for the whole week i think im so depressed thinking what have I done and why did i do those mistakes..?
maybe its time for me to wake up from this situation and start to move on ahead.. i need to.. i have to... coz no one can help me right now but only myself...
mmya tamang 4 shots lng yan ni Dr. V ok k na, makakatulog k na agad for sure...
You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving!!!
whatever it is that leads you to depression...don't let yourself immerse on it too much....continue to do all the things you want to do and be yourself...slowly but surely you'll get out of it because you are too happy...=D
phoeb's it happens for a reason. . . so next time be more sensitive to his feeling ok. and i hope its not the end of your love story otherwise welcome to the club and back to square one. hihihih peace. yallah take a rest.
take anti-stress formula vitamins, it helps to calm down your nervous system ,avoid black coffee, frizzy drinks, chocos,eat sunflower seeds, lots of fruits to cool you down...
"There's nothing we can do to change the past, if it teaches you a lesson profit from it then, forget it."
Yes Mandi u are right.. it was not a totally depression. its a combination of sadness that will lead to possible depression if i continue thinking of it.
But for now, as i keep reading all the posts.. i will not waste my time thinking of unnecessary things. ill treat the person same way as they are treating me. like what ishqia said dont give importance to the people whos also not giving u an importance.
i need to help myself now in dealing with my own sadness.. its all in my mind.. i also knew that the only permanent thing in this world is Change and then Pray..
Thanks to everyone! really appreciate all your posts.. it means a lot...
You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving!!!
Always keep ur mind & heart young. If there is a problem, speak up (Not if the truth wud kill u). And b bold, ur boss or the opposite person aint goin 2 eat u alive. Live by ur principles and live life to the fullest possible. "If at first u try and fail, take a break and try again".
medical advise if you cannot sleep anymore or you cannot do any normal tasks, prozac,efexor they are otc drugs here but again you need counselling before you get over it.
Phoebe, honey, it sounds like you don't have depression but that you are hurting over a relationship and those are two very different things with very different answers. Clinical depression is a chemical imbalance in your body that often requires medication. Suffering over a lost or disappointing love needs lots of time and good friends who will suffer with you as you tell them over and over again how badly you feel.
"you cannot love without giving" I had an experience in my life where I was depressed to the point that I lost 20 pounds in a short amount of time and was making myself ill. Luckily I was given a big responsibility in my church where I had to go visit others and see what I could do to help whatever situation they were facing. One girl I visited was 19 and had cancer. I began to see that others had bigger obtacles than me to face by far. I began to love bringing help and joy to others and worked hard at it. Once I lost myself in service to others, I found true happiness.
depression from happening, but you have to deal with it when it happens and stop it form taking over you.
You can feel all of a sudden that you are depressed because of the unknown. It could be sort of sad feeling, being uncomfortable, make you unable to even breath.
Try to have some good company, they would cheer you up when you feel down. They won't let you be sad and do nothing, they will try their best to get you out of it if they really care.
Stop looking for answers to the hundreds of questions in your mind, stop wondering what tomorrow would bring [what if tomorrow never comes?], try to be optimistic, stop thinking that bad things would only happen, don't be afraid to be alone it's sometimes good to be by yourself.
Always have in mind that God is there, pray asking for help, for peace of mind, for success and happiness.
Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment. (Gautama Buddha)
ishqia that words of wisdom from u helps me a lot to understand my feelings ryt now. like u.. im expecting too much from this person and i dont have the courage to tell it to him.. im just keeping it in myself.
until now he was asking me whats wrong but i cant tell him the truth.. im afraid to hear something from him that im not expecting to hear..
ill try to help myself, divert to somethings and be with my friends.
thank u all..!
You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving!!!
and i never had courage to tell what i expect, it used to be just within my heart,
and well, lack of fulfilment of these expectations used to cause me serious depression, i used to often pull my hair and sleep crying, i used to think all negative,
this would often lead to silly arguments between me and the person from whom i expect,
i wanted more attention, its not that he didnt used to give me, he himself didnt have the time for it,
i used to be often angry over myself for expecting so much,
i used to often compare him with others too,
but then he said to me that he cannot change, and the way he deals with me is his style,
well then i atlast came to this decision, not to consider him so much of extra importance, just talk and deal with him i would have treated any other person, and dont expect anything from him, and just dont care so much, and think positive,
the whole thing is inside ur brain,
my advice to u is if this depression to u is related to some person in ur life, then just dont think he is special, just find out other activities to keep ur thoughts busy, try to treat him the away he treats u, just to deal like a friend or a cousin, be cool and positive, just try to justify his act with a reason, or try to accept his nature and attitude whole heartedly,
in my case, i knew his emotions for me were true, but he is not a real show, specially when we live in seperate countries,
and alhamdulillah for me it really worked, i dont often cry now, sometimes i tend to ignore him, and its pleasant to see his concern, asking if i was busy, or so
when u keep ur expectations to the lowest, u will be more happy,
Its normal to have this feeling every one has it somewhere some express it and some dont. Some are able to overcome it some can not. Need constant support and patience to handle this situation.
Always its best to meet some good Psychiatrist explain the problem, they have various ways to analyze situation and advise you some medicines.Always think positive and try to see only positive side.
Avoid stress situations. Doctors give you medicines but most of it is meant to give you nice sleep so that the brain gets rest and balances by impriving positive tinking chemicals.
Have faith in yourself and be willing to overcome any worst situation.
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for the whole week i think im so depressed thinking what have I done and why did i do those mistakes..?
maybe its time for me to wake up from this situation and start to move on ahead.. i need to.. i have to... coz no one can help me right now but only myself...
mmya tamang 4 shots lng yan ni Dr. V ok k na, makakatulog k na agad for sure...
You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving!!!
people who care
Please don't underestimate the physical side of depression - good diet does make a big difference
Take good vitamin supplement with separate Omega 3 oils (best quality you can find)
Great book called 'potatoes not prozac' deals with this in detail, can't remember the author, but sure you can find on Amazon
Great thing is you are talking about the situation
This is picture is obviously NOT me, I don't smoke..
hi owen.. where and what time is the bowling? just PM me.. if ever.. ill try to come..
Thanks!
You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving!!!
Phoebe.. join us later, bowling might help you in some way to relieve you out of your depression.. :)
[img_assist|nid=12867|link=none|align=left|width=|height=0]Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.
Phoebe please dont listen to "careless whisper song it is depressing hahaha lol you know what i mean lol
whatever it is that leads you to depression...don't let yourself immerse on it too much....continue to do all the things you want to do and be yourself...slowly but surely you'll get out of it because you are too happy...=D
live life...stay happy...=D
Mitzzyy Mitz 2009
PROZAC? ... reminds me of soma "A gramme is better than a damn" - from "A brave new world"
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"The larger grows the island of my knowledge, the
longer stretch the shores of my ignorance."
read the book of "7 habits of highly effective people", if you haven't already
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"The larger grows the island of my knowledge, the
longer stretch the shores of my ignorance."
phoeb's it happens for a reason. . . so next time be more sensitive to his feeling ok. and i hope its not the end of your love story otherwise welcome to the club and back to square one. hihihih peace. yallah take a rest.
" In my opinion only. . . nothing personal"
take anti-stress formula vitamins, it helps to calm down your nervous system ,avoid black coffee, frizzy drinks, chocos,eat sunflower seeds, lots of fruits to cool you down...
"There's nothing we can do to change the past, if it teaches you a lesson profit from it then, forget it."
i cant sleep yet alyas .. its fine ill sleep later..
:-(
ur welcome po...
You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving!!!
phoebe... by the way.... thanks pala for your vote...
appreciated.... (sori sa hijack)
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plumkiwi is right... i think we need to sleep na for tomorrow...
there's always tomorrow remember.. huwag mawalan ng pag asa....
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phoebe.. just dont think of it too much...
whatever it is.. talagang ganon minsan...
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plum why it happened to me... i dont know what to do now... :-(
You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving!!!
phoebs take a sleep and try it again tom. . . . Good luck . .=)
" In my opinion only. . . nothing personal"
it didnt work.....:-(
You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving!!!
phoebe
Good Be Happy, Remember about Joy dont think about sadness,
U ll be happy always, Best of Luck
Jack Daniel's!
Yes Mandi u are right.. it was not a totally depression. its a combination of sadness that will lead to possible depression if i continue thinking of it.
But for now, as i keep reading all the posts.. i will not waste my time thinking of unnecessary things. ill treat the person same way as they are treating me. like what ishqia said dont give importance to the people whos also not giving u an importance.
i need to help myself now in dealing with my own sadness.. its all in my mind.. i also knew that the only permanent thing in this world is Change and then Pray..
Thanks to everyone! really appreciate all your posts.. it means a lot...
You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving!!!
I agree with
chinitasai08
Don't expect too much... Just enjoy what u have now...
Go out and meet friends...
and dont forget to fix your target by the mean time
Always keep ur mind & heart young. If there is a problem, speak up (Not if the truth wud kill u). And b bold, ur boss or the opposite person aint goin 2 eat u alive. Live by ur principles and live life to the fullest possible. "If at first u try and fail, take a break and try again".
Depression, how to prevent...
Well it starts with a healthy body and mind.
Most people think they have problems while 90% of the complaints are merely problems yet easily solvable issues.
People like to dwell in self-petty, and be the center of attention.
Whenever you feel down and depressed because of your life, work or such...
Go visit a Labor-camp. You'll quickly come to realize that you are not the unfortunate one.
medical advise if you cannot sleep anymore or you cannot do any normal tasks, prozac,efexor they are otc drugs here but again you need counselling before you get over it.
just learn to let go, no matter how hard it is to let go and remember that the only permanent thing in life is CHANGE & then PRAY
'SO DARK THE CON OF MAN'
Phoebe, honey, it sounds like you don't have depression but that you are hurting over a relationship and those are two very different things with very different answers. Clinical depression is a chemical imbalance in your body that often requires medication. Suffering over a lost or disappointing love needs lots of time and good friends who will suffer with you as you tell them over and over again how badly you feel.
Mandi
"you cannot love without giving" I had an experience in my life where I was depressed to the point that I lost 20 pounds in a short amount of time and was making myself ill. Luckily I was given a big responsibility in my church where I had to go visit others and see what I could do to help whatever situation they were facing. One girl I visited was 19 and had cancer. I began to see that others had bigger obtacles than me to face by far. I began to love bringing help and joy to others and worked hard at it. Once I lost myself in service to others, I found true happiness.
One word: PROZAC
phoeb, i'm in a funk myself..sigh.... why is it so hard to be happy sometimes?
usapa na...
phoebs when you get over with it . . ill treat you let me know . . . hihihi
and for you star you'll never be shining again if you do that.
" In my opinion only. . . nothing personal"
yes Star i have to do that...thank u...
plum.. when will u treat us then? ;-)
You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving!!!
gr8 phoeb, i m glad u understand what is the cause of ur depression, now try to solve it ur own way, try out all the possible options,
may allah help u
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depression from happening, but you have to deal with it when it happens and stop it form taking over you.
You can feel all of a sudden that you are depressed because of the unknown. It could be sort of sad feeling, being uncomfortable, make you unable to even breath.
Try to have some good company, they would cheer you up when you feel down. They won't let you be sad and do nothing, they will try their best to get you out of it if they really care.
Stop looking for answers to the hundreds of questions in your mind, stop wondering what tomorrow would bring [what if tomorrow never comes?], try to be optimistic, stop thinking that bad things would only happen, don't be afraid to be alone it's sometimes good to be by yourself.
Always have in mind that God is there, pray asking for help, for peace of mind, for success and happiness.
Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment. (Gautama Buddha)
You can't teach experience...
phoebs- i advice u to voice it out..
what are the odds?
u tell him, ure gonna find out what's been bugging u if he answers honestly...
u dont tell him, you'll only get your depression worse and suffer more...
whatever you're going through, u should always discuss it with the one involved...
let it out, only then can u have peace of mind...
but don't expect anything... weigh your options...
and plum, yeah i'll treat u... badly! LOL! jk... ;P
haayzzzzzzzzz im feeling depressed also just now. phobes you got my no. ok give me a ring i'll join you. then star will treat us. huhuhuhuhuhu
" In my opinion only. . . nothing personal"
ishqia that words of wisdom from u helps me a lot to understand my feelings ryt now. like u.. im expecting too much from this person and i dont have the courage to tell it to him.. im just keeping it in myself.
until now he was asking me whats wrong but i cant tell him the truth.. im afraid to hear something from him that im not expecting to hear..
ill try to help myself, divert to somethings and be with my friends.
thank u all..!
You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving!!!
phoeb,
its basically like this,
i just had too much expectations from some one,
and i never had courage to tell what i expect, it used to be just within my heart,
and well, lack of fulfilment of these expectations used to cause me serious depression, i used to often pull my hair and sleep crying, i used to think all negative,
this would often lead to silly arguments between me and the person from whom i expect,
i wanted more attention, its not that he didnt used to give me, he himself didnt have the time for it,
i used to be often angry over myself for expecting so much,
i used to often compare him with others too,
but then he said to me that he cannot change, and the way he deals with me is his style,
well then i atlast came to this decision, not to consider him so much of extra importance, just talk and deal with him i would have treated any other person, and dont expect anything from him, and just dont care so much, and think positive,
the whole thing is inside ur brain,
my advice to u is if this depression to u is related to some person in ur life, then just dont think he is special, just find out other activities to keep ur thoughts busy, try to treat him the away he treats u, just to deal like a friend or a cousin, be cool and positive, just try to justify his act with a reason, or try to accept his nature and attitude whole heartedly,
in my case, i knew his emotions for me were true, but he is not a real show, specially when we live in seperate countries,
and alhamdulillah for me it really worked, i dont often cry now, sometimes i tend to ignore him, and its pleasant to see his concern, asking if i was busy, or so
when u keep ur expectations to the lowest, u will be more happy,
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i want to learn until i die, if u have some knowledge then share it with me.
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understand the underlying reason why you feel that way.. consider getting help from a professional, counselling helps..
Must admit I got abit confused with the "blow yourself" comment!!
"blow yourself" ---maybe it's blow out which means TREAT YOuRSELF....
Maybe....
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Don't expect too much... Just enjoy what u have now...
Go out and meet friends...
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agree on that sf25 diversion tactics yani . . rizks i'm goin with you on that ok. its phoeb's treat. hihihihih
" In my opinion only. . . nothing personal"
have drinks and enjoy
"Never love a person you can live with,
Always Love a person you can never live without"
I'm still confused over the 'blow yourself' comment from winterrain said?
Phoebe, seek His guidance! Ask for God's grace. Pray for peace of mind. =) after praying, you'll feel good.
"Cast your burdens upon me, those who are heavily laden.
come to me and I will give you rest."
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L♥VE LIFE!
always know that after hard ship comes ease God willing
plum its ur treat not me... lolz!!
thanks star...
You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving!!!
now phoebs, where shall we go? lol!!!
plum and i have positive energies which u can adapt... ;P
how did u do that ishqia??
how did u stop?
You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving!!!
Its normal to have this feeling every one has it somewhere some express it and some dont. Some are able to overcome it some can not. Need constant support and patience to handle this situation.
Always its best to meet some good Psychiatrist explain the problem, they have various ways to analyze situation and advise you some medicines.Always think positive and try to see only positive side.
Avoid stress situations. Doctors give you medicines but most of it is meant to give you nice sleep so that the brain gets rest and balances by impriving positive tinking chemicals.
Have faith in yourself and be willing to overcome any worst situation.
kill ur expectations, or dont expect anything from anyone at all, that really helps for depression,
i used to often get depressed and wonder whats wrong with me, why do i get so depressed?
i cdnt understand the reason,
and then i just stopped expecting, and i m no longer depressed,
for me that was a real cure
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i want to learn until i die, if u have some knowledge then share it with me.
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phoebe...
Lets go out and hav a cup of Coffee ....
phoebs, dont torture urself by moping around, hang out with peeps with positive attitudes.. go out more often to divert ur attention...
johnpur that is too costly ;-)
You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving!!!
"blow yourself sometimes" WTF?
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
_[]~SMoKE~[]_
plum its easy to say but sometimes hard to do especially if the person really means so much to u...
star, that is the trait that i really need to learn...
You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving!!!
positive thoughts in your life and keep away from depressed people and their thoughts...
Meet new people and keep busy, again in positive activities. Call your best friends, parents, close relatives everyweek and enjoy life to the fullest.
LIVE YOUR LIFE GIFTED ONCE ONLY!
dont let youself be alone,
blow yourself sometimes,
dance, music, chatting
dont read anything ! dont let youself be alone, predominantly !
best of luck !
Go to a doctor, discuss your problems, and see what they recommend.
Be optimistic... if you are, you will never get depressed... ;)
dont expect too much. . habibi
" In my opinion only. . . nothing personal"