What Would You Do
By caryllon54 •
What would you do if you found that the person you had been having a LDR with on the internet was posting ads on another site? Would you ignore it, confront them, e-mail and pose as someone else? I would really like to know, so come on and give me some good answers, I need help.
You can't teach experience...
please don't make us gals feel like we can't relax ...
You can't teach experience...
I think you just have to go to friend status until you can be together again.
Lifes too short....:)
You can't teach experience...
You can't teach experience...
I had believed that we were committed. He had asked me to marry him and I was coming to meet him there. But then I keep seeing where he is on other sites trying to get women so I am confused. Now what.
LDR can work but both have you have to have the same goal...I guess his goals are different than mine.
Love all the answers by the way and have thought of them all. Needed to hear it I guess. Thanks
But some people consider normal chatting as flirting..lol I dont see anything wrong in online chatting as long as you know your limits...
Motive is more important... if he just looking for friends i dont think anything wrong....just clarify with him and move on.
LDR will work only if both parties are fully dedicated...and true to each other...
it might work! trust me...
I know one girl.. she met this guy just before she had to leave for another country. And they fell in love like crazy... she left in 2 months after their relationship has started... It took another TWO YEARS untill he could join her in the new country (there were different reasons why he couln't do it any earlier).. they got married and they are happy.. during TWO years of being apart, they didn't meet even once! only e-mails, MSN and phone calls! And they still loved each other badly...
...although but I don't believe it might work if two people have met on one of those sites....
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depends on the purpose of being on another site...…I am even not in LDR, i would say i am in SDR (short-distance relationship ..lol..), and I am still on the other 3-4 sites around the world... I JUST LOVE TO CHAT!!! LOL... I love chatting even more than actually meeting people (some QLers could notice it...lol..).. so it's just a form of entertainment for me, nothing else...
And the “object” of my SDR is also on the all known (and unknown) sites… I don’t care… he needs to see more people just to compare and to make sure again and again that I am the best one..lol…
But seriously, it’s all depends on how does HE take your relationship..does he consider it serious?
yeah, and BTW, i do not believe in relationship over the internet.. I mean i do not believe that people can meet, fall in love and have long healthy relationship if t hey have met on the internet.. I personally just do not believe. Coz, again.. all this endless chatting is only entertainment for me, nothing serious...
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You can't teach experience...
let me get this straight...u have a relationship with this person thru online? if im right, you could have manage your expectations from the start. how can you completely trust someone with this type of relationship. who knows they have multiple identities? if that happens to me, well i will confront him...but whatever he says...i dont know if i would believe him.
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
it defenitely means that...
1. You r only one of the ppl tht person has an onln LDR, n for tht person, u r not THE ONE. at least not yet.
2. You have not specified how long u hav been havin this relnship n whthr u had spoken abt the C word. If this had happened n still the person is lookin around, sorry 2 say , its time for u to move on....
3. If you had started this relnship only recently and neither of u has spoken abt wht u want out of it, then it means that the person is keeping his/her options open. So its better for u to know wht xactly the other person wants so tht u can c whthr it coincides with wht u want in life,in relnships.
4. When a person says "I cant commit now/ever" wht he/she means is tht "I dont want to C with/to YOU". Believe me, I have seen this in quite a few relnships...the right person comes in n the nxt thing u know,the non-committal person is engaged/married!!
you know the answer -
a) ask directly
b) they aren't that into you if they are doing that. they don't value you and it is a passive-aggressive way to get them to dump you so they don't have to do the dirty work.
yes agree with skanky, go confront them and ask the reason why and tell them straight that this make you feeling betrayed and unhappy and you should focus more on results/solving the problem for future reference this is the key.
Everybody is right Everybody is wrong, it depend where we stand.
Go and asking what he-she want and take your decision.
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