"making friends"

qatarisun
By qatarisun

Well… I never know how to act in this situation.

The guy invites you out for the coffee or dinner or whatever… Well, nothing wrong with that. You are not booked tonight anyway, and you are not sure about his intention either. You think maybe he is just bored or feels lonely, or just wants to “make new friends”, like everybody say here around… So you go for the coffee with him… Why not, right? And the guy doesn’t bother to ask, if you are married or in relationship, or whatever… for some reason he just assumes that you are single, lonely and have nothing to do in your life…so…since he never asks about it, it would be silly to announce all of a sudden: “you know what? I am in relationship!”… he might say:”so? Good for you, I don’t mean anything like that, I just invited you for the coffee”… so you don’t say anything …

then, in few days he calls again, and ask you out again.. and again you don’t know how to react: you don’t mind to go out, but you want him to understand that you are not interested in him as a prospective boyfriend or something…You may have him as a friend, or even I would say as a partner for outings once in a while…

So guys, since he never asks about it, how to make it clear without being silly by announcing something like: “you know what? I am in relationship!” and without making him feeling bad?  

By jinkz• 10 Apr 2008 18:20
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jinkz

I would say "Not that it matters but I have a boyfriend" if he says "What? So what?" I'd say "Nothing, it just sounded good in my head"

 

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By QT• 10 Apr 2008 18:09
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QT

Its soooooooo easy!!!  I do it all the time!

Just say, "Excuse me for a sec please, I just have to ring my girlfriend/ boyfriend and let him know where I am and who I'm with, he/she may be worried!"

Problem solved!     (I use this even though I'm single)

Btw, to your previous question, "No, not yet!" 

Also, fancy going out on a date some time?   ROFLMAO!!!  

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By Gypsy• 10 Apr 2008 14:48
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Gypsy

 I haven't met anyone alone, I'm giving advice to QS.

 

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By ksarat16• 10 Apr 2008 14:47
ksarat16

Loosen up, a little,

 

Agreed that when already in a relation, you dont go out on another DATE, but having said that, every person is different right, some of the people, may just be looking for plain company thats all...

 

Now in that case, I guess its no harm to be going out for a coffee...

 

What do ya think...?

By SPEED• 10 Apr 2008 14:42
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SPEED

and as Alexa said if you are already in relationship then why to meet him in person alone ?

 

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By Gypsy• 10 Apr 2008 14:26
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Gypsy

 Hmmm, honestly I don't either.....not alone anyway.

 

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By Gypsy• 10 Apr 2008 13:54
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Gypsy

 Perfect, then I don't have to feel bad and we can be friends.

 

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By SPEED• 10 Apr 2008 13:54
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SPEED

What if guy replies to you "Yea even my girlfriend said same thing to me yesterday"

 

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By SPEED• 10 Apr 2008 13:51
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SPEED

don't try saying EVERYING said here ... he will jump out of the window

 

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By qatarisun• 10 Apr 2008 13:21
qatarisun

lemme see....

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By kakashi28• 10 Apr 2008 13:19
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kakashi28

yeah thats right thexonic, makes them feel and understand the message indirectly.....

 

but if i was the guy, then fine.. lets be friends........ how about "friends with benefits"? hahahahaha 

 

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By thexonic• 10 Apr 2008 13:06
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thexonic

K sarat lol yea i know what u mean. Everything is possible here, my way is if a girl calls me a bro, even if she is my best friend... i stop talking to her and ignore her as much as i can. 

 

Im good man, about to leave, the weekend begins now lol and u know what's tomorrow :D yay :D 

 

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By ksarat16• 10 Apr 2008 13:04
ksarat16

Nobody done that to me yet, for which I dont take a chance as well...

LOL...

 

 

But you never know when things can work out right...can ya buddy...

 

So how you doing mate, and whats lined up for the weekend...?

By thexonic• 10 Apr 2008 13:00
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thexonic

lol have your friend call u and pretend u r talking to ur boy friend... why do i have a feeling that you have experianced it :P, so how many girls did such thing when u invited them for coffee lol j/k.

 

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By thexonic• 10 Apr 2008 12:58
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thexonic

let me make it easy for u...

 THIS IS HOW IT WORKS IN QATAR lol

 Next time he calls,

Hey "BRO" how r u? and there u go,  he's out of ur love life and in the friends circle or brotherhood. As simple as that. 

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By qatarisun• 10 Apr 2008 12:53
qatarisun

:P

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By Gypsy• 10 Apr 2008 12:25
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Gypsy

 I agree with Smoke.  Whenever I meet a new guy I just casually say something like "you know my boyfriend said the funniest thing yesterday." or "Ya my boyfriend thinks that to." Seems to work.

 

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By ksarat16• 10 Apr 2008 12:09
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ksarat16

Alright there are two things here out of which I Would like to have my say...

 

First thing, the devil is still sitting...indeed I'm talking to the devil herself...

 

And second, Quiet Home Girl: Who who who, where where where...I dont see anyone, O wait minute was that you, ooops, didnt realize that...LOL

 

I know I can ......not Trust ya girl....but hey...got no option, trusting a known devil is rather than ttrusting an unknown angel (Darude, Smoke)...LOL

 

What say...

By qatarisun• 10 Apr 2008 11:40
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qatarisun

don't be so trustful, man...the devil is still sitting inside of any quiet "home" girl...like myself...lol...

 

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By coolquietman• 10 Apr 2008 11:30
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coolquietman

there there QS  KSA is always there for the broken hearted...

thats if he didnt break em in the first place...

jk ksa ...see you tom.

do it right - the first time!

By ksarat16• 10 Apr 2008 11:27
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ksarat16

I mean, couldnt see you upset with these buggers disturbing us....so had to disclose it...I mean at one point or time, they had to come to know right...

 

Sheeeesh, but hey if you wanna go out with any of these blokes sure go ahead wont stop ya, but just let them know US...LOL...

 

alright...I was helpless, seeing you in a bit of a situation so thats why had to spill the info out to these...I trust ya but not these other 2 bugs....DaRude and Smokey....LOL...

By qatarisun• 10 Apr 2008 11:24
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qatarisun

here you go!! you have disclosed our sectret!! now NO ONE from QL will ask me out!! damn, why have you done it???

 

 

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By ksarat16• 10 Apr 2008 11:06
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ksarat16

Now now now did Smokey invite you for coffee and DaRude for Dinner...sheeeesh I should have told them about us....LOL....ROFLMAO...ha ha ha...nowI'm sure pretty much you are going to kill me very soooon girl...

 

Anyways, how you doing,

 

And for your question, yeah, just pretend with any of your friends to call you in the middle of coffee and start talking like you are talking to your boyfriend..."Hi Darling, How are you...", that should start the questions in that guy's mind, and then when you are done, you might just want to apologize for having spent time on the phone saying it was your BF and it was a bit unavoidable...

 

and hey ladies, dont you dare try this with ME, DaRude and SMokey alright...

 

LOL....

 

Cheers...

By qatarisun• 10 Apr 2008 09:56
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qatarisun

hey, cool, quiet man ...is that YOU????..

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By SPEED• 10 Apr 2008 09:51
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SPEED

hmmm .... i wonder if you know him

 

QS ... keep an eye on cool he is a quiet man

 

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By qatarisun• 10 Apr 2008 09:49
qatarisun

about the invoice, KELLYS!! lol... am i still sleeping or what? lol...

ok, nevermind...guys - DaRu and KH - can i send all my invoices to you guys from now on??..lol...

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By DaRuDe• 10 Apr 2008 09:44
DaRuDe

 

whats kelly saying.

was it all about the bill payment damn

come come let me pay it for you 

 

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By qatarisun• 10 Apr 2008 09:43
qatarisun

well... in my couple of culturies (LOL) it's ok to go out with the guy alone... and i have few frineds that i can go out without being in ambiguous situation...

DRD... why on the earth you would like to drop me to the plane ???

what's wrong with me staying in Qatar?...

actually i will travel, but a bit later.. in 3-4 weeks...

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By KellysHeroes• 10 Apr 2008 09:36
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KellysHeroes

Good morning.

Am starting to wonder who is the shy person. You or him.

I think it is a very simple issue. next time when he calls for another outing, tell him you have some commitment with your boyfriend on that day.

This should work easily.

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By coolquietman• 10 Apr 2008 09:28
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coolquietman

SPEED he is already reading it!!!

do it right - the first time!

By qatarisun• 10 Apr 2008 09:28
qatarisun

i am not sure if he is hangin gon QL though... I don't think so...but i will try to call his attention to this wonderful, taking-away-your-entire-life site...lol...

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By baddywon• 10 Apr 2008 09:27
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baddywon

well,it is totally up to you,in my opinion,if a woman go out with me alone,she ought to be a single woman,otherwise she should refuse to go out with me politely when I invite.  

By coolquietman• 10 Apr 2008 09:27
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coolquietman

will be there by 0930.

 just hope i can get the kiddies to get up after tonights music programme.

darude i know its a bit late in asking but if you need any help or any work to be done tomorrow....do tell. 

do it right - the first time!

By DaRuDe• 10 Apr 2008 09:27
DaRuDe

 

fine tomorrow night 1am how about that

the coffee in airport so i can drop u to the plane too :D 

 

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By SPEED• 10 Apr 2008 09:26
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SPEED

Tell that guy to read this thread !! simple and easy solution ..

 

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By qatarisun• 10 Apr 2008 09:23
qatarisun

but not tonight... you have to be fresh for tomorrow's trip, don't you? so you better go to sleep a bit earlier than 3 am...lol...

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By DaRuDe• 10 Apr 2008 09:22
DaRuDe

 

well hmm qatarisun you can say it here be proud of yourself and accept it :D

 and let them all know it too :D

 

 hey ya doccccccccccc be there on time tomorrow morning 9:15am 

 

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By coolquietman• 10 Apr 2008 09:19
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coolquietman

darude she s wondering how to tell you........

thats why she started this thread 

do it right - the first time!

By DaRuDe• 10 Apr 2008 09:17
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DaRuDe

 

when are we meeting for coffee :D hey make sure around 3am ok not 3pm on corniche i will get my ear phones listen few tracks while you keep talking to me ok.

 

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By lovinni• 10 Apr 2008 09:16
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lovinni

kakashi....there are some guys assume that women are available! and some dont bother about commitments, it doesnt matter to them if women are involved.

 

QS, its better you ask the guy just to clear things as early as possible. 

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By qatarisun• 10 Apr 2008 09:14
qatarisun

really doesn't mean anything...lol...maybe he really just wants to "be friends" with me..lol...

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By kakashi28• 10 Apr 2008 09:08
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kakashi28

 

actually, he should have been smart enough first, or heed safety first by asking or telling you.. " I hope your boyfriend won't mind us having coffee", ir "is that alright with your boyfriend?".... but anyways they're right. Just tell him, "I'm sorry i can't, i'll have donner with my boyfriend tonight"

 

 

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By qatarisun• 10 Apr 2008 09:02
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qatarisun

i liked your "blah blah blah..."...lol....that's what I am going to talk about next time when he invites me again... about my boyfriend!!

DaRush.. I try to be CLOSE to Master.. as close as i can... 

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By Ajnas• 10 Apr 2008 08:55
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Ajnas

ask your husband

By smoke• 10 Apr 2008 08:54
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smoke

lol its so simply QS u just pick up ur phone while ur out with him and go "hey i have to give my BOYFRIEND a call" or say something like "hey my boyfriend says apples cost a lot in lulu hypermarket" if u want to be more straight forward just say "blah blah boyfriend blah blah boyfriend boyfriend blah blah blah boyfriend" i think that should work. 

 

_[]~SMoKE~[]_

 

By DaRuDe• 10 Apr 2008 08:52
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DaRuDe

 

well stay close to master said so but you never listen :D

 

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By dragonfly212• 10 Apr 2008 08:51
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dragonfly212

easy QS, just tell him like this, hey remember last time you said I am in relationship, well me too!! isn't good coincidence. so know we are clear in our situation that we dont into each other. We doing this just as a friends.

am sure he will blush but he will understand your point. good luck

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By JaYTeR• 10 Apr 2008 08:51
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JaYTeR

i dont think it's wrong to ask him what's the outing all about?  or his intention... besides, he's the one inviting you... just for clarification.

 

Live and Die with DIGNITY!

 

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