The Trend of Women Dating Younger Men
There appears to be a trend of older women dating younger men, notably illustrated by celebrity couples including Demi Moore and Aston Kutcher, Halle Berry and Gabriel Aubry, and the most recent fling between 48-year-old Linda Hogan and 19-year-old Charlie Hill. According to a study of 50,000 women daters over 30, conducted by an online dating site in 2007, more than one-third of the subjects showed interest in men at least 5 years younger. And in 2003, an AARP survey revealed 34 percent of 3,500 women (between ages 40 and 69) dated men who are 10 or more years younger than themselves. This trend appears to be shocking to some people, but I don't find it so unusual.
Socially, there's a role reversal of sorts going on, women are more powerful now than ever before and may want men who are younger, and perhaps, more flexible; men who can handle it if the woman's career and lifestyle takes priority over their own. Media portrayals in "Sex and the City" (like movie characters Smith Jerrod and Samantha Jones) and "Desperate Housewives" are also showing women that dates don't have to be older. Women who have high-powered careers -- or a well-developed self-image -- are exercising more choice. Women who have been divorced and are established single moms may enjoy having a playmate, someone to have fun with; who doesn't try to control her.
The media focuses on the age difference, but what really makes or breaks the relationship is how well the couple can form a partnership that works.
Age difference is an adolescent worry: When you're a teenager, an age difference of even two or three years makes a vast difference in your experience and your outlook on life. Such a difference can interfere with communication, life goals, outlook, and relationship experience. In addition, for the young, the social reaction to such a relationship is often negative. If one partner is underage, a sexual relationship is even against the law.
But, as you get older, life experience and emotional growth help to equalize your relationship skills and resources. A 10-year or more difference in your ages makes little difference in how well you can conduct your relationship.
Don't focus on an arbitrary numbers difference in your ages. If you are getting along, you have good communication and problem solving, and you love each other, that's a precious thing, and far more important than any age difference could be. If other people have a problem with it, let it be their problem.
Whether or not a relationship is healthy is not determined by age differences, but by the interaction between the partners. A 10-year difference is not too difficult to bridge, but a 20-year differences or more in age can lead to some difficulties as the partners get older. For example, the younger partner may mature and reconsider his or her choices, or an older partner may confront aging problems much sooner. But, as long as both parties are adult, and the couple has talked about their age difference and the future possibilities, I don't make judgments about their respective ages.
Dealing with the generation gap
There are healthy and unhealthy reasons to date someone of a different generation.
One inappropriate motivation for dating a younger person is fear of aging on the older person's part. A younger partner isn't going to reverse the aging process or protect you from old age. Obviously, a man or woman who dates someone as young as his or her children is going to run into some social opposition, but the differences that can cause the biggest problems within the couple's relationship are differing maturity levels.
As more and more women choose younger partners for relationships, the question arises: Are women in their late 30s and early 40s likely to be successful with partners who are 10 to 15 years younger than themselves?
Success in these relationships depends on what the motivations of both people are. Some older people feel younger at heart than their contemporaries and like to date people who are as active as they are. Chronological age doesn't always reflect either physical capability or emotional maturity. Sometimes an age difference creates a mentoring relationship the older person advises the younger one on life or career. This can backfire if and when the younger person decides he or she has learned enough, and wants to move on.
If you're asking: "Is it OK for me to have a partner who is much older or younger than I am?" You'll do better off if you forget about your ages and concentrate on whether the relationship works for both of you, or not. What really makes a romantic relationship succeed is the emotional connection.
zxzacx dont worry im flexible - - - i can go for a date to men older / younger than me lol :) but not more than 20yrs hahhahhaa
I think there is. Yes there is!
YES THERE IS!!
(last time I've seen this movie was around 7-8 years ago...and only once that's why I can't remember all the scenes...but I did recall there is one scene)
"Everything in this book may be wrong." Illusions: The Adventures of The Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach
ok that's enough for me tonight i think... im off to bed... goodnight to all..... :)
Fay Dunaway? I've doneaway with her long time ago. It was the "elderly" woman waiting for her lover in the restaurant, heero.
try reading the posts again, start with the one where MD says something about configuring him.... ;)
"Everything in this book may be wrong." Illusions: The Adventures of The Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach
It was. You missed it. He he.
I've seen that movie...but how was it related to women dating young men? Marlon Brando was a woman in that movie? LOL
"Everything in this book may be wrong." Illusions: The Adventures of The Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach
Spanish doesn't daunt me,MD, because most of the songs in my collection are languages which I dont understand!
u spoilsport!
hahaha he can get a job at the entertainment column of the gulf times everytime he does that....
edifis, the Spanish song is in the English version. Don't bother.
Isn't he always there when we get any closer, mj?
So I will download the spanish version of the movie, but I need the SRT file too.
You can't teach experience...
lol, why would he... :P
I think the movie is too difficult to understand. So we'll have to see it together. But I think Brutus will mind.
wow Older woman, thats something like "Malena"!
hmm, you gonna give me a copy? so nice of you MD,... wouldn't mind a copy of Don Juan de Marco as well if Johnny Depp's in it.... ;)
mjamille, the Spanish version is the soundtrack of the movie "Don Juan de Marco" with Marlon Brando and Johnny Depp. You need a copy, I see. Let's see.
i like older men.... not as old as dinosaurs though...
I like older woman....LOL!
"Everything in this book may be wrong." Illusions: The Adventures of The Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach
oh, i didn't know there was a spanish original... would love to hear it sometime, though im not really knowledgeable in Spanish....
MD like your way of thinking in this matter.."I dont have them they have me" wow no that is food for thought.. You the man. The Guru when you talk all the ladies listen...lol
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The Spanish original is better, mj.
hmm, i kinda like that song....
age does not matter but to a certain limit i believe,and the man should be over 28 so that he can decide really what he wants
Then I'd suggest he'd listen to Bryan Adam's "When you love a woman, tell her that she's really wanted...."
lol MD,.. give brit an orientation so he can substitute for yah... :P
So you are "configuring" me now, Qatarisun. Well, the topic actually is too serious to be discussed here. Don't expect me to say the truth in such a forum. Let's have fun and enjoy, instead. And, oh, britexpat, don't envy. It's a tough "job".
LEB Expat im 27 - - - i feel im still young . . .(coz my age is still on the calendar - not more than 30) . . . but my boyfriend is 32 :)
brit..did you ask me whether I am free?? no, buddy.. it doesn't look like..:):)..
at least, that's what i get reminded of... once in a while ..:)
yeah, and this article is very dear to me..:):)
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“You become responsible forever for what you have tamed”. Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
The truth is that he has "so much love to give" that he can be all things to all women..
Are you free ??
I thought you were married..eh? you mentioned once Family of four.. now I strat thinking that you mean yourself + 3 wives (g'friends)?
and I don' know why, i don't really believe what you say MD.... otherwise you are either a good (and therefore dangerous) player, or you just don't give a damn on your "women".. both sound not too good for me...sorry eh?
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“You become responsible forever for what you have tamed”. Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
Dating a girl younger to you, men gonna stuck up in chocolate store and ice cream parlor. Men have to be very careful coz you don’t know when will she commit the next most stupid stuff. And if you are with older lady, she will take care of you. So Tisk Tisk for older women. LOL
Moving on is simple; it's what you leave behind that makes it so difficult .
You're making me jealous now..
Enjoy life and make people happy..
Gypsy: Sorry, thought you were being serious about it
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
You have to be careful what u say over the internet..HAHA
At some point I have to realize that sarcasm does not translate well over the internet. :P
The older the bull, the stronger the horn... I love cialis... lmao!!!
wow lucky them... ;)
I don't have any, mj. They have me!
wow MD, how many women/girlfriends do u have? ;)
My women/girlfriends are all much younger than me. They like it that I don't give a s*it about them, I don't call them, I am crazy, they are always afraid of what I'm doing, I don't ask them what they are doing when they are not with me, I entertain them and have fun, I can still walk on my hands, I ignore their past, I pay their drinks, I don't want to marry them, but I am always there when they need me.
Presently i'm in a relation with a 25 year world, i'm 36, 11 years is too old?
Gypsy: When we talk about older women, i tend to think that you mean that an older man can't be fooled as easy as an youngster.
Do you think that i'm still single "for a reason"?
Older men tend to be more complicated, maybe because they invested time and love with some women and because young women are so insecure and don't understand that from a certain age, what is needed is someone that truelly loves and cares about us, and that's what makes easyer for women doing it, but i must agree with Brit, it's also a question of pride.
We can also think that if an older women is single there must be a reason, nowadays love isn't as important as it used to be, nowadays what counts is lust.
When we start to get old, we see how superficial we were when we were young and sometimes we are afraid of never find love again, mainly if we aren't rich, because if you are, all women will love you.....hmmmm....your bank account and will repay with "love".
Thanks 4 considering me a pig :(
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
Omar bin Laden (28) is married to this 52 yr old woman...lol he is her 6th husband..
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Managed to find a 90 yr old granny?
chinitasai08...
hummmm i m too old to ask you date with me
hihihi.......
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and because the man Much smarter than women....
some time ................. Man looking for Smarter
Don`t Love me be my friend
and because the man Much smarter than women....
some time ................. Man looking for Smarter
Don`t Love me be my friend
way the man should be older than women..........
Don`t Love me be my friend
We are adorable babies! =)
Out of all my dates I only enjoyed being with older women.
DaRu.. we are up to dating a younger man.. and not only dating.. :P
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“You become responsible forever for what you have tamed”. Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
younger men can be such babies sometimes... :P
Got to keep with the trend eh?
Must diss this dude then. *Poof* Be gone!!
The internet is our revenge machine
You can't teach experience...
Da
welcome on board uve skipped lots :)
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are you guys on about here.
This is Oedipus Complex at its best.
such as the SWINES & HOGS...lmao
:-D
hhhmmmm... ask me about it.. :)
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“You become responsible forever for what you have tamed”. Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
like as if you're talking about the senior citizen ones? =))
called piglets...lol ;-P
A pig's orgasm lasts 30 minutes. (In my next life, I want to be a pig) A cockroach will live nine days without its head before it starves to death. ( Creepy. ...
www.anvari.org/fun/Truth/The_Pig.html - 60k - Cached - Similar pages
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Thanks a bunch !
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mmmmmmmm
pigs or not bet u never can live without us
so as we cant live widout u ;)
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Did you know that Pigs are the only animals that come atleast three to four times an hour.. Gypsy is that what your refering to...lol
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Old women are more experienced in all aspects...
I'm also waiting for one...
¶¶¶ I have a pair of eyes but I can't see U everyday...
I have a pair of ears but I can't hear U everytime....
But...
I have only one heart that remembers U
everyseconds......¶¶¶
Some pigs are nice, some pigs are mean. Nice or mean at the end of the day they're still a pig. :P
Gypsyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
its too hard to hear that...
m not gonna comment but some pigs r really nice :P
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oh why the long face, MP... :P
lol gypsy, that's the best one i've read in all these comments... :)
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NIL ILLEGITIMI CARBORUNDUM
Well at the end of the day Azi, men are pigs. I just find the younger pigs easier to handle then the stubborn old pigs.
A) Guys over a certain age that are still single are single for a reason.
---> either they're GAY or single (AGAIN) ;-P
B) Older guys tend to be more wary and commitment-phobic
---> and likes younger women too (about a decade younger or so) ;-P
C) With younger guys the relationship can move at a more casual pace and is a lot more fun, and actually last longer because there's less commitment phobia.
---> this one, I may or may not agree. Coz I met (just met, not date) a couple of younger men (less my age, of course ) who are very committed, serious about the relationship, yet PLAYS AROUND ;-P
It's a strange world..
I'm looking for an older or younger lady, but no luck as yet... Perhaps I should go for a bit of airbrushing..
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She's 32 and she's got a divorced son? Check her birth certificate..
i am 22 and my current little lady is 32 ^_^
and shes got a son ( divorced ) ..
i guess hmmm i was always in to older women . . .
a lot of reasons behind that ...
uff NFH if only i met u when i was younger :p
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
_[]~SMoKE~[]_
NFH (new) life starts at 40 ur almost there.. so I am also in line for the prospective vacancy if it becomes available..lol
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no worries next time when you turn 18 get married to an 8er old boy :P
Yeah Darude, I'm gonna have to start all over in the next life because apparently I've been doing it WRONG...I married an OLDER guy....oooops!!!
Goodluck for what Dear... ???
Cheers
then how about next life :D
Sorry Smoke, I'm already taken :-P
i agree that younger females are very demanding and insecure about silly things, i think i should look out for 26 and over ladies now :p i really have no more energy to keep making insecure girls feel secure!
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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Omar..goodluck..
Well said Gypsy :)
Cheers
.dms, your view is dirty, .lol......
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young men can be very possessive too - i think things like that, and jealousy, are part of someone's nature. some people can change, but many don't.
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"Even a stopped clock gives the right time twice a day." Withnail & I
younger men tend to go for older women because of "maturity thing". Men tend to mature more advance than women so to cope-up with equality in thinking, guys go for older ladies. My view!
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
i haven't dated a 20 year old in 15 years so i wouldn't know. the last 20 year old i dated was trouble, but i was only 21 so i was probably not dealing with it properly. sounds like i should have dumped her for a 30 something beauty.
so many lost opportunities...
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"Even a stopped clock gives the right time twice a day." Withnail & I
Actually, this could just be my observation Withnail, but I think the older a woman gets the LESS complicated she gets. I look at all these young 20's girls and how insecure they are and how they are very demanding of their boyfriends, overly emotional and possessive and immature, and I notice that I don't see that from older women. They are more secure in themselves and less demanding.
i thought age doesn't matter? (or it does)
Older men are kind of possessive since they are always saying that they know a lot about life and relationship..
Men having same your age is kind of boring...
younger men.. find their older girl a mother figure..
does it really matter? if in the end you both LOVE each other.. (or also LOVE ain't enough)....geez, LIFE is too much complex for me.. any sold strings and hooks there? (wanted to hang myself..lol)
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i've never heard that before, but makes sense.
surely older women are more complicated than younger ones too, so why are the younger men doing it? aside from the belief that an older woman will be more experienced in bed, which many younger men seem to believe.
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"Even a stopped clock gives the right time twice a day." Withnail & I
Brit did you know that possesiveness always end up in physical fights?... :/
[img_assist|nid=12867|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.
What you need is a "sugar daddy".. So what if he's a little possesive? At least he will provide for you and care for you..
Really lolz...what a co-incidence ... i was born on 9th December...and next month 9th is my birthday..so like that i am younger for you..lolz :)
Cheers
You've lost your touch.
Send the "ice lady" to me , QengUK or MP.. Let the Brits show you how to wine, dine and thaw the lady..
If they were born in December, yes. :P
28 years man is younger for you???
Dmighty so the younger men are looking for mother like figure ..errr really...lol
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Ok, when I say younger men I mean between the ages of 24 and 28 to my 28. Theres not really a toy boy aspect.
As with men dating younger women , there is a small aspect of "ego".. Don't tell me that you don't feel good when going about with your "toyboy"..
The second aspect in my opinion is that younger men / women may be easier to "handle".. Older men/women are set in their ways..
since guys are usually attached to their mothers ( as common saying says), guys tends to look for a mother image in relationship. If a guy put her mother in high esteem, he usually go for a lady that "somehow" resembles the good qualities he sees to his mother.
But nowadays, it has more something to do with "energy" and "financial" thing as Red pope said above.
Personally, ladies who bloomed late (in their thirties and forties) were the best when I was still young (less than thirty).
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
So all you gals are looking for Toyboys.. easy to play with..get a new one when one breaks or does a runner...lol
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age is just a couple of numbers nd doesnt imply anything its in spirit
;)
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Ya oryx what to do lolzz..Infact on friday if i come's to office for some work i came up in shorts lolzzz :D
Cheers
LOL OMar
and thanks for being so cheery Red Pope... eh not!!!
oh cheer up MP,.. there's still hope for you.. ;)
I feel your pain of the street player...
Keep waiting maybe one day, you will find your match. The problem is that you are not getting any younger or handsome neither. Keep running that engine in over drive, one day, it will stall on you and probably you will find yourself chasing your real nemesis.
You might end up at the end of hook!!
The Seven Words You Can Never Say On QL by George Carlin
where can I find a 90 years old lady to date?
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I always wear shorts....weather its winter or summer...as i love to wear shorts only :)
Cheers
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Yeah older woman.... As a friend used to say about younger woman....
"I ain't trying to mold em, I'm just trying to hold em!"
They call it the American dream because you have to be asleep to see it... --George Carlin
dont forget - younger boys tend to look better in shorts...
mmmmmm me thinking of number 8 again...my dream boy or number 15...
You wrote very intresting points wow...its kool
well i mean i am impressed...you know very well about that
cheers
it doesn't mean i want creepy pms from you - knob head
What I find is that:
A) Guys over a certain age that are still single are single for a reason.
B) Older guys tend to be more wary and commitment-phobic
C) With younger guys the relationship can move at a more casual pace and is a lot more fun, and actually last longer because there's less commitment phobia.
I agree with you :)
Cheers
Older women are more caring..and more understanding..and easier to deal with.. They are also mature
what I've heard from the single women is that older single men are too set in their ways to attempt to compromise so they are heading for the younger men (that they can train correctly!!! ;) )
Grant me the senility to forget the people I never liked,the good fortune to run into the ones I do,and the eyesight to tell the difference.
as i already said Gypsy is right....
To Deal with a younger man is easier for a older women
Cheers
anyone i meet of a 'suitable age' is a raving physcho bunny with more baggage than Samsonite...also they have guts and hair loss....
gypos right...easier to deal with
Evolution...hehehhehe....stupid trend.....soon we gona heard " an 18 years old girl dated a 10 year old boy".....coz its easy to handle younger age....
lolzzzzz....
GIRLZ.......lolzzzzzzz
Its funny ...lolzz ;)
Gypsy is right
young men feel easier to deal with older women so do older women with young men
so keep ppl enjoying what they have without being jealous
PS i never dated a younger women
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it's the other way around for me now...
That's cool you are dating younger men...And thtz right its easier to deal with them
I've been dating mostly younger men lately. I find them easier to deal with.
It has to do with "ENERGY" and "Money"......
I'm having trouble in matching: The porcelain figurine lady, who spins and spins around in circles who dances with the wolves in Qatar.
I'm having trouble in figuring out-The Very Cold woman from Siberia. She is Very cold indeed after so many breakups. Still not even an oven could thaw that person. Very cold indeed.....
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chinitasai08
seems an older women stole ur guy ;)
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Hmmm... I wanna date an older woman... any cougars online? lmao!!!
When I was 21 I dated a 34 year old gorgeous woman. We had to break it off only coz she had to leave the country!