Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
A couple of girl friends were mentioning that all the good men are either gay or married. That is more or less true, esp here. If there are straight ones, they're just:-
i) not interested, which is fine;
ii) hiding cos they believe the competition is better than them (not good) or
iii) hiding cos prefer not to be embarrassed, I guess but a self fulfilling prophecy.... or
iv) they think that women play mind games (maybe some do) and they're afraid of being played out;
v) they know that things won't work out in the long run and at least they are honest.
I think that (i) and (v) are good reasons not to come out of the woodwork but (ii) to (iv) are just negative assumptions. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
But on the other hand, there are those who blindly charge in a kamikaze pilot. That's not good either. Lol!
Actually, Amoud's comment in one of the threads triggered this thought. I dunno which thread and I can't remember what I said or when I said it (as usual) cos I post and move on quickly. Anyway, one of my friends mentioned that she found that the guys who were interesting, were intimidated by her IQ and position and they dare not approach her, even though she's a very nice girl - polite, much nicer and more kind than me. So it's kinda a problem. If we have to pretend to be dumb so as to allay some peoples' fears, Sigh!.. we won't bother.
/And I have a few like minded friends - not in Qatar though.
Dora, lol! D89, she's directing it at me. Little does she know. Whatever.
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Well said, Davidak89.
"Are they intimidated because they are in the same work environment and/or she is their boss? Or someone higher up than they?"
- No, not same company and she's not their boss - she meets many people on business trips, etc. She's in a pretty high position because she's very competent. She's also quite pretty and gentle - so that's why it's surprising few try to court her and the only reason I can think of is that men are simply intimidated by her success. On the one hand, it can be lonely but on the other hand, who wants a wuss. She's in financial services, not a banker and not in Qatar.
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Don't want no drama,
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Not you....
Who was that directed at?
Sorry...just drop the being desperate to find someone...it'll happen in the most unlikely place....like moi!........
I totally agree with nothing ventured, nothing gained, as one has to work for anyhting in life, things don't just happen, or fall into place. One has to go out and make the effort to meet people, not just sit in his dwelling hoping that the right girl will find her way into his life.
"Anyway, one of my friends mentioned that she found that the guys who were interesting, were intimidated by her IQ and position and they dare not approach her, even though she's a very nice girl - polite, much nicer and more kind than me. So it's kinda a problem. If we have to pretend to be dumb so as to allay some peoples' fears, Sigh!.. we won't bother."
Are they intimidated because they are in the same work enviourment and/or she is their boss? Or someone higher up than they?
I don't think women should have to pretend to be dumb to gain mens attention, who would want to talk to someone or get to know someone who is boring to talk to? Intellegence is a huge turn on in my opinion. But yea that's just my 2 cents anyways.