Handshake - how to say no politely
By consciouseffort •
I dont understand what's the best way not to shake hand with the opposite gender. Its not only Non-Muslims but Muslims also do the same stuff specially Arabic nationals. I do not want to sound rude but I need to make others understand that it is not permissible in my belief.
you mean bow down a little like Chinese greets.
Most difficult situation arise when there is a group of people and, a few ladies shake hands and a few resist.
Generally Indians/Western raise their hands to greet a lady, but avoid hand shake if in Abaya and offer 'welcome' greet only verbally.
more polite way i guess to bow ur head...like u r greeting Salaam to new commer...
normaly if he is elder he will put his hand on ur head..other wise..he will avoide to forward his hand to shake....
so try to compete before the oposite make a move...
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"(The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.)"
Shake their hand one time, and scream like you are in agony. Jump on the ground roll around in pain, and make a big deal about charging them with assault, and when you walk off mutter something like "You will rue the day you messed with this one".
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at my husband's work, there is a huge amount of women who deal with this on a regular basis. What his company has told them to do is when you are approached by someone you cannot or don't wish to shake hands with, take your right hand, place it at the base of your throat (not your chest!) and slightly bend your head in acknowledgement of the other person's greeting. Most people will not take offense at this but respect your wishes.
If you pick up a starving dog and make him prosperous, he will not bite you; that is the main difference between a dog and man.
-Mark Twain-
Always wear mittens on your right hand.
Many girls verbally greet and join their hands behind their back in an obvious way. Anyone would see she is not reaching out to shake hands nor has she any intention to.
Salam
Bend your head forward like Japanese greeting and respect. If not give a Military salute like some Chinese does. I think your intention will be well received.
hi, i read the comments by all,its a genuine problem.well, if u dont wont to shake hands with some one just smile politely and nod your head and say hello.dont give out your hand .show that u have lots of things to do,are busy and excuse yourself.if thats not possible.keep your hand behind your back.keep a pen,phone in your hand.handsfull, no handshake
live and let live
it is not banned in any religion or culture as far as I know.
Is it unhygenice? Just as much as turning a door handle, flushing the toilet, handling goods in supermarkets that hundreds of other people have touched before you.
It is a sign of respect and good manners.
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hide at home better. u know why its not possbile to shake hands? because in islam if u shake hands with other gender, means u felt something naughty then u have to clean urelf before praying .. which s not true koz i dont feel every person i shake my hands with! do u?
MKhalifa's answer is to the point but if u think men have dirthy minds, keep your hands on your tummy or forehead ( now, would dirty minds also have a meaning to this too ... ? )
Prasanth
Conscious this is what i was going through but its fine just say WS & they will understand:)
Btw liked the answer of Khalifa:)
Two things
first if you know that Man have dirty minds then why do you care and give them chance to approach to you for some reason
Second you must be good looking and attractive that you find this problem and share with all of us (Ooopps ... did i enter into the List of the MAN with DIRTY MINDS..?)
better not to shake hands, if you r uncomfortable. Will save a lot of ill feelings against other later. Mkhalifa's option is good, or you can smile and wish him verbally and move a little backward. This posture will give the other man a hint and he will withdraw his hand.
MKHALifa is rated best among all the answers in my opinion ofcourse
i experience yesterday with my indian costumer,i say salamalaikum,i shake his hand,when i smell my hand,smell like curry.what the heck!
MKhalifa's answer is nice but men have dirty minds :)
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CONFUSE ............ if you cannot convince!
say "ADAAB"[Like right hand touching forehead] or like smoke said Namastey[closing both hand togather].
proper decorum is for men to wait for the women to extend her hand for handshake,given that situation i dont want to shake hand,i just give my buss, card once introduce, to keep his eyes and hand busy,
Sniffing butts might be your regular way, I am not interested in that though.
The problem is I have asked a very simple question & two answers I have got which are nice but still it will leave the other one embarrased. I am sure ladies out there must be using some trick where without offending others feelings they must be continuing with their official tasks. But the immature answers really can turn anyone's mood off when someone is genuinely looking for a good assistance.
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CONFUSE ............ if you cannot convince!
or maybe do the butt swinging like your avatar smoke j/k buddy
'SO DARK THE CON OF MAN'
Well if making hand contact is not your thing perhaps sniffing butts like dogs should do the trick :D
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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brit,
"shakee" loool
Conciouseffort,
Keep a distance and join both hands together smiling and/or shaking the head (gently though!) and he should get it.
That day I went for a Company induction. One guy went to the washroom, and just rinsed his hands (no soap usage at all). Right after that he forwarded his hand to me and I just did not know what to do. So when he left I washed my hands twice. I told it to to my friend and he told me "in that situation you had to say namaste".
Sorry no hard feelings!!
So would the shaker and the shakee both have to wear gloves ?
Two excellent replies of M Khalifa & Dracula. Looks like wearing a glove on the right hand all the time would solve the problem. There would be a hand shake but no direct contact to hand itself.
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CONFUSE ............ if you cannot convince!
eewww brit... eeewwww...
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Life's a bitch and then you die! ;)
hands are filthy and you don't know where they've been..
Go for a kiss instead..
MKhalifa, Excellent one!!!
Any ordinary person will understand your unwillingness if you show your body language and ofcourse you can very well greeet him by words in order to avoid embarassing situation.
LOL Drac. wise. very good!
PAPAKABOG!!!
without moving your hand, make this guy understand your intentions. Smokey is right for hindus to just fold hands and say .....
No need to say NO....
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wear this!
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carry a hand sanitizer around, like i do.
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Life's a bitch and then you die! ;)
YUK....
You can't teach experience...
That’s above my comprehension...
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do like us indians do..say NAMASTE and join hands like you are praying :p
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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Don't shake hands in the days of the flu!
They noticed that I don't shake hands, so they don't offer their hand. If it happens, then I just excuse myself. I once noticed that when I don't stand close to the person greeting me, the hand never comes up.