Which Is Important?Money?Status? Or Relationship?
My heartly Thanks to all lovely QL members who has been very supportive and caring while responding to my previous postings and clarifications.Hope some of you may have found my todays posting “What Means Friendship”,Now I would like to share the reason why I posted this forum and I still don’t understand the real meaning of friendship and relationship.
I saw my very old female college mate recently at City Centre and we recognized eachother at first sight.She was with some friends there and we took a cup of coffee discussing our nature of work in Qatar.She was proud to introduce herself as Qatar Airways employee with 5 digit salary enjoying life in Qatar so much.When it was my turn to say that I work for an Oil and Gas company with a minimum of 4 digit salary,She started to hurry up to go with her friends after exchanging mobile numbers.Later the next day I called her up to say hai because I am thrilled to see my classmate with whom I used to go for movies,making fun of our teachers and learn smoking hiding under college trees.We used to do combine studies in my house and also hers and sometimes sleep in one room (Hey!Without any Evil thinking).We a group of 3 boys and 2 girls were always a big hit in our college and people see us with love and respect.
Things has completely changed,She really forgot our friendship for money and status which she has now.She feels I am low paid worker in Qatar.She forgot that I am more qualified than her academically and one among the best in my class,She forgot how much I strained myself to teach her some subjects in which I was bright,She forgot how I loved my friends and cared for them.So,That is the reason I am asking what friendship really means?Why women are so picky at later stage of life while choosing her friend or men?Why women don’t see a mans feelings and his affection for others.
Hey!QL Members I am really confused,frustrated,sad and feel that I have become a uncapable man in life to maintain a relationship.Money,work status,living status,religion,race and everything has become more important for women than true feelings and personal qualification.Its always better to stay single,live in ones own world rather than getting hurted by one you love.What do you people think about this?Please do be frank in your writings.Thank you.
Money, Status, Power will not give you same happiness when you have someone to love and be loved.
Everybody is right and Everybody is wrong, its depend where you stand
Money--> Status---> Power--> Authority---> Responsibility--> Relationship
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in front of you and you dont see it. We got through life meeting people, some of them bring us joy, some pain and some leave a light shining that we can remember them always.
It is not about looks, money or status in life. It is about what you do with that life, and what is in your heart. You sound sincere, but are you really? Maybe you have left hurt in someone's life that you don't care about. I remember a saying and I am sure you have heard it too: "WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND". What we do to each other that is not good always shows our upbringing and that maybe we don't care enough about ourselves to know what it means to hurt another person.
I am sorry that your old friend hurt you. Maybe her journey through life is not doing so good, maybe you did a hurtful thing to her that she remembers.
I have seen your posts about religion and one of the first things I learned in my "religion" and spiritual journey is to own up to what we do that is not pleasing in God's eyes. To believe in forgiveness. And my brother I forgive you.
Love is always dependent upon other's.
Why be dependent upon other's?
So only love yourself.
Nothing beats status and power. I have seen old guys with young girls. U can call it love. To me status and power is the thing that I desire.
Money means nothing as long as you have friendship and companionship, I believe too much money brings trouble.......though having said that I wouldn't turn down more money of course!
Sorry if I sounded sad but it's more a case of acceptance.....think about the hundreds of people you've met throughtout your life...some stay and some goes. I am thankful and have thanked those people for their time with me and how we've shared alot, even after they have gone but I focus on embracing those who ar ein my life at the moment...some include members of QL! How ,can that be sad??
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thats true...we have to deal when some people leave us especially those who means so much to us. but this is life. we are destined to meet other people too and make a difference in their lives. and there will be a time that we have to leave them too...
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
you sound sad...
yeah.. people come and go.. but some of them you forget easily..
others.. they are about to disappear from your life, but you don't want them to go.. never..this discrepancy cause the pain...
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Some people say that people come into your life for a reason...some are there for a short time, they need you and you learn from them as you help and teach or vice versa...others are part of your world for the longest time, again for some reason. Don't question why they have left your world, just appriecate that they were in your world and if they are to come back...they will. People come and go all the time, enjoy and move on.
I know its easy to say and harder to do......but isn't that why you posted in the first place...to hear others say?
Hope it gets easier!
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Spicemeup - Yeah, it confused me when I wrote it.
I don't believe it myself, but to post such a thread, he must already think so, hence i told him what he wanted to hear! LOL
Qatarisun
Talking to him is like talking to a woman on PMS/PMT. He seems to want to cry over everything!
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(No sexist comebacks please, that was a joke!)
why do you think she doesnt' want to see you?
and why do you think that she doesn't want to see you because of your low position?
.. ok. you called her, and then what? what happend? did she tell you that she forgot your frindship coz you are low paid or what?
why you assume such things? the same as you assume that all girls are picky just because one of them refused you.. nosense...
if your friend didn't pick up the phone, it means maybe she was busy, or sleeping, or taking shower or whatever..
i think QT is right.. you need to get some psychological help... once people don't answer the phone or don't want to go out with you at some particular day, you start thinking that they are agianst you....
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Money--> Status---> Power--> Authority---> Responsibility--> Relationship
OK. I may get stick for this but who cares...
Firstly, Money is important. If you don't have any or don't make enough, how can you survive yourself, never mind looking after your spouse or children.
Secondly, status comes with respect, and respect is earned through things you do (i.e. charity), achieve (i.e. work) and possibly say (i.e. standing up for what you believe in or standing up for your spouse)
Finally relationships, if you don't currently love and respect yourself how can you expect someone to love and respect you. hence, how can you hold a relationship?
They shouldn't be too important, but money and status does count, if only to demonstrate that you are striving to better yourself one way or another.
btw, if you are more qualified than your female friend, how is it that you earn less. is it because you can't be bothered to try and better yourself?
My post may sound a little harsh, and I apologise if I've upset you, but you seem a little too sensitive already for a man of your age.
Relationship is first, if a woman is more interested in how much money you make than in getting to know you - she is not worthy you. Status, who cares ?
Money is important- but should be none of her business at the moment. if you get in a relationship then of course it may be another business..
i think most important is relationship . with ur parents , bro n sis , ur girl friend ,ur relatives.
if u r sincere in ur relationship.
u will get a lot of love .by giving love n care .
but specially one think. relationship with ur girl friend is know become fake . Every body make girl friend 4 few days or 4 few months ................ n then another girl friend.
First, I’d like to say how sorry I am that your friend has
treated you so rudely. But I like to think this speaks more of her own
character than that of women at large. You seem to lump “women” into one category. You give us such little credit that I have to ask: is it any wonder you have so many problems with your relationships?
I don’t see how this post differs from your last, you are still asking:
Why women are so picky at later stage of life while choosing her friend or men?
Seems to me like you’re just sledging women because you weren’t “picked”. I’m not saying you are the problem and I’m not saying that women aren’t the problem… but maybe you should just consider this… just because a woman says “no” doesn’t make her picky.
Great ! You see one woman behave in a certain manner and base your assumptions on that. So what were you expecting her to do ? Put you on a pedestal and start worshipping you ...waiting for a proposal from you ? Tsk tsk, brother you are wrapped up in yourself.
Yes I understand that Kumar. Life is full of ups and downs. Sometimes we meet people and we, ourselves, have the best intentions. We are loyal and honest to our friends and those we love.. but sometimes those feelings are not reciprocated and it really hurts.
I once had a friend tell me.. "(my name), everyone will dissappoint you in this world. Your mother, father, brother, sister, friends, even yourself. The only person who will never dissapoint you is Allah!"
I write this as I have my own experience which is very painful....
"It is better to die with memories than to live with only dreams."
"Sometimes love is for a moment, sometimes love is for a lifetime.
Sometimes a moment is a lifetime!
Why are you so clingy!
you're either having a laugh at our expense, or you have some serious issues and need professional help!
My advice, get a hobby!! take some classes, do something that requires interaction with different people!
and stop being so clingy!
Yes that is what I think too kumar. No need seeking the worldly life and status and friends.
Cuz at the end of the day.. friendship is fickle and never guaranteed. The only guarentee is Allah's mercy, friendship, and loyalty.
these 3 factors have a certain amount of percentage in ones life and as for how much? that would depend on you perception on life..
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
I don't think all women are like that...
Ya just got to keep on trying...
You can't teach experience...
Genuine friend. This is the nature of life and people..
In english we call them very fickle.
Its something very wrong and we should love each other as we love ourselves. And never look down on another person and think we are better than others.
have you tried telling your friend how you feel. And maybe she has an excuse for her actions or didn't realize she was hurting your feelings.
At the end of the day.. it doesn't really matter though.. This life is so short and soon little things like this will hardly matter anymore. With every hardship comes relief, so struggle and be happy with the many blessings we have been given and have yet to be given.
MONEY & STATUS in my opinion can come and go but a true relationship lasts for ever.
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"It is better to die with memories than to live with only dreams."
"Sometimes love is for a moment, sometimes love is for a lifetime.
Sometimes a moment is a lifetime!
all 3 are important in its own way