Extra marital Affair
Does anyone believes in Extra marital Affair ofcourse wrong to decieve.But
can it happen with the knowledge of the spouse.And especially when it is
frm the Women's side.In Other words can a Woman maintain a relationship
outside marriage with same Intensity as with the husband.
Can she maintain it will fall to One side.And if a Woman feels genuine Love
towards anybody after marriage is it real Love or just a Fling.
Your Genuine & Frank Comments Pls.
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Was with one yesterday during the trip to Inland Sea :)
YES Yes Yes Yes Yes. I am in to ex-Maritial affairs. sounds Rocking :))))
a fling, a game, a harmless (bullsh@T!)relationship or friendship...if you're married, it's A NO- NO -NO...PERIOD.
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Sorry for replying so late.The Topic might be over but I was late to read ur comments.But U summed it up nicely.Yes U r right sometimes somethings happen out of your control.And as U said it might just happen without U Seeking it.And U said very well that Women would like to check out their
demand.And maybe it might be happening only when the when feels she is much in demand.
And as U said when U have to choose between my husband and the other GUY the Woman will choose her husband and children and her family.
But what would U call it when the Woman continues to have it means
she doesn't wants to leave her husband and family and wants to have some Fun,Frndship,affair.What is she upto.And being an understanding husband how long should he take this bcos affiars might be dangerous in a marriage,A fling might not be so harmful.
this kind of "relationship" I don't get either... but maybe again.. it is LOOOOOVE.. who knows??... lol...
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i was not talking about "looking" or "searching"...if you are actively looking, the picture is clear: your marriage is over…
but I was talking about "IT has HAPPEND"...and it DOES happen, when you don't even think about anything like that, and you sure that your marriage is pretty happy, and you feel comfortable with whatever you have at your home.. and one day- BOOM!!- it HAPPENS!.. you meet some ...hmmm... call him "evil", "devil"... whatever...but he comes into your life…handsome, sweet, hot, charming, strong, confident, sensitive, understanding, caring, giving...ALL in ONE!... a man of your dream.. a man from the fairy tale, a Prince on the White Horse… and you forget for a while WHO you are, WHERE you are, WHAT is around you… you forget your friends, your even cannot concentrate on your work… everything is in the smoke, everything is unreal.. only HIM who is existing.. all your minds, all your dreams, all your thoughts are about HIM… your heart, your soul, your entire life belongs to only HIM…he will tell you :" Jump from the 20-st floor”, you will do it without thinking twice… .. but… every fairy tale comes to its end… you sober up, you wake up.. you get back into your mind..and here what I say is: if your husband is wise enough, he will understand, that it was temporary irresistible temptation, and that you realize that you were doing wrong, and that you are sorry… if your spouse is not wise enough, or just cannot overstep it…..well…too bad for you…
But we all make mistakes, we are all entitled to mistakes! And that’s where we can test our marriage bones by the way…in this kind of extreme situations we can figure out if our marriage is strong enough, if your husband is really the most close person in the world, who will show you his understanding and support..
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Qatarisun, I understand what you are saying about marriage being different, but if you are married, than the best question that has been asked on this thread is WHY are you looking outside? Last time I checked, at least in Western marriages, part of your vows are those of fidelity. If you need to look outside your marriage, than you must question why you stay. And, if you choose to stay, than you must accept the terms of the marriage contract.
I'm sorry, but I cannot think of one possible reason that a man or woman should be able to justify being unfaithful to their spouse. Maybe that is 'black and white' as you pointed out, but that's life. Either make the best of what you have, or move on. JMHO.
Qatarisun, I was actually speaking about the other woman or man. I know people who are with married/involved men, who've told them they don't love them (the other woman) won't break up with their wife/girlfriend, and are just in it for "fun." Yet these people are still pursuing the relationship.
"I am not a pretty girl, that is not what I do, I ain't no damsel in distress and I don't need to be rescued. So put me down punk, I'm not a maiden fair, maybe there's a kitten stuck up a tree somewhere." Ani Difranco
if one of them is cheating better end the marriage.if he/she gets caught do u think his/her wife/husband is going to trust the same way as before?
and yes iam married.
Love can have so many different forms and expressions... not everything in the life Black and White.. there are soooo many colors and shades...
it is nonsense to think that if one of the spouses got involved in affair, he or she has to finish their marriage immediately.. it’s wrong.
are you married rdksharma?
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in the midst of having an affair with someone how can one say that they still love their husband?
Affair could be temporary.. we all have our ups and downs in our feelings… but KIDS, HOME, FAMILY are much more stable terms… yes, today I fall in someone, because he is sharp, charmy, caring, he treats me like a queen ( which I didn’t see from my husband for a while), he gives me fresh feeling that I am on demand, that I am wanted, that I am worth to put efforts, time and money in… but tomorrow I realize that my family is much more valuable for me, that I don't want to make my kids unhappy by breaking their cozy world, by destroying their home...and I do realize that I still love my husband...and I do realize that nothing is worth my family's peace...
Love has so many different forms…
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Marriage is only for two people. three is a crow as they say, but then again it is so true.
Just stick to the partner you have chosen for life. If you are not able to do so... get out of the marriage. In other words get a divorce if you must/want to explore other possiblities with other people.
Why need to explore within the marriage? Is the person you married not got enough anymore?
Remember the vowes you toke when you got married.
If the marriage is right then there is no room or even a thought for another person.
Al you need and want is the person you married.
Greetz. J. :):)
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you mean that extramaarital affair is love affair? or sex affair?
what iam trying to say is why be in a marriage and still have an extra marital affair?
if one feels that sexual attraction ,in a strong way that u want to sleep with the guy /gal, or emotional attarction it clearly states that u have stopped loving ur partner somewhere in ur life and it is time to move on rather than hold on to being married,inorder to get the benefits of marraige like security,etc
if u love someone deeply u attain some selfcontrol not to cheat on them.
And, yeah, I am convinced that woman in general cannot maintain the same intensity, specially the emotional one, while the man can…
...but sure there are always exceptions…
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.."why would someone have an extra marital affair and still be in a marriage?it doesnt make sense"...
It does make sense.. affair is usually based on the emotional and sexual attraction (unless money is involved). Marriage is much wider and deeper connection: house, common circle of friend, common environment, kids…Woman can get involved in the affair because she needs to feel wanted, because she needs to get into adventure, because she is just bored…It could be temporary, short-termed or even long-termed. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t love her husband, and wants to destroy her family… at some point we all need “to test” ourselves wether we are still on demand (and it’s not connected to the age ot social status or so..) we all need to feel as wanted WOMAN at any time.… it happens pretty often by the way.. In most cases husband never even knows anything about it, and after a while woman stops her affair and “getting back into family” …but if husband even figured something out, and he is smart enough, he will wait till her “game” is over…
Gypsy….” if you know the person is already married, or has a boyfriend/girlfriend and has no plans of leaving them”…
love is tricky thing.. today you don’t have any intention to leave your partner, but one day someone come across, and you find yourself loosing your mind, forgetting about everything and following your feelings and this person… how about it? .. i have been there.. i have seen it...
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If one has good sex being in the boundaries of marriage then why think about having an extra marital fling?
The problem is that everything around us invites us to have fun.....to think about sex.....
tell me what u think when u c a beautiful lady , semi naked on TV? when u c a hot kiss ? will u wish to have that lady? or ur wife? when u c hot girls do u wish to talk to them? its human nature that loves changes, u cant eat ur favourite kind of food everyday, u will be bored.. what do u think? tell me
why would someone have an extra marital affair and still be in a marriage?it doesnt make sense.marriage is a vow to be faithful,committed and loyal to one person.if that doesnt happen then there is no marriage.
if one feels an urge to be unfaithful then it clearly shows that there is no love between the partners .unfaithfulness happens when there is a serious problem in the relationship and in most cases it is more of a sex problem than anything else.
Men do it for fun...-to be precise- for sex. But women r more emotional and emotions comes before sex for them...... so they r looking for emotional satisfaction which they dont find with their hubbys......how can they be fair with them? so no woman can be fair with two men..... this situation will end in divorce , except if ,the hasband doesnt care about his wife and he may be involved in relations with other girls and he only wants life to go as it is with his wife ( stable marraige situation ) and he is not waiting for love from her, and in the same time the wife wants his money ,so no divorce, and wants to have her own life......
Wrong place to post this...there are other Valentine's Day threads, you may post your wish there.
It become routine when you do a lot before marriage
if they find out that their woman is doing IT...but them doing IT is no big deal...talk about double standards :-/
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You have enough time to make mistake before marriage......why should they do it after marriage...
I do believed so... evry one of us is entitled to commit one mistakes in our life, nobody's perfect, we are here to live and born to make mistakes.
It might turn him on.
"I am not a pretty girl, that is not what I do, I ain't no damsel in distress and I don't need to be rescued. So put me down punk, I'm not a maiden fair, maybe there's a kitten stuck up a tree somewhere." Ani Difranco
may be he is earning some benifit from that .
what kind of a husband would he be to allow his wife sleep with another man.. sure he may be doing ths coz he must be into some Extra maratial relationship and wld not bother his wife doing same.
they'd rather that their other half/partner/gf WOULDN'T MIND.
But ask the MEN what would they do/say/think IF the they're AT THE RECEIVING END...
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Things are different for Men and Women.Men do it just for Fun but Women
might have a reason to do it.Maybe there is something missing in her MAN
What she found in another Guy.But What role does the husband play in that.Especially when he also Loves her the most.
What I don't understand is what the other person is getting from it. I mean if you know the person is already married, or has a boyfriend/girlfriend and has no plans of leaving them, you're basically just playing the Hoor.
"I am not a pretty girl, that is not what I do, I ain't no damsel in distress and I don't need to be rescued. So put me down punk, I'm not a maiden fair, maybe there's a kitten stuck up a tree somewhere." Ani Difranco
It depends on how the partner/spouse would take it. I know some people who vehemently denies that they're having a relationship with someone WHEN everyone knows that they ARE...kinda hypocritical.
The 'swing' party/couple might work for some...though i for myself would rather not comment on that :-P
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You and my husband working in same company has become a real pain for me......
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LOL you sure? Let me find out your hubby's number...
You can have an extra marital affair with same intensity but....but....but...Never never write any letters to each other...I mean don't leave any evidences / proofs behind.....
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Hmmm...Well GG, some people (NOT ME!) enjoy the idea of their spouse with someone else and use it to...ahem...spice up their love life. :S
Also plenty of men in this region think they can "love" too or more women equally, so a woman thinking she can do the same is no different.
"I am not a pretty girl, that is not what I do, I ain't no damsel in distress and I don't need to be rescued. So put me down punk, I'm not a maiden fair, maybe there's a kitten stuck up a tree somewhere." Ani Difranco
Unless you have some issues with your spouse, there is no room for an extra marital affair. I mean if both partners are happy how come a third person comes in the picture. If you are doing it with the knowledge of the spouse means he/she is doing the same thing with your knowledge and both are cool with it. There is no pint in living together then.
I don’t think it will be true love, it is just infatuation or fling. But if their marriage is weak then their is possibility of falling in love with someone else.
I believe an extra marital affair WITH the knowledge of the spouse is called swinging. And not I doubt it would be possible to maintain the same intensity (except perhaps in the sexual sense) with both relationships. YOu will always love one more then the other.
"I am not a pretty girl, that is not what I do, I ain't no damsel in distress and I don't need to be rescued. So put me down punk, I'm not a maiden fair, maybe there's a kitten stuck up a tree somewhere." Ani Difranco
I can say for the woman who do this is a stupid thing. But many did it. I doubt if these women really have peace of mind and comfortable with the arrangement. Get a divorce, free yourself before doing silly thing, because this thing will never exist for a long time. But i have a "Big Question" why are they doing it? Is it for pleasure, money or revenge?
"There's nothing we can do to change the past, if it teaches you a lesson profit from it then, forget it."
Warning: this situation hardly ever turns out good. I speak from experience. The worse thing is when the heartache comes either you can't get help from anybody because it has been a secret or nobody feels sorry for you because you are guilty of doing the wrong thing.
Everybody is different and every situation is different. Whether or not a woman says she loves more than one person is not the only relevant thing. Her actions will depend on whether she is comfortable with being a deceiver and whether she has fear of God. I am not judging - I have done it all. A woman is capable of maintaining a passionate affair but it will have a life span that might last a couple of months, who knows? The situation brings great stresses and that leads to fights and a breaking point.
I know that it is pretty useless to say don't do it, you will. The excitement is too irresistable. I did it once and never again. I lost everything. But then again maybe I didn't actually lose anything. I knew if I could betray my husband I never really loved him and was willing to leave.
Will you allow your life partner to maintain extra marital affair or not
Can a woman do it? Doubtless it is so.
Can she maintain the same intensity in both relationships? No. She is fooling one or both.
She is lyng to one of the two if not to both. Liars can not sustain relationships.
Maybe I am naive. But that's what I believe.
Why are you asking??
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