loved and cared for, approch his manhood and appeal to it ...

And if things develop, do not confront him with your findings but rather question his behaviour and ask him hy is he closin the screens when you approach him and ask him if he is hiding anything from you ..

Good luck

"The best way to predict the future is to create it".

spice up your relationship a lil' bit... do something crazy... o yeah... don't listen to me... im the crazy one... =)

MOst of the ppl here are on the right track except that weird guy who thinks ur hubby is a gay or he is sleeping with someone else.

I think the best thing would be to talk about it and letting him know that ur worrid.

Good luck sweety :))

let him establishing his own business.. you will see, he will not only stop chatting on line, he will not only forget all his passwords to all these idiotic sites, he will not only stop seeing his friends...he won't have enough time for even eating and sleeping properly... and of course he will start making much more money.. beneficial for the whole family..

trust me, i know what i am talking about...:)

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“You become responsible forever for what you have tamed”. Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

Wake up and smell the coffee honey.

If he was only flirting then why make it secret.

Kick his ass out and take him for everything you can. You can love a dog as much as you like but he will still be sniffing arround elsewhere.

Look after you and your Kids.

Wake up and smell the coffee honey.

If he was only flirting then why make it secret.

Kick his ass out and take him for everything you can. You can love a dog as much as you like but he will still be sniffing arround elsewhere.

Look after you and your Kids.

lol samael you sound like the Queen of Hearts back there... :P

lmao ngourlay - Off with their heads!!!!

as thingy up there said "Chill" aslong as it is online and not offline you should be fine, obviously voice your concerns about it with him though.

Or better yet, get a friend you trust to join one of them and try to hook up with him, if it turns out he wants to meet (meat) said friend then you can turn up and unleash an unholy smackdown upon him. then phone Jerry Springer.

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Mayb both of you need to sit down & have a really good talk.I think mayb ur hubby feel neglected since like u said u spend most of ur time looking aft ur kids.I have a fren few year back having same prob as you but they managed to resolved it after a good talk.All because my fren's huuby feel neglected with all her attention mostly on their children.

that is why it's never good jumping into conclusions right away,.. who knows what you might jump into and most times you'll end up making a fool of yourself... "communication is the key..."

I am sure you are over reacting.

.he is just flirting....

..bad for a married man, though..

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.fact is , he is married to you and he loves you.......

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.chill.

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Don't overact but inform him that you are aware of his online activities.

Be aware that there programs that can track down the whole session of user activities in a computer.

kate_n, being registred with all these endless stupid sites does not mean "sleeping with other people"...

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“You become responsible forever for what you have tamed”. Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

Now you guys are over reacting.

as MJ said just discuss with him in a calm and quite way

" Hatred is the coward's revenge for being intimidated"

....G.B. Shaw

ngourlay, are you crazy?? now if they start divorcing every husband who is chatting or even signed with some stupid sites...???

just ignore it.. your husband just entertains himself... give him more attention, get him busy with something more productive and fruitful...

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“You become responsible forever for what you have tamed”. Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

he could be gay

what could be worse than your loving hustband sleeping with other people?

he is obviously shagging around, or worse

your hubby is perfectly normal!

"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"

Oh dear! This is not an easy situation to be in. Have you got real proof that he has registed on the dating sites? I would perhaps suggest trying to discuss it with him in a very neutral way so it does not cause a confrontation.

Unfortunately though anytime you have to talk to a loved one about things like this they will always get defensive and hurt thinking we dont trust them but sometimes there is room for doubt

Best of luck with it

stop filling your head with lots of maybes and what if's... if you're too concerned about it, talk it out with him but in a good manner..