Worried

Wise wise words:-)

Thank you sooooooo much!

And as you will see from my last post you are so right!

He's my baby and it's hard to let go to the last baby bird.

I love this from the Prophet by Kahlil Gibran and I guess I should take notice of it!

On Children

Kahlil Gibran

Your children are not your children.

They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.

They come through you but not from you,

And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,

For they have their own thoughts.

You may house their bodies but not their souls,

For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,

which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

You may strive to be like them,

but seek not to make them like you.

For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children

as living arrows are sent forth.

The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,

and He bends you with His might

that His arrows may go swift and far.

Let our bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;

For even as He loves the arrow that flies,

so He loves also the bow that is stable.

yes,me too i have kids.3 of them.so thats why i told you to trust him.my oldest is 21,then 20 and 14.believe me i had the same troubles and still have and if they are really in troubles they will tell me.but i cant worrie all the time about their issues.most of time i saw things to black and at the end it was...NOTHING.LOL.

*Create your own destiny,fighting against your dark sides,raise your

spirituality.Every day is a new day.A new life.

Keep the faith!*

Do you have kids? I do trust him but that doesn't mean I'm not worried about him if I think he's in trouble.

Anyway....you were right, it was nothing really. I just found out from his friend what it was!

He used the bus without paying for a ticket and got a £20 fine! He didn't want to tell me as we don't have much money and he didn't want to worry me about it. so he borrowed the money off his friend to pay it.

Sorry to have bothered you all with it, but I really was worried sick. Just being an over protective mum.

Peace Khadija x

I remember back in my teens when my mother reads all my mails before i can get my hands on them. Unluckily for me, if she doesn't like the letters, I won't get them and I will be verbally reprimanded (a sudden cuff in the ear most of the times).

So, when I started working, all my mails go to my office's mailing address. But my mom didn't stop there. She checks my bag and gets hold of whatever she can confront me with...lol

Don't get me wrong...i love my mom. But I just wished she would trust me take care, decide for myself and be an adult.

In your son's case...I feel HE LOVES YOU SO MUCH that he son't want you to worry (like you're worrying now). He's your young man in the house and he wants you to trust him. He wants to try and "sort" it out on his own.

Shall we say, "he's trying to spread his wings and learning to fly on his own"? And like a young bird, he will fly but not too far from home because he knows he's not that strong enough on his own, and he needs you there to guide him.

It's hard I know...Imagine me trying to maintain that connection with a 16 year old girl oceans away. I'm a mother too...I know how it feels. Your son is a good boy with a good head in his shoulders and all thanks to you, his mother.

So, bless your heart!

It is not enough to do your best; you must know what to do and THEN do your best.-W. Edwards Deming

so why you dont trust him?When he sais it is nothing then maybe really it is nothing?So why to make a big story because of NOTHING?Try to calm down and relax and dont try his best friend.Your son will be verry disapointed then.Or are you happy if you share something with your verry best friend and she or he is going to talk about it to another without your permission?

*Create your own destiny,fighting against your dark sides,raise your

spirituality.Every day is a new day.A new life.

Keep the faith!*

I did search everywhere for the letter while he was in the shower. I found the envelope in the bin but can't find the letter.

He doesn't drive so it's not a parking ticket.

I've asked him everything....under age sex....which he laughed at and said he's a virgin.....under age drinking....nope, smoking in a no smoking place...no. Trespassing, shoplifting, drugs......no no no.

He just laughs at everything I suggest and tells me to stop worrying as it's 'sorted now'. and what's the point of worrying.

I told him I'll get it out of his best friend later, and he said....no you won't. so I said OK unless one of you tell me you are grounded and Jamie can't stay over any more. So he said he couldn't believe I'd resort to blackmail!

GRRRRRRR

He's such a lovely boy I just can't imagine what it can be, and he usually confides in me about everything.

Well I'll try his friend later! I suppose if it is 'sorted' I can stop worrying, but I'd like to know all the same!

Thanks for letting me get it off my chest here anyway.

he's still under your roof and a minor, so find the letter and see what is the problem. If he won't talk to you about it then chances are its something not quite right and he's scared of repercussions from you and the law.

I don't advocate searching a child's room just for no reason other than being nosey but this is quite different...and its to keep him safe...go hunting...

Hopefully like jasskat says it is a speeding ticket.

And I know invading his privacy is bad, but sometimes it is a must.

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If you are so worried, go and try to find this letter.

Tell your son you know something is wrong, and get him to tell you what happened.

If you still cannot find out anything, try and get your other son to let you know what is going on, or have him get K to tell you.

Good luck, and hopefully it is something like a parking ticket!

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