POLYAMORY versus POLYGAMY, same banana to me...
(Originally published at Marti Abernathey.com).Marti Abernathey wrote:
There needs to be a distinction between polyamory and polygamy. Polyamory is about having loving relationships with multiple partners. Polygamy is about having multiple marriage partners.
I have no problem with polyamory ( I’m poly myself), but polygamy would be bad for the country, as it stands right now. You could marry 10 people and every one of those people could be carried on all your insurance policies. There are so many social welfare structures that would crumble due to the weight of the increases from polygamist families.
But, there is a VERY easy answer to all this. Get the government out of the business of regulating who can be a family and how they can be a family. Don’t support gay marriage? Marry a person of the opposite sex! Don’t support polygamy? Marry one person! The government has no constitutional mandate to regulate marriage in the first place.
Polyamory isn’t about swinging and it isn’t about cheating. You aren’t cheating if everyone knows what’s going on and communicates.
“I would never do that!”
Awesome! There are many things you do, that I would not. But your wants, prejudices, and desires, are just that… YOURS!
We claim to be over in Iraq spreading “freedom” but we don’t have it over here! Freedom as defined in the dictionary:
Freedom - the condition of being free; the power to act or speak or think without externally imposed restraints
IMO, if you aren’t harming a child, an animal, or another adult with your actions, then you should have the freedom to do as your own mind dictates! FREEDOM! Want to smoke cigarettes? Here’s a Newport! Pot? *horns* “Light up dude!” Prostitution? “Rock the van!” Marry a harem of ninja midget wrestlers if you want! Go wild!
*whew*
What you do with your body and your life, should be up to you… if you really believe in freedom. The question is, do you?
i agree with U .
Manu
Imagine, ssetting up his table behind me and always checking my monitor...DAMN.
So i could only read the posts and do Ql'ing after work too...
How are you? How's exams? Let's get together sometime, coffee or something...
Hey azilana, yeah I was off QL all last week, been really busy. But I couldn't help throw a comment here and there :-)
Hi, girl!!! 'been a long while ;-)
YUp, I agree...keep trying till ur with the one you love...
"love the ONES you're with..."?
nope, I say keep trying until ur with the one u love.
If you are not with the one you love, love the one your with...
I LUV U ALL
it is Polyamory or Polygamy??
Then you could have 12 minutes of sex!!!!
Remember, there are three religious truths:
1. Jews do not recognize Jesus as the Messiah.
2. Protestants do not recognize the Pope as the leader of the Christian church.
3. Baptists do not recognize each other in the liquor store or at Hooters
Men are much more trustworthy than women; they are very discrete. Men often share and often don't tell.
friends with benefits?...hmmmm... quite interesting azi...
would never share my MAN...it has to be only ME or "OUT OF THE DOOR" he goes..."BAD NEWS".
A polyamory relationship is like having "Friends with benefits" which is spelt as "playing around" for me.
because then I would not have to worry about calling out the wrong name(s) at the most inoppurtune times because hopefully if I was married to all of them at the same time they would understand. It would also be easier ordering food if each wife ordered a different dish and then we all shared.
Don't be in a hurry to condemn because he doesn't do what you do or think as you think or as fast. There was a time when you didn't know what you know today.
That would make sense as long as you already had the land cruiser...
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You save on the expense if you do it in one go.
I have been doing it all wrong!!! I thought you married them one at a time not all at once....darn.
Don't be in a hurry to condemn because he doesn't do what you do or think as you think or as fast. There was a time when you didn't know what you know today.
No, good friends are hard to come by. Goodfellas abound.
I can't imagine the houses get all that dirty if the guy isn't there...
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I guess you do when they all have thier own house. :P
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3 wives...? Does anybody have that much cleaning...?
Whatever floats your boat. As he said if you aren't hurting children, animals or other adults who cares.
It has to be completely mutual though. I know a couple of women here who are 1st, 2nd and 3rd wives and they are defintely not happy.
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There's a whole lotta shakin goin on!!!
women rock :) and stuff....
Its a womans world
JonB, now that's a whole different ball game.
My 3 girlfriends and I think it's a horrible idea...
you just dont know the right people ;)
And re-post it here in QL as it is.
I also find it ridiculous...
Polyamory or being in love with more than one person and they say "it's okay!". But, I'm yet to find a woman who would accept the fact that her MAN is also in love with another woman or two. I call these type of men the "BAD NEWS". I know other ladies ou there have a more colorful "phrase/s".
and if you shift the tables, the men would definitely not like the idea sharing his "WOMAN" with another homo sapiens.
On the other hand, eyebrows would definitely rise if one knows of someone who is a POLYGAMIST!
The only thing that separates the two is the MARRIAGE FACTOR....