What is your point of view on your partner/spouse chatting with the opposite sex on the internet? Would you be mad, furious, disappointed, outraged, or you're ok with it?
It may suprise some, but I can remember the whole night
too....;P
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
i dont mind at all...unless if he becomes too hooked up and not spending time with me. i also have opposite sex chatters who are friends from way back...no harm done though...
but if your partner obesessively looking for an opposite sex chatter...i can smell problem....
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
Nothing Mr. Paul, , some people just have a hard time believing that we both can be in the same place yet do our own things, like flirt with other people and neither one of us cares...thats all...
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
I agree with you..Like me and my hubby..you wouldn't have guessed by last Thursday night but Yes we are married..;P
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
I think if people were to get jealous about their spouses chatting online all day with someone of the opposite sex then there would be a lot of divorces happening on QL. LOL :P
Nah seriously, if your marriage is strong then you have nothing to worry about, give your mate space and they'll give you space. :)
Here, we are just talking about chatting, not even dating or worse you caught your partner in bed with someone else...... Ask G**** what you should do????????????? You can not hurt your Partner, not even a pinch!!!!! Turn around and file for a divorce, WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
i know QS..it can happen again and again without my knowledge..that is why, it will be up to the other partner.. if he/she is already aware that the other half dislikes this thing (and as i said, it depends on how and what they are talking about)...then, it is like you are playing fire...when caught, it will be an issue since you are already aware...
[img_assist|nid=12867|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.
At the end of the day, it really doesnt matter if your partner has been talking to some one over the internet, all the both of you need to remember is to maintain that Trust and never let ANYTHING COME IN BETWEEN YOU GUYS so as to break it, rest whatever it is pretty much alright, there is a level of courteousness that should be maintained and I'm sure if you keep that trust going, then its all fine and good, bottom line Keep that trust and the love towards your partner and give them their space and NEVER TAKE THEM FOR GRANTED!!!
THE MARRIAGE SHOULD BE FINE!!!THE RELATION IS NEVER DISTURBED!!!
we are in arab countries here can you imagine a woman telling her husband, darling i am going out with my boyfriend and he will accept? in this society alot of relationships are behind the doors
"it" happend to all of us... but it has nothing to do with chatting or whatever.. he might not to chat at all, and go and cheat on your all around.. and other way round... he might be sitting home days and nights, beside you, and only chatting and chatting, and still be madly in love with you.. there are no rules for it...
and being against him chatting with the opposit sex won't stop him doing it.. it only will couse the problem between two..
You can either sit there and stew in your own jealousy and mind you if you do this then the chances are your partner will take things further after all you have already accused them before the anything really happened, or you can accept the fact that there are members of the opposite sex that that also find your partner as attractive and as fascinating as you do and take it as a compliment and realize what you have...
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
QS..good for you that you are not like me who got trust issues (i wanted to but hard, i know it has come from within me).. it happened to me once, so just looking after not to make this things happen again.. :D
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Wish I could think that way...or if he could think that way ..lol
Probably because from where we come from it all ends when you get married.....socializing with opposite gender is not really acceptable after marriage.
But I do have many male friends..and he is okay with it..unless I socialize with them in pvt...loool
i even wouldn't mind if my partner/husband went out with the female friend.. wallh, wouldn't! Since i know she is a friend, why not? I know some wifies don't like to go out at all.. does it mean they have to tie/to lock their husbands inside of the house? not at all.. and we do have this kind of examples even here on QL.. again, it all about TRUST, nothing else!
Single person will never ever substitute whole variety of ppl around! Based on your point of view, the partners must be completely sufficient for each other, and not to seek any friends/contacts/socializing out of marriage/partnership?? It is wrong!! And it is just impossible. That’s what a lot of gals do: they think since they got a boyfriend, or got married, the guy must spend all spare time only with her. And they think, if he needs someone else in his life, it means there is something wrong in their relationship. But is wrong opinion! Human is complex creature. He/she needs more than one person to communicate with. She/He needs to have friends of both sex, nothing wrong with that..I personally have even more male-friends than female-friends. Does it mean I am cheating? Not at all… you gals have to stop being possessive and stop thinking that he belongs to you since he has committed. Even he is absolutely dedicated to you, and committed and in love, and whatever.. he still needs someone else in his life to socialize with!
QS... this question is a personal and it would lead to more personal question and conversation..
Vegas, big difference.. this is a forum, a lot of us are talking to one another...but it is different if it would be a one-on-one conversation between opposite sex..
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vegas, that's what i was going to say.. but then i thought, to be on the forum, where everything is open and everyone can be monitored is different from the private chatting over the messenger.. but still I am sure... it's a part of the TRUST ISSUE here...
man will always seek a woman's attention.. woman always has to be sure she is interesting to men.. so over this kind of chatting, or even flirting, they satisfy their ego and develop a self-confidence, which is not bad at all.. as soon as it doesn't go beyond internet frames, it's ok...
but even a hot chat does not harm as long as he takes apetite outside but eating at home.in case he/she does it daily then something must be missing in the relation and it would be time to talk about it and to find out how to bring the spice back into your lovelife.
FS, first get him/her pampered, and then chat...who cares?
..moreover... some coples are sitting at the same room, each one with his/her own comp and chatting with the opposit sex virtuals... it is fan... isn't it??
hmmmm...depends on what they are talking about (chatting)..if it could be work, then i don't mind.. but if i would learn that it is something else.. like talking about "how's your day?" and stuff like that.... i would be upset..
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If he is doing it open, then its not a problem...as long as its a decent frinedship.. I wont worry. If he is hiding it from me..then I will be dissappoined and angry.
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It may suprise some, but I can remember the whole night
too....;P
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
And you got mad at me for drinking some water :P I remember the whole night.
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i dont mind at all...unless if he becomes too hooked up and not spending time with me. i also have opposite sex chatters who are friends from way back...no harm done though...
but if your partner obesessively looking for an opposite sex chatter...i can smell problem....
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
have lost about 2 hrs of that night, due to my unfeasably large alcohol intake.
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If you noticed Mr. Paul, Mis-cat and hubby never said two words to each other all night. :P (Reminds me of my relationships)
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Nothing Mr. Paul, , some people just have a hard time believing that we both can be in the same place yet do our own things, like flirt with other people and neither one of us cares...thats all...
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
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Well lets not talk about what happens on QL alright...LOL! If thats the case, that should leave the very few of us to say HI To each other...LOL!
Indeed...give them space, trust, and you shall recieve it back in a good parcel gift wrapped in the form of your partner...LOL!
hear hear.. gypsy
Everybody is right everybody is wrong, it depend where you stand
I agree with you..Like me and my hubby..you wouldn't have guessed by last Thursday night but Yes we are married..;P
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
I think if people were to get jealous about their spouses chatting online all day with someone of the opposite sex then there would be a lot of divorces happening on QL. LOL :P
Nah seriously, if your marriage is strong then you have nothing to worry about, give your mate space and they'll give you space. :)
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Here, we are just talking about chatting, not even dating or worse you caught your partner in bed with someone else...... Ask G**** what you should do????????????? You can not hurt your Partner, not even a pinch!!!!! Turn around and file for a divorce, WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
what will you do. And for those who said they will be upset and angry, what is your next move?
DIVORCE ????????????????
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
chatting with someone on internet is like talking with someone on telephone.
so what's the bottomline here?
"to explicit what is implicit in man's moral experience.'
Dont thing it is Bad as long as we know our limits..
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HE WHO DARES WINS
i know QS..it can happen again and again without my knowledge..that is why, it will be up to the other partner.. if he/she is already aware that the other half dislikes this thing (and as i said, it depends on how and what they are talking about)...then, it is like you are playing fire...when caught, it will be an issue since you are already aware...
[img_assist|nid=12867|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.
At the end of the day, it really doesnt matter if your partner has been talking to some one over the internet, all the both of you need to remember is to maintain that Trust and never let ANYTHING COME IN BETWEEN YOU GUYS so as to break it, rest whatever it is pretty much alright, there is a level of courteousness that should be maintained and I'm sure if you keep that trust going, then its all fine and good, bottom line Keep that trust and the love towards your partner and give them their space and NEVER TAKE THEM FOR GRANTED!!!
THE MARRIAGE SHOULD BE FINE!!!THE RELATION IS NEVER DISTURBED!!!
we are in arab countries here can you imagine a woman telling her husband, darling i am going out with my boyfriend and he will accept? in this society alot of relationships are behind the doors
"it" happend to all of us... but it has nothing to do with chatting or whatever.. he might not to chat at all, and go and cheat on your all around.. and other way round... he might be sitting home days and nights, beside you, and only chatting and chatting, and still be madly in love with you.. there are no rules for it...
and being against him chatting with the opposit sex won't stop him doing it.. it only will couse the problem between two..
I respect her privacy and she can do whatever she wants..
I'm not gonna monitor her...If she don't wanna be with me she will let me know...
You can't teach experience
People ask the most generalized questions on here so we can never give a good answer...Be more specific peeps...
You can't teach experience
You can either sit there and stew in your own jealousy and mind you if you do this then the chances are your partner will take things further after all you have already accused them before the anything really happened, or you can accept the fact that there are members of the opposite sex that that also find your partner as attractive and as fascinating as you do and take it as a compliment and realize what you have...
"Your born, You Live, You Die, given this premise, one can conclude since we have no control over when we are born and when we die, the only thing that matters to us should be how we live, simple really?" Mis-Cat to her philosophy Lecturer.
QS..good for you that you are not like me who got trust issues (i wanted to but hard, i know it has come from within me).. it happened to me once, so just looking after not to make this things happen again.. :D
[img_assist|nid=12867|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.
Wish I could think that way...or if he could think that way ..lol
Probably because from where we come from it all ends when you get married.....socializing with opposite gender is not really acceptable after marriage.
But I do have many male friends..and he is okay with it..unless I socialize with them in pvt...loool
i even wouldn't mind if my partner/husband went out with the female friend.. wallh, wouldn't! Since i know she is a friend, why not? I know some wifies don't like to go out at all.. does it mean they have to tie/to lock their husbands inside of the house? not at all.. and we do have this kind of examples even here on QL.. again, it all about TRUST, nothing else!
Is it a site like QL or a private chat room?
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Single person will never ever substitute whole variety of ppl around! Based on your point of view, the partners must be completely sufficient for each other, and not to seek any friends/contacts/socializing out of marriage/partnership?? It is wrong!! And it is just impossible. That’s what a lot of gals do: they think since they got a boyfriend, or got married, the guy must spend all spare time only with her. And they think, if he needs someone else in his life, it means there is something wrong in their relationship. But is wrong opinion! Human is complex creature. He/she needs more than one person to communicate with. She/He needs to have friends of both sex, nothing wrong with that..I personally have even more male-friends than female-friends. Does it mean I am cheating? Not at all… you gals have to stop being possessive and stop thinking that he belongs to you since he has committed. Even he is absolutely dedicated to you, and committed and in love, and whatever.. he still needs someone else in his life to socialize with!
QS... this question is a personal and it would lead to more personal question and conversation..
Vegas, big difference.. this is a forum, a lot of us are talking to one another...but it is different if it would be a one-on-one conversation between opposite sex..
[img_assist|nid=12867|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.
vegas, that's what i was going to say.. but then i thought, to be on the forum, where everything is open and everyone can be monitored is different from the private chatting over the messenger.. but still I am sure... it's a part of the TRUST ISSUE here...
man will always seek a woman's attention.. woman always has to be sure she is interesting to men.. so over this kind of chatting, or even flirting, they satisfy their ego and develop a self-confidence, which is not bad at all.. as soon as it doesn't go beyond internet frames, it's ok...
QS...just make sure we are not flirting with our partner in his fake id..lol
Vegas.. we are just talking in main not flirting in PMs..lol
I don't have any point of view in this case, I just kill her :P
(kidding....)
As long as we don’t neglect our partner and day to day responsibilities and whatever who cares.
Everyone wants space in their life
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but even a hot chat does not harm as long as he takes apetite outside but eating at home.in case he/she does it daily then something must be missing in the relation and it would be time to talk about it and to find out how to bring the spice back into your lovelife.
cheers.
i cannot beleive it is innocent, as long as this happens it means they are missing something with their partners
You can't teach experience
what's wrong with "how is your day"??... LOL
FS, first get him/her pampered, and then chat...who cares?
..moreover... some coples are sitting at the same room, each one with his/her own comp and chatting with the opposit sex virtuals... it is fan... isn't it??
hmmmm...depends on what they are talking about (chatting)..if it could be work, then i don't mind.. but if i would learn that it is something else.. like talking about "how's your day?" and stuff like that.... i would be upset..
[img_assist|nid=12867|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.
I agree with formatted soul n mila
I dream of a better tomorrow where Chickens can cross the Road without having their motives questioned - Unknown
You can't teach experience
You sure? you dont mind her chatting with someoneelse while you are at home waiting to be pampered by her? LOOL
till it remains respective
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vegas yeah man.. who cares
Everybody is right everybody is wrong, it depend where you stand
it depend who he chatting with? if its his friends then let him be, he have his own freedom as long as he dont chat on dating site.
Everybody is right everybody is wrong, it depend where you stand
If he is doing it open, then its not a problem...as long as its a decent frinedship.. I wont worry. If he is hiding it from me..then I will be dissappoined and angry.
You can't teach experience