Are you a Cyber Widow ?
A very apt question for QLers .....
What say you ?
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How men use technology to avoid intimacy in relationships
Victoria was seven months pregnant with her third child when she took her two young children and left her husband. For three weeks, she stayed with her parents wondering what to do about a marriage that had disintegrated to the extent that she and her husband Craig no longer talked.
Over the previous five months, the man she loved had become so detached and cold that when she looked at him she saw a virtual stranger.
The cause of this breakdown? An affair? A drink problem?
No. The internet.
‘When Craig came home at night, he’d have something to eat, then he’d open up his laptop to respond to work emails. I fooled myself that because we were in the same room we were still being together. But as the months passed I felt hurt and rejected that he’d spend hours emailing colleagues, but hardly say a word to me.
‘His virtual self became more important than his real self. We didn’t row about it — I’d try to make conversation, get no response and give up. It wasn’t that we weren’t getting on. We just stopped communicating. Then, one evening, he sent an email to me that was meant for a colleague. It wasn’t racy or intimate, but it was flirty and jokey.
‘I felt sick to my stomach. He told me there was nothing in it. I believed him, but I realised he had more intimacy with this woman than he did with me.
‘I know that for some people this wouldn’t have been an issue, but it showed me how distant we’d become. I didn’t know who he was any more. I didn’t know what else to do, so I left.’
Victoria’s story is a cautionary tale of the harm technology is causing in relationships.
Because I missed the sentence which she sayed I tried to make conservation with him.
Here are my words:
The husband and his wife are both responsible for the success or failure of their marriage life.
It's always the woman's fault!
I think the WEST is to be blamed for it... they should block people from accessing the web from home :-(
Why is it the woman's fault? what IS your issue with women SA?
they can hire a much productive guy who will work for 8 hrs
Nothing strange in it, but I should blame the woman first because the man did not became addicted to internet all of a sudden.
Technology is like anything in our life, if you use it properly you will benfit your self and your family, if not then you might harm yourself and propably your family.
non of ur business - sikander pasha !
Ok OK I doit at home too...
dedicates his office working (8 hrs )on the internet , when do u work then ?
He could just as easily been staying late at work everyday. I don't see how it's technology to blame, it's just an excuse and a distraction from an already dysfunctional relationship.
well britey, i'm grateful for the internet coz that way i get to see my "lovelife's" back home.. tfs ;)
he's talking about something you can't relate to - A Hair Net :O)
Colt and wat u do with tat net ?catch fishes or mosquitoes ....:O)
I use the net only when my partner is in bed and snoring :-(
Kareena then when are u free to date me ? :(
A day with the love of my life, The Internet and 8 hours sleeping.. But then I am not answerable to anyone..
i dedicate only my 8 working hours to Internet i.e multi tasking - no more than tat ! :)