Self-Respect / Self - Love...Good or Bad?
“Amor propio” is Spanish word which means self –love; a sense of self-esteem or self respect that prevents a person from swallowing his pride.
It includes sensitivity to personal insult or affront. A slight remark or offensive gesture, though insulting, would not trigger a sense of “amor propio”.
For example, an abandoned wife will refuse to seek financial support from a husband who has abandoned her no matter how financially destitute she is on this principle.
Amor propio in short means ego defensiveness, dignity or one’s personal pride akin to the traditional oriental attitude of having ‘face’.
In one's immediate society, building up one’s self-esteem is essential, to damage another person’s amor-propio is to invite conflict, even violence.
Like for example, a person may hesitate to collect a long overdue financial debt or item borrowed because to raise the matter face to face may place a person’s amor-propio at risk and can cause the latter to flare up.
What do you think?
Only bank lent me money and they don't ask me back but charge cumbersome interests and deduct from the income source directly :(
Here the reversed case: I owed money and feel embrassed asking money back every month close to the salary day :(
Coz we grew up using "Spanish" tense.
mmmm sorry but you done 2 mistakes: the spelling is Amor propRio and is an Italian tense...
Thanks for openly confessing that I lent you money :-P
Oh ok... when I read it as "hesitate to collect a long overdue financial debt", it confused me, because for me there is no loosing "amor propio" in going to collect what somebody owes me and is rightfully mine ;-)
Would have been more clearer if it read, "Like for example, a person may hesitate to ask for a long overdue financial debt or item borrowed because to raise the matter face to face may place a person’s amor-propio at risk and can cause the latter to flare up"
You lent me money (thank you)
You are embarrassed at asking for it back because of what my rreaction could be..
By the way, I always pay back on time :O)
I don't understand the last para of your thread,
"Like for example, a person may hesitate to collect a long overdue financial debt or item borrowed because to raise the matter face to face may place a person’s amor-propio at risk and can cause the latter to flare up"
Who's former and who's latter over here? :-(
Love yourself before you offer to love anybody else. You don't want to offer trash, won't you?
spot on britexpat! :) couldn't have said it better.
Self-love is so important because as some say, you have to love yourself first before you could truly love somebody else.. without it, we would all be a walking failure and insecure beings.
There is a time and place for “Amor propio” and then there's a time and place to stand up for your rights.
An abandoned wife should seek financial support from a husband who has abandoned her.
However a scrounger should practice "Amor Propio"
I think its good but also depends on the level/how much.
in your example, the wife, if she has children, she should think about her child's welfare, not just her own.
but individual perception, call, need or helplessness....
to compromise the situation.