Maintaining a Platonic Friendship…

Versi - I read Dolly after your comment...

Really.. I second you on tht Versi ....

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Men will wrangle for religion, write for it, fight for it, die for it, anything but live for it

you making parking fees sound dirty...

Saggi - No offense intended.. Dost :)

It was jus my interpretation of all the data I could see in the posts here....

If Rules have to be compelled to be followed in a relationship... FS you sure the relation whtever it is is gonna last for long...

If I am compelled to love someone.... tht is MAJBOORI (Compulsion) not something coming from inside me....

Same way when it is other way round.. when like someone... can I be compelled to not like her jus coz rulez say so..... ???

for those with whom I feel as fren.. and to be honest being females they turn out to be better frens than Guyz..... but it didn happen coz of rulez of frenship... It was jus tht......

They were not HOT enough to think the other way :p

FS - Ok first the swiss watches and now the chinni KUm.. hmm... this is resonance in thinking :)

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Men will wrangle for religion, write for it, fight for it, die for it, anything but live for it

I do share such relationship with some and it's been a long long time. Well, I am talking about even 20-25 years. In fact we can share things and express more freely to each other than family.

....but at the same time I do admire Plato. Try reading "The Republic".

so to all women who says that i have a lot of male friends and we are only friends and nothing more . i have three explanations to ur stituation....first your friend is gay

second your friend has found the garage where he'll park his car...(he'll change it later)

three your friend is waiting for the right moment to jump for the kill...(you being weak and wanting someone)

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I'm Jack's complete lack of surprise

well after 28 years on this earth i came to a conclusion , we men , are manifactured to procreate...any woman (except mother and sister) any woman as long as it's healthy and could have children will be targeted by our hormones...this is how nature made us...women ,we don't want to know about ur work or problems or mistakes u've done in ur life , we don't care about your dreams , and ambition...really we just want to park our car in your garage...

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Personally, I don't see what the big deal is. I have plenty of male friends. It's totally up to you how you behave and what vibes you give off. If one of my male friends mistakes my being friendly for flirting, I'll remind them that we're nothing more than just friends. If they don't want to lose me as a friend, they'll learn to accept that.

*****If you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all*****

Are we talking about Platonic Friendship or Platonic Love? I think the thread is talking about the love/relationship thing...

Fs, I have a platonic alien friend. She is from Pluto..:) and we use telepathy, and it works!

versi maybe I am... not necessary the other person think my way...just to tell him that these are the rules....

If you are so sure, then why start the topic?

You are too opinionated...

mintus its impossible for people like you who think that way..but not all men think like that...

not really mintus....exceptions are possible.

Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor

Platonic Friendship is always never going to work, Either side always either loves or is in love with the other.

i think u are getting the story in the opposite direction,mere dost.i don't bug ppl....people choose to come forward and bug me.not my fault really.i prefer to ignore such elements and try not to get even my name within the same comment box as their name.

Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor

Lion king well said...but not many men hink that way...*Sighhh*

Eaglemannuel the reason behind this thread is sometimes we are friendly with some people and they try to develop platonic friendship by sharing their probs etc.. which we may not be comfortable due to the gender difference. When we know that they are decent and their intentions are clean we cant just be rude with them... so its better to remind them the rules..if the rules are followed properly its just like having a same sex friend!!

Ash...Did we miss you here?? dont think so...lol

Chinni Kum...ROFL

Damn... missing lotsa fun these dayz ..... :(

Platonic relation ??

This rarely happens but I support Versi in this...

The guyz intentions and motives are judged keeping tht of gals as reference.....

every permutation combination is possible when there are two variables involved......

But one thing really bugs me..why is saggi after rms's life in almost all forums......

I don know how much you are into Bollywood Saggi ....

but this is how almost every story starts :p

It ll be Chinni Kum the other way :)

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With pleasure Jack ;)

Rules are a guideline for intelligent people, but they must be adhered to by idiots.

Love starts with irrationality Boston, Friendship comes naturally ;)

Initially I was thinking of some 'irrational' numbers, that only become 'natural' or 'real' numbers, when you multiply them with a certain value. But that's probably to much for you, sandee.

lol not the telephone number... Just put any Natural Number there instead of "a number of" to make sense for you ;)

Which number? Their telephone number? "With a number of girls." What an odd love affair.

I am just friends with a number of girls.. No sexual commotations or whatever you call it..

This is all plain bulls***! Friend or not friend, platonic or aristotelian. A man is a man, and a woman is a woman. Blah, blah, blah.

FS - "If you want to be only friends, keep it that way. ... Do not use words with sexual connotations if you do not want the friendship to delve into another territory."

- That's right.

"...Do not treat him as your other girlfriends and reserve your judgment until asked."

- Hmmm... have been guilty of this one before, gotten into trouble in the past, learned to be more aware and avoid it, if intend to be platonic only.

"Do not use unorthodox methods to test your friendship."

- Why would one want to test a friendship? One would have decided to be friends as opposed to just acquaintances.

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The Cookie Monster said it.

my male friends from childhood and university days are still my friends till now, so it's possible

...listen to the sound of silence....

Certainly advantageous as different perspectives.

Lion_King said "... Especially women are more cautious to be alone with her platonic friend... "

True as wouldn't want to inadvertently mislead.

Now, FS, what brought on your thread here?

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The Cookie Monster said it.

Sometimes close friendships develop between men and women that seem to offer advantages over traditional relationships. They can share their ups and downs without being burdened by any expectations of having to provide the answers to each other's problems.It's not necessary to meet each other everyday to exchange their views. It could be in the form of a phone call, an email message or even a text message which would help each other to be connected. Perhaps one or both of them are coming out of painful relationships and they therefore unwind their minds to interact without the added stress of physical intimacy.Platonic relationships can be beneficial on both sides, but are they feasible to sustain over the long haul? My personal answer would be "yes" as far as both know each other very well and how far they can stretch their freedom without being uncomfortable.

Though the notion of such relationships continues to persist, the fact remains that a few people involved in the relationship manage to resist the temptation to move things to the next level.There is a fine line between like and love which keeps the relationship clean, fair and genuine.Especially women are more cautious to be alone with her platonic friend, travelling together and/or going for a spin with a vehicle. But it does not mean that men are free and expecting much more out of the relationship. A true platonic friend does not expect anything out of it....

Platonic... Hummmmm.... Too much hard work me thinks. Now maybe it's easy for ladies (I don't know the answer to this by the way), but there are way too many hormones in me that need to be controlled, and you know what... I think they are stronger than my will power. As Mrs Bandit says, early in our relationship we tried to do platonic. Tried!

Friends are Friends....what platonic or otherwise?

In Mumbai when I was in college there was something called "close friendship";).....so who wanted platonic ones...lol... full of timewaste...:)

so friends until...

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I'm Jack's complete lack of surprise

Platonic relationships CAN work ............. as long as you get a shag out of it

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"I told the doctor I broke my leg in two places. He told me to quit going to those places". - Henny Youngman

Web definitions to the rescue!

Banal:Common in a boring way, to the point of being predictable; containing nothing new or fresh

Sonic:relating to audible sound; "a sonic wave"

Therefore, Banasonic:Talking to the point of being predictable and boring! :-D LOL

Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor

yes a male can have a freind from the opposite sex, ONLY if was simply GAY !!!!

That was sarcastic! ;)

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you mean made in china?

No Arien..you know Pajju, he has only "Banasonic" relationships, his contacts are all from his naadu only.:)

Me and Bajju was Blatonic friends , and then he violated rule 2 , Damn you Bajju. He has many girls as friends not guys.

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the answer is 'panasonic'

Now what is going on here with all these flatonic and platonics.Verm, (It is since long time i heard somebody is calling you that name, lol) behave man.. :P

"To the illumined man or woman, a clod of dirt, a stone, and gold are the same.” ------- Gita

lol

UkEngQatar, Good one dude ;)

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When you have a platonic friend who is japanese... then what is it called?

if you have no culture, you can never be platonic...

FS no i wont give u :P

flatonic... which is platonic but you are allowed to flirt...

Pajju do you have blatonic friends? lol please give me the contact lemme check if you are following the rules..lol

its a thin line

holding a girl's hand is platonic

but not letting go of it is not

veris / Uk thanx for the info :P

for girls its the opposite...

Platonic for girls is all the interesting parts when they are being friends with a guy...

verisi wat abt boy friends ?

Plantonic relationship successful only online.. Real life can be dangerous.

Also depends on an individuals character.

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Platonic is all the boring parts when you are being friends with a girl...

Again... FS... three seconds... not platonic any more... I am sorry... now my wife has to click the acceptance button to proceed :-p

FS actually what is Platonic ?

Only a spark is required...not even fire..lol

Fuel and fire walking together :)

.........Expect a blast any moment (could be a slap)!

oh yea...you did notice that... ok done..Platonic only:)

did you read the terms and onitions above?

Please tick on acceptance button to proceed further..lol

that was before you started having an opinion of your own :-p

nah Verisi its bcos I know you for sometime now that I feel differently...lol

we've been friends for less than 20 minutes and you feel differently about me already...

UKEng...lol...lets give the banana some artifical flavour.. to keep them safe...lol

You just took the words from my mouth FS !!!

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Versi...I just feel that its someone else on your id...hahahaha.. is that really you?? lol

Can Monkeys guard Bananas?

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we're 'just friends' :-p

Bad girl... bad bad bad...

Versi... you sure your wifey is nto reading..lol need a written approval from her...

I'm sorry but I think really, there is no such thing as platonic relationship...because it's impossible

I wanna be friends with you... but only platonic okay?

Grrr, what is this?

Boston...grrrr

We didnt use platonic love.. we used platonic friendship..

Sorry Timebandit I failed again... three seconds... How are you doing?

thanks but no thanks.and i just read one of your comments in between.....allow me to clarify that i did not direct my comments pertaining to 'baby brother material' towards any individual or non-indivdual on this thread.

Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor

Mrs TB .. lol

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LOL verisimilitude.......we could try..........

'Up there for thinking....down there for dancing.'

You guys still don't have the right idea: a beautiful partner with all his/her attractiveness gives you the wings to go to heaven. Or, in other words: after a heavenly f***, you start writing poems or songs. Please, if you use the term 'Platonic Love', understand the meaning.

Can we be friends for 45 minutes?

you should try being friends with rMs...

He's 20 but he talks like an 80 year old...

TB and I tried to do 'platonic' once.....it lasted all of half an hour............... :)

'Up there for thinking....down there for dancing.'

actually the age factor comes into question coz of the maturity levels.i don't mind being friends with a 20 year old who talks like a 30 year old.but it's next to impossible finding someone like that....exceptions do exist i know.but when there are so many like minded people who are my equals in all respects (read intellectually and socially),why would i want to "befriend" children?i don't believe in growing down to match their level.i believe in growing up and matching upto the level of someone i respect :-)

Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor

...especially when both the individuals in question are clear in their heads n hearts about what they want in a friend...i mean if ur looking for a life partner, it mite get a bit dicey; if not, u want a friendship n so does the other person...and be careful of what u talk about with each other. Everything's cool then :)

"When the world gets you to your knees, you are in the perfect position to pray"

Mrs.Time...hahhaha

you're good... I can remain platonic for about three seconds max...

Oprah and Jodie Foster surely can do this friendhsip..

“The fool speaks, the wise man listens”

TB and I tried to do 'platonic' once.......it lasted all of half an hour.......... :)

'Up there for thinking....down there for dancing.'

svelte just called you 'baby brother material'...

you're making progress in life...

Ask Oprah and Jodie Foster...They can do this kind of friendship...:-))

“The fool speaks, the wise man listens”

First to heard Platonic word..coz i think Platonic dont exist!

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The one who stays calm is the one who is in control

Neither I with Granma's !!

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i don't exactly be 'friends' with 20-year old kids....they're baby brother-material!i keep friendships with equals.period.

Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor

just cos YOU think its getting old, you don't wanna be friends with the 20 year old svelte?... some platonic friend you are...

Versi are you not asking for too much...lol

What ever it is.. I stand on my words!

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Rms - now its your turn!!!!

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Duh!! FS Oops, true, all becuase of this bacha.. my apologies Maggi.. kick is taken back I will join for the 9 riyal lunch ;)

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I get it... your friend is 20 year old but you feel like you've known him for ages...

hello,hello!u ppl don't seem to understand!i said the relationship is more than 20 years old!not the individuals!

Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor

Can you have a part time platonic friend...

you know... platonic in the morning

and not platonic after 6pm?

Arien and rMs... you guys misread her...

she told she is maintaing friendship FOR OVER 20 yrs...lol right saggi?

and more than that...it's very difficult to maintain. i used to have a very high profile friend back home. I used to have a girlfriend at that time and used to look up to this friend as a mentor and guide. Slowly with time, she developed feelings and I had to let her go as I didn't want any complications in her personal life.

Source:

- A study Conducted by FriedUnicorn - Vol I (September,1999)

guess i'll have to tone down my vocabulary expertise on QL.... :-/ or maybe you just didn't understand what i meant by "beat that".....duh!

Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor

FS lol...Pajju the QL Sharukh :)

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that just means you are leaving the options open :-p

i agree.....any normal thinking female will lose ground...it's only natural ;-) :-P

Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor

Maggi - because you provoked the 20 year old by writing ...

and i'm talking of platonic relationships some of which are more than 20 years old!beat that! :-)

Grrrrr

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Arien...how can you resist a TDH sharuk khan clone.. am sure its you who ruined it..lol

Brit cant blame them when the guys involved are Hugh jackman look alikes..lol

if that be the case,i'm not sure i'm going to appreciate it much x-( but why meeeeeeee? :-(

Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor

you can't expect all your friends especially in this part of the world to be platonic... many of them can only be 'blatonic'...

blablabla... you have a point there...

versi I think that what they call friends for benifit...lol

icey..he is shy but not quiet..lol

Saggi Arien is lerning kcik boxin... looks like he wanna practice on you..lol

I think you understood, brit.

Maid: Quite once? You must be kidding. And ripped outfit? :S

Alien: Its not me who started. And I'm better than anyone being at bitter.

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So, your platonic friend acts as your "muse".

makes sense !

I had this great friend... she was a girl...

and then she said she wanted a platonic relationship

and it just ruined EVERYTHING... stupid girl :-p

Icemaiden - you mean I was too high to notice :(((

A platonic friendship is possible, if both are matured enough to understand eachother and get along.

Look at me and Pajju , burger broke the bond.. lol

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Plato describes Platonic Love not without eros (sexual attraction), but "the beautiful or lovely other person inspires the mind and the soul and directs ones attention to spiritual things." It is a complete misunderstanding that Platonic Love goes without sex!

Arien there are always exceptions..lol

Pajju...grrrrrr

and why on earth would you do something like that? :-o

Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor

you tell a gal you don't wanna be just a 'platonic' friend then she feels you've offended the friendship

you tell her you wanna be just 'platonic' then her ego is hurt cos she thinks its bcos she isn't attractive enough...

What's a poor man to do!!

Maybe there should be such a thing as 'platonic' sex... :-p

It's not just guys. Many ladies would feel the same way..

You were in a happy, happy state of mind, so i guess you didn't notice. *wink*. Moreover, its the gals who always notice such matters. (jk). Nah, he was OK.

Back to platonic relationships, I do believe its possible as long as the people involved are aware of the "hidden" rules & do not overstep their limits.

saggi/rms - enough of jungle fighting here, am from vietnam lol.

Maggi-- will come there when u have lunch and kick you down to the corniche!!!!

rms-- Nee medikkum

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It may work for the married and mostly for women but for the unmarried guys well they get to talk to women quite rarely and when they do they may actually fall in love which hurts if the woman has no intention. Things, perhaps have changed now.

Just couldn't resist. You know, the bullies always pick on the the quieter ones. :))

I can see some more desperate females here!

How was that arien! ;)

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Pajju, is FS married? Now that would breaK a few hearts, won't it??

May be the guys you blame had different attitude hence advanced , but dont generalise. we guys can also comeup with examples and experiences lol , where the girlies were the culprits and broke the bond. ;)))

Ice maiden/rms - ripped outfit? Oops, how come I ddnt notice that??

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and i'm talking of platonic relationships some of which are more than 20 years old!beat that! :-)

Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor

No comments Maid..

lol FS..

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that's the job for mamas like us ? FS is married ?

somehow,all my closest friends are guys coz i don't really trust my girlfriends as much as i trust them.and guys are so much easier to talk to.i can just be myself without watching my tongue or risking being talked about behind my back (grrrr!oh how i hate that)....i have very successfully maintained pure platonic relationships with a whole lot of guys.i do admit that occasional one-sided and mutual crushes have happened but they were just figments of imagination and passed in the same way as they came on.i am still friends with all of them and we cherish our friendship.the guys seem comfortable talking without inhibitions with me and i've been told many a time that for them,i'm "one of the fellas" :-D love it when they say that!woohoo!

Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in a garage makes you a car. ~ Garrison Keillor

FS, from where I see him, he seems like a teeny weeny boy to me....lol.

Have to protect him you know. that's the job for mamas like us.We'll experiment our parenting skills on him & then if it works will implement on our kids. :))

it is individual's call......and could be from either gender..........

such relationships are difficult to survive for long..

Icey dont call him a boy he will kill you...lol he is an young adult..lol

So rms....Lose control...hmmm now where did i hear that song? :))

Desperate females??? Is that the reason why you came late the other day & that too with a ripped outfit?? Where's your mama, boy? I wanna have a talk with her.

And yes I agree, it's mostly the guys who tip the boat in a platonic relationship. Silly idiots ! !

Brit...I do agree that men wont be happy to know that their partners having a platonic friendship...

but I had before marriage which was 100% platonic...didn’t continue it for the simple reason mentioned above...though I am sure it will the same feeling even if we get in touch now also...

But I dont really agree that its not possible... I know people who share everything with their platonic friend...its not necessary to meet them the bond can become strong by calls or emails...(not necessary that their spouse know about it)

but in most of the cases the guys misinterpret it which makes it difficult to work..

Not only guys, there are desperate females as well. You itself mentioned a good example. lol !

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LOL. Nope.

Sorry. In the majority of cases, it does not work - IMHO.

FS: "A platonic friendship brings together people of the opposite sex and joins them in the strong bond of friendship"

If you have a strong bond, then it means that you are opening up totally. It would be nigh on impossible to avoid sexual connotations.

Lastly, we are but mere mortals with feelings. Even if we could keep withing these boundries, how would our partners feel ?

Would Mr. FS be quite happy with you having a platonic friend ??

Panda... lucky ladies..lol

Olive...you mean to say if they were straight... you cant promise huh? lol

rMs...that one would be the guy in most cases..lol

yes I remember the story of that girl you mentioned few days back...4 hrs call..lol

I've lots of platonic male friends....the fact that they're all gay helps a bit though. :P

my friends (f) love me because of my satanic side :p they said: panda don't change and we don't beleive on platonic friendship :)

oopz I didnt mention the source - ehow

It is difficult to maintain platonic friendship. Either one of them will lose their control for sure!

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Yes Mam!

Difficult for some to control passions...."dil da mamla, ....kya kare control he nahin hota" :)

I still stand on my points....discussed earlier.

tess its easy for females... but not that easy for guys...lol

Not really funny, FS. But if you think so.

Boston its not for people like you then...

Platonic friendship? Only philosophers can invent such nonsense, possibly because they are always alone and stink.

brit Na :)

FS

Age : 17

Sex : notyet

Loc : Planet

Are you the opposite sex or not ?

Pajju can I know you asl? lol

be friends ?