Taking care of twins

The first few months after the babies arrive the task that faces a mother of twin babies may seem immense. From nappy-changes to breast-feeding, soothing the babies to helping them to sleep, each routine may seem twice as challenging. Having someone to help with a baby in the beginning may be a help, but with two babies to take care of, it becomes a necessity. You should try an accept help that is offered. Though this may be hard, it can make a big difference. Talk with your partner about how the duties of caring for the babies can be shared. Having both parents involved in childcare would be good for both the parents and the children

It will be a long time before you get a full night's sleep, so it is best that you do not miss out on any chance to rest during the day. Expect to feel tired and have some negative feelings from time to time. Most parents of twins have moments when they feel they aren't up to the job of caring for them. These feelings do not last for a long time

Just because your babies are born at the same time or look alike, does not mean that they are not individuals in their own right. It may be amusing to dress them up alike and that people cannot tell one from the other. But it is always important to remember that they are two separate beings and to treat them as such from day one. Avoid referring to them as "the twins" and use their given names. Be sure to take photographs of each child separately because at some point he will ask for a photograph.

Twins often tend to develop at a similar pace, and may be predisposed to having similar choices e.g. in toys, food etc. but they may not be ready for sharing as yet. It may be a difficult situation to handle when both want the same thing, or when both demand something different.

Twins are children who get along more or less easily with each other just like other siblings. At times, twins may behave as if they are one person, thinking, speaking and moving alike. It is their separateness that needs to be emphasized. For the development of each twin, it is very important that both of you spend individual time with each baby.

With time, the twins are allowed to grow in an atmosphere conducive to individual growth. While acknowledging the benefits of their being together, they will reach a stage when they decide to part ways