Attention Eliza's parents (playhouse)

WK take care of himself... Hahahahahaha!!!!

You r not 9 months old dude, u r much capable of taking care of urself.

OK.. I understand.

I cry all the time, can someone tell my mother that using an online forum.

Cabbage, I welcome all the advises which are for the benefit of my child. If she was colic she wud keep on crying when I held her but to my amusement the baby was quiet all the time I was there holding her in my arms. And ......... my child is not there, he stays with me all the time.

After seeing all of this and commenting on it; why is your child still there?

You saw a kid cry, you felt sorry for it; good for you.

How would you feel if tomorrow Eliza’s Mum said something about your child or about you on a forum that can be accessed from all over the world?

As Pilgrim and I have said; the child may have colic, they may be a hard work child etc.

Sort your own life out love. One day soon another parent may comment on your so called parenting skills.

I have a small kid dear I cannot stay out of the villa all day as this is the only option left. To reach nanny for letter I have to pass thru owner & she will not allow me to meet her as I went there & rejected the daycare.

Pilgram I am not judging anyone. You havent seen what I witnessed. That daycare wud close by the end of march n the mum might take her to another daycare n then this wud be another trauma for the child.

I dont want any appreciation from anyone similarly I dont want any criticism. I am just playing my part to help, otherwise I shouldnt have bothered in the first place as long as my baby is safe n happy. I have a simple motto & I am working on that.

consciouseffort... one of the posters 'medan' seemed to have suggested to write a letter to the mother and ask the nanny there to give it her. Since the day care fellows dont allow exchange of contact nos. that seems to be a good option and since you already know the place and the child may be you can do a run to the daycare and try this option.

Consciouseffort there is something called colic. My cousins daughter is colicky and cries non-stop. That isn't the parents fault. I'm sure they are doing the best they can and who are you to judge them?

Did you ever contact the mother?

Mountains out of mole hills smoke.

Seriously?? You hoped to make contact with Eliza's parents through QL? Whats next...

Staring with a raised eyebrow and shaking head

I am just trying to keep this alive ... to succeed.

a baby alwz need a mommy true.

Staring with a raised eyebrow at consciouseffort

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Well said, girls! Couldn't agree more.

Lets keep this thread alive so that someone from Eliza's family / family friends reads this.

Good for you to chose your child over your career consciouseffort. I am glad that you are currently in a financial position to make that sacrifice. Is a parent, I also appreciate your report on this nursery.

* The child is there for 3 weeks & the lady said she cries all the time.

Why does a child cry is sh/e is not sick?:-

1. Either the child is hungry

(Children need to be fed after every two hours until the age of two ... after that what is their requirement that I yet have to experience since my own baby is 1 year & 6 months old)

2. Or the diaper is soiled or the child is wearing it for more than three hours & it might be irritating the soft skin of a baby

3. Or the child gets scared & wants the mum to cuddle him/her for maximum time.

I dint have a steel heart to see the child crying like that & held her for all the time I was there & she was quiet & infact when I played with her she started laughing. I even took the pacifier out of her mouth which was given to her only to make her quiet but that wasnt working.

* Regarding the contact of her mum:-

Since the nanny noticed that I was worried about the child, she'll never pass it to me. Second thing, daycares etc do not exchange the contact numbers since this is a matter of confidentiality.

Even I am having some troubles at home & because of that I wanted to start up my own business & for that I need someone to take care of my baby. But after noticing the condition of kids in there, I decided I'll never put my child in any daycare until & unless he is old enough to start his education & is old enuff to speak up & tell me if something wrong happens to him.

appreciative post.... as said above ,child will take some time to adjust with the surroundngs n new guardian...

I really appreciate with your comments on this topic .

Tinks - keep it up .

Thank God It is weekend and baby will stay with her parents at least for two whole days. Hope she would be Ok after the break...

I don't know if any of you have had a kid with colic or a child that cries for NO reason all the time.

Well I have had one of those babies; I still shudder at the thought of it now 15 years later. Nothing I did helped. Sometimes I had to leave the room as it was exhausting, for me and my child. Sometimes at five in the morning after another night of no sleep and hearing her cry; ANYBODY could have had her. Sleep deprivation is a terrible thing.

I am not saying this is the case with this little girl; however, if she a crier, perhaps her mother having a break from that torment may be best for the child and the mother.

Walk into any day care centre or any Kindergarten and you will always find a child that is crying; it is not always a reflection on the staff, the care they give or even the child. Some children cry a lot!

We don’t the situation with the mother; she may have to work, she may not but actually it is nobody else’s business.

As for posting this on an open forum; IMHO it is wrong. Why not hang around the Nursery; approach the Mother in a diplomatic way and ask her how she thinks her child is doing in day care. If you; after hearing her side of the story think it pertinent to do so, mention her child seems distressed.

Well said Tinks ;)

I am rating the life in Qatar based on the country, not on daycare, though clearly the phrase 'goes without saying' is wasted on you, you need everything spelled out to you.

The 'Vat to doooo?' attitude is prevailant in most quarters of this society, from schools to shops to general expectations of authority anywhere.

Coming from a more efficient country you can rationalise it, but as a child you'd grow up thinking that no-one gives a damn about anyone else, and everything you want doing is like cutting off your own arm.

People here are overworked but also hate their jobs; as I said, fine in a restaurant but in a school or nursery it is poison to a child's development.

Personally? I don't want to put my child in daycare in any country, though obviously circumstances may dictate otherwise.

I am judging Qatar on its infrastructure, transport, facilities....everything, and to me they don't add up to a happy childhood, regardless of parenting.

Qhris, rating the life in Qatar,based on the quality of it's daycare facility is.....[never mind]

You don't need to use a day care facility of any country by default if you have a child!Its all subjective and specifically in Qatar where you can have your own help living at home,a lot of possibilities can be explored if needed before finally choosing daycare.

Whether or not Qatar is a bad place to raise a family depends on the parents--like most places. I have no doubt that horrible parents can ruin a child in even the best environments.

I have small children, and we like it so far. But then they are not in day care, they are not being raised by a nanny, and we live in an excellent compound with large outdoor spaces, playgrounds, sports facilities, and plenty of other families with small children who are being raised by their parents. We also spend the hottest months of the year abroad. I wouldn't do this forever, but for now it's a decent situation. I would not want to raise my children entirely in a country in which they are not citizens (and by default second-class).

Qhris... thats why I agreed with you, but so as not to make the issue fizzle out stressed on the need to keep the purpose of the thread intact else you know which direction this thread will go...."this place is not good for raising a family" has all the ingredients to make it a hit for comments of the type we all know at the expense of forgetting that a small child needs attention ...

I have a job and 9 months old baby myself but I manage to hire a good nanny who stays with us. If Eliza's mom just like me, where we have to work to survive here, I do understand how difficult it is for her.

But no matter what it is, babies should be left at day care center. Its probably really difficult for the parents to manage financially but the babies deserved at least till they old enough.

I suggest to write a letter to the mother and asked the nanny there to give it her.

Hope Eliza's mom read what you wrote.

I think threads need to be an evolution sometimes, and something close to the topic needs to be raised....or it just turns into 3 pages of people posting 'this makes me cry'.

I agree, this is not the place to raise a family, I wouldn't too...but thats not the purpose of this post... sincerely hope this post ultimately serves its intended purpose..

I live in Qatar and I am single. The thought of raising a family here horrifies me, when the time comes I am definitely going somewhere else.

What a miserable childhood a kid must have here. And also the 'what to do?' poor service has no repercussions when it is just at a restaurant, but when it is your child's education or their welfare.... frightening.

Raising a family here? Not for me thanks.

Too many under-paid workers who don't care about their jobs to entrust my child with someone else, sorry.

You have touched my heart, I couldn't control my tears after reading this, so much long time baby was crying???

So thoughtful of you for posting this to inform her parents, Allah bless you.

on another hand..

you should be careful about enrolling your kids to this particular babycare , if it overloaded...

What a shame. Poor baby. The parents need to get their priorities straight, and it sounds like this daycare facility needs more staff.

shakes head.

It’s not entirely the mothers fault, that she has to work [if that’s why the baby is at the day care] But I would advise the mother that if you have a choice of working and staying at home because of a comfortable income from your hubby, then with the temperament of your baby it might be good to take a break from your career for just a while, till she attends regular school,..True ,.. those three years away from work will be a setback in career , but you will have invested heavily in another emotionally, profitable venture ie, raising a happy girl…. But then,To each their own….

paents are running behind the money !!

i hope her mum reads this... some parents just leave their kids without letting them accept that they are not going to be there in a short time. and oh this is for all mothers too it may be ya baby next time.

Stare!

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After reading this....i also started crying....i dont know why parents are so careless...u shuld have asked there contact no...poor baby eliza...i seriously pray that your parents should read this...

After reading this....i also started crying....i dont know why parents are so careless...u shuld have asked there contact no...poor baby

poor baby.

Exchanging the contact numbers of parents is not permissible without mutual consent & since I was continuously guiding the lady to calm up the baby so even if I ask the # I would immediately be refused. But one thing is for sure after this experience that I wont put my baby in any daycare.

Couldn't you ask the Playhouse folks for the contact no. of Eliza's parents?

Hoping you'll find them on here reading your post may be a bit of a stretch.

I'm sure you could make up an innocuous reason, for the benefit of Playhouse, for wanting to contact the baby's parents - that is, if you don't want to give them the real reason.

Just a suggestion.