Females show no appreciation and trust!

tobiaswebsite
By tobiaswebsite

I have faithfully been with the same woman for over a year now! I have done things for her that would make any other woman jealous! I even went all the way to Kenya Africa to meet her family! And wrote and recorded a song for her that played on QBS radio as a surprise for our 6month mark. I have even went as far as planning for our future by making investments for us. Just to find out that after all this time she doesnt trust me! and accused me of being with another woman over a stupid text message from a female friend who is already married! I explained the reason for the text, and even told her to call my friend. But she left me anyway, im in so much pain that my emotions have shut down to the point that i ignore people in my life and act like a real a**hole. Are their any woman out there who know how to appreciate a wholesome man if it slapped em in the face? Im getting the all woman are the same disease here! and the pain is too much to bear, i need to get out of the house and do something before i go bananas! any ideas on how to cope with the pain and heal the wound?

By Oryx• 30 Jun 2007 23:48
Oryx

so yr relationship ended and you blame all females????

if you have that attitude you won't find anyone else - which girl is going to go out with someone who is bitter against the entire gender?

the pain of a relationship ending can last a very long time - use this time to reflect...

i will help you assess what your needs are and what you expect from a partner. unfortunately sometimes we need to go thru this pain and do some real soul searching to learn from our experiences.

if you don't your next relationship will probably mirror this one.

By zaidan1010• 30 Jun 2007 03:57
zaidan1010

if she loves u then money is the last thing she will think about.only how you treat here and how much u love here .. may be the text msg was the escuse she needed to just leave..

By tobiaswebsite• 30 Jun 2007 02:37
tobiaswebsite

well cornellian are you willing to become my friend then? and see where that takes us? or am i not ur type? if not then just staying friends is ok with me too! i havent been to the movies in a while, hint hint.......

By Cornellian• 30 Jun 2007 00:47
Cornellian

Ur right tobias, single women here are very cautious of the men because of the bad experiences they've had. I think the key is for the guy to slowly gain her trust by being friends first before getting into a relationship. Men, u have to be patient and take things slow. It'll be worth it in the end.

By tobiaswebsite• 30 Jun 2007 00:29
tobiaswebsite

I appreciate all your comments and intel, im a grown man, and i need to get my stuff together! Im sure something will happen to her that will have her crying to herself wishing she never left me! and when she comes begging back to me, then it will be a lil too late! I would never accept a woman back knowing she been with another man inbetween that time! Im a one woman man, and i love the feeling of having a clear mind knowing that i never cheated, or never have to worry about diseases n stuff like that! There are alot of men in Doha on contract work, 95% of them are married back home, so most of them look for one thing and one thing only! that kind of puts a burden on me, cause im truthfully single, and alot of woman in doha know most married westerners have become skilled liers! therefore when i tell someone im not married, they roll their eyes n say yea right! So trying to have a true relationship in this city is not a easy task unless u plan on living here for the long run! what you guys think?

By bajesus• 29 Jun 2007 23:20
bajesus

-Comment deleted- bad language in public forum

By SeArChEr• 29 Jun 2007 22:45
SeArChEr

tobiaswebsite,

Do you know how lucky you are ? It is going to be much worse if you're married to her with kids, then she left you for someone else ! & yet you still have to pay her...

Think about it, this call for a celebration instead

By Cornellian• 29 Jun 2007 20:06
Cornellian

It's always the good people who get into s**t, that's how the universe works, don't quite understand why though. Oh well...life does and will go on. And the pain will go away, u'll get over her even if u were together for a year, some people break up after 20 years together and they get along with their lives. So cheer up and smile cause I'm sure u'll find someone :-)

By qd06• 29 Jun 2007 19:53
qd06

Dude man up. It is too many good women to be crying over a one. We say sometimes what we think is bad is not really bad, it is actually a blessing in disguise. lol Let the other dude spend his money and you bank yours for a good woman and a rainy day.

Act your age not your shoe size

By tobiaswebsite• 29 Jun 2007 19:27
tobiaswebsite

Im at work as we speak and i cant even concentrate on my job! This sucks, i always hear woman say why are there no good men out there? why do all men dog them out! Well im right here! helooooooooo! im here........!!!!!!!! but all i get is a woman does does me bad! I dont understand this S**T. IT HURTS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

By Cornellian• 29 Jun 2007 12:53
Cornellian

Well tobia, I really think it was for the best. It was going to happen sooner or later, and it's better that it happened now than years down the road. Why would u want a lady who doesn't appeciate u nor trusts u anyways? U deserve better, and u will find someone better who really knows ur worth. So try not to think too much about it, it was definitely not ur fault, and ur better off.

P.S. It might make u feel better if u make a voodoo doll with her face on and stab it with needles :D lol

By Gypsy• 28 Jun 2007 17:51
Gypsy

Oh. well then she was looking for an excuse.

"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco

By tobiaswebsite• 28 Jun 2007 17:50
tobiaswebsite

Its not long distance gypsy!

By tobiaswebsite• 28 Jun 2007 17:48
tobiaswebsite

I think you might be right tmp112, i called her and she was with some other guy already! she was bragging about how he is taking her shopping and getting her a new phone! i dont have alot of money, but im not broke either. I wanted for us to save for our future. I did spend alot of money trying to keep her satisfied, but i guess it just wasnt enough. That fu**n hurt hearing another man in the background after she been with me for over a year! and we just broke up recently, so u might b right, she just wanted an excuse out! excuse me people, i gotta get off, im teary eyed.

By Gypsy• 28 Jun 2007 17:48
Gypsy

And this is why Long distance relationships don't work.

"I fight with love and I laugh with rage, you have to live light enough to see the humor and long enough to see some change." Ani Difranco

By Mimi1222• 28 Jun 2007 17:46
Mimi1222

I would have to agree with SamyaUK on this.

By tpm112• 28 Jun 2007 17:22
tpm112

this could have been the excuse she was looking for.

By Scarlett• 28 Jun 2007 17:10
Scarlett

some things will never change with some people, no matter how much you love them, you can't change that part of them.

By SamyaUK• 28 Jun 2007 16:44
SamyaUK

Hey.. Dont beat yourself up.. If she didnt get upset over that txt msg then she didnt love u, its because she loves u that it hurt her so much... Im sure once she's had time alone to think about the whole situation she will remember all the good things u've done for her and realise your a good man :)

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