I find it strang that everyone says, that he/she is not looking for the appearance! I believe you all do! I don't mean like drivelling when you look at someone, but I am really sure you do not find everyone attractive who has a good character. Drive it to the extreme 250kgs, fatty hair, baggy clothes, one eye, hairy everywhere...this person can be an angel, but you call him beautiful? I doubt
Please note, I am not saying this person is not worth talking to, or treated with respect, just talking about beauty!