Me and NO MORE issues
I cant understand how i feel now. Things we're really fine and i wonder what's the prize for such lovely moments...so peaceful. And just in an hour's time, an issue surfaces that would make soem changes in my life. And it is disturbing because i never really thought about it, or maybe i just ignored the signs that its coming...
Hey Qlers,i sound confusing? But have you been through this situation? Though I had a few laughs today, i just feel so blue...
miss mariam things are settled now and im very excited for our party. its miscommunication but there are some decisions that cannot be taken back. thats why im moving out...im happy that we can still continue our friendship we cant throw away what we shared.
dreamandsmile and cris mariah thanks for your sympathy.
im moving on.... with a smile
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
Lovinni, dear, don't let that ruin your excitement for the coming event. Sometime from nowhere, we really felt down. just cheer up, you have other friends here, and two years of friendship might have said goodbye.
"There's nothing we can do to change the past, if it teaches you a lesson profit from it then, forget it."
i can't say much more than our ql'ers have already told u as their views and opinions are highly commendable.
but from my heart as a woman like u, just be strong girl enjoy the happy moments and worry less.
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thanks a lot...the past 4 days were one of the longest...im glad its over
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
Anytime, and I'm glad to hear that you're finally moving on.
QLers thanks for your advise, a good talk ended the issues i had. so now i feel so happy but still i have to face changes....moving to a new environment. and im so thankful i can do it positively and definitely no more worries. what a relief!
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
i hope i find the right time in settling the issue. its hard to approach people who are not yet willing to talk, as for me im ready to listen.
normanila, you're definitely right our God is the best listener and he can fix things for us but we have to do our part also...thanks a lot!
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
i feel troubled by anyone or anything, i usually go to the blessed sacrament in Parish ctr. There in the silence of that room, i spilled it out. There i complained a lot on why the world seems to become unfair to me. Ive been doing that for two years now and somehow i usually find relief from my burdens. HE is really a good listener, All what he want is for you to a speak to HIM
"Thy will be done!"
clarify and tell them what you think/feel about it and ask them to give you ample time to find an accommodation. You tell them that as far as your concerned, you did not go beyond your limitations and if they feel/think you did, apologize and say it was never your intention to do so.
and with dignity, find yourself a new place.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent" -Eleonor Roosevelt
lovinni i think u need to talk to them to clear everything but still go and find ur new place just b4 u leave talk to them.....
i know all u wanted to now is to leave but being matured talk to them face to face then tell what u felt....
hehehe i know its hard to do this but u have to try ....
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try and try until you succeed
Hi there lovinni,
All I can say is to move on with your life. There are lots of wonderful people out there who will accept and understand you, just the way you are. You are not alone for all of us at one point in our lives experienced pain, suffering, rejection, judgment, and betrayals. This is just the cycle of life, and out from our painful experiences we become mature, wiser, and strong. I wish you all the best.
Feel free to pm me and if you want to meet for a chat I would be happy to do so.
Walking to a new horizon out of your comfort zone is difficult...but please reach out for help if you need it.
It is amazing when you do how your faith is restored in the universe by the kindness of others.
I often battle things on my own and its just stupid.
yes oryx thats the best way...and im not interested to find the real story so i let things as they are. if they talk to me i will be more than happy to listen what they say and i'll be decent in handling this. i am an easy person to talk to. as long as no B****ing!
someone new, thanks for your concern...i will go over through this thing...in a matter of time
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
dont worry lovinni. Life's like that- unfair, the best part is that u can start off fresh rather than stay in the same place with people acting wierd and you not knowing what the problem is.
sweet heart all you can do i then go with good grace and keep your dignity in tact.
oryx...a decision has already been made. i was never given any option at all. but i have accepted it and i respected them still. i just feel bad...maybe because i didnt realize it will happen...because the main point is they didnt bother telling me anything. its just like a bomb dropped to me...
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
I don't know enough to tell you that. you can pm me. You could sit down and ask if there is any possibility to resolve the issues but if they have already made a decision then you just have to move on. Hard as it is.....
hawker...i will get killed if i monopolize the microphone!
yes glec...i cant have everything i want now. one or few things must be sacrificed. i have to face this situation anyway.
thanks guys! QL is such a friendly shock absorber...im feeling a better now
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
I would suggest moving out now and then later when stuff cools down and when the emotional part has been dealt with talk with ur roomies...
Just to let u know that i know...Been there done that
oryx...i dont know what to do...should i approach and start the conversation? but honestly i dont feel comfortable anymore.
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
you're going through a hard one. its not that easy to accept that those people you trust are now the ones keeping distance from you and moreso, its difficult to find an affordable place where you will be comfortable and easy.
things may not go in favor of you today but there will always be tomorrow, it might be better. be positive, you'll find a much better place and hopefully nicer people.
good luck!
on the 25th sure, i'll let you have the mic all by yourself hehehehe =D i'll just be the second voice hehehehe :) hmmm on second thought are we inviting a typhoon here in Doha hehehehe
"How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, tolerant of the weak. Someday you will have been all of these."
I think we all need to practise kind talking and listening....
the best thing we can do when we have an issue is sit down and talk to the person in an easy way...not build up our secret list of resentments.
It is a wonderful gift that helps everyone grow together and not apart.
People who love us forgive us for a wrong action - they just want to see that it will be different in the future and will help us do that.
Wouldn't life be wonderful if we could take that 'kodak moment' and live in it forever...but I promise you things change - for you they have changed for the worse but work with it and they will change for the better.
feel free . Its quite common to every one. This is the truTh. This shall pass away.
well i guess hawker i just let this day pass...tomorrow i will be less worried but i have to find a new place!
karaoke tayo hawker sa party ha? dont worry ....be happy...
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
don't worry to much Lovinni. Smile don't be bothered by those people. and sing the song of Sampaguita titled Nosi-Balasi
"How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, tolerant of the weak. Someday you will have been all of these."
its disappointing that the very people you trust, and basically knows about who you are unable to communicate with you. on a positive note...there's a reason for this. maybe a change is what i need now...
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
KE i can understand your point...i used to be a worrier...when im too happy i wonder what bad thing shall happen. but i got tired of it...i let it go now...i mean this is life, i am entitled to enjoy the moment, seize the day and worry later. but it seems im having a hard time coping up the bad sides.
yes hawker im moving out..second option is the best but i cant afford it now.
and P.S. i dont want to spill the full story, but whatever it is im doing im entitled to it and theres nothing worng with it...
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
as you don't know these days who to trust ... most of these issues would come anyway from people always said and considered themselves your best friends ... The sad thing here ... It is your own people who always come after you to create trouble not the others ...
Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment. (Gautama Buddha)
i know exactly how you feel Lovinni, been in the same situation before when i was still new here in Doha. the only thing you could do is to look for another place or better yet if you can afford it have your own flat/apartment :)
for me the i found the second option to be the best :)
"How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, tolerant of the weak. Someday you will have been all of these."
completely a different issue but somehow related to what i'm saying ... people get so clear about these things when they can't do the same ...
Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment. (Gautama Buddha)
From what you said ... I can understand that ... you were spending some nice moments, good time ... how .. I won't go into details as the the full story is written there, just go between the lines and you will read it all ... Sometimes ... we have to pay for those happy moments of our lives, how? It depends ... some pay it by sadness, some pay it by being separated , some pay it suffering alone of loneliness and the list is long ...
In our Arabic culture, if the people would be too happy ... they would be wondering and asking god for something good to happen ... as after those moments of happiness ... something should always come to ruin everything ...
It is not that easy to just ignore, or read the signs ... sometimes we want only to be happy at the moment, never think of the future ... ignoring the signs and praying that nothing will happen ... regardless of .. it is so clear that something bad in the way ... but for the sake of being happy ... we will put those emotions, thoughts and signs a side an continue ... until what?
Until we wake up one day to face the cruel reality ... something in your head ... maybe a weak sound or voice of wisdom telling you ... I was trying to save you all of this, why you did not listen? Another voice is saying ... nvm .. it is my fault ... always got the higher voice, but now ... I can't say a thing ... The first is the brain voice, the second is the heart voice indeed ...
Hope that you would feel ok later ... Sorry again for being honest ...
Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment. (Gautama Buddha)
azzy, that what i want to do, to patch up things but its too late...there's no other option but to move out...i just dont feel right. i have never been in this situation...they gave a different excuse. that's why im wondering why they have to cover up?
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
have someone there who would be impartial...so he/she could weigh the matters unbiased...
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent" -Eleonor Roosevelt
until now i still didnt get the whole picture but i assumed, they misinterpreted what im doin. infact i was honest with them from the start and i was expecting them to be frank with me. its about house rules which i am so well versed about it and i keep a very open relationship with my housemates. for almost 2 yrs i did not have any problems with them. so im just shocked to find out that my actions were already unacceptable. i am an easy person to talked to its just that they never brought up the issue to me...
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
didnt get what u mean by all that
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Come on! Spill it out girl! ;)
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You're not very clear...what is the issue?
Do tell so we could share/emphatize with you...
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent" -Eleonor Roosevelt