The Anxious Child…What To Do?

There was a time when it was believed that children could not possibly suffer from anxiety or depression, and their sometimes problematic behavior was just a way to seek attention.  This has changed now. Do you know that anxiety disorders in children are on the rise and have risen by 25% over the last three decades, according to a report by the National Institute of Mental Health. The problem is how do we know if our child is anxious or just going through a phase that may be fairly normal for children at that age, and when should we seek professional help.

Anxiety is a normal feeling and a part of all our lives. It is there to help us attain goals that are important, protect us from danger and it lets us know if something is a threat to us. In other words, it is a natural phenomenon. The problem arises when you see your child becoming more clingy than usual, withdrawing from normal activities which were usually fun, becoming timid or shy, or not wanting to go to school. If you feel your child is experiencing these feelings, it may be time to step up and do something about it.

1.       Encourage your child to talk about feelings

You can either ask the child directly to talk about what may be bothering them, or indirectly by telling them fears you may have had as a child and encouraging them to talk about theirs. It’s important to be calm and patient as your child may not open up immediately.

2.       Help your child manage anxious feelings

Children imitate what they see their parents do. If your child sees how you cope with anxious feelings, it may reflect in the way they manage their feelings. If your child sees you raving and ranting to a friend or having an argument with your spouse as a way to manage anxiety, that is the behavior your child will learn. That’s why you must learn to manage and cope with your anxiety so you can instill a positive way to deal with anxiety in your child because you and your spouse are your child’s role model.

3.       Let your child have different experiences

It’s important that you let your child experience different things and situations in and outside the home, like meeting new children and adults, visiting new places, learning new skills and instill a love of reading in them.

4.       Limit screen time

Screen time should be limited to 1-2 hours a day so children do not become dependent on it. It is not a substitute for activities, and it is important that children spend less time in front of screens so they can experience other activities that will help them grow and develop.

It is overwhelming to see your child dealing with anxiety, but with a positive attitude and the above tips, the anxiety can be controlled. The imperative thing is patience. However, if you feel the anxiety in your child is not decreasing or you feel it’s increasing, seek medical help.