Indian village bans mobiles for unwed women

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By caNdilicious

LUCKNOW - A northern Indian village has banned unmarried women from using cell phones for fear they will arrange forbidden marriages that are often punished by death, a local official said Wednesday.

The Lank village council decided unmarried boys could use mobile phones, but only under parental supervision, council member Satish Tyagi said. Local women's rights group criticized the measure as backward and unfair.

Marriages between members of the same clan are forbidden under Hindu custom in some parts of north India, where unions are traditionally arranged by families. In conservative rural areas, families sometimes mete out extreme punishments, including so-called honor killings, for those who violate marriage taboos. In some cases, village councils themselves have ordered the punishments, though police often intervene to stop them.

The Lank village council feared young men and women were secretly calling one another to arrange forbidden elopements.

Last month, 34 couples eloped in Muzaffarnagar district, where Lank is located in the northern state of Uttar Pradesh, police said. Among the couples who eloped, eight honor killings have been reported in the last month, police said.

"Three girls were beheaded by the male members of their family after they eloped" with boys from their same clan, said police assistant director general Brij Lal in the state capital of Lucknow.

Rulings by village councils — called panchayats and comprised of village elders selected by the community — are not legally binding in India, but are seen as the will of the local community, and those who flout them risk being ostracized. In Uttar Pradesh, panchayats are particularly powerful and have declared that boys and girls of the same clan are essentially siblings.

The cell phone ban for unmarried women is part of a wider, regional effort to curb intraclan marriage among the 3 million population of western Uttar Pradesh, Tyagi said. The Lank council ruling, which applies to around 50,000 people, is being considered by councils in the nearby villages.

"The village council members feel that cell phones helped in elopement of young couples," he said by cell phone from Muzaffarnagar.

The conflict is relatively new for the Indian region, where most marriages are still arranged by the parents, sometimes without the couple meeting before the wedding.

But young people are mingling more these days, with more women in schools and offices and increased access to the Internet, cybercafes and social networking sites. They are also watching more Western TV shows that focus on independence and individuality, sociologists say.

Cell phones, meanwhile, have become so common and affordable that even city slum dwellers, rural day laborers and children have them. Across the nation of 1.2 billion, there were more than 670 million cell phone connections as of August, with the number growing by nearly 20 million a month, according to government figures.

The local women's rights group Disha said banning cell phone use over sexual politics demonstrated the councils' archaic mindset, and warned it could put girls at a disadvantage in other areas of life.

"These help in easy communication, which in turn help these youth to get jobs. One cannot discriminate use of these contraptions on basis of sex," Disha president K.N. Tiwari said.

By edifis• 26 Nov 2010 12:34
edifis

Doubt what?

By anonymous• 25 Nov 2010 09:09
anonymous

i doubt

By anonymous• 25 Nov 2010 08:51
anonymous

Marriage outside clans is ok.. Below caste is frowned upon and in some extreme cases results in honour killings.. Another religion is unacceptable if the other person is Christian or Muslim..

Marriage within the clan is simply not tolerated, very high probability of someone dying.

By britexpat• 25 Nov 2010 08:50
britexpat

I meant that it must be hard for a young couple from the village eloping and trying to make a life for themselves...

It would be interesting to find out how many actually stay together ..

By Colt45• 25 Nov 2010 08:49
Colt45

Some get killed for marrying outside the clan, here now they get killed for marrying within the clan :-(

Funny country that India is :-P

By britexpat• 24 Nov 2010 19:28
britexpat

So, what happens to those who elope ?

It must be hard for them to survive without the family straucture..

By edifis• 24 Nov 2010 19:20
edifis

Tinker here the case is different. It is not considered a major sin if the girl chooses her own groom or the boy his bride if they are from different clans. The clansmen object to marriage within their own clan. And sometimes all the villagers in a particular village or community are of the same clan. And often the boys and girls don't get to mix with people from faraway places or other clans. Here lies the problem....where girls and boys fall in love with someone from their own clan or even bearing the same surname..which is a major taboo among the Hindus of Northern India.

By anonymous• 24 Nov 2010 18:36
anonymous

brit, the divide is mainly based on religion and caste. some cases, old family rivalry also becomes a factor. people do get married in other villages if the above catagories are alike and not in conflict.

By britexpat• 24 Nov 2010 18:32
britexpat

Usually clans don't like marrying outside because it is considered to lessen the blood line... But this is so different..

Traditions against change ....

A problem faced by all societies..

By britexpat• 24 Nov 2010 18:26
britexpat

Education does help....

the problem is that these clan leaders really believe that they are protecting a way of life.

By the way, what is the logic behind not allowing inter clan marriages ?

By britexpat• 24 Nov 2010 18:15
britexpat

A sad state of affairs..

So, the theory is that taking away the phone will stop interaction between girls and boys..

Next landline phones will be banned.. Where does it stop ?

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