women prefer rich husbands to well-paying jobs
More than ever, most Kenyan women are determined to bag a relationship partner who can improve their financial status.
“Women world over aspire to ‘marry up’ the social ladder. They prefer men who are better-educated and with more money, so who am I to go against nature? Give me a rich man any day!” says Rose, a newspaper editor.
Hellen, a city business lady, says no sane woman, including herself, would dare get married to a poor man.
“It’s a no brainier. Women want a man to compliment them. Of what use is a man if he can’t provide for and pamper his woman? Generally, women, in most cases, use marriage as an alternative or supplement to their employment. A man who is not financially stable should never get married,” says Hellen, adding that if she was to get married to a wealthy man, being a housewife is an option she would easily consider.
Keith Ogutu, a city resident, says women have increasingly become lazy and want shortcuts.
“They want ready-made husbands. They no longer appreciate procedures and hard work. When they are not running off with other women’s husbands they are fighting over rich boyfriends. They now hunt for men with resources, and once they get them, looking for employed, even if the jobs offer handsome salaries, will be the last thing on their minds,” says Ogutu.
This could apply to anywhere in the world..
So, what do you think ? Do women prefer to have rich husbands ?
all women like money and spending only love is secondary .....
And my Cuban shotputter couldn't marry me - for political reasons :O(
I marry only for political reasons. I want peace on earth.
Basically, marriage is honesty and trust between two people. It's an accumulation of deep love and understanding, faithfulness, patience and forgiveness to each other. It develops into a relation where neither partner can live without the other. It allows for the writing of one own's love story.
Money has very little role in a successful marriage.
we all marry for differing reasons. For many it is love. for others it is beauty or compatibility.
What is interesting here for me is that on the one hand , we have feminists screaming equality; Yet, many women are looking for a partner who can "provide" for them and make them comfortable in married life.
Yes brit but i n a different way
Men look for pretty women
Women look for rich men
This is mostly right (For sure there are other cases)
Sulieman: There are "abuses" from both sides and sadly many a time the innocent suffer needlessly. The law has to be applied fairly for all
If you take a monkey for his money, one day the money will go and you will end up with the monkey :O(
The moral is, smart and educated men have more chances to become rich if they were not already.
But stupid rich man can become poor very easily
So women have to choose wisely, money comes and goes, but beautiful minds are very hard to find
Sorry I meant on my first sentence: I DIDN'T SAY
Ajibaba: I did say you have to make certain salary to be condemned to be rendered useless. Also, this doesn't only apply to Qatar. What about people in Africa or Southeast Asia, men there can provide basics too right. Also, why are you only focusing on Arab women, how about the Chinese or Europeans Women, they all have different needs, no matter where you are from, you still need to provide the basics. For all I know, my wife makes more money and my mother who own the family business makes more than me. But I do contribute what I can to my wife and family, that makes me useful. When I mentioned and site examples of useless men, you can't even imagine it. There are men out there that don't take responsibility for their actions, lies through their teeth to get women and con them to marry them, ends up having kids with no money and being useless + jobless. These are the people in misery and women should avoid, as they can't even provide for themselves or their woman and children.
Hmmm, @Wild Turkey, call it human or man-kind, it's ''same-same''. Now I believe you already have your objection even before asking the quexstions. For avoidance of doubt, equality of right and obligations is also included in the meaning of what I first explained. Now, ''u're a woman, u're insulted and bereaved'', Allah has not said you should be insulted i the first place, nor be bereaved. He says: ;;u're all equal before Him'', and thus your rights should be upheld and maintained. Dont be confused: What people do is practically different from what Allah commands. So, if u feel insulted and misjudged at any time in the past, just know that people have gone against one of the rules of Allah.
And @Zackm wrote:: ''Why would a women marry a man who can't provide. A men should be able to provide at least the basic needs for women to consider them as their suitors''
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Did you recall to define what are the basic needs of women? If you think the basic needs are just food, housing, and clothing (which are basic to men), then you are wrong my dear. All needs of women are basic! It only depends on her social status. See, one of the basic needs of an Arab lady I know is to spend abt QAR.13,000 riyals every month on cosmetics. So, if an engineer on QAR 10,000 salary can not afford that, would you say he's useless to the society? And in the original post, the ladies were quoted saying ''they want richer men or boyfriend'', so no need to be saying ''women needs dont have to be money''. The ladies already emphasized MONEY! So, in short, affordability of material needs is NOT the only pre-requisite for marriage among men & women.
Mankind or human kind. Each member of this species should be equal when it comes to rights and obligations. However, that's not the case. We are all humans. As a woman I would be insulted and feel bereaved. Thank God, I am not a woman.
Starting with @Wild Turkey, ''All are equal before Allah?'' (though that is not the complete statement) The equality over there refers to that of mankind irrespective of their social, medical or demographic status. In the sight of Allah, we all are delivered by pregnant women whom we call mothers, we all bleed red blood, we all eat, sleep and defeacate, we all cry and laugh, and as such, it doesnt matter if if you sleep in mansions or cave, you are equal in sight of Allah. By estension, it means that ''before Allah, American is not superior to Asians nor to Africans. It means being Warren Buffet is not superior to the blue-collar workers in the sight of Allah, it means if we are this equal, we are all entitled to mutual respect, love, care, honour, etc from each other, etc.
How does that go with the Islamic idea that 'all are equal before Allah'? Do you you care to explain it to me?
As I said Wild Turkey, someone has gone great lengths to put equality concept in our minds, in bigger picture there is no such thing. There is nothing to take away, nor degrading anyone. It is just fact of life living in this cruel world, with needs and want. We can all continue living with equality concept in our minds or keep the fight on to survive this harsh world of ours.
The same applies to children equally. They all should be granted the 'Human Rights'. Unfortunately that's not the case in this world.
Equality has a different meaning, zackm. It refers to rights and obligations and not to physical or mental equality. Humans should all have equal rights. If you take some away from them you degrade them.
Dear Brity: It is nature, all women have needs, doesn't have to be always money, but we all know that they expect their needs to be satisfied by us men. But if a man cannot fulfill those needs or be useful then why would the women go for these men. This goes back to evolution and Darwin: survival of the fittest. Personally I don't believe in equality, even though I wish it to happen someday. The concept and idea is all politically motivated and organizations use it as a sham to keep everyone in line. Just a piece of mind that equality exist or relevant policies are in place are to keep everyone in their place and not panic or worry about. In reality we all know that equality doesn't exist... or our world will be a divine Utopia with the needs and wants. So going back, I think all men need to be able to provide the basic needs for their women and family. If not, they are useless. harsh to say it again, in this tough world we men, all need to be useful, putting equality aside.
We know that from the beginning of time all women are basically prostitutes. Even nowadays this hasn't changed. Men always pay!
zackm: With "equality" being the order of the day. Is it right that bwomen should expect men to look after them. ?
it seems they want to have their cake and eat it.
Why would a women marry a man who can't provide. A men should be able to provide at least the basic needs for women to consider them as their suitors. What use is a man too anyone, if he can't do anything to help himself or other. I know such man, and I know they married their girlfriends in false pretense and ended up with divorce, misery and no money. Some of them are in worse situation, because they have kids and now they are looking to hand out from family. So...don't be a useless man, contribute to the society and live up to the expectations of your family and for your future wife and kids.