Married at 8, Divorced at 10
This is the story of Nujood Mohammad Ali, a Yemini child bride who was married against her wish, through arranged marriage to a man three times her age has been honored by the Glamor magazine, with their annual “Woman of The Year”award. She is one of the nine women among whom are Hillary Clinton, Mrs. Rice, Nicole Kidman.
The magazine gives the award to women in various fields be it politics, entertainment, fashion etc. Hillary was awarded for motivating women from every sphere, Rice for her political role. Tyra Banks for contribution to the charity supporting young women and Chanel chief Maureen for her role in international business world. Nicole Kidman for her work among abused women.
But the story of Nujood is unique. She was married to a man three times her age but never reconciled to her fate. When she came to visit her parents after two months, she ran off to a court to seek divorce. When the judge saw her sitting on the bench after the session was over, he came to know about her plight. A Human Rights Lawyer took up her case and Nujood got what she wanted, her Freedom.
Naturally she is stronger both mentally and physically. Now she is studying further, two benefactors have agreed to pay for her school supply and further education.
Now as per Nujood her life is as sweet as candy. Our sincere wishes are the same “May her life be always as sweet as candy”.
Credits: Glamour
Apple: Yes, i agree, but if things may have happened as rami-leb said, than we must have some doubts concerning this story.
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
"If you can argue that she was grown up enough and mature enough to seek the divorce, then she was grown up enough to consent to the marriage...
The only way around that argument is by saying that her 'loving' father forced her into the marriage against her will.
You have to wonder what sort of father gives his 10 year old girl to a 30 year old man and then gets upset when he finds out he is playing around with her."
Remi-leb: How about she getting married to this 30 year guy and later gets the divorce and tells her story to the newspapers that will pay her family huge amounts of money for the chance of exploring her history so their readers would increase their number because pedophiles are one of the matters that is on the top of public interest. ;)
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
ahhh never i could do that at age 10:(
you're right...she deserve her award.
You could make the argument that a 10 year old girl doesn't have the maturity to give informed consent about entering into a marriage contract.
The irony of making that argument is that you then have to accept that the same 10 year old girl doesn't have the maturity to give informed consent to the subsequent divorce.
If you can argue that she was grown up enough and mature enough to seek the divorce, then she was grown up enough to consent to the marriage...
The only way around that argument is by saying that her 'loving' father forced her into the marriage against her will.
You have to wonder what sort of father gives his 10 year old girl to a 30 year old man and then gets upset when he finds out he is playing around with her.
Apple: Yes, that's why i said : "i still think she was really brave for a 10 year girl."
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
tnx rami!
platao--> she was forced to it, isn't it but got the courage to fight for her right later? Not sure, but are they married in court or just some home wedding rituals? If in court, how could a judge allowed such wedding without the full consent of the bride? tsk tsk poor girl!
consciouseffort-->i just need to clarify this, about divorce compensation ***am not going to divorce my hub***lol! coz in a contract it says some amount called muakhar? meher is different which is given on the time of marriage. And about this "KHULA" why does the girl have to pay back her husband? what if he slept with her already?
for her courage and strength to fight for her right!
fixed marriages must be stopped especially to children!
Rami-leb: lol, i was trying to be ironic but you beated me to it ;)
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
Apple: How can an 8 y old child agree the divorce terms if she didn't wanted to get married but ended up marrying to the guy? According to the post, she even had to pay USD 200,00 to her former husband, but of course, it has nothing to do with shariah law, it was just an ....accident.
Tssk, Tssk, even so, i still think she was really brave for a 10 year girl.
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
Be that as it may Apple, in this case, the court ordered that the 10 year old girl fork out $200 for the opportuninty to not be abused by her 30 year old husband anymore.
Sounds fair to me.
If the girl's father packed her off to be married, and then she gets all upset about it and wants to leave, the husband has every right to be upset.
Talak - Divorce from husband (Pays security money known as Meher if not paid at the time of Nikah)
Khula - Divorce from wife (She has to return only stuff given by husband & if meher is paid she needs to return that. Apart from that no other compensation)
May Allah bless this child from the tauntings of ignorant ppl living around her & grant her courage to make a bright future for herself)
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CONFUSE ............ if you cannot convince!
isn't we called it muakhar in Islam? or i dont know how you spell it right?
if so, for what i understood, if the wife divorce her husband she doesn't need to pay him anything, but if he divorce her then there's a compensation for her in that case? depends upon what they agreed in their contract.
Journalistgirl/Tess: Should i bring the mud pool? ;)
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
strong girl...
The best part of the story was that once the court granted her the divorce - SHE had to pay the abusive husband compensation.
"Nujood got her divorce, but based on the principles of Islamic Sharia law, her husband was compensated, not prosecuted. Nujood was ordered to pay him more than $200."
http://www.jihadwatch.org/dhimmiwatch/archives/021795.php
ok i think i'll be mature here and just say NO COMMENT becuase it seems like u're looking for a fight tess ;-) have a good day :-P
GO! NUJOOD GO!
sIDE NOTE: Nadt/MD: Sharia law used as an excuse to some acts???? Nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnoooooooooooooo, how can any of you think on such a thing ? ;)
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
what a brave kid i wish all the kids have the courage as she showed and snatch their lifes and fates from the hands of these cruel disgusting people...
Life is a mystery..... you never know whats next.....
I dont think her marriage even valid to have been force for it? ahhh what can i say.....brave girl!
Point taken but again sentences like the last one u wrote - again terribly catty! people have opinions i felt u were being unjustly harsh. Do u need to get so confrontational? LMAO
Congrat her.
NEPAL
GREAT KEEP GOING NUJOOD
a child with a woman's heart and actions???lol..
good she is back to school...:)
Way to go Nujood. Excellent!
Really hats off to her
I appreciate her Bold daring act
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I am with the journalistgirl on what she said. This is a breakthrough for so many women like this young girl. Her family are the ones who married her off. So in order for her to be free from such a marriage takes alot of strength from the abuse they and society will now give her. So many women in these countries get a divorce only to be looked down upon.
What a struggle! What an inspiration! May God make it easy for this little girl.
And grant those who help her many rewards.
ok MD, so your saying people use shariah law as an excuse?
I know MD.. you r right..wise not to argue on that..
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how much she is??....just kidding :D
that's life!
I did not argue on that, nadt. I only answered Arien's question.
MD, being forced into a marriage is not shariah law.
There is a law, Arien. It's called 'sharia'.
There is no law and order in these countries or what???..
Cant they have a minmum age limit for marriage ???
We read about Nujood, praise her and feel really happy for her. Imagine how many other minors still be in such sh*t state..
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congrats
Shes a child who was forced into being a woman at such a young age. Im glad that the judge recognised how insane this was and granted her the divorce. The girl is an inspiration for having the guts to do what she did, good on her and i wish her every success in life,
Very inspiring indeed...
Kudos to the gutsy young lady.
And also to the 2 kind benefactors as well - Investing in her education will bring about change in due course. Nujood's horrendous experience will motivate her to bring about change and with her emotional strength, she will get far.
The award and recognition also brings her story to the attention of the world and that can only augur well for the future.
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Tess - your point is valid but think of it this way. Would you have had the personal strength to have done what this young girl did, AND in a society which does not look kindly on the womenfolk having such independence in matters of marriage? Please save the catty comments and look at the humanity of this piece first before getting too judgemental!
was d guy out of his mind?
Hats off to the young lady..
She deserves our praise and will hopefully act as a beacon for others.
Poverty can drive people to carry out many strange and inhumane things. This and education are what we should address in the fight against such practices.
http://www.glamour.com/women-of-the-year/2008/nujood-ali-and-shada-nasser
mabrook!
Did you Google it first?
jail won’t stop it all, and the courage of individual children IS an example to other children.
Parents who encourage this for whatever reason..should be punished..
but how am i going to call her??? woman or child of substance....=)...nonetheless...salute you...=)
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good for her! and I think she does merit the glamour mention- she did something many adult women are unable to do. That takes immense courage and hopefully other people hearing her story will be inspired to take action themselves.
Congrats to her. :)