Unfortunately if he did in fact love you he would of told you about the wife from day one and he would not of gotton so serious with you without marrying you or giving you that option, since in fact he can marry more than one! I had a friend once who had an affair with a married man and then he married her and in the end he ended up leaving my friend with two kids for another women, its sad but its their behavior. I say find a man that is more respectful. Normally they don't marry the women they play with! Sorry.