What would you do/think/say?

I'm just sitting here howling at the moon...

You can't teach experience...

Well Azi looks like u answered ur own question, u don't want to be a doormat nor do u deserve to be one. So forget about him girl and move on :)

I don't even see a reason for u to talk him at all, even about work or other stuff, it'll only confuse u and might lure u into thinking u have feelings for him. Just shut him out of ur life if he's not worth it.

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong -Garfield

I would be in for the next semester. hubby would be on break for a couple of weeks, but the kids has to go to school, so no holiday for us! arrgghhh!!!

I've got my reborn Mystica last night, but my poor Mystica is in a garage small dent on the front bumper, and the bloody garage takes forever, because lots of car in queue for a repair. That means lots of awkward driver here! not just me!

Yeah! if you take this kind of people seriously, they will just get into your nerves, but if you play along with them, they think it's fun. I've learned to ignore them after 1 year in QL.

It's great to be loved!

how's your new job going - have you started yet?

I agree with you that some people come on to QL to vent their feelings about things. Which is great! We are all here to be friends and help people where we can -it makes QL what it is - a really nice (and real) community

Lord, keep Your arm around my shoulder and Your hand over my mouth

Thanks for clarifying that, I thought you mentioned that in some thread. Don't worry people don't really know each other here very well it's either they are in a bad mood or into mischief or could be, it satisfy them to release their anger here. I think it's better for them to argue here than knocking someone in the street and get send to jail.

I just log-in to congratulate SKDK for passing his driving test!

Good night everybody!!!

It's great to be loved!

sucks

Hee!

Lord, keep Your arm around my shoulder and Your hand over my mouth

What's all the accusation for? when people PM me of some rumors or gossip, I ignore them and don't tag along with them.

I have no idea why on earth Camille and Luca becomes me? Since when I socialized with QL member to know a lot about them?

only me and Apple knows who really he is because he already admitted that to us in our party! He is Filipino with mixed I can't remember from where exactly, but he says they are just having fun. I have no idea how you relates them to me. anyway IOU says they can easily imitate me. FYI I don't even text that way in my mobile! (I wished because it's very expensive to have many pages to send the way I talk) My friends knows the way I text anyway. I informed Azzy about that guy already. I wouldn't even know all about this accusation if Renee didn't mentioned it here. Thanks Renee for letting me know it anyway.

SKDK: Hey! Buddy congratulations passing your driving test this morning! well done Buddy! So where's the party?

I always feel better whenever I heard my friend made it to their test and I feel sad if they don't, like my Black woman friend :( they kept failing her :( So where's the party?

It's great to be loved!

How could i profit from peoples misery ???

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making an appointment...hehehe..

Let Mr Paul the love doctor make it better for you !!!

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then you've learned from past mistakes...congrats, my dear..very proud of you!!!

Give you a hint tho...if you aren't sure you have feelings for him, then you DON'T...You have way too much going for you to step back into that pile of dog poop...

Still accepts his calls...talk to him about work and other things but avoid mentioning about the DUMPING episode...

But did told him that if he's in front of me, I'll b*tchslap him...lol

Seriously, don't know if I have feelings for him anymore. After what I had gone thru and still going thru...being a doormat AGAIN is something I'd avoid like a plague...

The true measure of an individual is how he treats a person who can do him absolutely no good. - ANN LANDERS

Im waiting baby.........

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Don't know how it translates into english, but we have a say in Spain: Better alone than with the wrong company.

It really depends upon what the woman needs from the relationship. If she is looking only for companionship, she can give this man another chance. Relationship are not only about s*xual and financial dependency. For women who do single parenting the chances of going out to find male partners are scarce as they have lot of family commitments. So what is wrong in reestablishing relationship with a man whom you already know and understand.

LOL. I agree completely. You should write a book. ;D

"How come I can pick my ears but not my nose? Who made up that rule anyway? How come you say that's the way it is, that's just the way it goes, maybe you should decide for yourself what you can do and what you can say." Ani Difranco

Gypsy that is a good method...instead of torturing yourself with pros and cons.

you can see if you have 'really got it bad and serious' if you go thru my 3 step programme

and I am saying IF you try again don't be so quick to give up your independence.

Boys in shorts is your answer to everything Oryx :P

"How come I can pick my ears but not my nose? Who made up that rule anyway? How come you say that's the way it is, that's just the way it goes, maybe you should decide for yourself what you can do and what you can say." Ani Difranco

I would shag a really lovely boy in shorts and see how I felt after that...

if I was still moping around with a face like a wet nappy then I would shag another one

if that didn't work I would go on holiday.

if that still didn't work I might give the first one a trial again but would not be quick to stop the try-outs.

Well CB, I guess I have to agree with Corne then, Misery loves company.

"How come I can pick my ears but not my nose? Who made up that rule anyway? How come you say that's the way it is, that's just the way it goes, maybe you should decide for yourself what you can do and what you can say." Ani Difranco

Unfortunately getting divorced will often mean that women will have to depend on theselves to regulate finances etc. so they would rather stay in a bad marriage that go out and fend for themselves - which if they have kids would be difficult. In the Middle East and the Gulf and even in Asia the families try to keep the marriages together as many find divorce dishoners family values.

I read not long ago that one in every 5 marriages are divorced in Germany - the vast majority of women are nearly working anyway so financially they are independant.

It's either one of two things...

Either they think they're doing the right noble thing but sacrificing their own happiness for the sake of the marriage and so they advise others to do the same "right thing".

Or...misery loves company ;)

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong -Garfield

I understand that marriage is important to some women, what bothers me is that these women actually give advise and encourage their friends and other women to take back cheating husbands and husbands that abandoned them, fine if you want to have a miserable life yourself, but don't advise other people to have one to.

"How come I can pick my ears but not my nose? Who made up that rule anyway? How come you say that's the way it is, that's just the way it goes, maybe you should decide for yourself what you can do and what you can say." Ani Difranco

you are right... Taking him back sounds like a huge waste of time. I take my comment back...

Butterfly, but why waste ur time with someone who isn't worth it? why harness emotions of hatred and revenge? It'll only eat u up inside. I say just walk away, never look back and remove him from ur life completely and live happily :)

Gypsy, marriage is so important to some women, that they KNOW that their husbands are cheating on them and yet pretend like nothing's happening cause they're either scared of being on their own, are too dependent on the husband or are scared from what society will say. In some places,a divorce is always seen as the woman's fault.

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong -Garfield

the story is like in the film cast away... have you seen the movie...

Live Life To The Fullest.......................

pretend that nothing happened, try to make him as happy as ever, be there for him everytime he needs me, and when he least expects it...I would dissapear, with his most precious belongings, no explanation, so he gets to experience the same feeling.

Be cruel. No woman deserves that treatment.

She has no idea about Germans and she is of course talking through a hole in her hat. It just proves her ignorance of foreigners altogether.

To the them I would never take anyone back who left without a word, if it is done once it may and can happen again.

Interesting how Mystica is the only one who says she would forgive him and she's also the one who thinks a woman who has a boyfriend is evil and someone who dates is a tramp. I guess to some women being married is so important that they are willing to overlook their own happiness, self esteem, pride, intelligence, etc, to stay married.

"How come I can pick my ears but not my nose? Who made up that rule anyway? How come you say that's the way it is, that's just the way it goes, maybe you should decide for yourself what you can do and what you can say." Ani Difranco

any way you could possibly leave personal attacks off this board? You are hijacking the thread with your small minded issues.

As far as Germans being cynical and cold..not the ones I know and I MARRIED one!! Stop generalizing.

Also..Pm IS single...and about as far from discrimantory as anyone can be.

So he left u, tried to work things out with his ex, that didn't work, so he came back to u ? Azi, putting all the reasons everyone said aside, u should NEVER allow urself to be a second choice, u deserve better. U are his second choice, so tell me how much does he really love u ? eh ? Just walk away.

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong -Garfield

Could he not find a phone in the hospital? I doubt that too.

Was it difficult to explain to his children, possible, but why not speak to his partner anymore...what has one thing to do with the other????

Naaa, he is a user,who, for some reason thinks he can go back to the safety net....until he gets tired of it again.....good riddance, I say

----Must get tiring being so cynical and cold hearted all the time Alexa. You are German after all, so we can’t hope for much compassion and warmth from you, can we?

PM said Camille, why don't you go hang out with your buddy ...

the other QL pest on her thread and leave this one for the adults ;-)

----Your ego just gets bigger and bigger doesn’t it PM? Do you run this site, or have an impact on what gets published? If not, why don’t you take Gypsy's advice and let people have “their say” instead of telling them to leave. The audacity of you telling someone to leave is disturbing to say the least, but I guess this is coming from someone who discriminates against single people and labour workers.

Let's see how those who you discriminate against would feel if you said discriminating things in other countries. That’s why Qatar and you get along so well, right? Been in Qatar what, 9 years? Figures.

We all know that Camille/ Luca is Mystica— what concern is it of yours PM? Ignore it

keep your pride, don't take em back

ONCE A DOG ALWAYS A DOG :)

But no matter what we say it doesnt matter cause a person has to learn from his mistakes... and if she goes back she will get hit harder than the first time... and it will only make her stronger & wiser for the next time around!

I didnt read all the posts,, just scanned through... so my comment is based to the first forum.

Cheers Fariy

I'll prefer the three blind mouse song.

Three Blind Mice

Three blind mice, three blind mice

See how they run, see how they run!

They all ran after the farmer's wife

She cut off their tails with a carving knife

Did you ever see such a sight in your life

As three blind mice?

The Red Pope of Qatar Living

This Pope is single, The only problem you will have is My daily Confession Booth...

The Red Pope of Qatar Living

we used to sing as kids...

Rabbit ain't got no tail at all,

tail at all, tail at all,

Rabbit ain't got no tail at all,

Its just a powder puff..

(here's what reminded me of your post)

SAME SONG, SECOND VERSE

LITTLE BIT LOUDER AND A WHOLE LOT WORSE

OR

SAME SONG, SECOND VERSE

COULD BE BETTER BUT ITS GONNA GET WORSE!!

he was looking and found you while he was married...what's to stop him from doing the same thing if he ever DOES divorce and marry you???

It would all depend if you could forgive him for leaving you in the first place. If you can't than let it go and find someone who really cares!

Me personally I could never forgive someone that would do that to me, it would prove that he never truly loved me to start with.

Without forgiveness you will never be happy with anyone unless you can truly forgive 100%.

Cheers Fairy

this guy...buzz off, but hey, it was fun while it lasted..for HIM!!!

Just be careful hon...we can talk until we are blue in the face but bottom line is its your decision...just, learn from your mistakes and have respect for yourself...let that guide your decision.

It's the "separated...going thru divorce"...

THEN, the kids (ex's)comes first. Tried to work it out for the sake of the kids...

Accident...then, financial...

Bottomline...he's all alone (again). then he remembered one "doormat"...

That doormat swiped herself clean after getting dumped, I dont think SHE wants to be in the same situation.

Head says no...heart says yes....aaarrgh...

The true measure of an individual is how he treats a person who can do him absolutely no good. - ANN LANDERS

about guys meeting someone here, telling the girl they are "separated" or divorced, then in the long run, find out he's very married...and breaks her heart, and wastes her time, in the process.

Novita..EXCELLENT idea...call his bluff...if he does that then there is no question of his loyalty and love.

dare the dumper to bring you to wherever his native country is. Show you his way of life in his native country ... asked him to introduce you to his family. His kid/s ... parents and other relatives.

extremely typical behavior of someone that is married but isn't telling the truth...disappear for a bit (usually due to vacation with wife and family) then come back begging forgiveness..wants his cake and be able to eat it also...usual excuse is "I'm separated..and on the verge of divorcing, just for YOU...so satrt seeing me again and wait for me. I'll divorce my wife, soon as ___ (fill in blank)"...ahem..RIIIIGHT....

if there is doubt about his sincerity and honesty, then by all means, even if you still have feelings for him..RUN!!!!! Very fast and very far away..because all that will do is grow and become a sore point between you two. You will never be at ease..wondering what he's doing now..is he going to disappear again and if so, when...Plus, if he DID have someone else, then what's to say he's not playing you when you can't find out for sure???

Trust in yourself...you know when the red flags go up..listen and pay attention to them..they are there for a reason. You are a person who deserves much better than that..so act accordingly...and don't be a doormat.

the other posters can suggest you 1001 things ... but the decision and its consequence is all yours.

Good luck.

It's the emotion/feeling...whether to believe him or not? If the feeling is still there or not.

One thing's for sure...it would never be the same anymore so what's the use?

The true measure of an individual is how he treats a person who can do him absolutely no good. - ANN LANDERS

fell of the chair with that comment...what was that all about?

The true measure of an individual is how he treats a person who can do him absolutely no good. - ANN LANDERS

Ale! Quiapo po ang byahe hindi Baclaran naliligaw po ba kayo?

It's great to be loved!

Oh! forget it! some answers are just getting worst and worst.

Good night!!!

It's great to be loved!

cost you 3 pound an hour for internet in the UK ... thats 21 riyal.

Talaq is divorce inititade by a man ...

Khula is divorce initiated by the woman. In some cases it is hard for a woman to get a decent divorce through khula. She has to repay the mahr (dowry) and also may have to repay any money spent on her by her husband during the marriage.

Now I know why my Grand Mother didn't manage to divorce my Grand father because she couldn't afford to pay him back with the dowry! she is much too way expensive lady!

It's great to be loved!

when/how did that came in to this?

The true measure of an individual is how he treats a person who can do him absolutely no good. - ANN LANDERS

The person who is trying to reconcile with his ex-partner must be really desperate and if she accepts him back she definitely has to be more desperate than him.

It can be very difficult to try to explain to his children that he is planning to get married again. and to be hospitalized is also a valid reason. for god sake! who will do all the communication for him to get in touch with you? And financial problem? maybe his internet got disconnected because he just had an amount of bill to pay at the hospital. Anyway, why am I explaining this for him?

Just think carefully before you decide, as we say "regrets is always in the end" right? Got to go to sleep now! hohum!!!

It's great to be loved!

Won't comment on that...

I always say, Honesty and Trust added to Love with a dash of understanding and consideration would make a wonderful dish of a relationship/partnership.

When Trust is lost, doubts sets in...not healthy...need to move on...

The true measure of an individual is how he treats a person who can do him absolutely no good. - ANN LANDERS

I never heard that song before!!!

what about

There is no excuse.... There is no execution...

you haven't answer what's the meaning of talaq and khula.

It's great to be loved!

I am right? She still have feelings! so why ignore it?

To be love, to be love oh what a wonderful feeling to be love!!!!

So if it is not too bad why not forgive him? as I say only the person who is concern can solve this problem. THE END!!!

hey! Azzy check your mail.

It's great to be loved!

issues with kids of ex; motorbike mishap (2 weeks hospital/2weeks convalescent period); financial and other reasons...

The true measure of an individual is how he treats a person who can do him absolutely no good. - ANN LANDERS

Dumper came back...wrote a lenthy e-mail explaining why he did a "HOUDINI" act; calling DUMPEE almost every night.

Dumpee still have feelings for the DUMPER...but don't wanna go back being the "doormat" again.

What then?

The true measure of an individual is how he treats a person who can do him absolutely no good. - ANN LANDERS

MattyHardingLower said Mystica....your'e right ...

Thats why my post has to be repeated for the 3rd time........

""You only get one chance with me, regarding trust. End of story!!

Give as many chances as you like......they'll only be one set of tears.

Read as what you say, you actually say Mystica....your'e (you're) right ...

Thats why my post has to be repeated for the 3rd time........

"You only get one chance with me, so why mention my name? you should say with me? he/she only get one chance,

Your name suits you the way you talk and if you're talking about "drugs" you must know all about it. I don't waste any minute of my life! don't throw your crap on me.

Gypsy with your capacity as you boasted as I remember you say, you can get 5 Lebanese instead of 1 Indian in one of the advert here? you're one of example of a liberated woman we regards. But it happens anywhere doesn't mean I am referring only to a Filipina. So maybe in order for you to handle all of those men you must be the one using drugs not me! so you can't say everybody knows I use drugs as I have a decent family to keep my dignity.

It's great to be loved!

you said:

Cornellian said If he left without a word, I ...

If he left without a word, I would atleast listen to his explanation of why he did what he did, u never know. After listening to what he has to say, I would decide. Everyone deserves a chance.

I AGREE TO THAT! :)

because maybe he/she has a good explanation..

(atleast try to listen first...)

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PEACE NOT WAR FOR 2008!

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also if you are iphone user, check this forum:

http://www.qatarliving.com/node/44597#comment-250429

and I think the fruit flies were British, were they not and had very slim pen8ses...

and it only came into existence a few years ago :P

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong -Garfield

as we all know..gays are only a western thing, so I didn't include that...

pssst...Scarlett...also make sure he isn't gay! lol

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong -Garfield

its usually the female who gets dumped as we live with our hearts on our sleeves...(ok mr paul...you are the exception here ) It DOES take time to get past it...but you will...as will others when they gain enough self esteem to push past the hurt and heartache and gain themselves back again.

Stand up, dust yourself off and climb back on that bicycle...never give up on love..its out there..but the last guy just obviously wasn't Mr. right...maybe Mr Right Then...but Mr Right is out there somewhere..jusst make sure he's not married/separated/semi engaged or anything in between...

Got to let you know..."HE" DID...

The true measure of an individual is how he treats a person who can do him absolutely no good. - ANN LANDERS

It’s really a hypothetical question…it doesn’t necessarily means it's my "story"....but along that way, I guess...whehehehe

It's not really about me as the topic is a common dilemma/occurence to anyone who are in or has been in a relationship. Relationship can be that boy/girl-friend thing, partnership or marriage...all falls in the same category.

Most likely than not, women are the “dumpee” and seldom the “dumper” (my opinion) It takes a while before one could be able to move on.

Mystica, thanks for the kind words... I'll keep that in mind.

The true measure of an individual is how he treats a person who can do him absolutely no good. - ANN LANDERS

If they hurt you badly enough, only a fool would take them back !!

Like someone has already said, if they did it once, they will do it again.

But im only speaking from my own experiences and opinion.

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What's the issue now ? Trying to find the post but can't. How were the Filipinas insulted ?

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong -Garfield

Whats wrong with having a boyfriend anyway? How else are you supposed to meet someone and get married?

"How come I can pick my ears but not my nose? Who made up that rule anyway? How come you say that's the way it is, that's just the way it goes, maybe you should decide for yourself what you can do and what you can say." Ani Difranco

alexa...being liberated, doesn't have to mean that way...it can be being open minded, free thinking and activist (like me..hehehehe)....got to limit my input this way...*wink*

[img_assist|nid=12867|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.

Are you planting small seeds of deception and argument toady?

The Red Pope of Qatar Living

Frankly Alexa, I'm surprised more Filipinas weren't insulted by the stuff Mystica was saying, but I'm not Filipina either.

"How come I can pick my ears but not my nose? Who made up that rule anyway? How come you say that's the way it is, that's just the way it goes, maybe you should decide for yourself what you can do and what you can say." Ani Difranco

ROFL Red Pope! How many times do I have to tell you I'm not going into any dark booths with you!

"How come I can pick my ears but not my nose? Who made up that rule anyway? How come you say that's the way it is, that's just the way it goes, maybe you should decide for yourself what you can do and what you can say." Ani Difranco

I'll take you as you are Gypsy, with drugs or no drugs, with alcohol or no alcohol.

I know you have the experience and knowledge to guide My Confession Booth, for the betteR of QL.

You have all the traits of leadership that I look for in a lady, most important Charisma and knowledge.

Please accept your selection, To be My First Lady of My Confession Booth!

The Red Pope of Qatar Living

Don;t take it personally Matty, most of us are pretty sure Mystica is on drugs...most notably Valium and probably a few other Judy Garland style substances.

"How come I can pick my ears but not my nose? Who made up that rule anyway? How come you say that's the way it is, that's just the way it goes, maybe you should decide for yourself what you can do and what you can say." Ani Difranco

"Asking a chance from you? NEVER! you're full of anger, the way you express yourself! It's always easy to say"

"And what the heck he's advising woman here for anyway?"

"Matty is a what? "

Whats with the personal attacks. Im not angry about anything, i think you just dont like what I'm saying. Im answering a topic posted on a forum, I didnt realise i had to be a female to reply!! And whats the questioning of my Manhood all about.

All my posts state "You only get one chance with me, regarding trust. End of story!! Thats my opinion about trust with ME.

Im done with this board. Some people need to get out more.

I totally agree with PM. if you can move on you have to move on. Someone cannot just leave and treat someone this way.

If you're still in love with a guy who runs out on you and treats you like yesterdays trash then you have issues and most defintely shouldn't take them back. You're just going to get burnt again.

"How come I can pick my ears but not my nose? Who made up that rule anyway? How come you say that's the way it is, that's just the way it goes, maybe you should decide for yourself what you can do and what you can say." Ani Difranco

I will keep them both if they are females:)

Who you keeping both?

The situation was the guy is single, and completely vanished without a word to his girlfriend and it took him, let's say 6 months no news. now he starts communicating again, like sounding out first if she will take him back. The reason she's asking here because, she can't decide yet if he wants him back or not as he is still not here and she can't see him face to face plus for sure she can feel she still has feelings for him. after all people do make mistakes and people deserve chances before making the wrong decision. who knows maybe she's still in love with him? person with the broken heart can be mended back again if she forgive him or if she prepare to move on. As I always say she knows the answer for herself, she just want a piece of advice on how to justify it.

It's great to be loved!

Now why would u screw someone who ditched u Gypsy ?? :P

I say hang him from the nipples and make him watch pottery shows :D

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong -Garfield

That's what I meant when I said movie scenario's Corne. :P Ya in THAT unlikely scenario I would probably take him back. But if he just has a panic attack and takes off, then screw him.

"How come I can pick my ears but not my nose? Who made up that rule anyway? How come you say that's the way it is, that's just the way it goes, maybe you should decide for yourself what you can do and what you can say." Ani Difranco

I will keep both of them and live happyly forever. Ah waiting for that day to come:)

but perhaps I've just seen too much of life and can be a bit jaded at times in issues like this.

But yes, if he was in a coma or stuck on an island, or whatever..then I would consider listening seriously to him..but I'd also have to research to see if he was telling the truth or lieing again...lmao...

Well with ur scenario Scarlett, ofcourse I agree with walking out the door and never looking back. No woman should allow herself to be a second choice. I was just talking about odd circumstances that might happen, in which the guy has good intentions, but I guess that's rare.

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong -Garfield

Corne...I was going on the most common scenerio...the guy leaving and then coming back when WHY he left in the first place wasn't what he wanted..I've seen that happen WAY too much throughout my life. Too many women fall in love and the guy is just having fun...then he sees another greener field..leaves and when he realizes ..hmm maybe number 1 will take me back because number 2 ditched me...THAT'S not right...Some women don't have the backbone to stand up for themselves and say ENOUGH...If the guy loves you, he won't ditch you for the first woman who looks his way. Half the guys that do this are married but telling the woman he's "separated and going to get divorced" lol Total BS!!! That is a typical pick up line to see how much they can get away with while stringing the woman along in hopes of him divorcing and marrying her..won't happen!! Speaking of which..I've known at least 5 women over here that have been told by the guy that he is single..and he's NOT...nor is he thinking of divorcing...but yet the women insist that he loves her...and stays in a destructive relationship. It breaks my heart to see that..Makes me want to just whap them up side the head and say...WAKE UP!!!!

Gypsy...I agree with you...its all about respect. That has to come first in a relationship.

Hmmm...what if he got into an accident and was in the hospital unconscious?

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong -Garfield

Well Corne, barring some major movie type scenario involving the CIA and aliens, what could they say that would actually make you take them back?

"How come I can pick my ears but not my nose? Who made up that rule anyway? How come you say that's the way it is, that's just the way it goes, maybe you should decide for yourself what you can do and what you can say." Ani Difranco

I totally agree with u Gypsy, but there are situations that might go out of control, maybe the person didn't intend to leave but stuff just happened. I don't know. I'm all for self-respect and stuff, but atleast listen to what they have to say.

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong -Garfield

I think you'd have to be a fool to take someone back after they've abandoned you (unless you were like 16 years old or something). Have a little self respect for yourself, if the person treats you like garbage that can just be tossed away or left on the sidewalk, then no matter how much you love them, you need to love yourself more and realize you deserve someone who treats you with respect.

"How come I can pick my ears but not my nose? Who made up that rule anyway? How come you say that's the way it is, that's just the way it goes, maybe you should decide for yourself what you can do and what you can say." Ani Difranco

Hmmm RP, was that comment addressed to me personally or just in general?

U guys are saying trust is a one-time chance, once it's gone it's gone and if he does once he'll do it again. But that's not true! People make mistakes, noone is perfect and we screw up sometimes, shouldn't we get a second chance? Some things really do only happen once. And that's where we have to decide whether or not the person deserves a second chance, depends on the situation I guess.

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong -Garfield

Azi, I guess it depends what are the reasons...how long it has been since the person left...did i get over it or not yet...

If you're looking for a problem, you're probably gonna find one.

if you love someone so much you will have to let go when the time comes. love isnt abt forcing love is abt seeing the other person happy as well. the only way you can love someone is loving yrself first.

life's too short so make the most of it, you only live but once.......

Naks! very romantic ang dating ah! but true! follow your heart is the best thing to do. because we only live once and you might as well enjoy being in love! Oh diva?

It's great to be loved!

if I'm still stupid..yes why not?

but if I don't get his reasons then I just have to move on with my life..right?

我听见 我忘记; 我看见 我记住; 我做 我了解。

You can't understand until you walk a mile in someone else's shoes.

if u love someone never let her/him go...

follow what your heart says.....just be true to yourself and u'll be happy..love needs no advise..love has its own way of deciding...u cant tell your heart what to do...love can conquer all...

Maybe no marriage neither.

The Red Pope of Qatar Living

So there's a limit of how many woman they can marry?

I asked you because, my Grand Mother left my Grand father, as far as I remember there's no divorce involvement. maybe there's no divorce in 40's?

And sorry to ask again, if it is not too much , just out of curiousity what is talaq and khula means?

It's great to be loved!

Mystica you said:

After all you're a Filipina you've got a soft heart,

We should be saying, any woman with a heart of interest and intelligence...

LOL

Cornellian you said:

If he left without a word, I would at least listen to his explanation of why he did what he did, u never know. After listening to what he has to say, I would decide. Everyone deserves a chance.

I would not waste my time listen to your excuses, is just to boring and full repetitious rhetorics. You must have a big mouth and very very small ear drums...

The Red Pope of Qatar Living

Muslim has divorce? I'm not sure with Filipino Muslim though! I have to ask Apple about that. because my Grand Father was converted to Muslim during his time. he has 4 wives but never divorce any of them! :)

And for Matty I'm not sure if he mess with his woman, she will take him back neither! kidding! Matty.

It's great to be loved!

It's just I like to know for sure where I stand in a relationship - if the one to tell me is the boyfriend's wife, then so be it! :D

Actually, I unwittingly saved a marriage by doing just that - I KNEW the couple very well and he had an affair which was about to split the marriage up. I rang 'the other woman' and asked her if she knew her 'new man' was calling his wife daily to check if she was OK.

That was about 20 years ago and my friends are still together.

The 'other woman' was livid! hahahahahaha

It just went further and further, I think the man is single the last time I heard from her and wanting to marry her as a promise in my understanding, meaning he is SINGLE! only some answers get carried away and I mentioned one of my friend who is married but having trouble with her American husband. etc. etc. etc.

That's all!

It's great to be loved!

you are indeed ... I probably would do the same if i am in the dumpee shoes.

Or are we talking about one of the people involved being married already.

I think this makes quite a BIG difference.

If it's two single people then I guess from past experience this would mean that the relationship is over, unless of course one of them chases hard to get the other back.

Sounds to me more like the dumper is married and so has the high ground. Best of both worlds. Dumpee either does a 'fatal attraction - boil the bunny' job or retreats quietly. IF, on the other hand, the dumper tries to kick start the relationship again then I'd be very wary (unless I was prepared to live life on the edge for ever) and my first action would be to call his wife to confirm the situation.

Strident little monkey, ain't I. But I truly would do that.

And what the heck he's advising woman here for anyway? I have no ambition to be a spokewoman. NEVER!

For us liberated means is a modern attitude of having boyfriend left and right! ayayay! in other words playgirl! Divorced? maybe they are married to a foreigner in their country! because in Philippines we only have annulment and it takes half of your life to get rid of someone and that is what we can called bad relationship. You want to get rid of somebody but you can't easily do it without paying a lot of money for an attorney. my Autie spend lots of money before she managed to get rid of her Ex and marry her Japanese husband. It's not that easy in Philippines to get divorce.

It's great to be loved!

Asking a chance from you? NEVER! you're full of anger, the way you express yourself! It's always easy to say, you will not forgive and forget whatever this man did to you, but it's difficult to do it if you still have feelings towards him, unless he really messes up with you, like cheat on you with another woman and you caught him on the act, FYI, Filipina are not that liberated, we don't believe in not giving people another chance and we don't easily believe in divorce neither, everyone has their own point of view. after all who could make her happy? she has to decide and it's not for you to decide, we are only here to give advice and it depends on her which advice she's going to take. end of story.

It's great to be loved!

Thats why my post has to be repeated for the 3rd time........

""You only get one chance with me, regarding trust. End of story!!

Give as many chances as you like......they'll only be one set of tears.

Humanity is simply a parade of fools....and im right at the front twirling the biggest baton anyones ever seen.

Some man wants to think carefully first, if they are sure about their feelings with the woman they are involve with, before getting any further to the next step, which is to marry her. Unless she has moved on and involve with someone else, then it's more difficult for her to decide to take him back, but if she asking for an advice what is the best thing to do! that means she's still confused and still trying to find in her heart if she still love him. sometimes things happen for reason. As I said in the end she's the only one who can solve her own problem.

He's still lucky he didn't mess up with Scarlett, otherwise before he decided to come back, she's on her way to hunt him down and shoot him!

It's great to be loved!

If it's not severe mental or physical illness that prevents you from picking up the phone.......bye bye

I repeat.

"You only get one chance with me, regarding trust. End of story!!

Humanity is simply a parade of fools....and im right at the front twirling the biggest baton anyones ever seen.

where I come from..its

If you love someone, set them free, if they come back to you, they really loved you, if they don't, then hunt them down and shoot them! (just kidding!)

personally, I think I would listen to their story, then tell them how much you have moved on and are now enjoying your OWN life without them. A leopard can't change his/her spots, and it will happen again...and again...and again...as long as you allow it to happen to you. Your happiness is totally in your own hands and only YOU can allow yourself to be hurt again.

"They said if you love someone set the free, and if they come back again in the end it was meant to be." Sorry! off hands, I don't know the title of the song. listen to his explanation and try to balance it in your heart if you can take him back again, then voila! it doesn't matter what other people will say and think about you if you will take him back, if that's what you worried about. After all they can't make you happy as your love one. What is important is you have someone to tell you "You are the love of my life" naks oh! ayan puro kanta yan ha! kulang ka lang sa pakikinig ng mga love song para ma feel mo kung love mo pa rin s'ya.

It's great to be loved!

If he left without a word, I would atleast listen to his explanation of why he did what he did, u never know. After listening to what he has to say, I would decide. Everyone deserves a chance.

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong -Garfield

Most woman's decisions are the same aggressive and not willing to give man any chance. I haven't experience the trouble you say, but our recent friend has similar trouble with her American hubby at first she's a bit stubborn, but when she told us honestly that she still love him, we advised her to take him back now they are happy again. It's all depends on how you feel and if you're willing to take him back. Who knows? it may work for the second time around. After all you're a Filipina you've got a soft heart, and we don't really believe in destroying the relationship just like that without making an effort to mend it back, Faith is coming your way again. You do not need any advice! you know the answer yourself.

It's great to be loved!

why not listen to him first?? maybe he/she have a reason..??

(a reason that even he cannot explain...)

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also if you are iphone user, check this forum:

http://www.qatarliving.com/node/44597#comment-250429

Before i go, my answer...I'd take him back. because i believe that a person whom i have loved and 'known' would have good reasons for sudden disappearances. I would have of course went on with my life though...and not stopped and 'rusted' along the way....nit' folks!

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One of the hardest things for us to do in our human nature is to just stop what we are doing to allow God to produce in us what only He can produce.

thats long time, i was thinking you going back to Doha before me.

"azilana7037 said It's just a "hypothetical"question... ...

i just thought of it as I am reading the book "EX and the City" by Alexandra Heminsley".

So it's a general question about life?

Novi? I hope to be back by end of Jan.

if i were the dumpee, i will not take him back. He disappear once, he will do it twice and so on.

He probably disappear from the said dumpee to go back to his wife/ex ... but the wife/ex found out about the dumpee and dumped him. Thats explain why he want to go back to the dumpee.

hope that helps

multiple personalities disorder come to mind alexa

we only have for a day last friday. And now just freezing cold outside. Going back to Doha on wed ... when will you go back?

"Luca, alam ko maiintintindihan mo eto. Kung ano mang problema mo sa buhay huwag kang magkalat dito sa QL at gumawa ng gulo at mandamay ng ibang tao nakakaperhuwisyo ka na sa mga Pinoy sa katarantaduhan mo! Wala kang karapatang manlait kung anong itsura ng isang tao ng hindi mo pa kilala at nakikita at baka mas pangit ka at mukhang bading kayo ng maid mo!!!

> P/S: To ALL my kabayans here...wag nyo pansinin ang ipis na yan! kayo lang ang magmumukhang tanga pag pinatulan nyo yan."

I asked someone to translate it for me and I was given the politer version which basically said 'get lost you nasty little person' :D

but not seen any where we are in England. I think maybe you have though?

jauntie ... do you get any snow?

all is OK thank you - just a few things to deal with here, like a leaking roof! (on the house I mean!) lol

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Nasty foul mouthed little hornet. I think we need Apple to come in and give 'it' a piece of her mind again ;D

why are you cussing around young girl? ain't mummy around?....i've been naughty too. but only when mummy wasn't around. and she never was around ;D

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One of the hardest things for us to do in our human nature is to just stop what we are doing to allow God to produce in us what only He can produce.

Youve got problems and it doesnt start with your txt msg English.

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Humanity is simply a parade of fools....and im right at the front twirling the biggest baton anyones ever seen.

meanin i dunno any 1 hir. ok gud nite b4 dat old fat maggots col ma mum n say i've been noty again. bwahahahahahah...............

she isnt really

GUD NITE. ok it's jazz dis old lady s bossing ol pipol. she tink she's d best. me tink she's the worst old fat american maggots. bwahahahaha.......

one doubt..iam just wondering

r u sarah of that johnd.k?

camille says> "i no hav budy hir" from what I understand, are you sure camille that you have no body hairs?

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One of the hardest things for us to do in our human nature is to just stop what we are doing to allow God to produce in us what only He can produce.

tru u hang out w a hore jazz layk u bwahahhahahah......

go and sleeeeeeeeeeeeep

u got skool!

dis pics s especially 4 u. copyright from MR PAUL. u old lady tink ur d best duh! fook u. bwahahhaha......

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Ignore that person for the rest of your life. If theres any way he could have contacted you and didnt?....(Seeya wouldnt want to be ya!)

Im a rational guy, who likes to see the best in people, however the trust issue is a biggy. You only get one chance with me, regarding trust. End of story!!

Humanity is simply a parade of fools....and im right at the front twirling the biggest baton anyones ever seen.

hello..skool girl...cant u c others too huh..

wiil talk 2 u again 2morow. am off 2 bed. got to go to school 2morow. nite.

but it was too late, i was already engaged to be married to another guy. wasn't it the perfect revenge? hehehe...

there is this saying, "never ride a horse that throw you off the first time...", it's called DIGNITY. :)

is he trying to "rebound"? what could be the reason he came back with his tail between his legs???

but it's still up to you. be careful though, this person is capable of dumping/hurting you (ouch! hearts are fragile :( ).. is it worth trusting him again?

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i think there would be a sense of insecurity for the rest of your relationship. You may keep wondering the same each time he delays in letting u know he is held up for what so ever. This, I think strains both. I would suggest pull ur threads together and stay away.

If a door is closed, a window opens somewhere. Just look for it...

been marooned on an island or have a severe bout of amnesia for not calling. Thats not the point.

The point is if u go back be prepared it may repeat again.

Find new horizons

sum1 hacked it n i dunno d password lol

what happened to ur old acc - blocked or wat?

dis s not hypothetical question she's been dumped. b-coz she welcum everi body so d boyfrend gone off w sum1 else. lol. it may not b tru wut shé sayin. it's ol imagination. bwahahahaha.............

u tokin 2 me? azia s d 1 hu has problem hir not me. lol

n u r rite it is me. lol.

I will say no.

Remember when tom hanks reappear in the movie after he was in the island for more a long period, I forget how many years. His girlfriend was already married with children's. and she did not take him back. Of course there was order circumstances but. The past is the past.

The Venezuelan Sensation!!!

meaning you r loser f sum1 dump u. quit drama lady. never mind take him back ur gud 4 left over aniway. u r left over too rite?.

you don't have to be in a coma for not calling sintrio, you could have been kidnapped..LOL _______________________________________________________________

One of the hardest things for us to do in our human nature is to just stop what we are doing to allow God to produce in us what only He can produce.

i remember the same avatar wid another name

what happened to ur old account

he /she gives for disappearing. Althoulgh it is difficult to imagine any place in todays world from where u cannot call.....until unless u were in coma!!!!

i just thought of it as I am reading the book "EX and the City" by Alexandra Heminsley.

The true measure of an individual is how he treats a person who can do him absolutely no good. - ANN LANDERS