Virtual Friends v Real Life Friends

PM the locationdouble quick

I think there are a lot of people on QL who portray themselves to be something that they are not... I am not saying all but I have had a couple of cases where someone has told me information about them selves and the next thing I know there is a wife sending me an email asking me to stop being in touch with her husband when all I was told is that the guy is in Doha alone and looking for a "friend" to talk too....  !!! Obviously his profile is incorrect..starting from nationality to job to everything.

Have also had case where so called "virtual friend" decides to meet up and never turns up .....

So I have learnt to be very careful in who I talk to and what information I give out, people I decide to meet up with,....

The imaginative ones may associate a face/image with the personality which exudes from someone's ideas or posts. Herein lies the shallowness as a beautiful mind or heart may not necessarily be accompanied by a face to match it.

I've met only one person here, and no, i am not disappointed ;)

Awww... cheers MBK

Happy Birthday TimeBandit..:)[[wysiwyg_imageupload:270:]]

TB that be grand, Quick PM the location of the drink up..:)

lol TB !by the way, dont drink after driving...Err, i mean dont drink and drive - buddy - TC ! :)

Well if anyone wants to meet me, I will be out celebrating my birthday. Thing is, I am starting early at 5pm because of happy hour, so if you want to talk to me, you had better get there by 5:30 cause after that my brain is not going to be functioning properly and I will be talking even more rubbish than normal. But be warned, a lot of my friends will also be there, and their singing is awful once they have had a drink or two.

well i define friend is sum1 who is always dere wth u during ur gud and bad time

not at all. 

Tb, good to see you again.No, I was not disappointed. Of course, one may expect different due to how people posted....but, disappointed, no, not at all.  

Yes I have been disappointed.

TB i was dissapointed to see you when we met last time at a coffee meet, i thought u will be a big Time Machine but u looked like a normal human being...:( J/K

Once again just to be clear. I have met hundreds and thousands of QLers this year alone (ok slight exaggeration). I am not pondering if I should meet anyone, and if I was I would not be seeking advice on the subject on a public forum. I am asking if in your past experience, when you have met someone face to face having got to know them online first, were you disappointed?

jacyca, that true indeed, A friend in need is a friend indeed.You hit the target by saying that even if we are close to virtual friends their absence will not be much felt, but the real friends short absence will be noted and they will be missed..:)To all my real friends I miss you guys..:)

TB- it all depends on your expectations- the higher your expectation is,  the bigger chance of disappointment ( when it turned out differently to what you expected).

Virtual Friends- We never met them or probably won’t, but this what allows you to pour your feelings to them., and we dont think much of them when we are off line and probably won't be too disappointed to lose them.

Real Life Friends- people that you get to see often (or at least you know that is existing and you can call them anytime) The thing about them is that they make it a point to keep in touch with you because they actually do miss you, and they really want to spend time with you and know what’s up with your life, and share with you theirs.

Both "friendsheeps" (lol) are beneficial... so it really depends on you on how to keep that friendship alive ;)

Thanks MBK for those good virtual comments! :)

Rizks is a classical example of existence in the virtual world, hardly ever seen in the real world. In my four and half years on QL, see him more or less every day on QL but only once or twice in person.He never leaves his virtual world, He is a true virtual being.

Tinker - that's why i need a confirmation from him for the assurance..I wont take a risk for rizks' tips..:)

Tinker - yes pyaar (love)..No see diet indeed..:)) Dr.said i must take virtual food..:(

Rizks - dear what's the assurance that if I follow ur tips I won't lose my hair? Lungi is for the lower part of d body not for d head right? Please confirm ASAP.

Please,go back to d topic fellas, my mama and d mods would spank me for hijacking a thread..:(

Tinker - I will wait til morning for that thread dear.. For now,i have to be contented with "turn my head to ur right,then to d left everytime someone offered me food." :'(

MBK - Sitting infront of the computer screen day/night,reading post at 2:08 and 5:52 AM? That's a lot of work...:)

Perhaps the time shares the same differences virtually and in reality like the topic above.

PS eat 2 boiled eggs in the morning along with OatsGrilled Chicken,fish, Meat in the eveningBrown bread with Hammous in the nightand regularly have coffee meet with Rizks...LOLin no time u will find a great change in You.....:)

Tinker - I pray before I eat,so maybe it's the cause why it didnt work..:( How about u dear?can u share some tips?

Guess you must have missed that famous thread from Moin Khan about black cummin seeds can cure any thing..:)http://www.qatarliving.com/node/521818

MBK - Ohhh so u mean u've been up 24/7..? have a break virtual friend...

PS I think this virtual life, sitting in front of the computer screen day/night and even reading post at 2.08am and 5.52am is hurting my eye sight badly. I guess I need to see a Virtual eye doctor soon? or should I just take black cumin seeds instead?

Tinker - Not working for me bec. it's "eat whatever u want and pray", unfortunately right after i eat whatever I want,I sleep..

if you really want to meet your virtual friend in person ... don't expect anything so you will not be disappointed. Anyway, you meet up with him/her because you want to know him/her better or just to hang up in some place.

Fatimah...... very nice thoughts...... ur DP is soo good MASHALLAH..... but .. so means m ur buddy as well lol ?

MBK -  I'm in Lulu last night but I'm not standing outside with a folder and pen, I was sitting like a Sheikha inside in a special booth with an Ipad..:p

Have u taken your eye vitamins last night? or were u using the eye-pad of rizks?

For me friends are friends. Virtual or in the flesh I love em all. At times the former may give me more comfort and at times the latter would. It all depends on my mood but I can safely say,Alhamdullilah,I'm truly grateful for all my friends...to me they are all as rea as it getsl! 

two thumbs up for princess sarah "There will always be people who r very different virtually compared when u actually talk to them."

Good Morning Tinker.. Thanks dear..When it comes to face maybe i have the chance,but with the body,i have to run from Dukhan to Doha then Doha to Al Khor.. Guess Shisha's diet program isn't working for me.. :'(

PS are we talking 48 dog years, as for every human year dog has 8 years..:)PS were you the one standing outside Lulu last night with a folder and pen asking questions. If so it was nice to meet you my virtual friend..:)

TB - Yah,i spent 48 years composing my response for u,i made a survey first from about 1000 people..

Who told u that if u enter a door there's no way back? U can always turn back.The choice is yours.

I changed office now, so you will have to call me before you come ;-)

Thanks Colt45, your the best Virtual friend I yet to meet. Last time I saw you you was really scary, I felt like screaming..:) OK can drop by some day for a mallu roll and karak chai at your canteen..:)

I was remembering you yesterday evening while having coffee someplace :-)

Got some 2011 new ones including, "Arthur"... call me sometime, lets do the deal :-)

Colt45 I'm still expecting some more downloads from you my Virtual friend..:)

It's BEST not to expect too much from online friends :-(

We all did I hope  your virtual friend is OK

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I'm surprised anyone even noticed I was gone TCOM ;)

Welcome back TB

when virtual friends made based on skin color, nationality posted which may or may not be true, for some particular purpose in real life, then disappointment is bound to be there because both sides are not true to each other & when the purpose is either fulfilled or there seems no possibility of it getting fulfilled they try to walk away. while making friends one should see into the patterns of other trying to make friends with & and the purpose......., if one is patient enough, virtual friends turning into real can be an easy process.

Virtual Stare!He's Back after disappearing from the Virtual world. Welcome Back buddy I hope this virtual world/real world is not the reason you were away from us for so long.Anyway nice to see you nice..:)

Thanks for clearing that up s_isale ;)

i never had any problem meeting any one face to face

they could be much better or much worse.

Britexpat, then it could also be that you underestimate the person in the virtual world, but in the real world they are much (bettter) different than what you had rated them.

In virtual world i am a bald, no so tall, dark and no so handsome person...:(but in real - I am...a bit bald, not so tall, fair complextion and a handsome person tatz wat Lynge Lee told me the other day at Ramada car park while dropping her back....:)

TB..where have you been? didn’t see you for a long time...

I was so disappointed when I met my virtual friend Brit... He told me that he looks like my fav. Salman Khan but in real he turned out to be George Clooney look alike....:(

It can end in disappointment because reality is usually much different. In the virtual world you build up images and perceptions of others. In the real world, they can turn out to be totally false.  

Blimey PS... were you up all night typing that? Well thank you so much for taking the time to reply, but just to clarify my vaugue post what I am asking is; if meeting virtual freinds in person is a one way door. Once you have walked through the door there is no going back, how often has this ended in disapointment for you?

Every body is virtual friends initial if they like our intension and motivation they started to be friends and sharing talks and ideas.....

Every body is virtual friends initial if they like our intension and motivation they started to be friends and sharing talks and ideas.....

what is an online friend?

TB - How a person talks and acts whether virtual or real doesn't necessary implies that d person u r talking to online is d total opposite of the virtual one once u meet them. Though people seem to be very active online and quiet in the real world doesn't mean they are not d same person.There are things that could be easily expressed virtually but takes a lot of courage to be expressed in person. Virtual friends may sound like they're trying to impress u but even in the sense of talking to someone face to face some people try to impress u too by the way they talk and carry their selves.There will always be people who r very different virtually compared when u actually talk to them. They r probably shy to be themselves infront of u or they r just pretending to be someone they're not virtually for possible reasons like: 1- They need some time to get out of their shells and be comfy enough to show their true colors, 2- they are insecure and they try to  cover up their imperfections just to be accepted, 3- they r just fooling around bec.they got nothing to do and they rejoice in other people's stupidity..Which is better is to meet people personally but if u get to know someone virtually there's no harm in that as long as u r cautious enough.

I know u r smart enough to never ever trust anyone u haven't met in person, it's even hard to trust people u have known for years how much more if they're just typing everything u know about them right? It's very essential to never let yourself fall easily into a trap. It's always necessary to know the mechanics of the game before playing it.

Are u in a limbo between ur desire to trust your virtual friend who seems very nice to u and ur doubts about his/her identity? (just asking..) u could also ask for a copy of his/her ID card for further reference..(kidding)... :D

some of my very close friends were initially virtual friends..but then they are only few of the dozens i met online..its often that people turn out to be totally opposite in their real life..i guess such people use internet to be someone they wish they were in real life

Wen virtual friends share some common interests they tend to become real life friends... Rest of them stay virtual.

There is good to be said for both types.

Real life friends stick around. They are there for you even if you haven't spoken in years. Virtual ones are there for a shorter time.

...wrong!When I meet my goat first time...:)