How Important is Your Virginity?

It is a very simple question: How important is your virginity? Women may not like this kind of question because every time virginity is discussed, women’s virginity will automatically be the issue. “What about men’s virginity?” they might say. I think they have a point, it is unfair to see that men have the privilege on this issue that wherever we go women will always be the “victims” in most cultures throughout the world. But, I guess that is what makes women so special. Or, does it?

Virginity means the condition of being a virgin. Oxford dictionary describes virgin as a person (esp. a woman) who has never had sexual intercourse. You see, the authors of Oxford Dictionary were aware of this cultural issue that they put (esp. a woman) in describing what a virgin means. It is the virginity of a woman that is considered to be so important that almost in every culture a good woman is supposed to be a virgin. All three major religions in this world Judaism, Christianity, and Islam have the same opinion on this issue. In Christianity for example, The Virgin Mary has always been the symbol of holiness where in contrary Mary Magdalene was for such a long time considered to be the sinful one, a w**re: a status that she had to bear for centuries.

In the West the issue of virginity may not be as important as it is in the East. Due to modernization and all the changes that the culture has been making more people in the West see virginity as an old-bed-time story. Sex is just considered to be a physical need that all people need to fulfill, just like when they are thirsty they have to drink some water. This condition is heavily caused by the so-called liberal values that have been rapidly shaping the Western culture over the last few decades. The Liberal movements see that it is so unfair that men can have sex whenever they want without have to worry about their virginity status. “If they can fcuk, so can we,” the feminists might have said. Yes, is true that there are millions of people in the West especially in United States of America who claim themselves as conservatives but those people are unfortunately not exposed that much by the news medias and the movie industry. It is so easy to find the proof, just try to mention a Hollywood movie which it shows a sexual relationship of a husband and a wife. I’m sure you will find a hard time trying to remember a movie like that. And I’m not even sure if the conservatives in the West, especially in America, still have the same perception on sex and virginity as they had in twenty or forty years ago.

A recent survey in Brazil, a country with more than 170 million Christians, found that 96 percent of young people supported the use of condoms to prevent the spread of AIDS and other sexual diseases. At the same time the survey also found that that 79 percent of the young people who were surveyed did not support Vatican’s concept of sex before marriage and only 20 percent supported it. This survey of course received a big dissapointment from Vatican since Brazil has long been known as a Catholic country where one of the biggest statues of Jesus in the world is located. But I am not pointing my finger at Christianity because even in muslim countries like Indonesia sex and virginity are no longer considered to be that important anymore as they were to be. In Jakarta for example, finding a prostitute is a lot easier than finding an original DVD movie. Yeah, I know you may not like this argument but face it: It’s the truth.

Do you agree with the Western concept for sex that it is a physical need that every adult has to fulfill and that it has nothing to do with inner beauty? Most Indonesian women, even men, who do sex before marriage I’m sure don’t really confess what they do due to cultural pressures, and there are people who are tempted to do that “evil” thing but they are just too afraid because they don’t want to be the sinful ones. But, what if there were a medical surgery that could fix someone’s not-virgin-genital organ, something that could be possible someday, would you do sex before marriage?

How important is virginity for you? Would you ask your future bride, “Honey I love you. But I have to ask you this just to make sure, are you a virgin?”

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