Does he want her?
Hey guys, me again. I'm really starting like QL. My first time to experience something like this. Anyway, I have a problem I need help with. Ok, to start with, it's not me, I know people always say that, 'Ii's my friend, not me'. But this really is my friend.
Ok, so, shes dating this really cool guy. I feel so bad cos I'm engaged to get married by next year and I feel like shes left behind. I want her to either move on or drop this guy. Problem is, he's muslim and shes christian. He is so cracked on her. I think he really would consider marrying her. But also i think shes slept with him. so would he consider her after that for marriage? This whole thing is confusing. I'm even confused, when she asks me I'm like, God girl, you need to get help. Will he marry her after he's slept with her? Does he respect her?
Point of view please
No, He does not respect her as a human being. If the man truly cared about her. He would not play games with her emotions.
want her, he is just killing time till mommy and daddy pick his bride out of a catalogue....
I mean come on, who would want a non-virgin 21 christian girl, when you can have a 20-something, virgin qatari girl;-)
as long as no names are being mentioned and no clue has been stated to reveal the personality .It's good to discuss in here others are laerning and getting inputs (like me). thanks all.
if i am your friend, i will be fuming knowing my relationship privacy being discuss in the public forum.
They are both playing with each other. I don't think that the lady would really love to get married with that guy....
I know some of the christian women who is really good playing with muslim guys.......
DanaF thanks for the post... your such a great friend. Stay around with your friend and be a shoulder to cry on when times get rough and cheer with her in her victory (insha allah)- that's the best thing to do I guess. While prays for the rest of US...
KSA... woow man tat was too long Essay dear....
My eyes fell on the keyboard.... wait ... lemme fix it back... LoL
Hurrah for marrying your first cousin.....
yipee you can sit next to your husband and talk about the same grandparents...
oooooooooooooooooooo vomit
so dmigtysolomon you are saying that God gets really jealous....
eh Peace be upon you......
only in bed.
Stay REAL
You've been in the sun too long..it's nice to have discussions because they broaden our minds, but silliness!
There are over a billion muslims. Only a tiny fraction of Muslim women cover their faces.
Islam allows Muslim men to marry christians and Jewish women.
Couldnt be going thru the whole thread but somewhere up there it did say, why run the race when u know u arent going to win it...
Now I have to say two sides of that statment...
1) If you dont run the god damn race you wouldnt just know for sure that you wouldnt be winning it, so the start is so important...
2) Second, life is always not about the destination, there is much more to be taken in the Journeys of the different phases of life...
when you go on a rollercoaster, you enjoy the ride fully, shout and have a lot fun, when you get off that ride after it finishes, you will have headache, stomach turning, ass paining, vomit sensation and all this crap
it wil be there for a while...it will make u feel dizzy
but after a while you will get over it...
then what do u talk about, will you as a person talk about the pains after the rollercoaster ride or how much fun you had while you were on that rollercoaster ...obviously about the immense amount of fun you had on that...
now knowing pretty well that you will have to deal with the same amount of pains and troubles if you take a rollercoaster again, would you stop yourself from taking one and another and another in life...hell no, when you visit amusement parks, you wil make sure you go on them...inspite of knowing pretty well of the results...
but everytime u will only talk about the enjoyment on each of them rides
in the same way, my dear, life is indeed a rollercoaster, u go on some and u enjoy and when u part ways...after a little while, at first it is painful, but after that, u will only remember the goodd time u had...
simple...so thats why, dont think too much if u have the chance to go on that rollercoaster might as well go on it, stop thinking of all : what will happen, will i get hurt, will i fall of, what if,,,madam life doesnt have time for all this ... It moves fast, and YOU DONT WANT TO BE MISSING THE BUS!!!
God or Allah forbids his children or follower to marry someone not same belief (in the Bible, they call it the non-belivers). It is all simple, it is very hard to teach to your children to serve two "Masters" specifically if the Master is a Jealous one.
There maybe exception, but marrying someone who don't belong to your religion is not healthy
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
Ooo even worse I bet you there are Muslim men out there sleeping with atheists!
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yes, we are witness to a lot of Muslim guy and "christian" girl, is that really love or plain confort on the girl's part. The muslim boy part, I will not argue that they prefer to court christian girl because they can see their faces and they know the attitudes and natural personality difference between a muslim and non-muslim girl. A non-muslim girl is very attractive to a muslim boy (check-out those Qatari looks to non-muslim in shops and malls).
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
Ahh Alexa, she's already had a shocking enough day poor thing. She found out there are gay Qataris that are smuggling AND Muslim men sleep with Christians. :(
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Alexa, play nice with the young 'uns ;)
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Yes Muslims never sleep with Christians neither are there any gays around
ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh wait till I write my memoirs....
LOL
Oh, such innocence. Don't tell that life's not really like that.
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remember Muslim men are allowed to marry Christian women.. So where is the problem?
ROFL! I love this chick, she cracks me up!
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well, i don't believe such a relationship will remain. A Muslim would never sleep with a christian not unless he's not a practicing muslim, yet if you see that sparkle, the love sparkle betw. them, then he'll probably end up changing his religion to Christian to marry her if he truly wants her, if not, then she should let go of him and get serious.
it depends if they are going to live in Qatar or elsewhere...
it depends what family he is from
'Qatari' too general
I spent a year working in Mechanicsburg and Harrisburg one month. Had romantic walks along the susquehanna river.
He's 30 Qatari and not married yet :S
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We sometimes call them busybodies.
well you guys, thanks for the posts. i guess its up to her really. shes just so shy. im scared he'll walk all over her. im not interfering per say, she asks me and then i dont know wht to say.
i wana say do what you feel but its complicated hwere feelings are concerned. he could just walk off and leave her. she really likes him.
any ways peeps, have a great evening.
keep it real
;)
mwah
well that would be very rare..
but the locals..and that too at the age of 31.. is most likely to be married from before.
Never Ask for a SMILE..just GIVE it..
What ever happened to just discussing these things with your partner. She should just ask him, and im sure from his response she will get an idea of hes just stringing her along or he has intentions of marrying her..
I always respect the girls I sleep with..
Seriously though. Where is the problem ? Why are you worried or interfering?
Chill out. Focus on your wedding and live a happy life..
to some folks those are the same thing..
Grant me the senility to forget the people I never liked,the good fortune to run into the ones I do,and the eyesight to tell the difference.
better watch Alexa...she is the all seeing, all knowing, Mystic Alexa...Yo, Alexa...look into your crystal ball for Dana's friend, will ya? Let's see what you come up with..
Grant me the senility to forget the people I never liked,the good fortune to run into the ones I do,and the eyesight to tell the difference.
I know of two local (read that Qatari) men who are married to expats..one is American and the other British..and they have wonderful marriages.
Grant me the senility to forget the people I never liked,the good fortune to run into the ones I do,and the eyesight to tell the difference.
irish american actually. i grew up in mechanicsburg, PA. How did you know that? :s
Never Ask for a SMILE..just GIVE it..
if he's here and she's here, then there can be SOME way he can get her to meet either one or the other at some time. What she can do is talk to him and tell him she wants to meet his parents...if he hedges and doesn't do it within, I'd say, two weeks, then she needs to run, not walk, from the relationship. In the meantime, she needs to stay out of the sack with him...because not only is it illegal here, she will get herself more involved with him emotionally.
Grant me the senility to forget the people I never liked,the good fortune to run into the ones I do,and the eyesight to tell the difference.
you look like you got caught between two elephants, while swinging on the vine...fully stretched out...and you stayed that way.
Grant me the senility to forget the people I never liked,the good fortune to run into the ones I do,and the eyesight to tell the difference.
ok, so like, should he have taken her to meet the parents by now? We dont have all these formalities in the states. your mom and dad just kinda gets to know ur bf since hes always around. as far as i know, this guys mother is out of the country and his father works for governmant so travels a lot. is that an excuse?
arabs are like confusing. why so complicated?
do i look like a tarzen to you :?
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spoil my secret, will ya???!!! lmao..
Not just observation...have had it done to a couple of my friends here AND back home...
Da...are you down to just a quad now? last time I saw you, you were a sextuple...(for those of you who don't know this word, I just made it up to mean 6 in a couple. Its a new Scarlettism)
Grant me the senility to forget the people I never liked,the good fortune to run into the ones I do,and the eyesight to tell the difference.
Sorry dana, hey to you too girl. Been a very busy three months. I still pop in now and then.
dana, sorry for the slight hijack..just haven't seen lisa in over 3 months!!
Grant me the senility to forget the people I never liked,the good fortune to run into the ones I do,and the eyesight to tell the difference.
TO BE OR NOT TO BE,THATS THE QUESTION!
:((
scarlet is that your observation or experiance ?
Live and let live...
and gals i am not single i am quad ok get that clear :D
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sorry for spoiling your plans of attack...Can I make up for it by making you some cookies??? :)
Grant me the senility to forget the people I never liked,the good fortune to run into the ones I do,and the eyesight to tell the difference.
some guys tell women they are single and they aren't...its easy for them since there's really no way to check up on that here...
Grant me the senility to forget the people I never liked,the good fortune to run into the ones I do,and the eyesight to tell the difference.
u r right scarlett
Live and let live...
If they have been dating for six months she should ask him....where is this relationship heading? If she is comfortable enough to have sex with him then she should be able to talk to him.
Scarlett's advice is also correct. If she has not been introduced to family and close friends...that is a big sign.
my chances of introducing are nil now :D
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what i'm saying is that if a guy or girl(especially the guy) won't introduce his girlfriend to his parents, then not much will ever come of the relationship..think about it..
Grant me the senility to forget the people I never liked,the good fortune to run into the ones I do,and the eyesight to tell the difference.
what are you saying lady :?
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if each are toying with the other, then they deserve each other!! Both will get what they deserve.
Dana...yes, there are a LOT of men that love to play the field here...some are married but say they aren't, some are just looking to get laid and really don't care about the other person's feelings. One good rule of thumb to judge by is this...has he taken her home to meet his parents and family yet? If no, then I'd be VERY wary of the relationship going anywhere except down the tubes.
Grant me the senility to forget the people I never liked,the good fortune to run into the ones I do,and the eyesight to tell the difference.
Scarlett ... what if both are *toying* on each other ?!!!
by the way i liked that word toying hahahahahaha
Dana, All religions are good but followers oftens discount the teaching and only keeps label which distract others, never judge book on its face hence dont accept or reject the person on the basis of religion or race, just check him on humanity grounds,,,wish ur freind all the best.
Live and let live...
mmmmmmmmm, we're not that type. i mean, im 21 and im not a lose canon. im so excited to get married and have kids. we just heard that arab guys pay a lot and i think she shouldnt have slept with him. but he seems so genuine. by the way hes qatari, does make a difference???
the only two that it really concerns are the guy and girl...no one else's opinion matters. So what if she slept with him...that's certainly NOT yours or anyone else's business. If she's not a virgin, then neither is he, in that case. I know of many marriages that are religion mixed and they are working out very well.
If your girlfriend is worried about getting dumped by him, then she needs to really think seriously about how she feels about him and if she really trusts him. If the answer is even IN the gray area, she should be running like a bat outta hell.
Grant me the senility to forget the people I never liked,the good fortune to run into the ones I do,and the eyesight to tell the difference.
first of all .. do she wants to marry him ? i guess 21 is too early to decide on that ( depends on her home country tradition ).
Second if he loves her he would let her meet his famely sooner or later but not too long :)
thired his family most probably has a say in this.
Regards
yea damn i forgot
ok see you around 5+ then.
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You know I'm 4 years younger then you Darude. :P
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Not neccessarily, but if she's 21 she should DEFINTELY not be done playing around.
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i am 3+ how old are you :D
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oh god sorry. hes 30 and she 21. thats we're confused. i mean, hasnt he finished playing around???
He's 30 or she's 30?
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BTW how old is she that you think she has to either marry this guy or move on?
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generalisation.....i mean, is it really a big deal if shes not a virgin and they get along with eachother? i think she just feels like shes wasting her time. i mean, nobody wants to run the race knowing they will never win right???
could he be just toying with her? dating for 6 months now. shes 30 and shes 21 soon.
whats going on
No way to say. I know lots of Muslim guys married, marrying or dating Christian girls and it's a different situation with each of them.
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love is love.and u can do nothing.its theirs problem not urs.
there are still alot of couple i have seen
that Males are mostly muslim and girl of any other religion.
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