need advice pls.
i am the legal wife here in the philippines.for 4 years,i am hoping that my hubby will get me and my kids there but it will not happen anymore.she has a mistress who resign from hamad sometime in 2005 since she gave birth.He is planning to get her and they will be the legal family in qatar.what will i do?
just go to the embassy of the philippines and if you have a financial budget get your visa to come to doha,or if not just complaint to the office of your husband or embassy .tell your story and i know you will help. God bless you
just go to the embassy of the philippines and if you have a financial budget get your visa to come to doha,or if not just complaint to the office of your husband or embassy .tell your story and i know you will help. God bless you
just fight for the rights of your kids...red pope is right..let the mistress feel she's just "kabit". ask for obligation or else you'll sue them. if that happens, they can never go home since they will be in the immigration's list. or call hamad's HR. pero that will be embarassing to the filipino workers in hamad...including me.
"report him.. report him.." ...REPORT - WHAT?? that he doesn't love this woman anymore??? she doesn't have to REPORT it, it is obviously... All she need is a proper divorce with the ensured care and good financial support for herself and her /his kids...
aprilanne, you said: "..anyways,karma is there"... karma?..... did you mean kahramaa?
Fight for the rights of your kids
wish you good luck and all the best.to you and your kids
fight for your rights...
you are still the legal wife....
Drakula's post is detailed.
April Anne, There is no divorce in the Philippines but Drakula forgot to mention Marriage Annulment.
They can never be legal couples here in qatar. They will live like criminals (always worried that someone might report them to police anytime) with a sword hanging at their heads.
If you are legally married to him in the philippines and your marriage has not been annuled then it is certain that your hubby faked documents to get re-married. worse if the mistress is also legally married too in the phil.
If you have intention to fight for your legal rights,you can do these things; get your marriage certificate & children birth certificates authenticated from NSO, Civil Registry, Malakanyang & DFA.
If you can not come to Qatar, Have a Special Power of Attorney (again authenticated) naming a representative.(preferably someone you know who is here in Qatar)
Your representative then can go to the Phil Embassy here in Doha and they can advise what steps can be done; approach the employers of your hubby and his mistress and report them to CID.
I know these things can be tedious but only if you are determined to act that they can be made to pay for their misdeeds.
Do you have plans to come to Qatar to complain? If you do most likely they will be jailed, fired from their jobs, get deported. if you pursue the case further back in the philippines, they will also land in jail.
If they get convicted in the Philippines then it would be easy for you to get marriage annulment and lead a new life with your kids.
The best part I may advise you is try to talk first with your hubby and tell him about what you will do (as above) and maybe he will wake up to his senses.
God Bless You
wish you good luck and all the best.to you and your kids.
Just do what's best for the kids. Don't be bitter...move on.. Secure for financial support in a legal way so that he will be obliged to send money for your kids.
If you wish for her to feel like a mistress, just hurt him were it hurts the most, "His pocket, his money"
i understand the legal family thing,
Do you wish to continue to be the poor legal family, living in the Philippines or the wealthy one?
You could always call his HR department or the Qatar embassy in your country.
You don't lose anything by asking them.
There is many ways to solve your marital problems.
I dont want to be with him anymore,but i just want that until the end we are still the legal family.it will serve the mistress the lesson that she will just be a mistress forever.anyways,karma is there.they are going to get what they have planted.
how can she talk to him in public when she's in the phils while her husband is here in q?
haller.. don't you read??
peace!
HappY and In Love!
it really gets me angry whenever i hear about mistresses... those b*t*h can't get a man of their own!!! and for you guys... grrrr....
if it'll happen to me... i'd make sure he knows what trouble he's got himself in to. i just can't let him get away with it... i don't want you to be bitter but you have to defend your rights...
by the way... what's your husbands name... maybe i know him.... hahahah... just kidding...
well, in behalf of all your troubles, just don't forget to pray to HIM for support... you can do it girl!!!
HappY and In Love!
I got one evil idea for you lady.
Why don't you confront him and intimidate him for some of his money, other wise you tell him that you will report him to the PH embassy and the local police.
Just remember, that If you do have any kids with him they will be affected. Specially when he loses his job or gets deported then you will get absolutely nada(nothing).
I will guarantee you that he will consider your bribes (aalukin ka ng pera ng asawa mo) for money. Always talk to him in private and alone in a public place.
Yeah sorry its sad story ,,,,i agree with yammar ... but u have to fight for the rights of ur kids mam ..........
as all the others say,u owe it to ur self and ur kids to do what u have to do to make good future for u all,dont have him back.not worth it, good luck
Sorry about your plight
These things do happen, and nothing that anyone can do about it
As suggested by others you can inform the authorities & get him Deported from here.
Then take him for the JOY RIDE ...
A Filipino - wherever he/she may be located in the world - is governed by Philippine laws on marriage.
This means that while he/she can secure a divorce outside the Philippines, such divorce is NOT recognized in the Philippines.
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FAMILY CODE:
1. Divorce is not recognized under Philippine laws. If you’re a Filipino, it doesn’t matter where you get a divorce – such divorce is invalid/void in the Philippines. This is because under the nationality principle (Art. 15, Civil Code), all Filipinos – where they may be in the world - are bound by Philippine laws on family rights and duties, status, condition, and legal capacity. Yes, folks, you can run, but you can’t hide.Nevertheless, divorce decrees secured outside the Philippines are recognized in certain instances. This is provided in Article 26 (Paragraph 2) of the Family Code, which reads in full:
ART. 26. All marriages solemnized outside the Philippines in accordance with the laws in force in the country where they were solemnized, and valid there as such, shall also be valid in this country, except those prohibited under Articles 35(1), (4), (5) and (6), 36, 37 and 38.
Where a marriage between a Filipino citizen and a foreigner is validly celebrated and a divorce is thereafter validly obtained abroad by the alien spouse capacitating him or her to remarry, the Filipino spouse shall have capacity to remarry under Philippine law.
The twin elements for the application of this provision are:
1. There is a valid marriage that has been celebrated between a Filipino citizen and a foreigner; and
2. A valid divorce is obtained abroad by the alien spouse capacitating him or her to remarry.
Why would you still want to be with him?!
I would reprot him to the athorities also.. I don't know the legalities here..
An Irish colleague wanted to marry his Canadian girlfriend, but his wife in Ireland refused to dvorce him.. Since he was moving to Canada anyway, they just got married locally without telling anyone that he was already wed.
yeah..fight for your rights...
you are still the legal wife....
report your husband to the embassy....
do u still want him?
Fight for the rights of your kids...
Lol, Harry, I was thinking the same thing!!
i"It is dangerous to be sincere unless you are also stupid."
- George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950)
This comes as a total shock to me, because after last weeks's numerous postings, I thought Filipinos all loved each other, were devoted to the family and divorce was unheard of..:)
My advice..Report him to the embassy here and also th authorities. Get him deported and tae him for all he's got..
He will not be able to marry this woman since he is married to you- he will not legally be able to live with this woman here and if found out he may be deported - maybe that's what you want ?
Sorry to hear of your plight.. Sadly, this occurs too often with expats..Can't you go thrugh the Philipines embassy and sieze his assets if any in the country?
nothing you are still his first wife
and she his second wife.
he didnt divorce you.
you legally you are still his wife.
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