Life as Expat - Gain or Loss

ERMA KHAN
By ERMA KHAN

Hello Evey1.

 

I was just thinking I mean it’s nothing new but just got a reminder when last night my Mom left for home after spending 2-month with me. I mean not just home but the whole me is feeling something great is missing and will keep missing. We follow our dreams in the world leaving behind those amazing and selfless souls who gave us this courage and strength to explore more and more. We don’t know whether we will be getting a second chance to feel the warmth of their Hugs, to see them smiling when we do something to remind them our childhood, to see them standing waiting for us to return.

 

For us time is crucial for our career, for making more money, to become an indispensable professional. For our parent, time is crucial as Age factor makes everything vulnerable.

 

What do you think? Gain or Loss?

 

To me, I know something in my heart keeps hurting all the time.

 

Happy thoughts to all of you.

By Vasquez• 27 Apr 2008 12:04
Vasquez

Clearly a gain - I gained 2 stones so far :o(

 

HEEEEEEEEEEEELP  

 

 

- I took the blue pill and found myself alive in Qatar - wish I had taken the red and stayed in Europe

By littlejimmy• 27 Apr 2008 11:27
littlejimmy

Mmmm. Have you seen the size of this place?

 

 

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I have nothing to offer anybody except my own confusion.

By dragonfly212• 26 Apr 2008 15:27
Rating: 5/5
dragonfly212

i come here to follow my hubby and so far we all doing just fine. regarding the family I try to visit my parent atleast once a year and I think this is not enough. You right their aging factor is petrified me. somehow you touch my soul with your topic. Now I am thinking to book a ticket home and visit them even just for a week or so. Fu** with work.

Everybody is right Everybody is wrong, it depend where we stand.

By novita77• 26 Apr 2008 14:42
Rating: 4/5
novita77

1 weeks down, 4 more to go Little Jimmy.

 

Hope you can get yourself settle in Qatar  ...

PS: Jimmy ... you mention Ras Laffan in your PM ... there is another member on this board call Mfx that also works there. You probably knows each other ... Lol.

By littlejimmy• 26 Apr 2008 14:37
Rating: 4/5
littlejimmy

Tricky one. I've come here to earn some money which I hope will make my family's life better in the long run. I miss my two kids and my wife like mad, but as I am only here 5 weeks at a time, and if I can keep myself occupied, it shouldn't be so bad. One week down already...

 

 

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I have nothing to offer anybody except my own confusion.

http://daddydoesdoha.blogspot.com

By anonymous• 26 Apr 2008 11:08
Rating: 3/5
anonymous

See

1) If ur a bachelor ur life is a slave

2) Ur f***** by the dominance of Mus*****

3) If u r an indian these people treat u as slaves

4) The amount that u will earn mite b huge initially but savings zero based on inflation the charm behind tax free salary is lost

5) U are stuckj and stagnated and develop sicknesses of all jkind biggest of them all mental

6) Finally net payoff marginal amount of money over and above that u cud habve earned in ur home country unless u r very skilled.......

7) work ethics r pathetic and discrimination is to the max.........  Culture is more important rather than work......

   

       Inshallah what will come next god knows!!!

By yaghazali• 26 Apr 2008 01:38
Rating: 4/5
yaghazali

I know my parents have a lot of regrets, having spent the majority of their lives as expats. Their own parents recently passed away (on both sides) and they were terribly upset about not having been home when it happened, and not having been able to see them more often, etc.

I don't know about you, but for some of us there is less choice in life. People leave home not just to travel the world, or to have more money for a bigger house or whatever...but to earn money to save their families from poverty & dire situations. In that case (which was true for both my parents) I would say that although it may hurt, it is worth the journey. :)

 

 

 

By anonymous• 25 Apr 2008 14:41
anonymous

Absence makes the heart grow fonder......

By anonymous• 25 Apr 2008 12:04
Rating: 4/5
anonymous

HAVING MOM around is not an obstacle, remember always this, she raised, fed you and did everything imaginable for you, so you could be who you are. Is an Honor to have Mom around, even in the long distance of oceans and continents, just don't run up your telephone bill too high...You always be Mom's boy or girl to her eyes.....just move on with your life, they have their own. HINDI KA TIGASIN.

By anonymous• 25 Apr 2008 10:49
anonymous

It's definetly a Gain for me- I don't see my family often, but thats ok for me, we are in touch on email and skype once in a while.  

 I've been abroad for 10 years now and will be abroad the rest of my life.

 

 

 

 

 

By qaswa• 25 Apr 2008 10:39
Rating: 5/5
qaswa

To gain something you will have to loose something...we are living as expats away from family and friends for a particular reason...it may be career or money...

By nadt• 25 Apr 2008 10:20
nadt

  I think about this daily....the age factor for my parents...being seperated from them and thinking i hope to god i get to see them again, as theres no guarantees in life.  Its tough but i guess that is life....it certainly makes you appreciate your loved ones more....

By ERMA KHAN• 25 Apr 2008 10:16
ERMA KHAN

Yes owen thts how we try to comfort ourselves.....one cannot get everything.

By swissgirl39• 25 Apr 2008 10:10
Rating: 5/5
swissgirl39

in case i have to choose one day between money and love and friendship i will go for the second.who cares about money????to be with the ones you love is much more.

 

*When hands reach out in friendship, hearts are touched with joy*

http://www.myswitzerland.com/en.cfm/home

By owen• 25 Apr 2008 10:05
Rating: 4/5
owen

for me.. yeah, financially i gain being an expat but with great loss emotionally.. :/ ...hard to balance... but it would be selfish if i will "gain" in everything... somehow one factor must sacrifice for one decision..i.e. being an expat.. 

[img_assist|nid=12867|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.

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