Being "Twenty-Something"

glecs
By glecs

Being "Twenty-Something"

They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis."
It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now. You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.

You look at your job...and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't.

One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.

You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself...and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender! What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.

...maybe this will help anybody who reads feel like they aren't alone in their state of confusion!!!

By kakashi28• 27 May 2008 10:48
kakashi28

@ glecs, well hey there! 7 days baby, 7 days more! ;)

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By glecs• 27 May 2008 10:33
glecs

at kakashi, hey you! better pack your things and come over here. we have lots of activities goin on. dont wait for next month. yallah!

at soldier ant, dont ya worry. you are NOT ALONE.

silent "G"

By soldier_ant• 27 May 2008 08:53
soldier_ant

glecs who gave you the permission to look into my life ..... huh huh ...

this is all mee..........

may b worse but all true.... hmmm

By kakashi28• 27 May 2008 08:39
kakashi28

sashiburi da na! (its been a while) glecs! (with the silent G)

What you posted is true.... very true ;)

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By lovinni• 27 May 2008 08:37
lovinni

quite true glecs...let me say the twenty - something is the heydays of my life. the early twenties is when i gained full force freedom considering settling in a foreign land. i am experiencing a rollercoaster of emotions swinging in and out of me into an undescribable intensity and i though i couldnt handle them. but i did!

so many issues...your family back home, friends, career, lovelife, and environment. oh anything under the sun! and you have to face and cope up. and still surviving! and suddenly you'll notice you are ending the twenty something stage. ooopsss!

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

By Gypsy• 27 May 2008 08:32
Gypsy

I'm not really going through it, but my boyfriend sure as hell is! That post just described him!

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By brandylady• 27 May 2008 08:30
brandylady

am old but not that old!!!! LOL xx

By nadt• 27 May 2008 08:28
nadt

Agree with this post, twenties is a combination of good and bad times,and a bit of confusion. The thirties are great, you know what you like and dislike, where you want to be, completly secure in you beliefs and you are more selective of time you spend with certain people ie: you dont waste time with people who you dont get along with. In other words you just please yourself, i loved it when i turned 30, life becomes so clear to you...

By kismet• 27 May 2008 08:20
kismet

Spicemom, exactly! :D

Kismet

By britexpat• 27 May 2008 08:15
britexpat

For a moment i thought you said "you're life started in the 40's"

By brandylady• 27 May 2008 08:14
brandylady

oldies but goodies :)

my life began in my 40's and it's just getting better n better :)

By spicemom• 27 May 2008 08:12
spicemom

once upon a time i was twenty something it was good, then i came to 30 something it was better, now 40 something is so good i couldnt ask for more.........awaits eagerly for 50 something to see what's in store for me.........:O)

life's too short so make the most of it, you only live but once.......

By britexpat• 27 May 2008 08:11
britexpat

I've heard of the midlife crisis, but twenty something??? In my tewnty-somethings I was too busy having a good time to worry about the type of work, mortgages, the world etc etc.. Obviously times have changed..

By r7• 27 May 2008 08:11
r7

I am 20 something n i have no pateince to read tht long

a s s post...

By kismet• 27 May 2008 08:09
kismet

I don't agree! Being twenty something is the best time!

And then being thirty something is even better than best :)

And of course life begins after forty!

Kismet

By brandylady• 27 May 2008 06:10
brandylady

I think I can remember being 20 something, long time ago!!!! LOL x

By lwlski• 27 May 2008 05:58
lwlski

so pensively written with a tinge of maturity that we, twenteens are hahaha.

guess i should go back to writing where my thoughts are mine to express alone......Ü

By thexonic• 27 May 2008 03:50
thexonic

hmmm

"I call upon you all, political forces, citizens, to start a new phase which is called 'Lebanon and the Lebanese people', in which we are committed to the national project, with a civilized mindset."

Lebanese President Michel Sleiman

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