How Do I get everything right?

angelapruitt
By angelapruitt

I am an american woman from texas who has fallen madly in love with a man from Doha Qatar. I am so confused about what the culture is and what the process is to get married. I am afraid that I will get out marriage done and then he will not be allowed to come back to the US with me.

Any Suggestions.

By candidcam• 12 Jan 2009 15:54
candidcam

From my own experiences, people who are madly in love are in the state of temporary insanity. You cannot talk sense and logic with them. They only hear what they want to hear.

I have met many whom I believed to be my soulmates... but after a couple of years together, I realized how delusional I was.

By Oryx• 12 Jan 2009 15:44
Oryx

exactly did you write a post on the internet to check whether you should marry?

is he Qatari?

if not what nationality?

have you physically met him?

then we could better inform you.

By anonymous• 12 Jan 2009 15:38
anonymous

specifically here, the cot is high (dowry).

"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"

By Mandilulur• 12 Jan 2009 15:00
Mandilulur

Angela, you are right to be concerned about several issues. Qataris need permission from the government to marry non-Qataris. And he would need permission from his family as well. Since you are divorced with three older children this could be an issue. And again there is the concern of his being able to come to the US. Marriage to a US citizen does not automatically insure a visa. It can be a long process.

Mandi

By om Maui• 12 Jan 2009 10:21
om Maui

get real, truefriend, that's a myth. not everything is fair in love, and certainly not in WAR!

By anonymous• 12 Jan 2009 10:17
anonymous

Love has no border, and everything is fare in LOVE and War

By Diplomat - me• 12 Jan 2009 09:59
Diplomat - me

mjamille28- Muslim man can married with either christian or muslim girls as long both parties are agree.

and to Angela dont worry if he is a qatari national he can married with any nationality as long as he got the approval from the government.

By Colt45• 12 Jan 2009 09:07
Colt45

When you say "man from Qatar", do you mean Qatari national or a man working in Qatar?

By Colt45• 12 Jan 2009 09:06
Colt45

If i read that correctly, you said that after you guys get married he will not be allowed to come to the US with you.... are you afraid that his family will prevent him from doing so? If it's that then don't you think he should stand up for what he wants (assuming that he would wanna come with you), rather than give in to his family and stay back "after" marrying you?

By anonymous• 12 Jan 2009 08:57
anonymous

folktales huh

By mjamille28• 12 Jan 2009 08:07
mjamille28

is he Muslim? because if he is, and you are Catholic, then im afraid marriage will be impossible, unless you convert that is...

By HAPPYDAY• 12 Jan 2009 08:01
HAPPYDAY

Did u met this guy b4??? u have kids?? has he been married b4 also??

By angelapruitt• 12 Jan 2009 07:27
angelapruitt

Thanks so much for your advice it is greatly appreciate. Our souls have definatlely found one another. He is in love with me as much as I am in love with him. Marriage was something that we have both thought long and hard for. My plans are to come to Doha to meet my soulmate and his family. What would you suggest about me preparing to meet his family, are there any things I should not say or do. Our cultures are definately different and I am trying to learn and understand as I love this man more than life.

Angela Pruitt

By om Maui• 12 Jan 2009 07:03
om Maui

hi angela, from the words "fallen madly in love", "confused" and "afraid", i can sense that you are in whirlwind of emotions, maybe high on a new passionate love you just found.

before you even worry about marriage, maybe you should step back and chill for a sec, and ask yourself, what is the culture of this man, what is the background of this man, am i prepared to be a part of this culture, am i gonna be part of his, have i met his parents, are his parents going to accept me.. etc etc.

in other countries, as long as you are an adult, you can go ahead and choose the life partner you want. in here, it's all about THE families.

i've been in this country long enough to know that this cultural differences do matter in making such a lifetime decision.

so step back, angela, and try not to fret about marriage just yet. maybe you can enjoy the relationship for a while, -- for a long while, until you really see the soul under the handsome face.

http://littlegirlmaui.blogspot.com/

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