Muslim Husbands---(Must Read)
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No one ever thinks about the characteristics of a Muslim husband. It is always what a wife should do for the husband....and the list never ends; cooking, cleaning, washing; you name it, she is doing it, so what about the brothers?
Our beloved Prophet (SAW) was not THIS lazy, so why the men of his ummah? It is quite interesting, so I thought I'd share it with you !!! What a Muslim husband should be like...
1. Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good. When was the last time you went shopping for designer pyjamas?
Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Remember that the Prophet (PBUH) would always start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.
2. Use the best names for your wife. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt their feelings.
3. Don't treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day - which brings no attention from the husband - until she does something to 'bug' him. Don't treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on that.
4. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways the Prophet (PBUH) used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives (R.A).It's a technique that few Muslim men have mastered.
5. Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also those Ahadith when the Prophet (PBUH) would kiss his wife before leaving for Salaah, even when he was fasting.
6. Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgment she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don't let that be; thank her!
7. Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your wife pleasure. You don't have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your life.
8. Don't belittle her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of their wives. The Prophet (PBUH) set the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah (R.A) was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought her another camel.
9. Be humorous and play games with your wife. Look at how the Prophet (PBUH) would race with his wife Aisha (R.A) in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that?
10. Always remember the words of Allah's Messenger (PBUH): 'The best of you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family.' Try to be the best!
In conclusion: Never forget to make Dua to Allah - ta'ala to make your marriage successful. And Allah ta'ala knows best!!
The marriage between man & women (That’s only allowable, no Sodomy) in Islam is a social contract with Equity. The wife has rights to be protected physically, emotionally and financially. As a family the lady of the house is in charge to look after the well being of family. As it is said mother is first school for children. The pagans of Arabia use to bury girl child, it was only after our beloved Prophet (PUBH) teachings stopped such practice, & according to Hadith one who has more than two daughters and bring them up to be a better Muslima shall enter heaven from the best door. The husband cannot force wife to wash, cook, clean, bear children, and he marries only for the ritual. No way. If wife doing all this of her free will it is good and Husband should pay her extra remuneration in form of cash, gifts depending upon his legal source of income apart from the obligatory provisions. He shall provide all help in daily house chores. This will not make husband hen peck, it is obligation. The husband has no rights over the earnings of wife, if she is working or earnings from the properties, she inherited or husband looking after wife business, and he shall get salary or percentage as agreed. If she spends with her own free will on children or Husband it is good on her part. The rights are clearly mentioned in Surra Nisa. The stereo type woman is not Islamic but is culture from the South East Asia & Indian Sub Continent. Where women are treated as slave, men are bought for marriage (Dowry). Even today girl child is killed in a modern way by early detection of sex and aborting in India. (Female feticide). The Indians will start string for sure condemning my statement, but my friends I stayed in India for decade to complete my education & happen to go length & breadth of country, and it is amazing nation with some bad traditions. The wife is blamed for giving birth only girl child, everyone know the husband is responsible for. Hope present generation shall overcome it and bring a positive change.
The Prophet (pubh) said the daughters, Sisters, Wife, mother are the treasures protect them. Alhamdulillah Islam treats women with at most care.
This Is The Way It Should Be......
Saad Masood
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Abudhabi, UAE
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NADAN
really nice topic
i agree wit u
Thanks for sharing
Keep your Posting like this
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my one cents....posted earlier as well....
60 ways to keep your wife loved
1. Make her feel secure
2. Say 'Assalam alaykum' when you enter home
3. Treat her gently; she is a fragile vessel
4. Advise her in privacy, and choose the best times
5. Be generous
6. Offer her your seat
7. Avoid anger - try to keep wudhu
8. Look god, smell great
9. Don't be rigid
10. Be a good listener
11. Don't argue, flatter her
12. Call her with the best of names
13. Give her pleasant surprises
14. Preserve your tongue
15. Over-look short-comings
16. Show her your appreciation
17. Encourage her to keep in touch with relatives
18. Talk about topics which interest her
19. Give her praise infront of her relatives
20. Give gifts
21. Get rid of routine, every now and then
22. Think the best of your spouse
23. Overlook small mistakes
24. Be patient
25. Expect and respect her jealousy
26. Be humble
27. Don' put friends first
28. Help in the house
29. You can't force love on anyone. Help her to love your parents
30. Show her she is your ideal spouse
31. Remember spouse in duaa, in her absence
32. Leave her past to Allah
33. Don't show wife you are doing her a favor, by providing for her
34. Satan is the enemy, not your wife
35. Feed your wife
36. Treat wife as a precious pearl - Protect her from the envy of others
37. Show her your smile
38. A small spark will lead to fire. Don't ignore small problems, as they will become big problems
39. Avoid being moody, and harsh-hearted
40. Respect her way of thinking, it is strength for you
41. Help her to discover herself and learn new skills- Her success is your success
42. Respect boundaries, when having intimate relations
43. Your children are your hearts walking on earth, help her to look after your hearts
44. Gifts on the tongue- Compliment her
45. Eat with the family
46. Let her know when you are travelling and when you are coming back
47. Don't allow little debates to become arguments
48. Keep secrets of the family
49. Encourage each other to perform acts of worship
50. Give spouse their rights
51. Live with them in kindness and fairness - in good times and bad
52. Foreplay before intimate relations
53. If you have problem, don't share it with others - If you have a wound, you don't leave open for germs to attack
54. Care for her health
55. Don't think you are always right
56. Share your happiness and sadness with spouse
57. Have mercy on her weaknesses
58. Be a shoulder to cry on, and a pillar to lean on
59. Accept her, as she is
60. Have good intention at all times
thank you.
It is really good. I hope all muslim man try to do this.
whether they r....mother,sister,wife or girlfriend always more than anythin in this world for men.
Jap Katjai Nak toh Phir Danth ki kya aukat.....
chain kulii ki main kulii......
This topic approve that the women ( wives ) they are not working they stay home and take care of husbands and their children, the husbands who has to support his family .unless the society want her to works as a women doctors or a girls school teacher or any field need a woman. and a Muslim woman is very lucky in Islam when she is in her family her father who has to support her and when she is married her husband support her financially and if she is working her money to herself unless she want to pay for her family by her choice
I guess this goes for the non-Muslims too.. makes sense..
I had read this on a correct situations... just i said sorry to my wife..thanks a lot.. i know this theories but, sometimes iam forgetting these messages.. thanks for reminding
Great Message shared,...Thank you
I support this thread writer at almost all points. Every body see world with his/her own eyes only. so menhis is right. But I want to add something more----
Allah (SWT) made man incomplete same as woman.When one man and woman meet with proper way it is life.I am sorry to say (because I know that 4/5 world will not agree with me, even it is true) ONLY ISLAM HAVE GIVEN TOTAL RESPECT TO WOMAN. But unfortunately Muslims also do not follow Islam in right way and that is the reason Menhis wrote this.Duties of man and woman is decided and both have to help each other and both have to respect each other then life will be life in heaven. Any one of will try to overtake other then it will be unhealthy compitition and life will be life in Jahannum.
awkhan
Designer pyjamas?? Honestly my wife will think I have lost it.
My dear husband, don't share your love with no one else but me. Love me and till death do us part
Yes...my dear husband remember that polygamy...
it's an option not an obligation :)
and last and not least no polygamy..my dear husband please
indeed life is about sharing and learning...thanks for this....it means alot.
Life is all about sharing and learning. Someone shared it with me and I with you. It is enrichment with information and knowledge...
hi i've no idea about islam so much as i am muslim but i am far from it. be frank speak i hve seen it all time. even my brother in law, my dad and may people do this thinks. but i just want to say pls be nice with ur life partner try to understand them. cos they r also a human being. if some one is sarifice for u thn y shouldn't u sarifice for his or her. i hate thouse people who marry girls for only for clearning n washing there dirty staff. i hate smoker men n women. it spell bad n it;s harmful for small kids.... \
mehins i like ur topic pls guys remember it n women r also a human not ur servent n not a meat piece for sex...pls respect them
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right eagle, its not just muslim men, but its true that some muslim men are quick to point out the hadeeth that outlines the women's responsibilies, forget about the mens. p.s, im pretty sure the Prophet(PBUH) wasnt referring to Calvin Klein designer pjamas when he states that men should take care of themselves, more like cleaniness and appearance. Infact overspending on useless things wasnt something he praised.
house? mess is created by all why not everyone cleans their MESS
Well Mehnis you raised a very good topic.
As far as i am concern if these are the point according to hadees for a good husband, then i can say myself a good husband.
But as far as designer payjemas are concern then NO i dont wear designer pyjema as I always wear what I like & my wife loves my taste of dressing & tells what not to wear if some time i am wrongly dressed.
Well its just Islam which is highly practical. If one loves his wife/husband then these things comes by itself.
really nice what i read
It's a common practice among the scholars, they always teach Muslim ladies their responsibilities as a wife & as a mother, but it's very rare that someone speaks about a Muslim husband & father's duties.
eagle: to be fair, your statement applied to a wide range of people, not just men and not just Muslims. A lot of people pick and choose the most convenient of their religious teachings.
Agree with Nadt. Nice. But very few true muslim men, right? Many selectively read the hadeeths that benefit them. But not only Mulim men, others too. Seen it in so many of my friend who have been ill-treated by useless, good for nothing husbands.
Khawaga - ROFL! Designer pyjamas - waste of precious money, could be put to better use like helping someone! :0)
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Designer Pajamas that is hilarious
' If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent' - actually what about talking it through in a kind and caring way?
'She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare' - that is a bit of a stereotype of Muslim women
Designer pajamas? Really?? I'm pretty sure I would kick the dandy out of bed if he rolled up in that sort of nonsense!
Nice, a true muslim man will do and believe in these hadeeths. I'm very lucky and fortunate that my hubby alhamdallah does and believes in the above.
You shared a wonderful Hadees'
"The best you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family."
Thanks for sharing!
I honestly agree with the above mentioned message. I am not a Muslim but I always believe that a wife should be treated fairly. All her efforts in the house..maintaning the orderliness of the house, taking care of the kids, looking after the husband's needs (emotionally and physically) --these are not easy tasks. A woman/wife should have a BIG heart and endless patience and tolerance to do all of these.
However, I also heard that since there are cases wherein there was no foundation of love, no mutual love at all.... between the two - the relationship/marriage will not be a succesful one --- the scenarios also mentioned above really happened. And the women/wives are always at the losing end if there's no mutual affection/love that would develop between them.
Everybody deserves to be happy-- that is .... if we realy have the one we love.
I think No.4 is not easy for either sides