dear frnd, i agree with u . bcoz marriage is a mutual understanding /w a persons . if they cudnt adjust thoer drawbacks the result will fail. so love or arrange marriage whtever it s , understanding , trust and flexibility and family (family background has a roll in marriage )this things shud be there
dear frnd, i agree with u . bcoz marriage is a mutual understanding /w a persons . if they cudnt adjust thoer drawbacks the result will fail. so love or arrange marriage whtever it s , understanding , trust and flexibility and family (family background has a roll in marriage )this things shud be there
I too on the same boat..Mine was actually net cum love cum arrange...And TOUCHWOOD !!! i m happily married for last 6yrs..I don't think u can differentiate marriage on the basis of love or arrange...Marriage is an ever lasting relation where it involves utmost honesty, compatibility, affection and lots of mutual understanding..Both the spouse shld understand each other well in their ups n downs..And yes, i believe in giving space at one point of time where its needed..
rein said "in some arranged marriage, the process of falling in love can be seen, but backwards."
True - in many of the arranged marriages, you mean. Some of my friends in arranged marriages are very happy - because it was commitment and responsibility first and foremost - which held the marriage together through the years despite the difficulties and challenges and on and off waning feelings etc.
britexpat said "If love marriages are better , then why i there such a high divorce rate?"
- Correct. Rishimba explained it well -
rishimba said "...in a conservative society, arranges marriages do not break so easily, owing to social and family pressures.."
But it's because of these pressures or if the parties are mature enough individuals to delay self gratification - long enough to stop and think - most of the time, that makes all the difference in sticking it out through thick and thin.
ideally, love and trust should bind a marriage, but when it doesnt, the relationship tends to become a burden.
failures are there in both, however, in a conservative society, arranges marriages do not break so easily, owing to social and family pressures..but that doesnt mean that they are more successful in the true sense.
Ahmed and Wa-il are two friends and later on Wa-il told Ahmed that the wife of the Mosque Imam (Imam is the person who we pray after him in the Mosque) wants to speak to me so Ahmed can you please chat with the Imam after the pray and at this time I can see what does the Imam wife wants? Ahmed said sure, and Ahmed started chatting with the Imam after the pray and Wa-il started going to the Imam wife and remained like this for days.
Ahmed became more honest and was affected by the Imam speach with him after each pray and then Ahmed decided to convince and say the truth to the Imam.
Ahmed said to the Imam I want to tell you that I was chatting with you not to know more on my religion but I was chatting with you to allow my friend Wa-il to date your wife and spend time with her.
The Imam said but I am not Married !!!
Ahmed was shocked.
Guys do you know who was Wa-il dating?
He was dating Ahmeds wife !!!
The Morale of the story is that if you hepl some one doing wrong and bad things then this person will betrayd you and throw your trust in him in the Garbage.
AS britexpat said love marriage or arrange marriage both need a lot of commitment from both partners to make it work . they work differently for different people
arranged or love marriage is not really that important. what i need to do is to salute boston and sandeep. sand is looking for ways to break up with his gf, while boston was asking help how to break up with his bf, lol. probably, they foresee this failure things of marriage.
for business or not. I am just asking if they can be considered as arranged marriages websites or not, no matter if they were for business as well or not.
Why to be considered as arranged marriage website? because couple view each other profiles, and chat and get to know more info, then they decide to meet and might marry
to love and be loved is like feeling the heaven... marrying or to get married is like reaching the door of heaven.. but to enter or to leave is the question...
feels Live in relationship is better to understand each other expectations, family, traditions, values prior entering into marriage?
Aren't we discussing marriage systems or life of a woman or single woman after divorce?
Let me admit that the life of single woman after divorce is worst in our society.....nobody else but WE ourselves are responsible for this status.
It calls for financial and emotional support, which could be achieved by buidling a Community Social Trust and a marriage bureau to ensure that these young females get remarry.
today unfortunateley some people arrange some marriages for business.
In a Kuwaitee TV series a girl who was going to get married after two days got a car accident and she lost her ability to see (blind).
Her husband divorced her once he knew she can not see, and his father blamed him and said you what did you do idiot? Do you know that now we lost the chance our share holders?
The family of the girl has 51 % of the company shares.
Soooooooooooo Saaaaaaaaaaaad for such marriages and selfish husband.
the tree grows if the seed is found and planted and water with good water.
The engagement period is important so both couples can know each othere and understand each other thinking, here in Qatar the engagement period is between 4 - 6 month whereas in Eygypt it can be two or four years.
LOVE MARRIAGE = ARRANGE MARRIAGE but both have one major difference which is:
Love Marriage: Here both male & female (mad in love) will get married without verifying other aspects of marriage like family background,traditions, family's values etc. They will get married BLINDLY but with the problems emerging later on they will fight with eachother for such differences and end result sadly "DIVORCE"
Arrange Marriage: Parents/Elders of both genders will see eachother's family backgounds, bridegroom's bank balance, his qualification, Status in Society,how much dowry will be provided by girl's family etc but none of them ask both gender's about their wishes or desires. Well end result, they get tensed & surprised on every new discovery about eachother's family background or real intentions and end up again sadly in "DIVORCE"
Conclusion: In both cases, my thought is that both girl & boy firsly must love, give space to eachother,understand,respect eachother and then look after their family's values. They must forget everybody else and concenterate on their new lives. They must know that their elders have spent major portion of their lives with their style & rules now its their children's time to spent their time in their own way. Only in this manner there marriage can survive. If both of them are sensitive/possessive towards their own family without giving valuable time to eachother then definetly It will end up in "DIVORCE".
it entirely depends on the social set up of the country or the society we live in..
in societies where men and women are allowed to interact freely, without any raised eyebrows, and where the girls are raised at par with boys in terms of education and other rights, love marriages are probably better for the society.
in muslim countries or similar societies, arranged marriages are better, as otherwise, many would remain single throughout their lives if the parents dont get their sons or daughters married..
in short, the way of getting married is strongly interwoven with the social customs...and has to be looked at with reference to the culture, religion and traditions of the society in question.
Here the separation between man and woman is mainly by divorce, same also for most christians.
In the culture where there is no marriage, then there is only normal separation.
One reason why arranged marriages have a bigger success is because the parents of the husband knows the parents of the wife, and both parents has good social relations with each other so if there is something wrong with the husband then there is a big chance for fixing it, and the same is for the wife.
But this is not always the case, for example you can have three smart children and the fourth one is not as smart as them.
Parents can be good and children are bad.
Parents are bad and children bad as well.
Parents are good and children are good.
At the end it is the distiny of life, if the distiny was for them to stay to gather then they will stay with each other, otherwise no.
I think it depends on the people and how much you want to get married. Finding someone you love to marry isn't always easy and some men and women end up waiting a long time to find someone and that can be scary thinking that you'll never meet the right person, never have babies, etc. I think there's a lot of women in the West right now who are in their 30's (or 40's) and single who would jump at the chance of an arranged marriage.
On the other hand, there's probably a lot of women and men in arranged marriages who would jump at the chance at being able to find a love match.
It depends what you want and what's more important to you.
Arranged Marriage has requirements. Families of both sides have something to say with the desirable husband or wife. In love Marriage, the couples are the one deciding for themselves, and there are no requirements or whatsoever. They can marry anytime they want.
As far as I know, most of the times, both spouses have a period of time (3 months - 2 years) to get to know each other and hang out. If they don't fall in love or feel uncomfortable with each other, then they apart. As simple as that.
waqii ki farq painda we ... khair what ever it is if both are respecting and taking care each other and loyal to each other thats the most important thing in marriage .
You will notice on the earlier threads that those who says and believed that arranged marriage is better than a marriage with love are all Indians, that is because they are trapped into a very old tradition and beliefs. But at the end it is a successful marriage because their minds are set to be with their partner and as time passes by, LOVE will be developed but it will happen only if they will not face financial problem. So, all over these, a marriage considering the feeling (love) is better in most of the cases but also not all.
and completely discounted arranged marriages. That was before I came to Doha and met some friends and watched as their arranged marriages evolved into very successful, good marriages. Perspective and experience in life can help you see things differently. Living in the west all my life I would have never believed an arranged marriage to be a good thing. Having lived in Doha has opened my eyes.
I THINK IT DEPENDS ON US SOME PEOPLE FEEL comfortable with love marriage as its right becoz we can share every thoughts but in arrange marriage especially girls find difficulty to express their thoughts and feelings.LOVE MARRIAGE IS THE BEST
The type of marriage, whether arranged or love is immaterial. A marriage become succesfful and meanigful when two individuals, not necessarily from the same society or environment, make sincere commitments with eachother and strive for achieving desired objectives collectively for the rest of their lives. When there is no sign of commitments and both behave uncaringly .... Everything falls apart...
When you are courting a nice girl an hour seems like a second. When you sit on a red-hot cinder a second seems like an hour. That's relativity. - Albert Einstein
It does not matter whether it is love marriage or an arranged one.
What is important is the two individuals who intend to enter into marriage...whether they are willing to do what is required to make their union a success.
yeah reemahf,they really got disaapointed,but they have to face the truth that i`m not a kid anymore to follow them and no matter what i will always fight for my love...and now my mom and my husband are become bestfriends,they are really close to each other...i`m happy with my life now...
This topic proves my point in another forum on marriage, that puritanical thinking (which is what we are talking about)in terms of morals in general and marriage in particular is nothing better than diabolical cruelty. The idea that someone should spend their life with someone they neither love, cherish, feel affectionate towards nor show any inclination for love-making is totally corrupt, sickening and unnecessary. Such a proposition, in my opinion, can only come from religion. It is not 'good' to demand such a sacrifice from human beings. The fact is that wherever the Church is strong and influential they are demanding traditional laws and customs be enforced, even if such enforcement causes immense suffering and unnecessary misery. We do not have to live such a degraded life.
your family got disappointed im sure.. how did you handle it? they accepted the other guy(your husband now) when you told them that you are marrying him?
i agree with reemahf,love marriage for me...i remember my sister and my mom they have japanese friend and that guy wants to marry me and they liked that japanese guy to be my husband,but i refused them coz i don`t have any feelings for that guy,i warned them that if i`d married him and i`m not become happy with our relationship or didn`t becme successful,i will only put the blame on them.....and now,i made my right choice,i am happily married now with other guy bec there is love here in my heart for him,..
mostly, the arranged marriages of indians had lasted long than love marriages of some nationalities. but i still go for love of course. I just envy them
in love marriage ur expectations are very high but in arrange is ZERO.......LOVE or ARRANGE both are same if you have trust, believe, Sincerity and honesty but if not than arrange or love marriage,,,,nothing differnce like in punjabi...KII FARQ PAINDA WAY
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dear frnd, i agree with u . bcoz marriage is a mutual understanding /w a persons . if they cudnt adjust thoer drawbacks the result will fail. so love or arrange marriage whtever it s , understanding , trust and flexibility and family (family background has a roll in marriage )this things shud be there
dear frnd, i agree with u . bcoz marriage is a mutual understanding /w a persons . if they cudnt adjust thoer drawbacks the result will fail. so love or arrange marriage whtever it s , understanding , trust and flexibility and family (family background has a roll in marriage )this things shud be there
lolzz Ghazal .....
i vote for love,and arrange later,,u can freely select who you want to love or not.:)
Mine is arranged...
I started loving my unseen fiance secretly before marriage;)
love is beautifull...u should fall in love at least once in ur life....then arrange for ur marriage with the best choice.................
Arranged Marriage.
love marriage is better ...but should be agreed by both of their parents ..so love marriage will be changed to arrange marriage..:)
Arrange marriage is better than love marriage
Arrange marriage is better than love marriage... you should love after ur marriage...
Mine is Love & then Arranged Marriage:)
So im saved from *******
The point I was trying to make is that it's horses for courses. Neither is "better".
Both need hard work , adaptability and sacrifice to succeed.
I too on the same boat..Mine was actually net cum love cum arrange...And TOUCHWOOD !!! i m happily married for last 6yrs..I don't think u can differentiate marriage on the basis of love or arrange...Marriage is an ever lasting relation where it involves utmost honesty, compatibility, affection and lots of mutual understanding..Both the spouse shld understand each other well in their ups n downs..And yes, i believe in giving space at one point of time where its needed..
rein said "in some arranged marriage, the process of falling in love can be seen, but backwards."
True - in many of the arranged marriages, you mean. Some of my friends in arranged marriages are very happy - because it was commitment and responsibility first and foremost - which held the marriage together through the years despite the difficulties and challenges and on and off waning feelings etc.
britexpat said "If love marriages are better , then why i there such a high divorce rate?"
- Correct. Rishimba explained it well -
rishimba said "...in a conservative society, arranges marriages do not break so easily, owing to social and family pressures.."
But it's because of these pressures or if the parties are mature enough individuals to delay self gratification - long enough to stop and think - most of the time, that makes all the difference in sticking it out through thick and thin.
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The Cookie Monster said it.
ARRANGE MARRIAGE IS BETTER...
ideally, love and trust should bind a marriage, but when it doesnt, the relationship tends to become a burden.
failures are there in both, however, in a conservative society, arranges marriages do not break so easily, owing to social and family pressures..but that doesnt mean that they are more successful in the true sense.
Love marriage is a failure in most cases.
So, was yours a love marriage or a ********* marriage ?
Brite i guess u much experienced n dis:P
What's the difference ?
Coz those are not Love marriages those are ******* Marriages!
If love marriages are better , then why i there such a high divorce rate ?
Ahmed and Wa-il are two friends and later on Wa-il told Ahmed that the wife of the Mosque Imam (Imam is the person who we pray after him in the Mosque) wants to speak to me so Ahmed can you please chat with the Imam after the pray and at this time I can see what does the Imam wife wants? Ahmed said sure, and Ahmed started chatting with the Imam after the pray and Wa-il started going to the Imam wife and remained like this for days.
Ahmed became more honest and was affected by the Imam speach with him after each pray and then Ahmed decided to convince and say the truth to the Imam.
Ahmed said to the Imam I want to tell you that I was chatting with you not to know more on my religion but I was chatting with you to allow my friend Wa-il to date your wife and spend time with her.
The Imam said but I am not Married !!!
Ahmed was shocked.
Guys do you know who was Wa-il dating?
He was dating Ahmeds wife !!!
The Morale of the story is that if you hepl some one doing wrong and bad things then this person will betrayd you and throw your trust in him in the Garbage.
you're simply smart...i like your reasoning...
"there are no mistakes...just lessons learned"
Love Marriage is better dan Arranged as u understand each other better & its easy to spend your life happily:)
i guess Love Marriage is Better
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but ghazal baji it can be like love marriage agreed by both of their parents.
if i will have arrange marriage with bella from twilight. fine i'll take it. :D
DON'T LET FANTASY ROB YOU OF YOUR REAL LIFE BEAUTY
Arranged Marriage :)...You can pass the buck to your elders easily ;)
in some arranged marriage, the process of falling in love can be seen, but backwards.
it's like someone arranging trap for u or u traped by yourself
can someone arrange me a wife????
i keep looking at the irish harp but no takers as yet.
progression can you ever come up with original thoughts or can you just comment on others?
even after getting one at home and rest in each state where he tours :D
I agree to the concept of lets arrange a love marriage....
plant the seed and get it
i prefer for love marriage!
hahahahahahahahahahahahah
1. Forget the past and do not bring it up.
2. Stick to your responsibilities and commit to do it in your best.
3. Let the other side knows that he/she are the first priority in your life.
4. Do not be selfish.
AS britexpat said love marriage or arrange marriage both need a lot of commitment from both partners to make it work . they work differently for different people
you can lead a successful life if you have patience and you are willing to compromise.
Love marriage or arrange marriage does not matter because everything changes after marriage.
boston was asking how to break up with his bf? i knew it! lol
...listen to the sound of silence....
arranged or love marriage is not really that important. what i need to do is to salute boston and sandeep. sand is looking for ways to break up with his gf, while boston was asking help how to break up with his bf, lol. probably, they foresee this failure things of marriage.
progress
marry this girl or else....
Allowed if clearly defined with limitations..... ;)
for muslims not allowed
Can they do naughty things during the engagement ??
hmmm i think in both love or arrange marriage the couple should get engaged first to know each other better..then they can marry ..
n if engagment is broken its not a big thing.. atleast better then divorse..
Arranged Marriage - murder
Love Marriage - Sucide
ten ways to increase happiness in marriages life
http://english.islamway.com/bindex.php?section=article&id=218
please tell me what do you think?
When love marriage is not possible people go for arranged. Love marriage is everyone's desire, arranged is the need.
One bullet two birds
Daddy says arranged ^_^
"Think 100 times before you take a decision, But once that decision is taken, stand by it as one man" - Muhammad Ali Jinnah
arranged marriages from web sites has bigger failures.
These websites are considered to be arranged marriages websites.
for business or not. I am just asking if they can be considered as arranged marriages websites or not, no matter if they were for business as well or not.
Why to be considered as arranged marriage website? because couple view each other profiles, and chat and get to know more info, then they decide to meet and might marry
Believe me they do not care for happy life
Are they considered to be arranged marriages in case both parties got married?:)
Love Marriage is the Best One. I am realy unfurtunate in this matter.
Is that Mai Heaven from the Ramada ?
to love and be loved is like feeling the heaven... marrying or to get married is like reaching the door of heaven.. but to enter or to leave is the question...
Arranged marriage for kids and love marriage for grown ups of course!!!
feels Live in relationship is better to understand each other expectations, family, traditions, values prior entering into marriage?
Aren't we discussing marriage systems or life of a woman or single woman after divorce?
Let me admit that the life of single woman after divorce is worst in our society.....nobody else but WE ourselves are responsible for this status.
It calls for financial and emotional support, which could be achieved by buidling a Community Social Trust and a marriage bureau to ensure that these young females get remarry.
today unfortunateley some people arrange some marriages for business.
In a Kuwaitee TV series a girl who was going to get married after two days got a car accident and she lost her ability to see (blind).
Her husband divorced her once he knew she can not see, and his father blamed him and said you what did you do idiot? Do you know that now we lost the chance our share holders?
The family of the girl has 51 % of the company shares.
Soooooooooooo Saaaaaaaaaaaad for such marriages and selfish husband.
love is a tree which can grow
the tree grows if the seed is found and planted and water with good water.
The engagement period is important so both couples can know each othere and understand each other thinking, here in Qatar the engagement period is between 4 - 6 month whereas in Eygypt it can be two or four years.
LOVE MARRIAGE = ARRANGE MARRIAGE but both have one major difference which is:
Love Marriage: Here both male & female (mad in love) will get married without verifying other aspects of marriage like family background,traditions, family's values etc. They will get married BLINDLY but with the problems emerging later on they will fight with eachother for such differences and end result sadly "DIVORCE"
Arrange Marriage: Parents/Elders of both genders will see eachother's family backgounds, bridegroom's bank balance, his qualification, Status in Society,how much dowry will be provided by girl's family etc but none of them ask both gender's about their wishes or desires. Well end result, they get tensed & surprised on every new discovery about eachother's family background or real intentions and end up again sadly in "DIVORCE"
Conclusion: In both cases, my thought is that both girl & boy firsly must love, give space to eachother,understand,respect eachother and then look after their family's values. They must forget everybody else and concenterate on their new lives. They must know that their elders have spent major portion of their lives with their style & rules now its their children's time to spent their time in their own way. Only in this manner there marriage can survive. If both of them are sensitive/possessive towards their own family without giving valuable time to eachother then definetly It will end up in "DIVORCE".
britexpat..i agree with you..
it entirely depends on the social set up of the country or the society we live in..
in societies where men and women are allowed to interact freely, without any raised eyebrows, and where the girls are raised at par with boys in terms of education and other rights, love marriages are probably better for the society.
in muslim countries or similar societies, arranged marriages are better, as otherwise, many would remain single throughout their lives if the parents dont get their sons or daughters married..
in short, the way of getting married is strongly interwoven with the social customs...and has to be looked at with reference to the culture, religion and traditions of the society in question.
Arranged marriage looked successful because this is what its supposed to be... love marriage has ups & downs, which is normal...
brit expat.....you are the voice of reason
Here the separation between man and woman is mainly by divorce, same also for most christians.
In the culture where there is no marriage, then there is only normal separation.
One reason why arranged marriages have a bigger success is because the parents of the husband knows the parents of the wife, and both parents has good social relations with each other so if there is something wrong with the husband then there is a big chance for fixing it, and the same is for the wife.
But this is not always the case, for example you can have three smart children and the fourth one is not as smart as them.
Parents can be good and children are bad.
Parents are bad and children bad as well.
Parents are good and children are good.
At the end it is the distiny of life, if the distiny was for them to stay to gather then they will stay with each other, otherwise no.
my country doesnt have 1, but women in this situation do get by most of the time
...listen to the sound of silence....
more opportunity and time to explore and know a person in arranged marriage.
It is also to do with the fact that many of these countries do not have support mechanisms in place for divorced / single parent women..
sometimes, you only know who the enemy is after the pact has been signed
...listen to the sound of silence....
Khalid that may have more to do with the stigma attached to divorce in cultures that practice arranged marriages.
It was discovered that most divorce cases are found within the love marriages, and arranged marriages were the most successful.
I think it depends on the people and how much you want to get married. Finding someone you love to marry isn't always easy and some men and women end up waiting a long time to find someone and that can be scary thinking that you'll never meet the right person, never have babies, etc. I think there's a lot of women in the West right now who are in their 30's (or 40's) and single who would jump at the chance of an arranged marriage.
On the other hand, there's probably a lot of women and men in arranged marriages who would jump at the chance at being able to find a love match.
It depends what you want and what's more important to you.
May I suggest not using the words "pros" and "Cons" :O)
Both system of marriages have its pros and cons.....
It is always better to know your enemy before signing the pact ;)
Right! i agree
...listen to the sound of silence....
...and should be abolished immediately. They create experiences not worthy of any man or any woman for that matter.
Source:
- A study Conducted by FriedUnicorn - Vol I (September,1999)
Arranged Marriage has requirements. Families of both sides have something to say with the desirable husband or wife. In love Marriage, the couples are the one deciding for themselves, and there are no requirements or whatsoever. They can marry anytime they want.
As far as I know, most of the times, both spouses have a period of time (3 months - 2 years) to get to know each other and hang out. If they don't fall in love or feel uncomfortable with each other, then they apart. As simple as that.
Arranged marriages still occur all over the world. They are stil quite common amongst the royalty and rich families.
Both types of marriages have their good and bad points. Both can succeed or fail.
Both need lots of work to succeed.
waqii ki farq painda we ... khair what ever it is if both are respecting and taking care each other and loyal to each other thats the most important thing in marriage .
You will notice on the earlier threads that those who says and believed that arranged marriage is better than a marriage with love are all Indians, that is because they are trapped into a very old tradition and beliefs. But at the end it is a successful marriage because their minds are set to be with their partner and as time passes by, LOVE will be developed but it will happen only if they will not face financial problem. So, all over these, a marriage considering the feeling (love) is better in most of the cases but also not all.
Tiger's was a Love marriage..... Look what happened there. :O)
Wow!
and completely discounted arranged marriages. That was before I came to Doha and met some friends and watched as their arranged marriages evolved into very successful, good marriages. Perspective and experience in life can help you see things differently. Living in the west all my life I would have never believed an arranged marriage to be a good thing. Having lived in Doha has opened my eyes.
I THINK IT DEPENDS ON US SOME PEOPLE FEEL comfortable with love marriage as its right becoz we can share every thoughts but in arrange marriage especially girls find difficulty to express their thoughts and feelings.LOVE MARRIAGE IS THE BEST
you got it right! you rock !!!
you rock man!!!
if you like challenges,surperises and adventures then go for it.
Who do you have to live with: your family or your wife?
And who has to live with her: your family or you?
If it's "wife" and "you" then there is no question at all who makes the choice.
but many said parents know whats best for there children. its confusing right?
DON'T LET FANTASY ROB YOU OF YOUR REAL LIFE BEAUTY
I will prefer love marriage but I guess those who are doing arranged love marriage are the luckiest
Love marriage.
depends..both can be sucessfull or failed..but thats true..atleast u must have some feelings for the person you to getting married to..
arrange marriage is so shallow no room to find love..
The type of marriage, whether arranged or love is immaterial. A marriage become succesfful and meanigful when two individuals, not necessarily from the same society or environment, make sincere commitments with eachother and strive for achieving desired objectives collectively for the rest of their lives. When there is no sign of commitments and both behave uncaringly .... Everything falls apart...
Neither is better. Both are possible and both can succeed or fail.
I will have one of both..
When you are courting a nice girl an hour seems like a second. When you sit on a red-hot cinder a second seems like an hour. That's relativity. - Albert Einstein
It does not matter whether it is love marriage or an arranged one.
What is important is the two individuals who intend to enter into marriage...whether they are willing to do what is required to make their union a success.
no,it`s not reemahf,but my mom and my sister wants me to marry that japanese guy bec his parents is also a friend of my mom..
yeah reemahf,they really got disaapointed,but they have to face the truth that i`m not a kid anymore to follow them and no matter what i will always fight for my love...and now my mom and my husband are become bestfriends,they are really close to each other...i`m happy with my life now...
This topic proves my point in another forum on marriage, that puritanical thinking (which is what we are talking about)in terms of morals in general and marriage in particular is nothing better than diabolical cruelty. The idea that someone should spend their life with someone they neither love, cherish, feel affectionate towards nor show any inclination for love-making is totally corrupt, sickening and unnecessary. Such a proposition, in my opinion, can only come from religion. It is not 'good' to demand such a sacrifice from human beings. The fact is that wherever the Church is strong and influential they are demanding traditional laws and customs be enforced, even if such enforcement causes immense suffering and unnecessary misery. We do not have to live such a degraded life.
is that your family's tradition?
im so happy for you, you made it.. i wish my bf will do the same
your family got disappointed im sure.. how did you handle it? they accepted the other guy(your husband now) when you told them that you are marrying him?
i agree with reemahf,love marriage for me...i remember my sister and my mom they have japanese friend and that guy wants to marry me and they liked that japanese guy to be my husband,but i refused them coz i don`t have any feelings for that guy,i warned them that if i`d married him and i`m not become happy with our relationship or didn`t becme successful,i will only put the blame on them.....and now,i made my right choice,i am happily married now with other guy bec there is love here in my heart for him,..
if understanding & trust is there then Both can be sucessfull marriages
mostly, the arranged marriages of indians had lasted long than love marriages of some nationalities. but i still go for love of course. I just envy them
in love marriage ur expectations are very high but in arrange is ZERO.......LOVE or ARRANGE both are same if you have trust, believe, Sincerity and honesty but if not than arrange or love marriage,,,,nothing differnce like in punjabi...KII FARQ PAINDA WAY
Proud To Be A PAKISTANI
.~*AnteecA*~.
End of discussion: Arrange the Love Marraige...
---If you can't CONVINCE them, CONFUSE them!!!
End result is the same
how could you marry i person you dont love? you will not be the happiest person in the world on your wedding..
arranged marriage is good if you love the person you are marrying.. else, you will not be happy. its unfair if you dont have a choice
arrange marrige ofcourse......
SK
Arranged marriage is better than love marriage